{"id":16800,"date":"2019-03-07T12:29:29","date_gmt":"2019-03-07T09:29:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=16800"},"modified":"2019-03-07T12:29:29","modified_gmt":"2019-03-07T09:29:29","slug":"o-zi-fara-barbati","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/o-zi-fara-barbati\/","title":{"rendered":"O zi f\u0103r\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>B\u00e2ntuiam eu ieri pe Twitter, din cont \u00een cont, c\u00e2nd micul demon al internetului m-a f\u0103cut s\u0103 ajung aici:<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">Women, imagine that for 24 hours, there were no men in the world.<\/p>\n<p>No men are being harmed in the creation of this hypothetical. They will all return. They are safe and happy wherever they are during this hypothetical time period.<\/p>\n<p>What would or could you do that day?<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 feminist next door (@emrazz) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/emrazz\/status\/1077322309151744000?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">December 24, 2018<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>R\u0103spunsul pe care l-am dat instant \u00een minte: Exact ce fac \u015fi acum, doh!<\/p>\n<p>Dar r\u0103spunsurile popula\u0163iei erau altele. \u015ei m-au uimit:<\/p>\n<p>M-a\u015f plimba noaptea. A\u015f alerga noaptea. A\u015f spune ce vreau, f\u0103r\u0103 teama c\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrerupe cineva. A\u015f merge singur\u0103 \u00een baruri. A\u015f merge singur\u0103 la petreceri. A\u015f face \u015fi a\u015f drege.<\/p>\n<p>Adic\u0103 lucruri pe care Miss Lorena le face de c\u00e2nd se \u015ftie, pe exact aceast\u0103 lume plin\u0103 doldora de b\u0103rba\u0163i.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei ce te \u00eempiedic\u0103 s\u0103 faci \u015fi s\u0103 dregi acum, as we speak?<\/p>\n<p>Frica.<\/p>\n<p>Acum, orice om care a petrecut mai mult de trei &#8211; patru ore pe wallul meu m-a v\u0103zut reduc\u00e2nd c\u00e2te un sulea sp\u0103tarul obraznic la t\u0103cere. Dar reversul medaliei e c\u0103 niciodat\u0103 nu a\u015f avea nevoie s\u0103 plece b\u0103rba\u0163ii pe planeta vecin\u0103 pentru ca eu s\u0103 pot fi eu \u00eens\u0103mi.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei tendin\u0163a mea ini\u0163ial\u0103 a fost s\u0103 dau vina pe educa\u0163ie. Educ\u0103m feti\u0163ele s\u0103 fie modeste, umile \u015fi speriate de bombe, apoi ne mir\u0103m c\u0103 tr\u0103iesc vie\u0163i care nu-s ale lor, vie\u0163i mereu limitate, vie\u0163i la 30% din poten\u0163ial.<\/p>\n<p>Parc\u0103 ar fi experimentul \u0103la cu pe\u015fti\u015fori aurii crescu\u0163i \u00eentr-un vas foarte mic, care sunt apoi muta\u0163i \u00eentr-un vas mare, dar tatoneaz\u0103 pe acela\u015fi perimetru minuscul cu care s-au obi\u015fnuit.<\/p>\n<p>De la 18 ani, e\u015fti responsabil(\u0103) de dimensiunile vasului pe care \u0163i-l construie\u015fti. \u015ei po\u0163i s\u0103 deprogramezi mentalitatea &#8220;mic\u0103&#8221; \u015fi &#8220;umil\u0103&#8221;. \u015ei po\u0163i s\u0103 faci exact ce vrei, c\u00e2nd vrei, cum vrei. Nu prezen\u0163a b\u0103rba\u0163ilor este problema.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei aduc din nou exemplul bloggingului care, \u00een 2005 c\u00e2nd mi-am f\u0103cut eu primul blog, era majoritar masculin. Ce majoritar? Cov\u00e2r\u015fitor majoritar. Toat\u0103 lumea de pe internet era b\u0103rbat, pentru c\u0103 mitoc\u0103nia \u015fi gher\u0163oiala erau la cote majore.<\/p>\n<p>Pe atunci, sec\u0163iunea de comentarii era vestul s\u0103lbatic. De-aia am r\u0103mas cu niscaiva apuc\u0103turi cam brutale pentru 2019.<\/p>\n<p>Am l\u0103sat asta s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eempiedice? Hell no.<\/p>\n<p>Puteam alege s\u0103 m\u0103 dau mascul feroc \u00een era pre-Facebook \u015fi pre-Instagram? Heh, pot s\u0103 m\u0103 dau mascul feroc \u015fi acum, pentru c\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 fals\u0103 modestie, sunt unul al naibii de simpatic c\u00e2nd m\u0103 costumez ca atare.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BsarHJxggsB\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"12\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">Vezi aceast\u0103 postare pe Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"><a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BsarHJxggsB\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">O postare distribuit\u0103 de Lorena Lupu (@lorena.lup)<\/a> pe <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2019-01-09T14:14:33+00:00\">Ian 9, 2019 at 6:14 PST<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>Daaar dac\u0103 ne ascundem to\u0163i dup\u0103 cire\u015f, nu se schimb\u0103 nimic niciodat\u0103. Ia hai s\u0103 \u0163in eu blog fiind exact cine sunt. Ce poate s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple?<\/p>\n<p>Ni\u015fte dezaprobare, ni\u015fte mitoc\u0103nie \u015fi ni\u015fte \u00eencord\u0103ri de musculatur\u0103. Rezolvabile prin clasica parad\u0103 a mor\u0163ilor materni.<\/p>\n<p>Am blocat, banat, \u00eempul\u0103it mii de cretini pe parcurs? Hell yeah.<\/p>\n<p>Dar o bun\u0103 parte din ace\u015fti cretini latr\u0103 similar \u015fi pe conturi de autori de content b\u0103rba\u0163i, deci nu sexul meu e problema, ci prostia lor.<\/p>\n<p>Am muncit \u015fi \u00een colective all-male.<\/p>\n<p>C\u0103 la \u00eenceput era mi\u015ftoc\u0103reala c\u00e2t casa? Desigur. Dar ar fi fost similar\u0103 \u015fi dac\u0103 eram un nou-venit b\u0103iat.<\/p>\n<p>Dup\u0103 ce demonstrezi c\u0103 \u015ftii ce faci \u015fi ai \u00eencredere \u00een cine e\u015fti \u015fi ce \u015ftii, b\u0103rba\u0163ii inteligen\u0163i coopereaz\u0103 cu tine, iar \u0103ia competitivi \u015fi gelo\u015fi saboteaz\u0103 pe al\u0163ii p\u00e2n\u0103 ajung s\u0103 se saboteze singuri.<\/p>\n<p>Nu trebuie s\u0103 plece b\u0103rba\u0163ii nic\u0103ieri pentru ca ziua mea s\u0103 arate exact cum vreau eu s\u0103 arate. M\u0103 descurc s\u0103-i pun cu botul pe labe pe cei care sar calul, iar restul nu reprezint\u0103 pericol \u015fi nu reprezint\u0103 deranj.<\/p>\n<p>C\u0103 trebuie educa\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii s\u0103 nu mai trateze femeile ca pe robo\u0163i de buc\u0103t\u0103rie dota\u0163i cu o gaur\u0103 suplimentar\u0103 umed\u0103 \u015fi moale? OK. Asta fac de c\u00e2nd scriu aici. Dar \u015fi femeile ar trebui educate s\u0103 trateze b\u0103rba\u0163ii ca pe simpli oameni cu puteri limitate, pe care, la o adic\u0103, po\u0163i s\u0103-i bagi \u00een p***a mamii lor.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Dar nu a\u015f fi o doamn\u0103, Loooorena.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Nu. \u00cen schimb, ai fi un om liber. \u015ei n-ar fi necesare asemenea discu\u0163ii utopice. E mai s\u0103n\u0103tos s\u0103-i zici unuia s\u0103 \u015fad\u0103 bl\u00e2nd pe curu-i din dotare dec\u00e2t s\u0103 fantazezi ce frumoas\u0103 ar fi o lume f\u0103r\u0103 el.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14577\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>***<br \/>\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>B\u00e2ntuiam eu ieri pe Twitter, din cont \u00een cont, c\u00e2nd micul demon al internetului m-a f\u0103cut s\u0103 ajung aici: Women, imagine that for 24&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":16631,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16800","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/pisici.jpg?fit=614%2C382&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16800","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16800"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16800\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16803,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16800\/revisions\/16803"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16631"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16800"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16800"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16800"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}