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<\/p>\nAcum ceva vreme, prietena mea Marusia a postat pe Facebook gluma asta.<\/p>\n
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M-am uitat lung la ea, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleg ce \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 spun\u0103 autorul. Vedeam c\u0103 ni\u015fte persoane r\u00e2d, dar nu-mi d\u0103deam seama \u00een ce const\u0103 comedia.<\/p>\n
\u015ei i-am scris privat Marusiei, scuz\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 c\u0103 sunt ignorant\u0103 la faza asta, \u015fi \u00eentreb\u00e2nd ce \u00eencearc\u0103 gluma asta s\u0103 transmit\u0103. \u015ei mi-a explicat c\u0103, la menopauz\u0103, exist\u0103 a\u015fa numitele hot flushes, c\u00e2nd \u0163i-e cald de nu mai po\u0163i, \u015fi economise\u015fti foarte mult la \u00eentre\u0163inere, dac\u0103 ai repartitor la calorifer.<\/p>\n
Pe scurt, ventilatorul e de natur\u0103 s\u0103 ofere r\u0103coarea de care ai nevoie.<\/p>\n
Eu habar nu avusesem de toate astea, de\u015fi eu sunt femeie la r\u00e2ndul meu. \u015ei habar n-avusesem pentru c\u0103 nu m-am confruntat cu problema, \u015fi dac\u0103 eu nu m-am confruntat, nici nu m-a interesat s\u0103 aprofundez subiectul. Tr\u0103iam cu impresia c\u0103 menopauza \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i vin\u0103 ciclul mai rar ni\u015fte luni, apoi s\u0103 se opreasc\u0103.<\/p>\n
\u015ei insist, eu sunt femeie. Sexul c\u0103ruia, de la un moment dat, o s\u0103 i se \u00eent\u00e2mple aceste lucruri. <\/p>\n
De ce nu \u015ftiu despre ele? Pentru c\u0103, \u00een continuare trupul femeii \u015fi problemele lui sunt \u0163inute, toate, undeva \u00een pivni\u0163\u0103 sau \u00een pod, sub v\u0103lul pudorii, ru\u015finii \u015fi al altor asemenea idio\u0163enii f\u0103r\u0103 rost \u015fi sems. Astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t, la primul ciclu, o t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 e cuprins\u0103 de toat\u0103 panica universului, imagin\u00e2ndu-\u015fi c\u0103 a\u015fa se moare, iar la un hot flush din \u0103sta, o persoan\u0103 neinformat\u0103 o s\u0103 \u00eenjure Radet, c\u0103 a dat c\u0103ldura prea mare. <\/p>\n
De c\u00e2te ori aud expresia “e ru\u015fine”, \u00eemi vine s\u0103 dau cu ceva \u00een persoana care enun\u0163\u0103 t\u00e2mpenia. Nu, nu e ru\u015fine. E o realitate. Ru\u015fine e s\u0103 min\u0163i, s\u0103 furi \u015fi s\u0103 \u00een\u015feli \u00eencrederea altora. Faptul c\u0103 ai dou\u0103 ovare \u015fi un uter e realitatea cu care te confrun\u0163i zi de zi. <\/p>\n
Nu v\u0103d articole despre prima menstrua\u0163ie, despre modific\u0103rile hormonale aferente \u015fi eventuale tulbur\u0103ri, despre particularit\u0103\u0163ile ciclului, despre simptome care-l \u00eenso\u0163esc, despre tot at\u00e2tea probleme pe care le tr\u0103im fiecare dintre noi.<\/p>\n
Sunt probleme comune, 52% din popula\u0163ie le are, \u015fi totu\u015fi, alegem s\u0103 t\u0103cem pudic, ru\u015finat, ca ni\u015fte proaste f\u0103cute gr\u0103mad\u0103, despre ele.<\/p>\n
Partea mai bizar\u0103 e c\u0103, \u00eentr-un fel absolut paranormal, de\u015fi nu vorbim \u015fi nu scriem despre asta, ne a\u015ftept\u0103m cumva ca b\u0103rba\u0163ii s\u0103 \u015ftie \u015fi s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103. \u00cei cert\u0103m c\u0103 sunt nesim\u0163i\u0163i, porci \u015fi m\u0103gari, doar pentru c\u0103 nu au o cunoa\u015ftere intim\u0103, acumulat\u0103 prin globul de cristal al mamei omida, despre cum func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 anatomia feminin\u0103 \u015fi ce pot cere \/ a\u015ftepta de la noi \u00een func\u0163ie de aceasta.<\/p>\n
\u00cei facem porci, nesim\u0163i\u0163i, m\u0103gari, pentru aparenta lor insensibilitate. C\u00e2nd realitatea situa\u0163iei este c\u0103 nu prea ai cum s\u0103 fii sensibil fa\u0163\u0103 de lucruri pe care nu le cuno\u015fti \u015fi care nu \u00ee\u0163i sunt explicate pe un ton calm, ra\u0163ional, cu sens.<\/p>\n
“Ce norocoase sunt astea c\u0103 au concediu dup\u0103 na\u015ftere, stau acas\u0103 pe banii statului”.<\/p>\n
O spun oameni care pur \u015fi simplu nu \u015ftiu \u00een ce hal e demolat organismul feminin dup\u0103 o na\u015ftere \u015fi c\u00e2t\u0103 munc\u0103 \u015fi aten\u0163ie solicit\u0103 noul n\u0103scut.<\/p>\n
Dac\u0103 citim afirma\u0163ia pe un grup de Facebook, tindem s\u0103 ne enerv\u0103m \u015fi s\u0103-i fecund\u0103m Dumnezeii \u0103luia care a dat-o. \u015ei nu lu\u0103m \u00een calcul ipoteza, foarte veridic\u0103 de altfel, ca \u0103la s\u0103 n-aib\u0103 habar despre ce vorbe\u015fte. Desigur, \u0103la ar fi putut foarte u\u015for s\u0103 dea un goag\u0103l \u015fi s\u0103 afle. Dar tr\u0103im \u00een era \u00een care \u00eenc\u0103 ne e mai u\u015for s\u0103 punem \u00eentreb\u0103ri \u00een rubrica de comentarii a altora despre subiecte disponibile pe net. <\/p>\n
Bizar, nu scriem nimic despre “necazurile femeie\u015fti”, dar pretindem \u00een mod miraculos empatie, sensibilitate, \u00een\u0163elegere.<\/p>\n
Empatie, sensibilitate, \u00een\u0163elegere fa\u0163\u0103 de ce?<\/p>\n
Eu, o femeie, habar nu aveam ce simptome are menopauza pentru c\u0103, har Domnului, \u00eenc\u0103 golesc un pachet de Libresse la ciclu. \u015ei nu, nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103-mi spune\u0163i c\u0103 e mai mult\u0103 informa\u0163ie dec\u00e2t v\u0103 dorea\u0163i s\u0103 afla\u0163i. Cred c\u0103 e genul de subiect care chiar ar trebui discutat, deschis \u015fi sincer. A\u015fa cum ne povestim unii altora c\u00e2t\u0103 sare punem \u00een m\u00e2ncare, sau ce tipuri de benzin\u0103 se folosesc la ce tipuri de ma\u015fini.<\/p>\n
A\u015fa c\u0103, \u00een noul an, o s\u0103 vorbesc cu ginecologi \u015fi o s\u0103 tratez \u015fi aceste subiecte. Mi se par importante \u015fi \u00eendelung neglijate, reminiscen\u0163e ale unei viziuni arhaice de tip “femeia s\u0103 stea la ea \u00een buc\u0103t\u0103rie, s\u0103 ne pun\u0103 de m\u00e2ncare \u015fi, \u00een rest, nu ne prive\u015fte”.<\/p>\n
Cine va considera c\u0103 e sc\u00e2rbos va vedea \u00een titlu despre ce va fi vorba \u00een articol \u015fi va avea binecuv\u00e2ntarea mea s\u0103 nu citeasc\u0103. De\u015fi, \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care unii dintre voi caut\u0103 insistent o rela\u0163ie, oarecum le e util \u015fi lor s\u0103 \u015ftie cu ce e diferit organismul partenerei tale fa\u0163\u0103 de al t\u0103u, s\u0103 nu fii “insensibil”, “porc” \u015fi “m\u0103gar” (aka habarnist). <\/p>\n
E un sentiment relativ nepl\u0103cut s\u0103 fii prost – am constatat-o \u015fi eu la gluma asta la care am holbat ochii ca vi\u0163elul la poarta nou\u0103 – dar nimic nu te \u0163ine s\u0103 schimbi asta.<\/p>\n
Urmeaz\u0103.<\/p>\n
\u015ei p\u00e2n\u0103 m\u0103 apuc eu s\u0103 fac asta: fetelor, nu v\u0103 mai a\u015ftepta\u0163i ca iubi\u0163ii vo\u015ftri s\u0103 \u015ftie miraculos prin ce trece\u0163i. N-au ovare. N-au uter. N-au vagin. Nimeni nu le-a explicat nimic niciodat\u0103, \u015fi de c\u00e2te ori se aduce un subiect “femeiesc” \u00een discu\u0163ie, toat\u0103 lumea d\u0103 ochii peste cap\u00a0 a nespus\u0103 sc\u00e2rb\u0103. \u015ei se gr\u0103be\u015fte s\u0103 discute despre altceva.<\/p>\n
La un moment dat, pe c\u00e2nd aveam 13 ani, fratele meu m-a \u00eentrebat ce e \u0103la ciclu. Cum nu \u015ftiam ce e ru\u015finea nici atunci, i-am explicat: O dat\u0103 pe lun\u0103, s\u00e2ngerezi pe p\u0103s\u0103ric\u0103 de zici c\u0103 a t\u0103iat cineva o curte de or\u0103t\u0103nii \u00een interiorul t\u0103u. Pe unele le doare capul, au st\u0103ri de grea\u0163\u0103, nervozitate sau dureri \u00een zona abdominal\u0103, pe altele mai pu\u0163in. \u015ei trebuie s\u0103 schimbi regulat ni\u015fte chestii numite tampoane, confec\u0163ionate din ceva material care absoarbe s\u00e2ngele, s\u0103 nu ar\u0103\u0163i ca Bram Stoker’s Dracula dup\u0103 o petrecere obi\u015fnuit\u0103 la castel.
\nA intervenit bunic\u0103-mea: Cum s\u0103-i spui b\u0103iatului a\u015fa ceva?
\nEu: Dar e adev\u0103rul.
\nBunic\u0103-mea: A\u015fa ceva nu se spune.
\nFratele meu, \u00eentr-un rar puseu de cavalerism: Dar eu am \u00eentrebat.
\nBunic\u0103-mea: N\u0163, tineretul din ziua de azi. <\/p>\n
Faptul c\u0103 \u015ftie de mic ce e menstrua\u0163ia l-a ajutat s\u0103 fie mai pu\u0163in “insensibil”, “m\u0103gar” \u015fi “bou” pe subiect. \u015ei e valabil cu toate problemele organismului feminin – c\u00e2nd ai de a face cu un tip care nu e insensibil, m\u0103gar \u015fi bou din n\u0103scare. \u0102la e sensibil doar la jet \u015fi la haimar\u015f. <\/p>\n
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