C\u00e2nd ar\u0103\u021bi c\u00e2t de c\u00e2t decent, \u00een era social media, \u0219i e\u0219ti vizibil, e u\u0219or s\u0103 ai diverse contracte pe imagine. De aceea e bine s\u0103 mergi la sal\u0103, s\u0103 te hidratezi, s\u0103 te dai cu o crem\u0103 hr\u0103nitoare pentru tenul t\u0103u \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe.<\/p>\n
Dar frumuse\u021bea e doar un skill, nu esen\u021ba fiin\u021bei tale. Te g\u0103se\u0219te cineva frumoas\u0103 \u0219i vrea s\u0103 fac\u0103 lucruri profesionale bazate pe asta? OK. Te sim\u021bi m\u0103gulit. Dar nu e cazul s\u0103 devin\u0103 un punct nevralgic, \u00een a\u0219a fel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 te sim\u021bi r\u0103nit\u0103 c\u0103 Gicu \u00ee\u021bi scrie c\u0103 e\u0219ti ur\u00e2t\u0103.<\/p>\n
Pe la 20 de ani, comentariile cu “e\u015fti ur\u00e2t\u0103” dureau ca dracu’. \u0218i nici nu aveam pe cineva s\u0103-mi explice c\u0103 l\u0103tratul pro\u0219tilor are exact zero leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu tine, \u0219i 100% leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu personalitatea lor oribil\u0103. Acum, c\u0103 \u015ftiu exact cine sunt \u0219i tot ce pot s\u0103 fac, mi se f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie apoteotic de percep\u0163ia oricui nu contribuie activ la chiria mea.<\/p>\n
Da, \u015fi ur\u00e2\u0163enia e un mijloc valid de expresie artistic\u0103. Iar cui nu-i convine, s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103 o \u015fedin\u0163\u0103 foto \u00een care s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dea tem\u0103 s\u0103 fii frumoas\u0103.<\/p>\n
B) Po\u021bi s\u0103 faci ce vrei tu \u00een via\u021b\u0103, cu condi\u021bia s\u0103 bagi efort.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Dac\u0103 te bazezi doar pe look \u00een via\u0163\u0103, o s\u0103 iei o mare \u015fi apoteotic\u0103 mu*e c\u00e2nd acesta va \u00eencepe s\u0103 p\u0103leasc\u0103. Dup\u0103 cum spunea Judge Judy: Beauty fades, dumb is forever.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 ai o meserie, sau de ce nu, mai multe, care sunt total independente de cum ar\u0103\u0163i, po\u0163i tr\u0103i fericit\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la ad\u00e2nci b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163e de pe urma muncii tale. \u015ei s\u0103 fii 100% pe picioarele tale, prin urmare, s\u0103 nu-\u0163i dea nimeni instruc\u0163iuni \u015fi directive.<\/p>\n Iar dac\u0103 ai o ambi\u021bie, urm\u0103re\u0219te-o. Nimeni nu s-a n\u0103scut direct sopran\u0103 la Scala sau CEO la Coca Cola. Dar au devenit, pentru c\u0103 au muncit, s-au luptat \u0219i nu au permis nim\u0103nui s\u0103 le spun\u0103 c\u0103 nu sunt suficient de buni.<\/p>\n C) B\u0103ie\u0163ii care te trag de codi\u0163e \u015fi cei care te bat cu bulg\u0103ri nu te iubesc, indiferent ce zice tradi\u0163ia popular\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cenc\u0103 de copil, turbam c\u00e2nd \u00eel boscorodeam pe X \u015fi pe Y c\u0103 m\u0103 freac\u0103 la icre cu genul \u0103sta de comportament, iar c\u00e2te o femeie \u00eemi r\u0103spundea c\u0103 a\u015fa \u00ee\u0163i arat\u0103 c\u0103 te iube\u015fte. “Dac\u0103 m\u0103 iube\u015fte, s\u0103-mi aduc\u0103 flori”, am tr\u00e2ntit-o eu, \u015fi aveam patru ani sau ceva. Femeile din fa\u0163a blocului s-au uitat la mine uimite. Era de neauzit ca b\u0103rba\u0163ii lor comuni\u015fti s\u0103 le aduc\u0103 flori. Doar o \u0163iganc\u0103 b\u0103tr\u00e2n\u0103, care m\u0103tura strada \u015fi se oprise \u015fi ea la \u015fuet\u0103, a \u00eenceput s\u0103 r\u00e2d\u0103 \u015fi a zis: “Hehe, tu o s\u0103-l pui s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103 scump pe \u0103la care o s\u0103 te f**\u0103!”.<\/p>\n “Altfel, ce rost are s\u0103 te complici?”, am zis, de\u015fi la patru ani, habar n-aveam ce \u00eensemna “f***t”. M\u0103 g\u00e2ndeam c\u0103 e ceva joc de societate, gen “Nu te sup\u0103ra, frate”. Dar, da, dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 joc “Nu te sup\u0103ra, frate” numai cu tine, trebuie s\u0103 faci s\u0103 merite.<\/p>\n \u015ei aveam patru ani c\u00e2nd g\u00e2ndeam a\u015fa. M\u0103 enervau diverse muieri care c\u0103utau s\u0103 m\u0103 conving\u0103 c\u0103 abuzul \u00een diversele lui forme e iubire. Iar eu \u00eemi voi \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a copilul c\u0103 abuzul \u00een diversele lui forme e doar o expresie a variilor neputin\u0163e ale altuia, c\u0103 n-are leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu tine, dar nici nu trebuie s\u0103 te cobori la nivelul la care s\u0103-l accep\u0163i. Iar iubirea are o singur\u0103 form\u0103, u\u015for recognoscibil\u0103: c\u00e2nd cineva \u00ee\u0163i vrea binele cu fiecare celul\u0103 a f\u0103pturii lui.<\/p>\n D) Dac\u0103 vrei, f\u0103 copii \u015fi m\u0103rit\u0103-te; dar dac\u0103 nu, nu l\u0103sa pe nimeni s\u0103 te \u015fcoleasc\u0103 c\u0103 a\u015fa trebuie.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Multe femei \u00eencep de foarte tinere. R\u0103m\u00e2n gravide. Se m\u0103rit\u0103, sau devin mame singure. Toat\u0103 via\u0163a lor e un lung \u015fir de renun\u0163\u0103ri \u015fi de angajamente ratate, pentru c\u0103 un copil solicit\u0103 resurse interminabile de timp \u015fi energie. E genul \u0103la de full time job care \u00ee\u0163i hale\u015fte \u015fi seara, \u015fi diminea\u0163a, \u015fi weekendul, \u015fi nu accept\u0103 negocieri.<\/p>\n Cred cu toat\u0103 t\u0103ria c\u0103 un om, b\u0103rbat sau femeie, trebuie s\u0103 apuce s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat, s\u0103-\u015fi consume frustr\u0103rile de tip “al\u0163ii se distreaz\u0103, numai eu muncesc ca un sclav pe planta\u0163ie”, ca s\u0103 nu transfere toate aceste ne\u00eempliniri \u00een raportul cu propriul copil. Oamenii ne\u00eemplini\u0163i cresc copii foarte chinui\u0163i.<\/p>\n Acum, post-30, dup\u0103 ani buni \u00een care am fost la toate concertele, festivalurile, petrecerile de diverse tipuri \u015fi experien\u0163ele pe care mi le-am dorit, dup\u0103 ce am savurat tot ce are entertainmentul de oferit, m\u0103 bucur de o sear\u0103 acas\u0103 la film \u00een compania pisicii ca de o gur\u0103 de aer proasp\u0103t. \u015ei asta e v\u00e2rsta la care merit\u0103, dac\u0103 e\u015fti genul p\u0103rinte, s\u0103 faci copii.<\/p>\n La 20, mi-a\u015f fi ciuntit nevoia de explorare. Iar un copil ar fi fost un mod de a-mi fr\u00e2nge aripile.<\/p>\n E) Nu datorezi nimic diver\u015filor pis\u0103logi; dar c\u00e2nd cineva te sus\u0163ine, arat\u0103 apreciere.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Sunt dou\u0103 trenduri.<\/p>\n Pe de o parte, fraierele care-\u015fi pun contul de Facebook sau de Instagram pe privat doar pentru c\u0103 s-a dat un agarici \u00een c\u0103lduri la ele. De ce ba\u0163i tu \u00een retragere? S\u0103 se pun\u0103 \u0103la pe privat.<\/p>\n Pe de alt\u0103 parte, pi\u021bi r\u0103sf\u0103\u021bate care au impresia c\u0103 oricine le datoreaz\u0103 orice, pe baz\u0103 de ochi frumo\u0219i.<\/p>\n Nu datorezi nimic diver\u015filor gigei \u015fi costei cu impresii, mai ales c\u00e2nd nici m\u0103car nu te cunosc, dar vor s\u0103 ias\u0103 \u00een eviden\u0163\u0103 cu c\u00e2te o t\u00e2mpenie flagrant\u0103. Jet, eject, flit, mar\u015f, pa\u015fol na turbinca. \u015ei fii ferm\u0103. CHIAR nu le datorezi nimic. Citez din RuPaul: If them bitchezz ain’t paying yo bills, pay them bitchezz no mind.<\/p>\n \u00cen schimb, oamenilor care contribuie la cre\u015fterea ta profesional\u0103, mae\u015ftrilor t\u0103i, celor care \u00ee\u0163i \u00eentind o m\u00e2n\u0103, celor care \u00ee\u0163i creeaz\u0103 oportunit\u0103\u0163i arat\u0103-le cel mai profund \u015fi autentic respect. A\u015fa cum tu nu le datorezi nimic gigeilor \u015fi costeilor, nici ei nu-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 nimic \u0163ie.<\/p>\n Nu lua ajutorul \u015fi bun\u0103voin\u0163a nim\u0103nui drept chestii care \u0163i se cuvin.<\/p>\n F) Nu fi o fat\u0103 bun\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u015ei aici nu zic s\u0103 nu fii un om bun, generos cu cine merit\u0103, afectuos cu cine merit\u0103, iubitor cu cine merit\u0103. Ci nu te l\u0103sa h\u0103r\u0163uit\u0103 \u015fi agasat\u0103 de diver\u015fi \u00een mentalitatea de “fat\u0103 bun\u0103”, care se chinuie s\u0103 fac\u0103 pe plac oricui. \u015ei care caut\u0103 perpetuu s\u0103 nu supere \u015fi s\u0103 nu deranjeze.<\/p>\n Trebuie s\u0103 lup\u0163i pentru drepturile \u015fi idealurile tale, indiferent c\u00e2te pene ciufule\u015fti cu asta.<\/p>\n Nu fi docil\u0103 ca o v\u0103cu\u0163\u0103 laie buc\u0103laie, pentru c\u0103 nu ai de ce s\u0103 cau\u0163i \u00een coarne dec\u00e2t pe oamenii pe care VREI TU s\u0103-i cau\u0163i \u00een coarne.<\/p>\n F) Fii loial \u00een prieteniile tale.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cen definitiv, frumuse\u0163ea vine \u015fi pleac\u0103, dac\u0103 nu te cheam\u0103 Jane Fonda. Femeia aia a b\u0103tut proverbul cu bab\u0103 frumoas\u0103 \u015fi copil cuminte. \u015ei nu prin cumin\u0163enie.<\/p>\n Banii vin \u015fi pleac\u0103.<\/p>\n Gloria vine \u015fi pleac\u0103.<\/p>\n Popularitatea vine \u015fi pleac\u0103.<\/p>\n Pofta de sex vine \u015fi pleac\u0103.<\/p>\n Ce ne r\u0103m\u00e2ne dup\u0103 ce totul pleac\u0103?<\/p>\n Afec\u0163iunea \u015fi loialitatea celor care \u0163in cu adev\u0103rat la noi, pentru c\u0103 suntem profund ata\u015fa\u0163i unii de al\u0163ii ca fiin\u0163e umane.<\/p>\n Prietenia e cel mai valoros lucru pe care \u00eel ai. Iar un prieten sau o prieten\u0103 adev\u0103rat(\u0103) e hran\u0103 pentru suflet, minte \u015fi inspira\u0163ie.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n *** Ieri, am postat articolul lui Bogdan despre cum am educa fete, \u0219i, \u00een scurt timp, tot internetul \u0219i mama lui au sim\u021bit s\u0103 intervin\u0103...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":14143,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16405","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/girl.jpg?fit=1280%2C871&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16405","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16405"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16405\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16419,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16405\/revisions\/16419"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14143"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16405"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16405"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16405"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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