{"id":17443,"date":"2019-05-05T10:18:30","date_gmt":"2019-05-05T07:18:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=17443"},"modified":"2019-05-05T12:17:52","modified_gmt":"2019-05-05T09:17:52","slug":"rautatile-la-adresa-barbatilor-scunzi-ar-trebui-sa-inceteze","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/rautatile-la-adresa-barbatilor-scunzi-ar-trebui-sa-inceteze\/","title":{"rendered":"R\u0103ut\u0103\u021bile la adresa b\u0103rba\u021bilor scunzi ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eenceteze"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ideea acestui post mi-a venit ieri. Scrollam eu pe Facebook, c\u00e2nd, spre surprinderea mea, am dat de doi pe care nu-i b\u0103nuiam a fi genul bully, distr\u00e2ndu-se pe seama modei “noi” a \u00eenc\u0103l\u0163\u0103mintei cu toc pentru b\u0103rba\u0163i.<\/p>\n

\u015ei realitatea e c\u0103 \u00een ultima vreme am observat prin ora\u015f c\u0103 tocul \u00eenc\u0103l\u0163\u0103mintei tipilor o ia vertiginos \u00een sus, dar eu nu am v\u0103zut o problem\u0103. Din contr\u0103, am zis \u00een sinea mea: “C\u00e2t de tare, s-au prins \u015fi rom\u00e2nii c\u0103 tocul mai \u00eenalt te ridic\u0103 mai sus de la sol.”<\/p>\n

\u00cen fond \u015fi la urma urmei, dac\u0103 o femeie e scund\u0103 \u015fi nu-i convine, poate purta tocuri \u015fi nu spune nimeni nimic. Dac\u0103 o femeie e plinu\u0163\u0103 \u015fi nu-i convine, poate purta corset corector sub haine \u015fi nu spune nimeni nimic. Dac\u0103 o femeie n-are s\u00e2ni \u015fi vrea s\u0103 mimeze c\u0103 are, poate purta sutien push-up \u015fi nu spune nimeni nimic. Dac\u0103 unei femei nu-i place blond\u0103, se vopse\u015fte \u00een ce culoare vrea ea \u015fi, except\u00e2nd doi-trei boi, nu spune nimeni nimic.<\/p>\n

Dar societatea rom\u00e2neasc\u0103 are acest obicei extrem de iritant \u015fi de distructiv: caut\u0103 mereu s\u0103 pedepseasc\u0103 pe acei b\u0103rba\u0163i care vor s\u0103 arate mai bine.<\/p>\n

Am pus \u00eentre ghilimele partea cu mod\u0103 “nou\u0103”, pentru c\u0103 orice om care a deschis vreun manual de istorie a modei v\u0103 va spune: b\u0103rba\u0163ii au purtat tocuri dintotdeauna. Ba \u00eenghi\u0163i\u0163i-o pe asta: \u00eenc\u0103l\u0163\u0103mintea cu toc \u00eenalt a fost creat\u0103 SPECIAL pentru b\u0103rba\u0163i.
\nA fost inventat\u0103 \u00een Persia, pentru c\u0103l\u0103re\u0163i, c\u0103rora le asigura stabilitate \u00een \u015fa.
\nS-a r\u0103sp\u00e2ndit \u00een toat\u0103 Europa.
\nAu purtat-o nobili, aristocra\u0163i \u015fi regi, s\u0103 par\u0103 mai \u00eenal\u0163i \u015fi mai autoritari.
\nAu purtat-o actori pe scene, s\u0103 fie mai m\u0103re\u0163i \u015fi mai impozan\u0163i.<\/p>\n

B\u0103rba\u0163ii s-au delimitat de tocurile \u00eenalte abia la \u00eenceputul secolului 20, c\u00e2nd acestea au devenit, dreptat, un accesoriu de marc\u0103 al sexualit\u0103\u0163ii feminine.<\/p>\n

\u015ei azi, avem oameni care r\u00e2d de al\u0163i oameni pentru c\u0103 poart\u0103 tocuri.<\/p>\n

Serios, Rom\u00e2nie? C\u00e2nd te destupi \u015fi tu naibii la cap \u015fi \u00eencetezi s\u0103 mai persecu\u0163i oameni pe date fizice pe care ace\u015ftia nu le pot achimba \u015fi care nu au nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu cine sunt ei ca oameni?<\/p>\n

Nici un b\u0103rbat n-a cerut s\u0103 se nasc\u0103 scund, sau s\u0103 creasc\u0103 scund. Ba \u00eemi imaginez c\u00e2t de chinuitor trebuie s\u0103 fie pentru ei c\u0103 au acest dat fizic pe care nu \u00eel pot schimba prin sport, sau vitamine, sau diet\u0103 – nu \u00eel pot schimba prin nimic! \u00cel pot corecta doar vizual, purt\u00e2nd pantofi cu un toc mai \u00eenalt.<\/p>\n

Am ajuns la concluzia c\u0103, poate, bullyingul e \u015fi el bun la ceva. \u015ei anume, c\u0103 o dat\u0103 ce l-ai experimentat \u015fi \u015ftii cum se simte, parc\u0103 nu-\u0163i mai vine s-o faci \u015fi tu cu al\u0163ii. \u00cen schimb, r\u0103zg\u00e2ia\u0163ii, c\u0103uta\u0163ii perpetuu \u00een coarme, sufla\u0163ii \u00een c*r \u00ee\u0219i permit mereu s\u0103-\u0219i exerseze r\u0103utatea gratuit\u0103 pe al\u021bii, pornind de la diverse detalii\u00a0 imposibil de controlat.<\/p>\n

Nu vrei s\u0103 ie\u015fi cu un b\u0103rbat scund? OK, nu ie\u015fi. Dar m\u0103car respinge-l pe baza a cine e el ca persoan\u0103, a unor lucruri reale care stau \u00een raza lui de decizie \u015fi de ac\u0163iune, nu pentru un am\u0103nunt at\u00e2t de irelevant \u015fi de derizoriu cum e \u00een\u0103l\u0163imea.<\/p>\n

Te enerveaz\u0103 c\u00e2nd apare un cocalar sub o poz\u0103 a ta \u015fi, pe nepus\u0103 mas\u0103, \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u00eemproa\u015fte cu insulte care nici m\u0103car nu \u0163i se aplic\u0103?
\nAsta faci \u015fi tu c\u00e2nd tratezi b\u0103rba\u0163i strict prin prisma \u00een\u0103l\u0163imii.<\/p>\n

O cifr\u0103 care nu spune AAAABSOLUT NIMIC despre lucrurile care conteaz\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat: bun\u0103tatea lor, inteligen\u0163a lor, aptitudinea lor de a face lumea un loc mai bun.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 tot batem c\u0103r\u0103mida-n piept legat de body positivity, p\u0103i hai s\u0103 includem \u015fi \u00een\u0103l\u0163imea b\u0103rbatului tot \u00een body positivity.<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

\u015ei insist: nu mai h\u0103r\u0163ui\u0163i, nu mai umili\u0163i verbal, nu mai face\u0163i mi\u015fto de b\u0103rba\u0163i care caut\u0103 s\u0103 arate bine.<\/p>\n

Nu ei sunt problema unei \u0163\u0103ri unde consumul de s\u0103pun e minim pe Europa, unde Gigelul obi\u015fnuit ruleaz\u0103 patru tricouri, o c\u0103ma\u015f\u0103, ni\u015fte bocanci \u015fi ni\u015fte tene\u015fi care put deja mai grav dec\u00e2t c\u00e2mpul de b\u0103t\u0103lie din Winterfell dup\u0103 noaptea cea lung\u0103, unde oameni cu patru bur\u0163i poart\u0103 maieuri super mulate, unde unii b\u0103rba\u0163i m\u00e2nc\u0103i de jum\u0103ri au \u0163\u00e2\u0163e mai mari dec\u00e2t ale mele \u015fi unde, dac\u0103 Vasilic\u0103 e afectat de calvi\u0163ie, nu \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 caute un tratament, ci pune m\u00e2na pe un aparat de ras \u015fi jeap, \u00ee\u015fi trage o chelie total nesexy \u015fi ucig\u0103toare de orice libido.<\/p>\n

Sincer, dac\u0103 \u00eemi dai s\u0103 aleg s\u0103 fac sex \u00eentre un b\u0103rbat de 1,60 cu un p\u0103r bogat, luxuriant, prin care s\u0103-\u0163i po\u0163i trece degetele, \u015fi unul de 1,90 chel, o s\u0103-l aleg pe scund.<\/p>\n

Dar societatea asta retrograd\u0103 \u00een care tr\u0103im nu critic\u0103 del\u0103sarea \u015fi lipsa oric\u0103rei preocup\u0103ri pentru aspectul exterior la b\u0103rba\u0163i. Nu, domnule, ea are o problem\u0103 cu \u0103ia care se penseaz\u0103, \u0103ia care \u00ee\u015fi vopsesc p\u0103rul, \u0103ia care poart\u0103 tocuri, \u0103ia care se duc la sal\u0103 \u015fi \u0103ia care \u00ee\u015fi fac implant de p\u0103r.<\/p>\n

Sincer, m\u0103 \u015fti\u0163i econoam\u0103 cu advertorialele. Dar m\u0103 ofer s\u0103 fac un articol de promo gratuit primului cabinet dedicat implantului de p\u0103r care vede textul \u0103sta \u015fi \u00eemi d\u0103 mail cu “primuuuu” pe birou@lorenalupu.com.<\/p>\n

Dou\u0103 concluzii pentru textul de azi:<\/p>\n

A) B\u0103rba\u0163i, ignora\u0163i comentariile inepte legate de dorin\u021ba voastr\u0103 de a ar\u0103ta mai bine. Vin de la masculi ur\u00e2\u0163i \u015fi femei nesigure. S\u0103 vrei s\u0103 fii cea mai bun\u0103 versiune a ta, fizic \u015fi intelectual, e ceva natural \u015fi s\u0103n\u0103tos.<\/p>\n

B) B\u0103rba\u0163i scunzi, dac\u0103 unii fac mi\u015fto de voi pe criteriul \u00een\u0103l\u0163imii, nu merit\u0103 timpul vostru. M\u0103car \u00een\u0103l\u0163imea e pe dinafar\u0103 \u015fi se poate masca cu tocuri, dar prostia e pe din\u0103untru \u015fi nu se poate masca cu nimic.
\n\u015ei dac\u0103 una v\u0103 refuz\u0103 pe criteriul \u00een\u0103l\u0163imii, nu v\u0103 merita de la bun \u00eenceput.<\/p>\n

\u00cen foto de deschidere: un tip scund care, la vremea lui, se zice c\u0103 a f***t jum\u0103tate de Americ\u0103. Cic\u0103 femei \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163i deopotriv\u0103.<\/p>\n

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