{"id":16239,"date":"2018-12-13T10:57:06","date_gmt":"2018-12-13T07:57:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=16239"},"modified":"2018-12-13T11:02:22","modified_gmt":"2018-12-13T08:02:22","slug":"sa-vorbim-un-pic-despre-raportul-profesor-elev","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/sa-vorbim-un-pic-despre-raportul-profesor-elev\/","title":{"rendered":"S\u0103 vorbim un pic despre raportul profesor &#8211; elev"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Zilele trecute, a fost acest caz din Buz\u0103u. O profesoar\u0103 de desen decide s\u0103-i dea un 3 la materia ei unui elev. Elev descris drept un premiant, un olimpic, un b\u0103iat inteligent.<\/p>\n<p>Elevul, nemul\u0163umit de pedeaps\u0103, posteaz\u0103 pe grupul de Facebook al \u015fcolii un videoclip. Public. De pe YouTube. Un videoclip \u00een care profesoara, pe atunci t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103, nelini\u015ftit\u0103, membr\u0103 a unei girl band sinistre, cu alur\u0103 de prostituate, cum ar\u0103tau toate girl bands pe la finalul anilor 90 &#8211; \u00eenceput de mileniu &#8211; presta total aritmic, autotunat\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la nivelul de sonerie de Nokia 3300. (B\u0103tr\u00e2nii cunosc modelul.)<\/p>\n<p>\u00cen urma acestei &#8220;obr\u0103znicii&#8221;, direc\u0163iunea decide s\u0103 scad\u0103 nota la purtare a elevului la 2, \u015fi posibil s\u0103-l exmatriculeze. Noroc c\u0103 a intervenit Corina B\u0103canu, a fost sharuit\u0103 masiv de \u00eentregul Facebook, preluat\u0103 de televiziuni, \u015fi acum am \u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 Ministrul Educa\u0163iei \u00een persoan\u0103 a luat cazul \u00een m\u00e2ini.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei totu\u015fi, au ap\u0103rut comentatori care s\u0103 spun\u0103 c\u0103 profesorul trebuie respectat, c\u0103 sigur 3 la desen se justifica \u00eentr-un fel \u015fi c\u0103 elevul ar fi trebuit s\u0103 accepte nota \u015fi s\u0103 tac\u0103 sp\u0103sit.<\/p>\n<p>Eu am prins ambele trenduri de educa\u0163ie. \u00cen \u015fcoala primar\u0103, \u00eenc\u0103 ne temeam de \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103toare ca de Vladimir Putin. \u00cenc\u0103 transpiram la ore ca o prostituat\u0103 la biseric\u0103. A\u015fa se f\u0103cea \u015fcoal\u0103 pe vremuri. D\u00e2nd autoritate deplin\u0103, necontestat\u0103 \u015fi incontestabil\u0103, profesorului. Elevul trebuia s\u0103 execute ordine \u015fi s\u0103 tac\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Dar cine cite\u015fte acest blog de ceva vreme, \u015ftie exact p\u0103rerea mea despre orice form\u0103 de autoritate absolut\u0103. \u015ei anume: c\u0103 e un teren fertil pentru abuzuri, care d\u0103 m\u00e2n\u0103 liber\u0103, incorect, tuturor psihopa\u0163ilor care ar putea ajunge \u00een respectiva pozi\u0163ie de putere.<\/p>\n<p>Era mai u\u015for de condus \u015fi de gestionat ora c\u00e2nd to\u0163i elevii erau capete plecate?<\/p>\n<p>Probabil.<\/p>\n<p>Dar \u015fcoala nu ar trebui s\u0103 te deprind\u0103 doar cu ipostaza de supunere \u015fi umilin\u0163\u0103. Pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 face asta, te construie\u015fte propriu-zis ca pe un poten\u0163ial sclav, un idiot util, cineva care nu g\u00e2nde\u015fte cu capul propriu.<\/p>\n<p>De ce e \u0163ara asta \u00een rahatul de acum?<\/p>\n<p>A\u015f \u00eendr\u0103zni s\u0103 afirm: datorit\u0103 educa\u0163iei de mod\u0103 veche, care a crescut yesmani, \u015fi ace\u015fti yesmani continu\u0103 s\u0103 promoveze raporturi de autoritate &#8211; umilin\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>\u00cen acest tip de raporturi, nu po\u0163i fi dec\u00e2t fie c\u0103l\u0103ul, fie victima. Nu exist\u0103 o atitudine calm\u0103, relaxat\u0103, de cooperare.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei \u0103sta e unul din motivele pentru care r\u0103spund agresivit\u0103\u0163ii cu agresivitate. Oamenii incapabili de comunicare normal\u0103, mai ales la mize zero, privesc universul \u00een rela\u0163ii de tip c\u0103l\u0103u &#8211; victim\u0103, \u015fi nu ai dec\u00e2t s\u0103 alegi dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 le fii c\u0103l\u0103u sau s\u0103 le fii victim\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Prin urmare, modelul respectiv de educa\u0163ie era complet gre\u015fit.<\/p>\n<p>Dar chiar \u015fi \u00een modelul respectiv de educa\u0163ie, p\u0103rerile despre profesori existau, ca \u015fi acum. \u015etiai care e idiot, care e total pe dinafara materiei, care e u\u015for de p\u0103c\u0103lit cu complimente, \u015fi care e un om care se bucur\u0103 realmente c\u0103 evoluezi la materia lui.<\/p>\n<p>Copiii nu-s t\u00e2mpi\u0163i. Asta uit\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea. Doar pentru c\u0103-s mai scunzi \u015fi mai pl\u0103p\u00e2nzi dec\u00e2t noi, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 nu judec\u0103. Sau c\u0103 nu v\u0103 judec\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Oh my god. Poate c\u0103 te judec\u0103 mai aspru chiar dec\u00e2t un adult, pentru c\u0103 nu au experien\u0163a de via\u0163\u0103 care s\u0103 \u00eei fac\u0103 s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103r\u0103cia, disperarea, bolile grele, nesiguran\u0163a, \u015fi multe alte probleme cu care \u00eencepi s\u0103 empatizezi abia dup\u0103 ce ai trecut pe acolo.<\/p>\n<p>Mbun. Deci \u015fi noi, exact ca Andrei, \u015ftiam exact care profesori sunt umplutur\u0103 la catedr\u0103 \u015fi care sunt dasc\u0103li.<\/p>\n<p>Deja, c\u00e2nd am ajuns la liceu, p\u0103trunsese democra\u0163ia bine de tot, iar asta \u00eensemna c\u0103 profesorii slabi, dezinteresa\u0163i, slab preg\u0103ti\u0163i sau, hai s-o spunem pe nume, tolomaci &#8211; deci, vinova\u0163i de diverse forme de incompeten\u0163\u0103 &#8211; deja aeau parte de un tratament relativ nasol din partea noastr\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>E un lucru bun? Categoric, nu.<\/p>\n<p>Dar e o lec\u0163ie de via\u0163\u0103 pentru un profesor. Dac\u0103 elevii t\u0103i nu te ascult\u0103, nu te respect\u0103, nu \u00eenva\u0163\u0103, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 undeva ai e\u015fuat \u00een misiunea ta de dasc\u0103l.<\/p>\n<p>Din acest punct de vedere, \u015fi meseria de profesor, \u015fi activitatea de content writer pe net, pe care o am eu, au feedback imediat. E atent\u0103 lumea, reac\u0163ioneaz\u0103 cu interes, se discut\u0103 cu \u00eenfl\u0103c\u0103rare? Great job.<\/p>\n<p>Oamenilor li se f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie? Nu le pas\u0103 de subiect? Fac zgomot de fond? E semn c\u0103 s-a strecurat undeva un bruiaj. Poate tu ca profesor nu st\u0103p\u00e2ne\u015fti suficient materia, poate c\u0103 nu reu\u015fe\u015fti s\u0103-\u0163i comunici bine ideile, poate c\u0103 nu reu\u015fe\u015fti s\u0103 induci \u00een ace\u015fti copii interes pentru ceea ce transmi\u0163i.<\/p>\n<p>Asum\u0103-\u0163i \u015fi schimb\u0103 abordarea. Educa\u0163ia, ca orice lucru cu oameni, e dedicat\u0103 \u00een primul r\u00e2nd s\u0103-i ridice pe beneficiari, nu pe tine. Scopul \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103m\u00e2ntului e s\u0103 produc\u0103 oameni mai de\u015ftep\u0163i \u015fi mai buni, nu s\u0103-i creeze cadru c\u00e2te unui ratat e\u015fuat la catedr\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 parad\u0103 de sine.<\/p>\n<p>Ce a putut desena at\u00e2t de prost, sau de gre\u015fit copilul acela, s\u0103 ia 3 la desen? Vreau s\u0103 v\u0103d \u015fi eu desenul care a luat aceast\u0103 not\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Sau, cum suspectez de fapt c\u0103 s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, nota nu a fost acordat\u0103 pe desen, ci ca o pedeaps\u0103 pentru ceva extracuricular, s\u0103 zic a\u015fa. Fie un ton obraznic, fie un refuz de orice natur\u0103, fie atitudine teribilist\u0103 de adolescent.<\/p>\n<p>Dar tu ca profesor, nu ai sarcina de a nota atitudini \u015fi replici. Nota nu e destinat\u0103 s\u0103 fie un bici sau o rigl\u0103 de dat la palm\u0103. Nota trebuie s\u0103 evalueze nivelul de cuno\u015ftin\u0163e al elevului \u015fi at\u00e2t.<\/p>\n<p>A\u015fadar, prima gre\u015feal\u0103 a fost a profesoarei. Ea era adultul din ecua\u0163ie, ea ar fi trebuit s\u0103 fie omul mai \u00een\u0163elept, care s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 un mod de a-l face pe copil interesat de ceea ce are s\u0103-i transmit\u0103, ea ar fi trebuit s\u0103 creeze un climat propice creativit\u0103\u0163ii.<\/p>\n<p>Iar asta mi se pare ceva mult mai u\u015for de ob\u0163inut la desen dec\u00e2t la fizic\u0103 sau chimie.<\/p>\n<p>Da\u0163i-mi o or\u0103 de desen undeva, exact at\u00e2t de ignorant\u0103 \u00een domeniu cum sunt acum, \u015fi pariez c\u0103 la sf\u00e2r\u015fitul anului \u015fcolar v\u0103 produc o expozi\u0163ie de acuarele ale copiilor. F\u0103cute de ei, cu drag, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 ridic m\u0103car o dat\u0103 tonul la ei.<\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>Acum, dac\u0103 Andrei ar fi f\u0103cut rost, din surse obscure, de vreo filmare privat\u0103 cu profesoara \u00een ipostaze intime de orice natur\u0103, sau chiar beat\u0103 mang\u0103 la un party, v\u00e2rs\u00e2nd pe pantofii vreunui ag\u0103\u0163ac, a\u015f fi \u00een\u0163eles nota sc\u0103zut\u0103 la purtare \u015fi restul scandalului. Da, s\u0103 etalezi public aspecte private din vie\u0163ile altora e extrem de ur\u00e2t. \u00cen prezent, b\u00e2ntuie pe Facebook a nu \u015ftiu c\u00e2ta nebun\u0103 care m\u0103 vorbe\u015fte de r\u0103u. Eu \u015ftiu lucruri compromi\u0163\u0103toare despre ea, dezv\u0103luite de guri\u0163a ei personal\u0103, \u015fi a\u015f putea s-o umilesc public cum neam de neamul ei n-a fost umilit. Dar n-o fac special pentru c\u0103 a da publicit\u0103\u0163ii informa\u0163ii private e o tic\u0103lo\u015fie. Iar eu am multe defecte, dar tic\u0103lo\u015fia NU e printre ele.<\/p>\n<p>Numai c\u0103 Andrei n-a postat o filmare privat\u0103. A postat un clip public pe pe YouTube. Un clip \u00een care persoana a ap\u0103rut nesilit\u0103 de nimeni, din voin\u0163\u0103 proprie. S-a f\u0103cut de r\u00e2s pentru c\u0103 a ALES s\u0103 se fac\u0103, nu a intervenit vreo for\u0163\u0103 de coerci\u0163ie.<\/p>\n<p>Cum bine spunea un comentator de pe pagina Corinei B\u0103canu, profesoara a ratat \u015fansa de a se face simpatic\u0103. De a spune: &#8220;Da, m\u0103i copii, \u015ftiu, e un clip prost. \u0102\u015ftia erau banii \u015fi asta era tehnologia la care aveam acces. Ave\u0163i grij\u0103 \u00een ce v\u0103 b\u0103ga\u0163i, s\u0103 nu v\u0103 trezi\u0163i \u015fi voi \u00een mizerii similare.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Toat\u0103 lumea a f\u0103cut minimum dou\u0103 &#8211; trei t\u00e2mpenii \u00een tinere\u0163e de care \u00eei e ru\u015fine, sau de care \u00ee\u015fi aminte\u015fte cu pl\u0103cere vinovat\u0103. Probabil c\u0103 \u015fi tipa asta \u015fi celelalte dou\u0103 fete se vedeau deja ASIA, Cream, Andre sau whatever. \u015ei probabil c\u0103 \u015fi ele s-au distrat copios film\u00e2nd mizeria aia. Dac\u0103 f\u0103cea o or\u0103 dedicat\u0103 acestui subiect, \u00een care discuta onest cu clasa, liceenii ar fi purtat-o pe bra\u0163e la final, ca pe artista dec\u0103zut\u0103 \u015fi kinky a liceului.<\/p>\n<p>Pentru c\u0103, de cele mai multe ori \u00een via\u0163\u0103, sinceritatea e cea mai bun\u0103 politic\u0103. Te face vulnerabil \u015fi iubibil. C\u00e2nd te dai tu singur jos de pe piedestal, oamenii de cele mai multe ori te pun instant pe altul.<\/p>\n<p>Dar c\u00e2nd alegi s\u0103 persi\u015fti pe calea coerci\u0163iei \u015fi a opresiunii, nu faci dec\u00e2t s\u0103 hr\u0103ne\u015fti un r\u0103zboi al orgoliilor care, uimire mare, \u00ee\u0163i va d\u0103una tot \u0163ie.<\/p>\n<p>\u00cen final, Andrei are toat\u0103 via\u0163a \u00eenainte. O plaj\u0103 interminabil\u0103 de oportunit\u0103\u0163i. Iar tu o s\u0103 ie\u015fi la pensie o acritur\u0103 sc\u00e2rboas\u0103, care n-a \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at nimic din gre\u015felile tinere\u0163ii.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14577\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>***<br \/>\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Zilele trecute, a fost acest caz din Buz\u0103u. 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