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<\/p>\nIeri, s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat un episod internautic pe care a\u015f dori s\u0103 vi-l povestesc. Nu ca s\u0103 \u015fcolesc sau s\u0103 umilesc pe cineva ci a\u015fa, pur \u015fi simplu, ca s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegem cum s\u0103 proced\u0103m \u00een situa\u0163ii delicate.<\/p>\n
Am un comentator pe care-l cheam\u0103 Ion Popescu. \u00cen general, comentariile lui au un coeficient relativ ridicat de b\u0103d\u0103r\u0103nie, dar \u00een linii mari nu-\u015fi dirijeaz\u0103 agresivitatea pe interlocutor. Adic\u0103 nu zbiar\u0103 \u015fi rage la tine, nu-l apas\u0103 grija ce faci \u00een afara Facebookului, nu caut\u0103 s\u0103 te aga\u0163e – \u00een schimb d\u0103 verdicte suduite \u015fi ciufute despre varii aspecte. C\u00e2t timp nu cau\u0163i s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenjuri \u015fi s\u0103 m\u0103 umile\u015fti, po\u0163i s-o arzi ciufut p\u00e2n\u0103 la a doua pogor\u00e2re a lui Mesia, drept care, \u00eel mai bomb\u0103neam eu pe om, dar eram pa\u015fnici.<\/p>\n
Ieri, acest Ion Popescu a citit pe peretele unei tinere din Ia\u015fi, Alexandra Curic, cum tat\u0103l ei a intrat peste ea \u00een baie \u015fi a \u00eenceput s-o loveasc\u0103. Cum ea a chemat poli\u0163ia. \u015ei cum poli\u0163ia din Rom\u00e2nia \u015fi-a dovedit din nou incapacitatea \u015fi lipsa disponibilit\u0103\u0163ii de a lua \u00een serios o pl\u00e2ngere formulat\u0103 de o femeie. Iar mama ei a preferat s\u0103-\u015fi apere so\u0163ul, \u00een defavoarea copilului.<\/p>\n
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\u00cen secunda \u00een care a citit acest status, lui Ion Popescu i s-a f\u0103cut mil\u0103. \u015ei a decis s\u0103 ajute cu ceva. Cu ce? D\u00e2nd un comentariu interminabil de toxic \u015fi de obraznic, ceva de genul “pune \u015fi tu m\u00e2na, f\u0103 o \u015fcoal\u0103, \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 ceva meserie, munce\u015fte \u015fi las\u0103-le casa ta, nu te baza pe feministe c\u0103 alea oricum sunt proaste \u015fi c*rve” \u015fi, m\u0103 rog, multe rahaturi generice de genul, rostite pe un ton de o superioritate absolut\u0103 de-\u0163i venea s\u0103 treci ecranul \u015fi s\u0103-i foo\u0163i o lopat\u0103 peste denti\u0163ie.
\nChit c\u0103 profesia afi\u015fat\u0103 la profil a tinerei femei e software development engineer, nu v\u00e2nz\u0103toare la aprozarul de la col\u0163. <\/p>\n
Apoi, acela\u015fi Popescu Ion s-a luat frumu\u015fel \u015fi a venit la mine pe perete. \u00cen loc s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 frumos: Uite, Lorena, e o fat\u0103 care \u00eendur\u0103 abuz din partea p\u0103rin\u0163ilor, poate stai de vorb\u0103 cu ea \u015fi vede\u0163i ce pute\u0163i face, m-a luat precum urmeaz\u0103.<\/p>\n
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Pe de o parte, e de la sine \u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 proastele \u015fi c*rvele de feministe nu fac nimic \u015fi nu ajut\u0103 cu nimic, pe de alta, vin totu\u015fi la tine s\u0103 m\u0103 zbor\u015fesc superior s\u0103 nu mai scarpini pisica, c\u0103 \u0163i-am trasat eu taskuri.<\/p>\n
Inten\u0163ia – bun\u0103 – a fost aceea de a crea o punte de comunicare \u00eentre un om abuzat \u015fi altul care are ceva influen\u0163\u0103 \u015fi acces la poten\u0163ial ajutor.<\/p>\n
Delivery-ul \u00eens\u0103 a reu\u015fit s\u0103 scoat\u0103 din min\u0163i \u015fi omul abuzat, \u015fi pe cel care putea fi de folos.<\/p>\n
A\u015fadar, drag internet, ast\u0103zi vorbim despre cum ajut\u0103m un om \u00eentr-o situa\u0163ie dificil\u0103 \u00een a\u015fa fel \u00eenc\u00e2t acesta s\u0103 perceap\u0103 c\u0103 i se vrea binele, nu s\u0103 simt\u0103 c\u0103 mai vine cineva s\u0103 arunce o lopat\u0103 de kkt peste el.<\/p>\n
\u00cen general, copiii abuza\u0163i de p\u0103rin\u0163i sunt ni\u015fte f\u0103pturi care, din punct de vedere emo\u0163ional, sunt praf. Am fost \u015fi eu \u00een punctul \u00een care ai mei m\u0103 tratau ca pe cel mai mare du\u015fman al lor. E un punct \u00een care ai nu doar stima de sine franjuri – dar mai ai \u015fi o ne\u00eencredere teribil\u0103 \u00een lume \u015fi via\u0163\u0103. C\u00e2nd p\u0103rin\u0163ii se poart\u0103 ca \u015fi cum \u0163i-ar fi du\u015fmani, \u0163i-e greu s\u0103 crezi \u00een bun\u0103tatea str\u0103inilor. \u015ei c\u00e2nd ai \u00eendurat astfel de abuz, \u015fi nemernicii \u0103ia de poli\u0163i\u015fti nu fac nimic, \u00een general, oricine se r\u0103ste\u015fte la tine sau te ia pe sus devine parte din problem\u0103, nu din solu\u0163ie.<\/p>\n
E ca \u015fi cum ai \u00eentinde cuiva, \u00eentru ajutor, o m\u00e2n\u0103 m\u00e2njit\u0103 cu c*cat.<\/p>\n
E o m\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eentins\u0103? Da.<\/p>\n
Dar pute a c*cat, strope\u015fte c*cat \u015fi risc\u0103 s\u0103 m\u00e2njeasc\u0103 de c*cat pe cine o atinge? Da.<\/p>\n
Pe scurt, drag internet, dac\u0103 vrem s\u0103 ajut\u0103m pe cineva, trebuie s-o facem ginga\u015f \u015fi bl\u00e2nd. S\u0103-i \u00eentindem \u00eentru ajutor o m\u00e2n\u0103 curat\u0103, puternic\u0103, hot\u0103r\u00e2t\u0103 \u015fi demn\u0103. E un om care a trecut prin destule. Numai de m\u00e2rl\u0103nie suplimentar\u0103 NU are nevoie.<\/p>\n
\u00cei vorbim frumos, \u00eel \u00eentreb\u0103m cum \u00eel putem ajuta, sau \u00eei spunem cum \u00eel putem ajuta, politicos, calm \u015fi respectuos. Poate c\u0103 nimeni nu are mai mare nevoie de un tratament politicos, calm \u015fi respectuos dec\u00e2t victima unui abuz recent. E ca pansamentul gastric pentru un bolnav de ulcer.<\/p>\n
Deci, drag\u0103 Ion Popescu, e gre\u015fit s\u0103 intervii c\u00e2nd vezi un om \u00een suferin\u0163\u0103? Nu. Dar secretul e s-o faci \u00eentr-o manier\u0103 care s\u0103 reprezinte ajutor \u015fi din pantofii celuilalt.<\/p>\n
E gre\u015fit s\u0103 ceri ajutor de la alt om pentru un om \u00een suferin\u0163\u0103? Nu. Dar \u0163ine cont c\u0103 acel alt om nu e c\u00e2\u015ftigatul t\u0103u la belciuge, \u015fi nu tu \u00eei pl\u0103te\u015fti factura la psiholog, dac\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi cedeaz\u0103 nervos de prea mult\u0103 m\u00e2rl\u0103nie online \u015fi offline.<\/p>\n
Altminteri, drumul spre iad e pavat de bune inten\u0163ii.<\/p>\n
Ah, era s\u0103 uit: domnule Gheorghe Curic. Poate c\u0103 poli\u0163ia din Ia\u015fi \u00eenregistreaz\u0103 o intens\u0103 durere \u00een pu\u015fc\u0103 fa\u0163\u0103 de abuzurile raportate de femei. Dar dac\u0103 mai da\u0163i o singur\u0103 dat\u0103 \u00een fiica dumneavoastr\u0103, a\u015fa s\u0103 m\u0103 ajute Dumnezeu, iau primul tren spre Ia\u015fi, v\u0103 caut \u015fi v\u0103 administrez \u015futuri \u00een ou\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 deveni\u0163i sopran\u0103. Dar at\u00e2t de sopran\u0103, c\u0103 v\u0103 va c\u0103uta Opera din Ia\u015fi a doua zi cu un contract pentru rolul principal din Traviata.<\/p>\n
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