{"id":16647,"date":"2019-02-14T11:47:01","date_gmt":"2019-02-14T08:47:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=16647"},"modified":"2019-02-14T11:47:01","modified_gmt":"2019-02-14T08:47:01","slug":"ce-inseamna-iubirea-pentru-mine-in-2019","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ce-inseamna-iubirea-pentru-mine-in-2019\/","title":{"rendered":"Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 iubirea pentru mine \u00een 2019"},"content":{"rendered":"

De cam doi ani, mi-am dat seama c\u0103 programul meu extrem de haotic, cu multe activit\u0103\u021bi paralele \u0219i uneori concomitente, cu vacan\u021be din care plec pentru c\u0103 exist\u0103 recall la un casting \u0219i cu texte care trebuie terminate alalt\u0103ieri e prea mult pentru nervii oric\u0103rui alt om, oric\u00e2t de rezonabil, uman, bl\u00e2nd \u0219i bun ar fi, \u0219i m-am autodeclarat celibatar definitiv \u0219i irevocabil.<\/p>\n

Singur\u0103tatea e forma mea natural\u0103 de a fi, dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva ore \u00eentre oameni t\u00e2njesc la vinul \u0219i muzica mea de acas\u0103 de parc\u0103 ar fi lozul cel mare, \u0219i probabil c\u0103 am vreo form\u0103 u\u0219oar\u0103 de autism pe care n-a diagnosticat-o nimeni c\u0103, na, pe vremea mea, dac\u0103 pu\u0219tiul nu s\u00e2ngera violent, se chema c\u0103 este s\u0103n\u0103tos.<\/p>\n

Glum\u0103\u0103\u0103\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0218i totu\u0219i, chiar \u0219i \u00een via\u021ba unui om singur, iubirea exist\u0103 \u00eentr-o multitudine de forme, mai mult sau mai pu\u021bin conven\u021bionale, \u0219i, odat\u0103 cu evolu\u021bia ta ca om, \u00eencepi s\u0103 apreciezi din ce \u00een ce mai mult anumite manifest\u0103ri de iubire. \u0218i, desigur, s\u0103 le \u0219i oferi. C\u0103 nu e\u0219ti gigelul \u0103la care are impresia c\u0103 lui i se cuvine tot ce i se scoal\u0103 s\u0103 pretind\u0103, strict pe baz\u0103 de tupeu \u0219i gur\u0103 mare.<\/p>\n

A) Iubirea ca form\u0103 de l\u0103sare \u00een pace.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0102sta e unul dintre motivele pentru care ador s\u0103 am pisic\u0103. Pisica are ore \u00een \u0219ir \u00een care st\u0103 \u0219i se uit\u0103 pe geam. Sau alearg\u0103 un ghemotoc de h\u00e2rtie prin cas\u0103. Sau b\u0103l\u0103ng\u0103ne din l\u0103bu\u021be un motocel at\u00e2rnat cu \u0219far\u0103. \u0218i, de\u0219i sunte\u021bi \u00een aceea\u0219i \u00eenc\u0103pere, tu \u00ee\u021bi vezi de ale tale, pisica de ale ei, \u0219i nu v\u0103 freca\u021bi reciproc la icre.<\/p>\n

Oamenii trebuie s\u0103 ajung\u0103 la un nivel de maturitate \u0219i de relaxare s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 nu fiecare secund\u0103 a statului \u00eempreun\u0103, sau chiar separat, trebuie s\u0103 fie solicitant\u0103 \u0219i mulg\u0103toare de aten\u021bie. \u0218i nu-i \u00eenvinuiesc pe oameni. La 20 de ani, eram la fel de lihnit\u0103 de aten\u021bie. C\u0103utam la fel de intens s\u0103 umplu fiecare secund\u0103 de p\u0103l\u0103vr\u0103geal\u0103.<\/p>\n

T\u0103cerea e de aur, copii. \u0218tiau \u00een\u021belep\u021bii ce \u0219tiau c\u00e2nd au zis-o pe asta.<\/p>\n

Uneori, trebuie pur \u0219i simplu s\u0103 \u0219tii s\u0103 la\u0219i \u00een pace.<\/p>\n

B) Iubirea ca form\u0103 de comunicare.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Da, sinceritatea e \u00een continuare cea mai profund\u0103 dovad\u0103 de respect. Dar aten\u021bie: aici nu m\u0103 refer la sinceritatea de tip: “cf, p\u0103pu\u0219a, a\u0219 bea \u0219i eu un vin cu tn”, ap\u0103rat de confra\u021bi cu, “b\u0103i, omul era sincer”. La fel de sincer m\u0103 doare-n paisprezece, pentru c\u0103 eu cu \u0103la nu am un raport reciproc consim\u021bit de dezv\u0103luire a sufletelor. \u0218i la fel de sincer, nu e treaba mea ce vrea \u0219i cu cine, \u0219i la fel de sincer s\u0103 bea un vin cu familia \u0219i apropia\u021bii.<\/p>\n

Sau sinceritatea de tip vai drag\u0103 ce r\u0103u \u00ee\u021bi st\u0103 asta, c\u00e2nd tu \u00eencerci ceva nou.<\/p>\n

M\u0103 refer la sinceritatea \u00eentre prieteni foarte apropia\u021bi, care \u00ee\u0219i spun, negru pe alb, opiniile \u0219i tr\u0103irile legate de lucruri. Citesc minciuna pe om de la o po\u0219t\u0103 \u0219i cumva m\u0103 simt subestimat\u0103 c\u00e2nd mi se serve\u0219te. Luat\u0103 de proast\u0103.<\/p>\n

C) Iubirea ca libertate.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nu po\u021bi spune c\u0103 iube\u0219ti alt\u0103 persoan\u0103 dec\u00e2t \u00een momentul \u00een care o iei \u0219i o \u00een\u021belegi exact cum e. \u0218i dac\u0103 omului \u00eei place s\u0103 se dea cu capul de zid o or\u0103, zilnic, \u00eentre 6 \u0219i 7 diminea\u021ba, e\u0219ti suficient de prieten \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103-i spui c\u0103 nu e foarte s\u0103n\u0103tos, dar suficient de respectuos cu priorit\u0103\u021bile omului \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 nu-l legi de scaun la 6 f\u0103r\u0103 10.<\/p>\n

Adev\u0103rul este c\u0103 nu putem salva dec\u00e2t oameni care vor ei \u00een primul r\u00e2nd s\u0103 fie salva\u021bi, \u0219i o form\u0103 de iubire este s\u0103-i l\u0103s\u0103m s\u0103 se arunce \u00een f\u00e2nt\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een termenii lor.<\/p>\n

God, nu-mi vine s\u0103 cred c\u0103 tocmai am scris asta.<\/p>\n

Lua\u021bi-o metaforic. Dac\u0103 vor s\u0103 se arunce concret \u00een f\u00e2nt\u00e2n\u0103, \u00eei \u021binem. Nu de alta, dar p\u0103cat de apa potabil\u0103.<\/p>\n

D) Iubirea ca o can\u0103 mare de cafea cu extrem de pu\u021bin zah\u0103r \u0219i un strop de lapte.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Da, Lorena, dar toat\u0103 lumea te serve\u0219te cu cafea.<\/p>\n

Sigur. Cu cafea la ce\u0219cu\u021b\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 gust \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 arom\u0103.<\/p>\n

Oamenii care \u0219tiu cum \u00ee\u021bi place cafeaua \u0219i exact a\u0219a \u021bi-o \u0219i fac, \u0219i apoi se bucur\u0103 de bucuria ta sunt oamenii care te iubesc.<\/p>\n

E) Iubirea ca gest de a asculta pur \u0219i simplu.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se vorbe\u0219te mult \u0219i \u00een general prost, dar aptitudinea de a asculta e pas\u0103re pe cale de dispari\u021bie. \u0218i nu, c\u00e2nd zici \u0103h\u0103, da, \u00eeh\u00ee \u0219i deja te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti cum i-o parezi nu e ascultat. C\u00e2nd ascul\u021bi doar ca s\u0103 g\u0103se\u0219ti argumente s\u0103-l f* pe om \u00een gur\u0103, nu e ascultat. C\u00e2nd ascul\u021bi prima propozi\u021bie \u0219i deja \u00eentrerupi, nu e ascultat.<\/p>\n

Ascultatul e c\u00e2nd taci \u00een mor\u021bii m\u0103-tii, cu urechile p\u00e2lnie pe cel\u0103lalt \u0219i cau\u021bi, ACTIV, PE BUNE, INVESTIT, s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi ce \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi transmit\u0103 \u0219i unde vrea s\u0103 ajung\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0218i, preferabil, nu te implici emo\u021bional. C\u0103 de cum te-a cuprins o emo\u021bie, ai \u0219i deschis clon\u021bul. Taci \u0219i ascult\u0103.<\/p>\n

Chiar v\u0103 rog, \u00een comentarii, s\u0103-mi povesti\u021bi c\u00e2nd a\u021bi ascultat pe bune ultima oar\u0103. C\u0103 nu suntem asculta\u021bi ne pl\u00e2ngem to\u021bi. Dar tr\u0103im \u00eentr-o lume care nu ascult\u0103 \u0219i suntem parte din problem\u0103.<\/p>\n

F) Iubirea ca bun\u0103voin\u021b\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0218i aici o s\u0103 fac referire la cli\u0219eul \u0103la cu “te trage de codi\u021be pentru c\u0103 te place”. Nu l-am \u00eenghi\u0163it la 4 ani, nu l-am \u00eenghi\u0163it la 14, nu-l \u00eenghit acum \u0219i nu-l voi \u00eenghi\u0163i nici \u00een minutul mor\u021bii.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd cineva te place, e prilejul perfect s\u0103 exercite c\u0103ldur\u0103 \u0219i afec\u021biune. Aia \u00eenseamn\u0103 a pl\u0103cea. E incontestabil, se vede de la o po\u0219t\u0103, se simte din cap\u0103tul cel\u0103lalt al universului \u0219i ca un izvor de putere \u0219i bucurie. Asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 a pl\u0103cea. Trasul de codi\u021be, umilirea verbal\u0103, fizic\u0103, s\u00e2c\u00e2irea sunt doar forme de a lovi, de a distruge, de a nimici. OK; unii a\u0219a \u00ee\u021bi dau de \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 vor s\u0103 efectueze un act copulativ. Dar a vrea s\u0103 f* pe cineva nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eel \u0219i placi, \u0219i cu at\u00e2t mai mult nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eel iube\u0219ti.<\/p>\n

Happy Valentine’s Day.<\/p>\n

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