m\u0103 po\u021bi ajuta cu o nel\u0103murire? Pentru po\u0219ta redac\u021biei, dac\u0103 consideri c\u0103 merit\u0103 scris un articol despre asta. Well, c\u00e2t ar trebui s\u0103 \u0219tie un tip cu care \u00eencepi s\u0103 ie\u0219i sau cu care e\u0219ti \u00eempreun\u0103, de trecutul t\u0103u? Trebuie s\u0103 \u0219tie ce a fost \u00een rela\u021biile tale anterioare, sau e mai bine s\u0103 evit\u0103m?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Cu prietenie,\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n Nu te cunosc, nu mi-ai dat foarte multe detalii nici despre respectivul trecut, nici despre respectivul om, dar pot s\u0103-\u021bi spun un lucru. O tem\u0103 comun\u0103 a tipilor, c\u00e2nd \u021bi se pl\u00e2ng de femei, e c\u0103 au cunoscut o gagic\u0103 nou\u0103 \u0219i, din prima sear\u0103, s-a apucat s\u0103 le de\u0219erte tot ce a fost \u00een rela\u021biile precedente, cum erau fo\u0219tii, ce defecte aveau, \u0219i ce certuri s-au \u00eent\u00e2mplat.<\/p>\n \u0218i la ce se g\u00e2nde\u0219te un b\u0103iat c\u00e2nd aude asemenea detalii?<\/p>\n C\u0103 \u00eentr-o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103, dou\u0103, sau zece, o s\u0103-l m\u0103n\u00e2nci \u0219i pe el de partea dorsal\u0103 \u00een mod similar altcuiva.<\/p>\n \u00cen ce m\u0103sur\u0103 vrei s\u0103 afli istoricul amoros al cuiva cu care planifici s\u0103 te combini?<\/p>\n R\u0103spunsul pentru mine e: doar dac\u0103 \u021bin ei neap\u0103rat s\u0103-mi povesteasc\u0103, \u0219i \u00eei ascult f\u0103r\u0103 mari curiozit\u0103\u021bi. Pentru c\u0103 alea sunt FOSTELE rela\u021bii, tu e\u0219ti prezenta, tu e\u0219ti la ordinea zilei \u0219i e s\u0103n\u0103tos s\u0103 ne concentr\u0103m pe ce e acum.<\/p>\n Una la m\u00e2n\u0103, nici nu \u0219tii ce vrea de la tine \u0103la cu care \u00eencepi s\u0103 ie\u0219i. Poate vrea c\u00e2teva partide de sex. Poate vrea s\u0103 \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2neasc\u0103 cu tine. B\u0103rba\u021bii mint at\u00e2t de frumos \u0219i de conving\u0103tor \u00eenainte s\u0103 simt\u0103 c\u0103 te-a luat flama \u00een privin\u021ba lor, \u00eenc\u00e2t le vei afla oricum adev\u0103ratele inten\u021bii dup\u0103 cam o lun\u0103 de sex.<\/p>\n \u0218i, fun fact: \u00ee\u021bi vei afla adev\u0103ratele TALE inten\u021bii dup\u0103 cam o lun\u0103 de sex. C\u0103 \u0219i mie mi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat s\u0103 fiu \u00een limb\u0103 complet dup\u0103 cineva, iar dup\u0103 o lun\u0103 petrecut\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103, s\u0103-mi dau seama c\u0103 nu avem chiar chimia pe care credeam c\u0103 o vom avea.<\/p>\n Las\u0103 lucrurile s\u0103 se aprofundeze pas cu pas, \u0219i mergi mai departe cu sinceritatea dup\u0103 ce consta\u021bi c\u0103 ai cu cine. Nu vrei s\u0103 dezv\u0103lui cine \u0219tie ce lucruri intime, riscante, despre tine, vreunui cretin care se va folosi ulterior de ele s\u0103-\u021bi fac\u0103 r\u0103u.<\/p>\n \u0218i mergi mai departe cu sinceritatea DAC\u0102, s\u0103 zicem, e cazul.<\/p>\n Adic\u0103, da, dac\u0103 ai dansat striptease sau ai f\u0103cut escort service, sau ceva la fel de compromi\u021b\u0103tor, mi se pare corect s\u0103-i spui, dac\u0103 remarci c\u0103 rela\u021bia devine din ce \u00een ce mai serioas\u0103, pentru c\u0103 lucrurile pe care le \u0219tie de la tine \u00eel vor deranja mai pu\u021bin dec\u00e2t ceva ce ar putea afla de la al\u021bii. Dar dac\u0103 ai avut trei – patru rela\u0163ii banale, care n-au mers, \u015fi eventual \u015fase flirturi prin cluburi, chiar nu mi se pare subiect de raport.<\/p>\n E mult mai interesant altceva: s\u0103-\u0163i define\u015fti, pe baza a ce n-a mers \u00een trecut, tipul de rela\u0163ie pe care \u00eel dore\u015fti \u015fi s\u0103 \u015ftii s\u0103-i spui omului la ce te a\u015ftep\u0163i din partea lui. Ce e important, ce nu e important, care sunt zonele \u00een care nu faci compromisuri.<\/p>\n E ceea ce \u00eel intereseaz\u0103 \u015fi pe pretendent, mai mult dec\u00e2t ce ai f\u0103cut \u00een trecut \u015fi cu cine. Desigur, dac\u0103 vorbim de un pretendent cu o f\u0103r\u00e2m\u0103 de creier. C\u0103 idio\u0163i gelo\u015fi pe fostul t\u0103u iubit din liceu g\u0103se\u015fti oriunde \u015fi nu merit\u0103 s\u0103 pierzi timp cu ei.<\/p>\n Concluzia: nu dezgropa mor\u0163ii, dac\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 te b\u00e2ntuie. Ocup\u0103 tot timpul pe care l-ai petrece cu asta \u00eentreb\u00e2nd lucruri despre el \u015fi povestind lucruri valabile \u00een prezent.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i place Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n *** Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. 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