{"id":16613,"date":"2019-02-10T12:21:32","date_gmt":"2019-02-10T09:21:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=16613"},"modified":"2019-02-10T12:33:08","modified_gmt":"2019-02-10T09:33:08","slug":"aceste-clisee-ne-dor-mitul-feministei-scorpii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/aceste-clisee-ne-dor-mitul-feministei-scorpii\/","title":{"rendered":"Aceste cli\u015fee ne dor: mitul feministei scorpii"},"content":{"rendered":"

S\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na trecut\u0103, am avut c\u00e2teva interac\u0163iuni cu hateri. Din c\u00e2te \u00een\u0163eleg, veneau asmu\u0163i\u0163i de un alt hater, care scrisese nu \u015ftiu ce t\u00e2mpenii la adresa mea. Nu \u00eemi propun s\u0103 citesc respectivele t\u00e2mpenii, pentru c\u0103 principalul meu scop pe 2019 este s\u0103 nu m\u0103 enervez.<\/p>\n

\u0218i oricum, c\u00e2\u021biva hateri sunt o nimica toat\u0103, dac\u0103 \u00eei punem \u00een balan\u021b\u0103 cu tone de iubire pe care le primesc de la oameni pe care-i ajut\u0103 textele mele. Prin urmare, suntem ok. Nu ne face pe noi c\u00e2te un val de \u0163\u00e2fn\u0103, ciud\u0103 \u015fi oftic\u0103, mereu de la indivizi c\u0103rora nu le-am f\u0103cut nimic r\u0103u vreodat\u0103, dar care simt s\u0103 mi se n\u0103pusteasc\u0103 pe cap, s\u0103-mi latre op\u0163iunile de via\u0163\u0103 ca \u015fi cum eram un bun public, sau m\u0103car unul scos la licita\u021bie public\u0103, iar ei veneau s\u0103 m\u0103 caute \u00een\u00a0 dantur\u0103.<\/p>\n

Problema pe care nu \u015fi-o pun niciodat\u0103 ace\u015fti indivizi este urm\u0103toarea:<\/p>\n

UN OM CARE NU-\u0162I DATOREAZ\u0102 NIMIC NU ARE DE CE S\u0102 TOLEREZE UN COMPORTAMENT INTRUZIV, INVAZIV \u015eI M\u00c2RL\u0102NESC. <\/p>\n

Dar chiar nu are. Ave\u0163i un raport preliminar, contractual sau m\u0103car amical, care s\u0103 stipuleze c\u0103 v\u0103 trage\u0163i de br\u0103cinari cu persoana pe care tocmai a\u0163i interpelat-o? <\/p>\n

Nu.<\/p>\n

E\u015fti m\u0103-sa, ta-su, sau orice alt\u0103 rud\u0103 extrem de apropiat\u0103 \u015fi implicat\u0103 direct \u00een evolu\u0163ia omului, s\u0103-l tragi la r\u0103spundere?<\/p>\n

Nu.<\/p>\n

E cumva \u00eentr-o func\u0163ie politic\u0103 public\u0103 \u015fi-\u0163i gestioneaz\u0103 impozitele \u015fi taxele?<\/p>\n

Nu.<\/p>\n

Rezult\u0103 c\u0103 persoana – feminist\u0103 sau nu – e un om str\u0103in \u015fi tonul agresiv, fals familiar sau interogator, de procuror stalinist, nu se justific\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u00cen schimb, majoritatea acestor alt-righti\u015fti \u015fi fani ai lor sar direct la o insult\u0103, o m\u00e2rl\u0103nie sau o remarc\u0103 penibil\u0103 despre via\u0163a ta privat\u0103, de parc\u0103 \u0163inuser\u0103 lum\u00e2narea de dintotdeauna.<\/p>\n

Apoi tot ei: “\u0103vaaai, ce scorpie, ce feminist\u0103 nebun\u0103, ce biete victime neajutorate suntem noi.”<\/p>\n

Dar \u0163i-ai pus vreodat\u0103 problema c\u0103 tonul t\u0103u, maniera ta nu pot na\u015fte \u00een alt\u0103 persoan\u0103, mai ales una care nu-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 nimic, dec\u00e2t o iritare \u00eendrept\u0103\u021bit\u0103?<\/p>\n

Nu v\u0103 mai adresa\u0163i unor necunoscu\u0163i sau necunoscute de parc\u0103 erau prostituatele pe care le-a\u0163i cules de pe drumul spre Ciorog\u00e2rla \u015fi nu ve\u0163i mai avea prilejul s\u0103 or\u0103c\u0103i\u0163i ce sup\u0103rate-s feministele. E fix at\u00e2t de simplu. Dar fix at\u00e2t de simplu.<\/p>\n

Nu-i mai crede\u0163i pe pro\u015ftii care v\u0103 \u00eent\u0103r\u00e2t\u0103. Nu mai fi\u0163i unelte ale neputin\u0163ei umane, intelectuale, ale tic\u0103lo\u015fiei \u015fi par\u015fiveniei altora.<\/p>\n

Un 80% dintre a\u015fa numitele “feministe scorpii” \u00ee\u015fi v\u0103d lini\u015ftite de treaba \u015fi de via\u0163a lor. Apoi, te \u00eenfiin\u0163ezi tu \u015fi le ataci cu ur\u0103, r\u0103utate, proiec\u0163iile tale nejustificate despre via\u0163a lor sexual\u0103, intruziuni \u00een via\u0163a lor privat\u0103, \u015fi alte m\u0103g\u0103rii de aceea\u015fi spe\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n

P\u0103i, fratelo, nu te v\u0103ieta tot tu c\u0103 sunt scorpii. E ceea ce \u0163i-ai cerut.<\/p>\n

Dau exemplul altui m\u00e2rlete: “Am ap\u0103sat pe un buton, \u015fi tu m-ai f\u0103cut troac\u0103 de porci”.<\/p>\n

“Ap\u0103sase pe un buton” cu ni\u0219te insulte, \u0103sta era lucrul pe care \u00eencerca s\u0103-l transmit\u0103. Insultele lui se contabilizau drept ap\u0103s\u0103ri pe butoane, ale mele \u00een ripost\u0103 drept lovituri pe cord deschis sau ceva.<\/p>\n

Oamenii nu sunt robo\u0163i. Nu mai ap\u0103sa pe butoane. C\u0103 dac\u0103 m\u0103 apuc eu s\u0103 ap\u0103s pe butoane, te fac s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi \u015fi s\u0103 c\u00e2n\u0163i simultan.<\/p>\n

\u015ei nu pentru c\u0103 sunt o feminist\u0103 sup\u0103rat\u0103. Ci pentru c\u0103 nu admit acest comportament. Nu l-a\u0219 admite nici dac\u0103 m\u0103 n\u0103\u0219team b\u0103rbat. Sau extraterestru. <\/p>\n

Iar legat de pro\u015ftii care scrijelesc diverse texte inepte prin care \u00eendeamn\u0103 la ur\u0103 \u00eempotriva mea: aleg s\u0103 nu le citesc. Aleg s\u0103 nu-mi ocup spa\u0163iu mintal cu prostia \u015fi tic\u0103lo\u015fia altuia. E problema lor, nu a mea, \u015fi refuz s\u0103 las problema lor s\u0103-mi ocupe timp nepl\u0103tit.<\/p>\n

Ei fac mizerii de genul, special ca s\u0103 for\u0163eze la o reac\u0163ie, iar voi, c\u00e2nd \u00eemi forwarda\u0163i rahatul pestilen\u0163ial, nu face\u0163i dec\u00e2t s\u0103 c\u0103uta\u0163i s\u0103 m\u0103 obliga\u0163i la numita reac\u0163ie, s\u0103-i dau prostului un sentiment de succes.<\/p>\n

Ghinion, nu.<\/p>\n

Ave\u0163i o problem\u0103 cu ce a scris un prost sau altul? Comunica\u0163i-i voi. Nu-mi mai forwarda\u0163i mie. Pentru c\u0103 eu dac\u0103 voi reac\u0163iona anul \u0103sta la ceva de genul, va fi strict prin tribunal. Nu prin dram\u0103 online. <\/p>\n

Dar, dat fiind c\u0103 detractorii mei sunt \u00een majoritatea lor ni\u015fte bie\u0163i fomi\u015fti care au impresia c\u0103, dac\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenjur\u0103 pe mine, s\u0103r\u0103cia nu e at\u00e2t de neagr\u0103, dac\u0103 vorbesc cu un prieten avocat \u015fi-i \u00eencalec cu un proces, \u00eei las pe drumuri.<\/p>\n

Vreau s\u0103 las pe drumuri pe am\u0103r\u00e2tul X sau pe am\u0103r\u00e2tul Y?<\/p>\n

A\u015f putea, \u015fi simt c\u0103 tic\u0103lo\u015fia lor ar merita o lec\u0163ie – dar pe de alt\u0103 parte, n-a\u015f putea eu s\u0103 dorm noaptea \u015ftiind c\u0103, doar pentru c\u0103 am catadicsit eu s\u0103-i iau l\u0103tratul incon\u015ftient \u00een serios, un fomist cer\u015fe\u015fte pe undeva la Unirii.<\/p>\n

E ok. S\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nce kkt s\u0103n\u0103to\u015fi. Pe moment. Nu garantez c\u0103 dac\u0103 persist\u0103, nu m\u0103 satur \u0219i eu. <\/p>\n

Concluzia: c\u00e2nd \u0163ipi c\u0103 feministele sunt sup\u0103rate, verific\u0103 dac\u0103 nu cumva atitudinea ta e cea care le \u00eendrept\u0103\u0163e\u015fte s\u0103 fie. C\u0103 dac\u0103 faci pe prostul, nu ai cum s\u0103 te vaie\u0163i tot tu c\u0103 e\u015fti tratat ca atare. <\/p>\n

Oamenii str\u0103ini nu ne datoreaz\u0103 explica\u0163ii, toleran\u0163\u0103 la harneal\u0103, r\u0103spunsuri la interogatoriul stalinist sau polite\u0163e \u00een a procesa insulte pe care nu au f\u0103cut nimic s\u0103 le merite. Valabil \u015fi dac\u0103 oamenii str\u0103ini sunt femei. Timpul altuia nu e resursa noastr\u0103 by default. R\u0103bdarea altuia nu e resursa noastr\u0103 by default. Polite\u0163ea se cucere\u015fte prin polite\u0163e. Iar tratamentul decent, prin tratament decent.<\/p>\n

“Hai c\u0103 te-am f\u0103cut s\u0103-\u0163i dai arama pe fa\u0163\u0103”, r\u00e2nje\u015fte c\u00e2te un cretin dup\u0103 20 de minute de obr\u0103znicii detestabile.<\/p>\n

\u0102mnu. Nu am f\u0103cut vreodat\u0103 un secret din faptul c\u0103 nu le tolerez pe astea \u015fi c\u0103 dac\u0103 vii cu ele, o s\u0103 pleci scheun\u00e2nd. Mai degrab\u0103 vezi de propria-\u0163i aram\u0103 de pe fa\u0163\u0103, c\u0103 deja cocle\u015fte a verzui.<\/p>\n

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