Sigur, nici unul n-avem chef s\u0103 fim psihologii moca ai lui F\u0103nel de pe net, pe care-l g\u0103se\u015fte limbari\u0163a la 3 noaptea, dar pentru prietenii t\u0103i depresivi e important.
\nC\u00e2nd simt s\u0103 \u0163i se confeseze, e ca \u015fi cum \u0163i-ar \u00eentinde m\u00e2na s\u0103 cear\u0103 ajutor, iar tu trebuie, pur \u015fi simplu, s\u0103 oferi m\u00e2na la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u. Nu-i \u00eentrerupe cu sfaturi \u00een\u0163elepte, sau cu f\u0103cut pe interesantul, pentru c\u0103 asta \u00eei va determina s\u0103 se \u00eenchid\u0103 \u015fi mai mult \u00een ei. Eventual, pune-le \u00eentreb\u0103ri ajut\u0103toare, s\u0103 \u00eencerci s\u0103-i \u00een\u0163elegi. Nu le spune tu ce au. Habar n-ai. Las\u0103-i pe ei s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 \u015fi urm\u0103re\u015fte. Faptul c\u0103 au pe cineva s\u0103 asculte e un mare ajutor, pentru c\u0103 un simptom al depresiei e taman senza\u0163ia c\u0103 n-ai pe nimeni. <\/p>\n
B) Fii pur \u015fi simplu acolo.<\/strong><\/p>\n Aici, opiniile se bifurc\u0103. Unii depresivi mi-au zis c\u0103 o vizit\u0103 a cuiva iubitor \u00eei scoate din v\u0103g\u0103un\u0103. Al\u0163ii, c\u0103 nu suport\u0103 s\u0103 vad\u0103 pe nimeni. Dar to\u0163i mi-au zis c\u0103 le place, pur \u015fi simplu, s\u0103 fie l\u0103sa\u0163i \u00een pace. Pe scurt, c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i vizitezi prietenul(a) depresiv(\u0103), po\u0163i s\u0103 stai cu el sau ea f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 for\u0163ezi conversa\u0163ie. Tu ag\u0103\u0163i pe Tinder, el sau ea face Sudoku pe sudoku.com, dar apropierea \u00een sine e reconfortant\u0103. <\/p>\n C) Dac\u0103 au dificult\u0103\u0163i \u00een a face anumite treburi, nu le-o lua personal.<\/strong><\/p>\n Sigur, dac\u0103 e colegul de job \u015fi din cauza lui munce\u015fti dublu, e clar c\u0103 nu e ok. Omul trebuie s\u0103 mearg\u0103 s\u0103 solicite ajutor de specialitate, altfel e lipsit de respect s\u0103 pretind\u0103 s\u0103 munceasc\u0103 al\u0163ii \u00een locul lui c\u0103 el e bolnav. D) \u00cen general, nu lua nimic personal.<\/strong><\/p>\n I-ai lua personal unui r\u0103cit c\u0103 \u00eei curg muci \u015fi vorbe\u015fte r\u0103gu\u015fit? Nu are leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu tine, are leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu viru\u015fii sau bacteriile care i-au provocat boala. Idem, dac\u0103 un depresiv e furios sau defensiv, nu e nimic personal. Sunt propriile lui emo\u0163ii negative cauzate de boal\u0103. Ia-le ca pe simptome \u015fi nu pune la suflet. E) Nu le face repro\u015furi.<\/strong><\/p>\n Chiar dac\u0103 anumite gesturi sau (in)ac\u0163iuni ale unui depresiv par r\u0103ut\u0103\u0163i sau neglijen\u0163e, nu e pentru c\u0103 ei VOR s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 r\u0103u, ci pentru c\u0103 lupt\u0103 cu o boal\u0103 care-i face s\u0103 se scufunde \u00een ni\u015fte tr\u0103iri teribile. F) Transmite-le pozitivitate \u015fi speran\u0163\u0103, \u015fi \u00eencurajeaz\u0103-i s\u0103 se trateze.<\/strong><\/p>\n Aminte\u015fte-le de calit\u0103\u0163ile lor, aminte\u015fte-le de lucrurile la care sunt talenta\u0163i \u015fi la eventualele lor succese din via\u0163\u0103, \u00eendrum\u0103-i spre g\u00e2nduri luminoase, f\u0103-i s\u0103 se simt\u0103 aprecia\u0163i \u015fi iubi\u0163i. Caut\u0103 solu\u0163ii, \u00eempreun\u0103 cu ei, dar \u015fi aici e un semnal de alarm\u0103. G) Ai r\u0103bdare.<\/strong><\/p>\n Oric\u00e2t de bun ar fi un tratament, rezultatele nu se vor vedea de pe o zi pe alta, \u015fi nici p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na viitoare. Recuperarea poate dura luni, poate dura \u015fi ani \u00een cazurile mai grave. Pot ap\u0103rea episoade de recidiv\u0103. Nu a\u015ftepta miracole rapide \u015fi nu \u00eencepe s\u0103 ba\u0163i cu piciorul \u00een podea. H) Ofer\u0103-te s\u0103-i aju\u0163i cu lucruri, dar nu le b\u0103ga ajutorul pe g\u00e2t.<\/strong><\/p>\n Poate c\u0103 prietena ta depresiv\u0103 are o panic\u0103 de administratoarea \u0163a\u0163\u0103 care o \u00eentreab\u0103 mereu c\u00e2nd se m\u0103rit\u0103 \u015fi dac\u0103 face copii. E ok s\u0103-i propui s\u0103 mergi tu s\u0103 pl\u0103te\u015fti \u00eentre\u0163inerea. O s\u0103-\u0163i fie recunosc\u0103toare. J) Ai grij\u0103 \u015fi de tine.<\/strong><\/p>\n C\u00e2nd oferi sus\u0163inere \u015fi grij\u0103 unui om bolnav, \u015fi nu prime\u015fti nimic \u00een schimb, sau prime\u015fti mult mai pu\u0163in dec\u00e2t ar putea oferi un om s\u0103n\u0103tos, ipostaza poate deveni frustrant\u0103 \u015fi solicitant\u0103 emo\u0163ional. \u00cen plus, depresia se poate transmite u\u015for, dac\u0103 \u015fi tu ai o predispozi\u0163ie. \u015ei desigur, evident de la o po\u015ft\u0103 <\/p>\n I) Nu emana p\u0103reri preconcepute, idio\u0163enii m\u00e2rl\u0103ne\u015fti \u015fi r\u0103ut\u0103\u0163i, c\u00e2nd cineva spune c\u0103 e depresiv. Tu arunci doar ni\u015fte vorbe din v\u00e2rful tastaturii \u015fi-\u0163i vezi de ziua ta; dar \u0103luia \u00eei po\u0163i da o lovitur\u0103 \u00eengrozitoare. Nu fi prost \u015fi r\u0103u doar pentru c\u0103 accesul la internet \u00ee\u0163i ofer\u0103 posibilitatea. <\/p>\n Foto: pixabay.com<\/a>. <\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n *** Zilele trecute, mai mul\u021bi bloggeri rom\u00e2ni \u0219i oameni cu following \u00een social media au scris despre depresie. 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\nDar c\u00e2nd e vorba de prieteni, de obicei obliga\u0163iile care pic\u0103 sunt de miz\u0103 mai mult amical\u0103: ie\u015firi \u00een ora\u015f, petreceri, evenimente, antrenamente sportive etc.
\nE mai bine s\u0103 fii preg\u0103tit c\u0103 un simptom al depresiei e dificultatea de a men\u0163ine o via\u0163\u0103 social\u0103, \u015fi dac\u0103 omul t\u0103u depresiv nu g\u0103se\u015fte \u00een sine puterea de a veni la ziua ta, nu e din nep\u0103sare, ci pentru c\u0103 tocmai pl\u00e2nge \u00een col\u0163. <\/p>\n
\n\u015ei de aici vine rezultanta direct\u0103:<\/p>\n
\n\u00cen loc s\u0103 \u0163ipi la ei “\u0162i-am zis de cinci ori s\u0103 faci X”, sau “Nici de data asta n-ai f\u0103cut X” sau “Numai eu trebuie s\u0103 fac X”, cere-le pe un ton cald \u015fi amabil: “Te rog frumos s\u0103 faci X”.
\nDepresivul deja se confrunt\u0103 cu foarte mult\u0103 negativitate, a lui fa\u0163\u0103 de sine, \u015fi numai de a ta colac peste pup\u0103z\u0103 n-are nevoie.<\/p>\n
\nDac\u0103 o faci prea autoritar \u015fi agresiv, dac\u0103 te \u00eensc\u0103unezi peste ei ca invazia t\u0103tar\u0103, tinzi s\u0103 le transmi\u0163i c\u0103 \u00eei crezi inap\u0163i s\u0103 aib\u0103 grij\u0103 de ei. “Ce, m\u0103 crezi handicapat?”.
\nO problem\u0103 a depresivilor este cu propria lor imagine de sine, \u015fi dac\u0103 te transformi \u00een mami dictatoare sau \u00een tati atot\u015ftiutor, ri\u015fti s\u0103 le hr\u0103ne\u015fti disperarea. De\u015fi o faci din dorin\u0163a sincer\u0103 de a ajuta. <\/p>\n
\nPentru un depresiv, ner\u0103bdarea ta e o nou\u0103 ran\u0103. Le spune c\u0103 nu \u0163i-s \u00eendeajuns de buni. \u015ei-i face s\u0103 se \u00eenchid\u0103 mai tare \u00een ei. <\/p>\n
\nNu e ok s\u0103 insi\u015fti dac\u0103 refuz\u0103, sau s\u0103 te duci f\u0103r\u0103 aprobarea ei.
\nDe ce?
\nPentru c\u0103 un simptom al depresiei e senza\u0163ia lipsei controlului asupra propriei vie\u0163i.
\nC\u00e2nd \u00eei ignori voin\u0163a depresivului, devii parte din problem\u0103 (lipsa controlului asupra propriei vie\u0163i) nu din solu\u0163ie. <\/p>\n
\nCaut\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i construie\u015fti la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u o re\u0163ea de sus\u0163inere, mergi \u015fi tu la un psiholog care s\u0103 te ajute s\u0103 te detensionezi, r\u0103sfa\u0163\u0103-te. Fii con\u015ftient c\u0103 duci o lupt\u0103 grea al\u0103turi de prietenul sau prietena ta \u015fi ofer\u0103-\u0163i tu \u0163ie iubirea \u015fi grija pe care omul bolnav nu le poate oferi. <\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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