{"id":16258,"date":"2018-12-17T12:13:37","date_gmt":"2018-12-17T09:13:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=16258"},"modified":"2018-12-17T12:13:37","modified_gmt":"2018-12-17T09:13:37","slug":"posta-redactiei-sa-ma-lase-naibii-in-pace-da-nu-chiar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-sa-ma-lase-naibii-in-pace-da-nu-chiar\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: S\u0103 m\u0103 lase naibii \u00een pace, da&#8217; nu chiar"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Hello, Lorena<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, \u015ftiu c\u0103 o s\u0103 sune a dram\u0103 adolescentin\u0103 care trece, dar cred c\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegi c\u00e2t de fataliste ni se par unele lucruri la v\u00e2rsta asta. \u015etiu \u015fi eu, dar parc\u0103 \u00eemi e cumva s\u0103 exclud posibilit\u0103\u0163ile &#8211; pe ideea, simt ce simt \u015fi v\u0103d ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103. Un fel de asumare, nu \u015ftiu dac\u0103 e okay, o s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u0163 eventual \u015fi din asta. Plus c\u0103 pe mine chiar m-a ajutat mereu s\u0103 confesez lucruri, mai ales c\u0103 str\u0103inii sunt obiectivi. So, I hope it&#8217;s for the best. O s\u0103 \u00eencerc s\u0103 nu m\u0103 lungesc dar nu prea posed voca\u0163ia asta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Acu c\u00e2\u0163iva ani, boboac\u0103 fiind, tot d\u0103deam de un tip prin liceu; \u015fi m\u0103 intriga r\u0103u de tot dar nu prea eram eu atunci genul s\u0103 se bage aiurea \u00een seam\u0103. Chit c\u0103 fost\u0103-sa era ca o lipitoare dup\u0103 mine care tot scotea c\u0103cat despre el. Grav. Ceva mincinoas\u0103-proast\u0103-cheating (ca s\u0103 rezum). M\u0103 enerva tipa r\u0103u p\u00e2n\u0103 i-am dat cu flip. Nu \u015ftiu, nu-mi pl\u0103cea. N-o s\u0103 m\u0103 prefac, nu? Nu exagerez, tipa e genul de om care m-a \u00eentrebat \u00een c\u00e2t timp se \u00eenv\u00e2rte soarele \u00een jurul p\u0103m\u00e2ntului. Macabru. \u015etiu. Plus ceva minciuni c\u0103 gen a fost acceptat\u0103 pe la Yale. N-aveam chef s\u0103 \u00eei distrug fengshuiu \u015fi nici s\u0103 mi-l distrug pe al meu. Dar tipa chiar se \u0163inea dup\u0103 mine, grav. No clue why.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>M\u0103 rog, fast forward doi ani mai \u00eencolo \u015fi complet spontan am ajuns eu s\u0103 m\u0103 ling cu tipul \u0103sta. \u015etiam c\u0103 a fost c\u0103\u0163elu\u015ful ei care s\u0103rea la orice sugestie \u015fi nu vedea c\u00e2t de na\u015fpa e tipa. Da m\u0103 g\u00e2ndeam c\u0103 na, a trecut ceva timp, omu e la facultate, oamenii se maturizeaz\u0103, nu? Aparent nu. Sau nu \u015ftiu, cic\u0103 nu iube\u015fti pentru c\u0103 ci \u00een ciuda. Dar ajungem \u015fi acolo. Plus c\u0103 mai era \u015fi ipoteza c\u0103 o fi f\u0103cut el ceva de aia efectiv nu a mai putut tipa.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00cen fine, ajunsesem chestie serioas\u0103 \u015fi tipul \u00eemi spunea o ton\u0103 de chestii prea-dr\u0103gu\u0163e. Voia s\u0103 ia trenu s\u0103 m\u0103 vad\u0103 seara pe la 3 c\u00e2nd ziua urm\u0103toare avea seminarii \u015fi din astea. \u015ei am zis nu. C\u0103 gen, dup\u0103 dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni nu e foarte inteligent s\u0103 faci gesturi din astea. Sau \u00een general nu e. Nu c\u0103 nu \u00eemi era drag sau ceva, dar mi se p\u0103rea pur \u015fi simplu gre\u015fit. Ah, \u015fi eu iubesc oamenii treptat, nu prea r\u0103spundeam eu la ce \u00eemi spunea el, c\u0103 nu aveam de ce s\u0103 \u00eel mint. Dar nu eram o boschetar\u0103 ci chiar \u00eei explicam frumos. Subliniez asta. \u015ei m\u0103 suna s\u0103 \u00eemi spun\u0103 ce face \u015fi dac\u0103 e okay ce face \u015fi cu cine. Cum adic\u0103 m\u0103 suni s\u0103 \u00eemi dai raportul? Nu-s maic\u0103-ta, chill. \u015ei nici geloas\u0103, dac\u0103 e s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00een\u015feli o faci \u015fi dac\u0103 bosumflu eu cu zilele dup\u0103 **** t\u0103u \u015fi dac\u0103 \u00eemi v\u0103d de treab\u0103. \u015ei am cam ales s\u0103 \u00eemi v\u0103d de treab\u0103. \u015ei lui \u00eei se p\u0103rea out of this world, c\u0103 nebuna aia \u00eel suna pl\u00e2ng\u00e2nd s\u0103 mearg\u0103 acas\u0103 c\u0103 ea nu mai poate. Um, ciudat.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ajung \u015fi eu s\u0103 \u0163in la om \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eel iubesc \u015fi gata, se schimb\u0103 r\u0103u dinamica. Eu m\u0103 sim\u0163eam grav neiubit\u0103. \u015ei i-am zis. \u015ei n-a \u00een\u0163eles. \u015ei i-am dat papucii. \u015ei a venit s\u0103 m\u0103 vad\u0103 panicat c\u0103 na, el e ardelean de fel \u015fi la el se rezolv\u0103 lucrurile \u00eencet \u015fi nu \u00eei place s\u0103 fie \u00eempins sau &#8220;subjugat&#8221;, \u015fi c\u0103 s\u0103-i dau timp s\u0103 nu mai fiu a\u015fa &#8220;sudist\u0103&#8221;? Ha? Problemele nu ar trebui rezolvate eficient? \u00cen fine, am zis c\u0103 poate nu-s eu destul de empatic\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103-l las. \u015ei \u00eemi venea cu replici de genul c\u0103 el e greu de iubit \u015fi c\u0103 nu prea mai crede \u00een iubire dup\u0103 ce a p\u0103\u0163it cu aia. \u015ei partea empatic\u0103 din mine a cam tot supt **** timpu \u0103sta. \u015ei nici m\u0103car nu i-a pl\u0103cut. Nu c\u0103 \u00eel credeam, mi se p\u0103rea absurd, \u015fi cringe, \u015fi de prost gust &#8211; da am zis fie. \u00cel iubesc aia e. Adic\u0103 \u015fi amicele mele m\u0103 fac s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentreb dac\u0103 mai exist\u0103 selec\u0163ie natural\u0103 \u00een ziua de azi, da \u00eemi trece c\u0103 au \u015fi momentele lor de sclipire. Se repet\u0103 povestea, ceva gen cerc vicios. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Da el devine din ce \u00een ce mai duba\u015f. Ne vedem mai rar, b\u0103ga scuze. Zic, ok, omu are treab\u0103 \u015fi facultate, \u00een\u0163eleg perfect \u015fi nu are rost s\u0103 m\u0103 stresez. C\u00e2nd era prea groas\u0103 treaba (gen nu vin cu tine la festival chiar dac\u0103 ai luat tu biletele, da m\u0103 duc cu fratele \u015fi na, e chestie de fra\u0163i, nu te \u00eentreb dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 vii \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe) \u00eel confruntam \u015fi o d\u0103dea pe aia c\u0103 eu nu \u015ftiu s\u0103 ar\u0103t iubire \u015fi nici s\u0103 ascult \u015fi de fapt el e victima. Ah, super. Pe partea aialalt\u0103, ca s\u0103 zic povestea complet, era atent cu flori \u015fi m\u00e2ncare \u015fi chestii \u015fi ascultat la mine, deci na, nu era o fatalitate absolut\u0103 (nu de alta, dar el a tot afirmat c\u0103 a luptat pentru mine \u015fi poate sunt eu proast\u0103 \u015fi prin asta se \u00een\u0163elege luptat). \u015ei c\u0103 el \u00eencearc\u0103, adic\u0103 ba c\u0103 \u00eencerca ba c\u0103 oare nu prefer eu gesturi \u015fi nu cuvinte? Care gesturi, nu \u015ftiu. Poate chiar sunt egoist\u0103. Cam pe atunci am zis na, m\u0103 dau b\u0103tut\u0103, \u00eel las s\u0103 fie \u015fi aia e, nu-l mai pis\u0103logesc cu nevoile mele supraomene\u015fti \u015fi \u00eencerc s\u0103 \u00eel sun s\u0103 \u00eel \u00eentreb de ziua lui, ce face, de ce, cu cine, c\u0103 lui \u00eei pl\u0103cea s\u0103 fac\u0103 asta cu mine \u015fi na, \u00een\u0163elegi. S\u0103 \u00eel bat la cap cu tot felul de \u00eentreb\u0103ri despre persoana lui. U\u015for amuzant mi-a trecut prin minte s\u0103 \u00eel \u00eentreb dac\u0103 ar mai fi cu aia acuma. Nu am habar de ce, jur. Coinciden\u0163\u0103, cel mai probabil. \u015ei a zis c\u0103 acuma da, c\u0103 atunci erau copii blabla nu mai \u015ftiu ce exact a motivat. A, \u015fi brusc mi-a zis o povestioar\u0103 de a ei despre mine, c\u0103 gen ea i-a zis acu nu\u015ftiuc\u00e2ttimp ceva de mine. N-am b\u0103gat de seam\u0103 c\u0103 acu nu \u015ftiu c\u00e2t timp poate e mai recent dec\u00e2t sun\u0103. Pe bune, am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at s\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai stresez pe mizerii de genul &#8211; doar c\u0103 poate a\u015fa am ratat adev\u0103rul mai repede. Oricum, o s\u0103 continui relaxat pe treaba asta. Chiar n-are sens, indiferent.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, dup\u0103 un an gen, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 c\u0103 nu mi-a zis c\u0103 vine acas\u0103 m-a rugat s\u0103 nu vin la concert de aniversarea noastr\u0103 c\u0103 iar se duce cu frate-s\u0103u (zic ok, omu are priorit\u0103\u0163i) am primit apelu. Da, un am\u0103r\u00e2t de apel. C\u0103 eu nu \u015ftiu s\u0103 iubesc, s\u0103 ascult, c\u0103 nu mai poate fi subjugat, ba c\u0103 merit ceva mai bun, ba c\u0103 nu m\u0103 \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 el s\u0103 fiu femeie, ba c\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eemi deschid ochii \u015fi s\u0103 v\u0103d (cuvintele lui). Iar\u0103. Ha? \u00cen fine, ne desp\u0103r\u0163im \u015fi eu mi-o v\u0103d super ok de treaba mea, cu tot cu dorul, sau nu \u015ftiu, Stockholm Syndrome-ul meu. Pe ideea na, simt ce simt dar asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 mai mult. \u015ei oricum hai s\u0103 m\u0103 iubesc pe mine mai mult. \u00cel \u00eentrebasem de ce nu a f\u0103cut-o fa\u0163\u0103 \u00een fa\u0163\u0103 \u015fi a zis c\u0103 nu poate. Fine with me. Spune mai multe despre el dec\u00e2t despre mine. M-am v\u0103zut cu tipi \u00eentre timp, mi-am v\u0103zut de ale mele, dar nimic nu era destul de okay \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 vreau mai mult de la tipii \u0103ia. A\u015fa c\u0103 na, am r\u0103mas cu mine \u015fi proiectele mele. Ca \u00eentr-o sear\u0103, nu \u015ftiu, s\u0103 dau din gre\u015feal\u0103 pe povestea fostei \u0103leia. \u015ei s\u0103 \u00eel v\u0103d cu ea nu \u015ftiu unde. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Aha! Deci acuma ai timp? Brusc. Aici am fost impulsiv\u0103 \u015fi am sunat direct. Am zis c\u0103 deh, nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 cum o s\u0103 m\u0103 vad\u0103 ei doi, \u015fi l-am \u00eentrebat dac\u0103 e cu ea \u015fi a zis c\u0103 da. Da &#8211; a\u015fa gen, &#8220;da care e treaba ta da&#8221;. \u015ei am \u00eenchis. Chill. Ur\u00e2t\u0103 treaba, oricum. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ca s\u0103 m\u0103 sune mimoza (el) s\u0103 sar\u0103 la mine c\u0103 de unde p\u00e2n\u0103 unde m\u0103 r\u0103stesc la el, c\u0103 nici bun\u0103 ziua, blabla. \u00cemi cer scuze \u015fi \u00eei explic c\u0103 na, impulsul. El o d\u0103 pe a lui. C\u0103 cic\u0103 el de ce nu poate fi cu cineva dac\u0103 eu sunt. Cum adic\u0103? (eu fiind singur\u0103). &#8220;P\u0103i ai fost acolo ai f\u0103cut aia erai cu \u0103la blabla&#8221;. <i>Oh, so you stalk me.<\/i> Ah, \u015fi preferata mea &#8220;cum ai v\u0103zut aia dac\u0103 nu o ai pe tip\u0103 la follow?&#8221;. B\u0103i, chiar sunt o relaxat\u0103, am dat din pur\u0103 gre\u015feal\u0103 de poz\u0103 (universul \u015fi c\u0103ile lui). \u015ei n-a crezut. C\u0103 na, iar\u0103 aceea\u015fi poezie, eu subjug, eu nu \u015ftiu ar\u0103ta s\u0103 iubesc, c\u0103 o s\u0103 ajung s\u0103 \u00eel ur\u0103sc, c\u0103 ipocriziile lui sunt asumate, c\u0103 n-ar mai fi mers dac\u0103 nu ne desp\u0103r\u0163eam &#8211; DAR, nu se \u015ftie ce se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla pe viitor, s\u0103 las chestia dintre noi undeva acolo, da nici s\u0103 nu \u00eemi fac speran\u0163e. Ha? Poftim poftim? Zic nu frate, ai plecat, ai ales, treaba ta, nu te \u00eentorci. \u015ei o tot d\u0103dea c\u0103 sper\u0103 c\u0103 vom fi prieteni \u015fi vom putea vorbi odat\u0103 dar c\u0103 acuma nu e timpul pentru s\u0103n\u0103tatea mea mintal\u0103 (?). \u00cei zic scurt c\u0103 eu \u00eel iubesc dar nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 nimic mai mult dec\u00e2t asta. \u015ei c\u0103 \u0103sta e papa. Apoi apar mesajele de la el &#8211; voia s\u0103 m\u0103 ajute cu ni\u015fte topicuri de debate, \u015fi \u00eei scriu \u00eenc\u0103 odat\u0103 frumos c\u0103 eu nu \u00eei \u00eenghit basmele \u015fi c\u0103 n-a luptat pentru absolut nimic \u015fi c\u0103 e pa-pa. \u015ei \u00eemi scrie romane \u00eenapoi. Foarte defensive. Ca s\u0103 \u00eemi trimit\u0103 dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva ore ceva gen &#8220;Hai m\u0103 chiar a\u015fa de *** \u0163i se pare povestea?&#8221;. N-am r\u0103spuns. La absolut nimic.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ultima oar\u0103 c\u00e2nd m-a contactat a fost c\u0103 i-a zis o amic\u0103 comun\u0103 c\u0103 am\u00e2ndoi suntem idio\u0163i da parc\u0103 el e mai mare ca mine, \u015fi c\u0103 na, nu \u00eel mai pre\u0163uie\u015fte nicio tip\u0103 ca mine. \u015ei \u0103sta m-a sunat \u015fi dup\u0103 mi-a dat mesaj s\u0103 \u00eei zic la aia s\u0103 nu se mai bage \u00een seam\u0103. Da ce treab\u0103 am eu cu opiniile femeii? N-are relevan\u0163\u0103, da ca s\u0103 demonstrez c\u0103 nu sunt acr\u0103 chiar \u015fi amicii lui au zis c\u0103-s om mi\u015fto \u015fi c\u0103 aia e proast\u0103 r\u0103u. \u015ei c\u0103 n-o plac. Whatever.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00cemi pare r\u0103u de istorisire, c\u0103-i lung\u0103 \u015fi plicticoas\u0103 iar pe alocuri penibil\u0103. Dar na, tipu se \u00eencurca grav \u00een explica\u0163ii \u015fi nici nu a vrut s\u0103 \u00eemi confirme c\u0103 pentru aia m-a l\u0103sat. Chit c\u0103 eu am r\u0103mas cu un amar \u00eel-iubesc-dar-mai-bine-nu. \u015ei amicele mele o dau pe idei fanteziste c\u0103 omu o s\u0103 se \u00eentoarc\u0103 la mine. \u015ei simt c\u0103 fac implozie de la basme de genul. Nu \u015ftiu, care e logica s\u0103 te \u00eentorci la a\u015fa ceva (aia)? C\u0103 mie nu \u00eemi pare c\u0103 oamenii se schimb\u0103 at\u00e2t de mult. C\u0103 pentru mine toat\u0103 povestea e amuzanto-tragic\u0103 \u015fi nu \u00een\u0163eleg care e faza. Pe bune c\u0103 na, ca ultima proast\u0103 picat\u0103 din copac m\u0103 simt, c\u0103 gen eram maxim decorul un an de zile. Poate c\u0103 am \u015fi fost. Mea culpa. \u015ei de ce s\u0103 vin\u0103 \u00eenapoi la mine? Aolo. Am fost clar\u0103 c\u0103 nu. Adic\u0103 \u00eel iubesc dar hai s\u0103 fiu ra\u0163ional\u0103. Da eu nu cred c\u0103 oamenii se schimb\u0103, sau mai ales c\u0103 merit\u0103 s\u0103 te \u00eentorci la ceva a\u015fa de aiurea. Adic\u0103, vorba lui, aia era proast\u0103 \u015fi i-a pus \u0103l&#8217; de sus m\u00e2na \u00een cap c\u00e2nd a sc\u0103pat de ea. Ipocrizie :)) ah, \u015fi voiam s\u0103 fiu uman\u0103\/dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103 c\u00e2nd am vorbit ultima dat\u0103 \u015fi l-am \u00eentrebat cum mai e. \u015ei a zis efectiv &#8220;nu vreau&#8221;. Ha? De ce? &#8220;C\u0103 nu vreau&#8221;. \u015ei am insistat p\u00e2n\u0103 a recunoscut c\u0103 &#8220;p\u0103i c\u00e2nd m-ai \u00eentrebat cum a fost la par\u0163ial de unde \u015ftiai? Oricum tu \u015ftii orice fac.&#8221; \u015ei dau s\u0103 \u00eei explic c\u0103 m\u0103 v\u0103zusem \u00een aceea\u015fi s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 cu un tip din anu lui \u015fi \u0103la s-a pl\u00e2ns de par\u0163ial. Hopa. Ce r\u0103bufnire penibil\u0103. Chiar m\u0103 opream s\u0103 r\u00e2d \u00een timpul apelului la c\u00e2t de absurd mi se p\u0103rea totul. Maxim, \u00ee\u0163i zic c\u0103 m\u0103 sim\u0163eam prins\u0103 \u00een ceva treab\u0103 kafkaian\u0103-subliminal\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Oricum, sper c\u0103 te-a amuzat &#8220;tragedia&#8221; asta personal\u0103. M-ar amuza \u015fi mai tare la c\u00e2t de atent e la ce fac eu cu via\u0163a mea s\u0103 vad\u0103 \u015fi treaba asta (de\u015fi nu \u015ftiu cum). Foc \u015fi spume. Yep, \u015ftiu c\u0103 am fost proast\u0103. Dar m\u0103car am f\u0103cut tot ce am sim\u0163it.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Mul\u0163umesc!\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n<p>Dup\u0103 cum vede oricine cite\u015fte aceast\u0103 poveste, tipul \u0103la nu e pentru tine \u015fi tu nu e\u015fti pentru el. Fiecare dintre voi doi vre\u0163i foarte tare ca povestea s\u0103 curg\u0103 dup\u0103 cum o dicta\u0163i voi, nici unul nu este dispus s\u0103 lase de la el, orice \u00eencerca\u0163i unul cu cel\u0103lalt iese prost.<\/p>\n<p>E vizibil\u0103 din avion aceast\u0103 incompatibilitate? God, yes.<\/p>\n<p>Dar simplul fapt c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i tot spui \u00een cap, iar \u015fi iar, aceast\u0103 poveste, obsesia ta pentru am\u0103nunte, arat\u0103 c\u0103, de\u015fi \u00eencerci s\u0103 m\u0103 convingi foarte tare pe mine, \u015fi probabil \u015fi pe tine, c\u0103 nu mai vrei aceast\u0103 rela\u0163ie, \u00een subcon\u015ftientul t\u0103u \u0103la \u0163i-e \u00een continuare boyfriend.<\/p>\n<p>Altfel, pe bune, de ce e problema ta c\u0103 se vede cu fosta? Sau cu viitoarea? Sau chiar cu Papa de la Roma?<\/p>\n<p>\u00cencearc\u0103 s\u0103 te a\u015fezi la o bere cu tine. \u015ei cut the bullrahat. Ia o foaie de h\u00e2rtie \u015fi un pix. Separ\u0103 coala \u00een dou\u0103 coloane verticale. Pe partea dreapt\u0103 scrii de ce \u00eel mai vrei. Pe partea st\u00e2ng\u0103, de ce nu e cazul s\u0103-l mai vrei. Dar onest, matur \u015fi obiectiv.<\/p>\n<p>Apoi, tragi o linie orizontal\u0103 \u015fi reiei prin analiza punctului \u00een care e\u015fti acum.<\/p>\n<p>Pe partea dreapt\u0103 scrii ce \u015fanse ai s\u0103 transformi acest haos de nedescris \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie func\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi normal\u0103. Pe partea st\u00e2ng\u0103 &#8211; motivele pentru care acest haos de nedescris nu va fi niciodat\u0103 o rela\u0163ie func\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi normal\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Apoi, cu foaia aia \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103, examineaz\u0103 dreapta \u015fi st\u00e2nga. \u015ei ia o decizie ferm\u0103, matur\u0103, de care s\u0103 te \u0163ii.<\/p>\n<p>Voi, adolescen\u0163ii, vre\u0163i s\u0103 fi\u0163i trata\u0163i ca adul\u0163i. Dac\u0103 cineva v\u0103 face copii, v\u0103 sup\u0103ra\u0163i terci. Ei, o parte a condi\u0163iei de adult e s\u0103 fii consecvent cu propriile decizii.<\/p>\n<p>S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 dreapta e mai lung\u0103. (De\u015fi nu cred.) \u00cel suni pe tip \u015fi-i spui: &#8220;Uite, mi-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103 relu\u0103m rela\u0163ia \u015fi s\u0103 facem treaba s\u0103 func\u0163ioneze.)<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei face\u0163i treaba s\u0103 func\u0163ioneze.<\/p>\n<p>Dar poate st\u00e2nga e mai lung\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Atunci ia DECIZIA FERM\u0102 s\u0103 tai macaroana. F\u0103r\u0103 stalking pe paginile lui, f\u0103r\u0103 \u00eentrebat prieteni comuni ce face, f\u0103r\u0103 f***ere de grij\u0103 legat\u0103 de lucruri care nu te mai privesc, f\u0103r\u0103 telefoane personale, f\u0103r\u0103 interac\u0163iuni de-astea cu poponea\u0163a \u00een dou\u0103 luntri, care te fac s\u0103 mai \u0163e\u015fi un pic la narativa asta extrem de toxic\u0103 pentru tine \u00een primul r\u00e2nd.<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 nu po\u0163i s\u0103-\u0163i respec\u0163i decizia ferm\u0103 doar pe baze ra\u0163ionale \u015fi determinare, pune-i num\u0103rul la blocate, d\u0103-i block pe toat\u0103 social media, seteaz\u0103-i adresa de mail pe &#8220;spam&#8221; \u015fi impune-\u0163i s\u0103 \u00eel sco\u0163i definitiv, la propriu, din cap.<\/p>\n<p>Altfel, sper c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dai seama c\u00e2t de ridicol e acel &#8220;oh, so you stalk me&#8221; dup\u0103 ce tu i-ai dedicat ditamai Mahabharata asta.<\/p>\n<p>N-o mai arde\u0163i &#8220;te-vreau-afar\u0103-din-via\u0163a-mea-boule-ce-faci-iubi&#8221;? Nici \u0103la nu va \u015fti ce vrei de la el de fapt, \u015fi atunci tendin\u0163a uman\u0103 general\u0103 e s\u0103 devin\u0103 din ce \u00een ce mai frustrat \u015fi mai &#8220;ba-pe-a-m\u0103-tii&#8221;, \u015fi nici tu nu ie\u015fi din cercul \u0103sta vicios, s\u0103 treci la treburi mai s\u0103n\u0103toase cu capul.<\/p>\n<p>C\u0103 e greu s\u0103 iei decizii ferme \u015fi s\u0103 te \u0163ii de ele?<\/p>\n<p>Sure.<\/p>\n<p>Nimeni n-a zis c\u0103 a fi adult e u\u015for.<\/p>\n<p>Sper c\u0103 am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n<p>Lorena.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14577\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>***<br \/>\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. 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