{"id":16895,"date":"2019-03-16T10:46:07","date_gmt":"2019-03-16T07:46:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=16895"},"modified":"2019-03-16T11:12:09","modified_gmt":"2019-03-16T08:12:09","slug":"michael-jackson-despre-metoo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/michael-jackson-despre-metoo\/","title":{"rendered":"Ce m-a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat cazul Michael Jackson despre #metoo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Unor agarici le place foarte tare s\u0103 \u00eenvinuiasc\u0103 #metoo de acuza\u021biile total aberante \u0219i absolut deloc dovedite din cazul Michael Jackson.<\/p>\n

Prima mea reac\u021bie a fost indignarea.<\/p>\n

“Du-te, b\u0103. Vrei doar s\u0103-\u021bi propte\u0219ti narativa misogin\u0103 de un setup odios.”<\/p>\n

#metoo era necesar. Era necesar pentru c\u0103 sunt extrem de mul\u0163i tic\u0103lo\u015fi, agresori, mitocani, obseda\u0163i sexual printre noi. Masculi degrada\u0163i, josnici, pro\u015fti \u015fi r\u0103i, m\u00e2na\u0163i de iluzia unei false superiorit\u0103\u0163i, cu abord\u0103ri misecuveniste, dezgust\u0103toare \u015fi josnice.<\/p>\n

Nu exist\u0103 zi \u00een care s\u0103 nu primesc mesaj privat de la c\u00e2\u0163iva dintre ei, \u015fi nu e pentru c\u0103 eu a\u015f fi cine \u015ftie ce femeie, ci pentru c\u0103 ei sunt at\u00e2t de h\u0103mesi\u0163i, c\u0103 dau mesaje private concomitente la sute de femei. Dac\u0103 \u00eei ignori, \u00eenjur\u0103 \u015fi agreseaz\u0103. Dac\u0103 refuzi politicos, \u00eenjur\u0103 \u015fi agreseaz\u0103. Dac\u0103 pui \u00eentreb\u0103ri de baraj: nici nu s-au uitat pe wallul t\u0103u s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 cine e omul pe care-l deranjeaz\u0103. Esen\u0163ial e c\u0103 undeva acolo e un vagin \u015fi dac\u0103 insist\u0103m bovin \u015fi agas\u0103m, poate… \u0103, stai, nu. Iar am luat block. Nu \u00een\u0163eleg femeile. Sunt toate nebune. M\u0103 duc s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng pe un forum alt – right.<\/p>\n

Pe scurt, #metoo era necesar pentru fiecare p*** proast\u0103 care nu \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103 nimeni nu \u00eei datoreaz\u0103 timp, r\u0103bdare, aten\u0163ie, \u015fi un refuz e o decizie care trebuie respectat\u0103.<\/p>\n

Era necesar pentru fiecare \u015fefu\u0163 care respinge candidate competente \u00een favoarea celor dispuse la favoruri sexuale, sau care condi\u0163ioneaz\u0103 un job de “flexibilitatea” aplicantei.<\/p>\n

Era necesar pentru tot volumul de bullying online \u015fi offline pe care \u00eel \u00eendur\u0103 fiecare femeie, ba c\u0103 e prea t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103, ba c\u0103 e prea b\u0103tr\u00e2n\u0103, ba c\u0103 e slab\u0103, ba c\u0103 e gras\u0103, ba c\u0103 e singur\u0103, ba c\u0103 e coorv\u0103, ba c\u0103 vrea copii \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi ia concediu de maternitate, ba c\u0103 nu vrea copii \u015fi cine ne pl\u0103te\u015fte nou\u0103 pensiile.<\/p>\n

Cei care citesc mesajele private inepte pe care le postez eu for lolz v\u0103d exact de ce #metoo era necesar.<\/p>\n

DAR.<\/p>\n

#metoo a deschis larg u\u015fa, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 victimele legitime, tuturor impostorilor \u015fi impostoarelor, s\u0103 creeze pove\u015fti false despre oameni pe care nu-i plac, sau fa\u0163\u0103 de care au sentimente negative, sau pe care \u00eei invidiaz\u0103, sau, \u00een cel mai fabulos caz, de care au profitat din plin de 30 de ori \u015fi nu merge a 31-a oar\u0103.<\/p>\n

“Trebuie s\u0103 sus\u0163inem victima!” e un pumnal cu dou\u0103 t\u0103i\u015furi.<\/p>\n

Pe de o parte, da, trebuie s\u0103 sus\u0163inem victima care vine cu dovezi, omul abuzat real, persoana lovit\u0103, afectat\u0103, p\u0103gubit\u0103.<\/p>\n

Pe de alta, cred c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fim mai precau\u0163i \u00een a \u00eenghi\u0163i pe nemestecate ce spune pretinsa victim\u0103.<\/p>\n

“Pfoooa”, v\u0103d deja valul de indignare num\u0103rul 1. “Principala problem\u0103 a victimelor este c\u0103 nu sunt crezute”.<\/p>\n

P\u0103i, dup\u0103 cum o dovede\u015fte Leaving Neverland, s-a ajuns \u00een punctul \u00een care sunt exagerat de crezute, by default; no question asked. Vin doi \u015fi pretind c\u0103 tot ce au spus \u00een trecut nu se pune, iar adev\u0103rul \u00eencepe de la 35 de ani \u00een sus \u015fi, din c\u00e2te am gug\u0103lit, o bun\u0103 parte din presa mainstream din vest \u015fi State \u00eei crede ca pe apostoli. Nu conteaz\u0103 c\u0103 nu aduc dovezi, nu conteaz\u0103 c\u0103 se vede interesul financiar de la o po\u015ft\u0103, “trebuie s\u0103 sus\u0163inem victima”.<\/p>\n

Extrem, dar extrem de periculos.<\/p>\n

A\u015f scrie un roman acum cu cineva care a sus\u0163inut victime iar \u015fi iar, apoi \u00een penultimul capitol, o victim\u0103 o acuz\u0103 \u015fi pe ea de abuz \u015fi persoana moare dup\u0103 gratii. \u015ei ultimul lucru pe care-l aude la radio e “Trebuie s\u0103 sus\u0163inem victima”.<\/p>\n

\u015ei atunci, ce propui? S\u0103 nu sus\u0163inem victima?<\/p>\n

Ba da, s-o sus\u0163inem. Dar s-o facem abia dup\u0103 pe dovede\u015fte ceea ce spune \u015fi abia dup\u0103 ce verific\u0103m conjunctura.<\/p>\n

“Da, Lorena, dar fata b\u0103tut\u0103 de idiot la dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni dup\u0103 nunt\u0103, de care ai scris tu acum doi ani, avea un abuzator extrem de narcisist, care min\u0163ea foarte conving\u0103tor”.<\/p>\n

Corect. Dar v\u00e2n\u0103t\u0103ile ei nu min\u0163eau.<\/p>\n

Asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 \u015fi o responsabilizare a poten\u0163ialelor victime s\u0103 fie pe baz\u0103, s\u0103 colec\u0163ioneze probe \u015fi s\u0103 fie preg\u0103tite pentru \u00eentrebarea: Cum dovede\u015fti?<\/p>\n

\u0102la care \u00eentreab\u0103 n-o face pentru c\u0103 nu te crede, ci pentru c\u0103 e datoria lui s\u0103 verifice.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 a porni din start de la prezum\u0163ia c\u0103 versiunea victimei e obligatoriu adev\u0103rat\u0103 poate duce la o nedreptate la fel de mare ca refuzurile poli\u0163iei de a ancheta cazuri de viol \u015fi mu\u015famaliz\u0103rile de alt\u0103 dat\u0103.<\/p>\n

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