Bun\u0103, Lorena!<\/strong> X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n La 16 ani, maic\u0103-ta pare cea mai sinistr\u0103 bestie care a populat planeta, indiferent ce ar face. Dac\u0103 investe\u015fte \u00een tine \u015fi a\u015fteapt\u0103 rezultate, te enerveaz\u0103 c\u0103 te f*** la icre. Dac\u0103 nu investe\u015fte, de ce e a\u015fa calic\u0103 \u015fi zg\u00e2rcit\u0103, nu s-a g\u00e2ndit oare c\u0103 odrasla ei vrea un viitor? Dac\u0103 nu-i pas\u0103, s\u0103-i fie ru\u015fine c\u0103 e o mam\u0103 denaturat\u0103.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 e distant\u0103, huooo, fiin\u0163\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 inim\u0103. Dac\u0103 e afectuoas\u0103, d\u0103-te, bre, mai \u00eencolo, c\u0103 m\u0103 sufoci! Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i spune ce s\u0103 faci: frate, sunt un om de sine st\u0103t\u0103tor, nu marioneta ta! Dac\u0103 nu \u00ee\u0163i spune ce s\u0103 faci: de ce nu \u0163i-a p\u0103sat niciodat\u0103 de mine? Mai bine m\u0103 d\u0103deai la casa de copii.<\/p>\n Pe scurt, adolescen\u0163a e v\u00e2rsta la care, pur \u015fi simplu, ne ur\u00e2m mamele. \u015ei ele ne ur\u0103sc pe noi \u00een egal\u0103 m\u0103sur\u0103, c\u0103 sunt obi\u015fnuite s\u0103 ne schimbe scutecele \u015fi, peste noapte, aceea\u015fi fiin\u0163\u0103 \u0163ip\u0103 la tine s\u0103 ba\u0163i la u\u015f\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00eei intri \u00een camer\u0103. \u015ei acum cinci ani erai \u00eenc\u0103 un copil dr\u0103g\u0103la\u015f \u015fi pup\u0103cios, \u015fi brusc, \u0163i se pare ughhh \u015fi yuck.<\/p>\n De ce e maic\u0103-ta carierist\u0103 \u015fi \u00eenchis\u0103 \u00een ea \u00ee\u0163i pot spune eu. Probabil din cauz\u0103 de foarte multe \u0163epe luate \u00een via\u0163\u0103, \u015fi care i-au creat trust issues. Dup\u0103 ce te mint \u015fi te trag pe sfoar\u0103 un anumit num\u0103r de persoane, nu mai ai r\u0103bdare de b\u0103tut apa-n piu\u0103. Banu’ jos \u015fi joc de glezn\u0103.<\/p>\n Te \u0163ine din scurt pentru c\u0103 \u00eei e team\u0103 s\u0103 nu fii b\u0103tut\u0103, r\u0103pit\u0103, violat\u0103, umilit\u0103 sau drogat\u0103. Cu to\u0163i infractorii care au ie\u015fit recent din \u00eenchisori, m\u0103 mir cum de mai pot p\u0103rin\u0163ii din Rom\u00e2nia s\u0103 doarm\u0103.<\/p>\n Pe de alt\u0103 parte, tu ai nevoie s\u0103-\u0163i deschizi aripile \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eenve\u0163i s\u0103 devii your own person. \u015ei asta nu merge altfel dec\u00e2t lu\u00e2nd distan\u0163\u0103 \u015fi re\u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u00e2nd s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti de unul singur, pas cu pas. Cu toate riscurile citate de mine mai sus.<\/p>\n Faptul c\u0103 vrea o carier\u0103 pentru tine e cea mai pur\u0103 dovad\u0103 de iubire, \u015fi explic de ce. At\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t stai \u00een casa p\u0103rin\u0163ilor \u015fi nu ai un venit, nu-\u0163i dai seama c\u00e2t de dificil e s\u0103 gospod\u0103re\u015fti lunar \u00eencas\u0103ri de x lei, s\u0103 pl\u0103te\u015fti o droaie de impozite la stat, chirie, utilit\u0103\u0163i lunare, s\u0103 te hr\u0103ne\u015fti preferabil s\u0103n\u0103tos, s\u0103 te \u00eembraci preferabil decent \u015fi s\u0103 mai \u00eentre\u0163ii de la un punct \u00eencolo \u015fi copii.<\/p>\n Mama ta vrea o carier\u0103 pentru tine \u00een primul r\u00e2nd s\u0103 se asigure c\u0103 vei fi pe picioarele tale, c\u0103 nu vei depinde material de al\u0163ii, c\u0103 vei avea mereu resurse s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i acoperi nevoile, c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i vei permite un spital decent c\u00e2nd te \u00eemboln\u0103ve\u015fti \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n \u015ei acum s\u0103 vedem obiec\u0163ia ta legat\u0103 de medicin\u0103: c\u0103 necesit\u0103 multe ore de studiu.<\/p>\n Dragoste mic\u0103, orice profesie pe care vrei s\u0103 o \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fezi cu seriozitate, s\u0103 excelezi \u015fi s\u0103 nu fii o mediocr\u0103 \u00een r\u00e2nd cu turma necesit\u0103 studiu ne\u00eentrerupt, intens, \u015fi mult\u0103, mult\u0103, mult\u0103, MUUULT\u0102 munc\u0103. Fie c\u0103 e medicin\u0103, fie c\u0103 e drept, fie c\u0103 e economie, fie c\u0103 e art\u0103, fie c\u0103 e croitorie. Orice ai vrea s\u0103 faci \u00een via\u0163\u0103, dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti din lucrul \u0103la \u015fi s\u0103 ai succes, va necesita multe ore de studiu.<\/p>\n Joburile pentru oameni care n-au avut chef de studiu, pe de alt\u0103 parte, presupun multe, multe, multe ore \u015fi mai extenuante de munc\u0103 cu c\u00e2rca.<\/p>\n Via\u0163a \u00een general este grea. Banii se c\u00e2\u015ftig\u0103 greu. Via\u0163a de adult presupune multe ore de efort \u00een general.<\/p>\n Acum, poate c\u0103 medicina \u00een sine nu te pasioneaz\u0103. Singurul lucru pe care mi-l spui legat de ea este c\u0103 \u00eenseamn\u0103 multe ore de studiu. Eu zic s\u0103 \u00eei rogi pe mama \u015fi pe tat\u0103l t\u0103u s\u0103 te duc\u0103 un pic prin cabinetele unor cuno\u015ftin\u0163e medici \u015fi s\u0103 vezi ce e la finalul acestor multe ore de studiu. S\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dai seama dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place munca \u00een sine. Ce fac medicii timp de opt ore.<\/p>\n Pentru c\u0103 \u00een secunda \u00een care \u00ee\u0163i alegi o meserie, principala ta \u00eentrebare trebuie s\u0103 fie: m\u0103 v\u0103d f\u0103c\u00e2nd opt, \u015fi uneori chiar mai multe ore pe zi chestia asta?<\/p>\n \u015ei la 16 ani, c\u00e2nd \u00eenc\u0103 nu ai presiunea banilor, libertatea de a alege este infinit mai mare, \u015fi presiunile mai mici.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 te va pasiona ce vezi \u00een cabinetele acelor medici, atunci da, multele ore de studiu vor merita. Dac\u0103 nu, vezi ce munc\u0103 te-ar pasiona \u00een a\u015fa m\u0103sur\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 sim\u0163i c\u0103 se justific\u0103 efortul asimil\u0103rii.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? 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\nSunt destul de sigur\u0103 c\u0103 nu \u00eemi vei citi mail-ul \u015fi nici nu-mi vei r\u0103spunde, \u00eens\u0103 cel pu\u0163in eu \u00eencerc.<\/strong>
\nPovestea mea \u00eencepe cam pe la 10-11 ani, c\u00e2nd, pentru prima dat\u0103, p\u0103rin\u0163ii mei voiau s\u0103 divor\u0163eze. Bine\u00een\u0163eles, acest g\u00e2nd al lor a venit cu muult stres pentru mine. Apoi, s-au r\u0103zg\u00e2ndit. Ei bine, acest episod s-a repetat de mai multe ori (“gata, divor\u0163\u0103<\/strong>m”, urmat de “ne-am r\u0103zg\u00e2ndit”). M\u0103 simt nevoit\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i spun c\u0103, datorit\u0103 acestor faze \u015fi a faptului c\u0103 mama mea a fost mereu un om axat pe carier\u0103, \u00een special c\u00e2\u015ftig material, dar \u00een acela\u015fi timp o persoan\u0103 sever\u0103, neatent\u0103 la partea emo\u0163ional\u0103 a celor din jur, pu\u0163in cam \u00eenchis\u0103 \u00een ea \u015fi cu un sim\u0163 critic foarte dezvoltat, rela\u0163ia noastr\u0103 nu este una tocmai apropiat\u0103. \u00cen ciuda tuturor acestor caracteristici ale sale, \u00eemi dau seama c\u0103 \u00eemi vrea binele \u015fi \u00eencerc s\u0103 o \u00een\u0163eleg pu\u0163in \u015fi pe ea.<\/strong>
\nAcum, s\u0103 ajung la ceea ce m\u0103 fr\u0103m\u00e2nt\u0103: sunt la liceu \u015fi e momentul s\u0103 aleg ce fac \u00een continuare. Op\u0163iunile mele nu au corespuns cu ceea ce mama mea \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte ca eu s\u0103 urmez mai departe. Tata, \u00een schimb, este foarte deschis \u015fi m-ar sus\u0163ine \u00een orice a\u015f dori. \u00centr-un fel sau altul, a reu\u015fit s\u0103 o conving\u0103 \u015fi pe mama s\u0103 accepte c\u0103 a\u015f putea fi \u015fi altceva dec\u00e2t \u015fi-a imaginat ea. Acum, m\u0103 preg\u0103tesc pentru Medicin\u0103, doar c\u0103 m\u0103 simt stresat\u0103 din dou\u0103 motive:<\/strong>
\n-programul e extrem de \u00eenc\u0103rcat<\/strong>
\n– nu \u015ftiu dac\u0103 este o alegere bun\u0103. Oare se merit\u0103 at\u00e2tea ore de studiu?<\/strong>
\nPe deasupra, a\u015fa cum am zis, modalit\u0103\u0163ile de a ma relaxa \u015fi distra sunt limitate, deoarece mama este o pesoan\u0103 dificil\u0103 \u015fi cam strict\u0103 cu regulile, uit\u00e2nd parc\u0103 cum e s\u0103 fii adolescent.<\/strong>
\nCe m\u0103 sf\u0103tuie\u015fti s\u0103 fac pentru a trece cu bine peste aceast\u0103 perioad\u0103?<\/strong>
\nMul\u0163umesc \u015fi te apreciez pentru modul obiectiv de a trata problemele.<\/strong><\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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