{"id":17475,"date":"2019-05-15T11:00:13","date_gmt":"2019-05-15T08:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=17475"},"modified":"2019-05-15T11:00:13","modified_gmt":"2019-05-15T08:00:13","slug":"cum-glumim-online","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cum-glumim-online\/","title":{"rendered":"Cum glumim online"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, o prieten\u0103 a sharuit reviewul meu<\/a><\/strong> la Game of Thrones \u015fi, pentru c\u0103 eram taguit\u0103, am asistat vag stupefiat\u0103 la urm\u0103torul dialog.<\/p>\n

A: Mai c\u0103-mi vine sa m\u0103 pup singur io p\u0103 mine ca nu m\u0103 uit! Respect vou\u0103! \u2764\ufe0f
\nB: Cam narcisist, nu crezi? De curiozitate, unde te-ai pupa?
\nA: B, de ce spui asta?! \ud83d\ude2f
\nB: S\u0103 te pupi singur nu poate avea dec\u00e2t dou\u0103 explica\u021bii: Ori nu ai pe cine s\u0103 pupi, ori ai dar preferi s\u0103 te pupi pe tine.
\nA: De unde ai tras concluzia asta?!
\nB: Cu asta m\u0103 ocup, ajut la emis concluzii.<\/p>\n

Aici intervine gazda, s\u0103 atrag\u0103 finu\u0163 aten\u0163ia c\u0103 s-a s\u0103rit calul \u015fi afl\u0103m cu uimire:<\/p>\n

B: \u00cel tachinam doar.<\/p>\n

\u015ei cred c\u0103 to\u0163i cititorii vor face cor cu mine c\u00e2nd voi spune: S\u0103 mori tu!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\u015ei da, A e tipul, B e tipa. Iar eu nu \u00een\u0163eleg: dac\u0103 tot nu ne plac b\u0103rba\u0163ii b\u0103d\u0103rani \u015fi agresivi, de ce am deschide noi discu\u0163ii b\u0103d\u0103rane \u015fi agresive.<\/p>\n

“Dar Lorena”, sare hater x, “\u015fi tu e\u015fti b\u0103d\u0103ran\u0103 \u015fi agresiv\u0103 cu mul\u0163i”.<\/p>\n

Sigur, \u00ceN REAC\u0162IE LA un astfel de tratament. Dar niciodat\u0103 n-am deschis eu cu b\u0103d\u0103r\u0103nie, pentru c\u0103 mi se pare moartea oric\u0103rei pasiuni. C\u00e2nd m\u0103 vezi b\u0103d\u0103ran\u0103 cu cineva, e semn c\u0103 \u0103la e pe cale s\u0103-\u015fi ia blockul de adio.<\/p>\n

\u015ei acum hai s\u0103 povestim un pic despre regulile glumitului online, s\u0103 evit\u0103m s\u0103 p\u0103rem vite cornute, cum pare B, \u00een \u00eencercarea ei absolut antihaz \u015fi cringy de a face pe glumea\u0163a.<\/p>\n

A) Textul scris nu are intona\u0163ie.<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n

Neav\u00e2nd intona\u0163ie, e u\u015for ca o a\u015fa-zis\u0103 glum\u0103 s\u0103 par\u0103 un atac personal. Iar acesta, cel pu\u0163in, arat\u0103 a genul \u0103la de hate c\u0103\u015funat din nimic, cu presupuneri oribile despre via\u0163a \u015fi obiceiurile interlocutorului.<\/p>\n

Nu e greu de conchis c\u0103 atare abordare nu va bucura pe nimeni niciodat\u0103, indiferent dac\u0103 e b\u0103rbat, femeie, sau indecis \u00een privin\u0163a asta.<\/p>\n

Prin urmare, dac\u0103 inten\u0163ia ta este de a glumi, e responsabilitatea ta s\u0103 formulezi gluma \u00een a\u015fa fel, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 fie c\u00e2t mai pu\u0163in personal\u0103 \u015fi c\u00e2t mai pu\u0163in acuzatoare.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 \u00een loc s\u0103 taberi cu acuza\u0163ii de narcisism \u015fi restul t\u00e2mpeniilor de acolo b\u0103gai un “Folose\u015fti \u015fi fri\u015fc\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd te pupi singur” se p\u0103stra aluzia, dar devenea ceva de r\u00e2s, nu ceva de “aoleo, scorpie nebun\u0103 la orizont”.<\/p>\n

De unde deducem regula<\/p>\n

B) F\u0103r\u0103 injurii, insulte, adjective personale, presupuneri de kkt \u015fi alte m\u00e2rl\u0103nii de acela\u015fi fel.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

De\u015fi \u00een acest dialog vedem o femeie utiliz\u00e2ndu-le, arma se nume\u015fte negging \u015fi e tot din arsenalul pick up arti\u015ftilor. Poate c\u0103 func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 la oameni nesiguri, care vor vrea foarte tare s\u0103-\u0163i demonstreze c\u0103 gre\u015fe\u015fti, dar nici un om s\u0103n\u0103tos mintal \u015fi emo\u0163ional nu ia insultele drept un factor de stimulare a libidoului.<\/p>\n

Nu e sexy, nu e pl\u0103cut, nu e amuzant.<\/p>\n

Pari doar un hater ciufut f\u0103r\u0103 via\u0163\u0103 social\u0103, cu datorii la \u00eentre\u0163inere \u015fi p\u0103r\u0103sit(\u0103) pentru cineva mai t\u00e2n\u0103r \u015fi mai sexy, care \u00ee\u015fi de\u015fart\u0103 acreala \u015fi veninul pe net.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00eenc\u0103 A a fost exagerat de politicos. Eu s\u0103 m\u0103 ia cineva a\u015fa mai luam un zucc pe ambele conturi.<\/p>\n

De obicei, ripostez cu insulte similare \u015fi, de fiecare dac\u0103, “negatorul” \u00eencepe s\u0103 gui\u0163e a jale.<\/p>\n

A, s\u0103 mori tu de bou \/ vac\u0103, deci e nepl\u0103cut, \u00een mizda p\u0103-tii? Atunci, ia ghici, la fel se simte \u015fi c\u00e2nd ataci tu. Civilizeaz\u0103-te \u015fi vorbim c\u00e2nd avem ce.<\/p>\n

C) Familiaritatea nu se poate mima.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Exist\u0103 gigei sau, iat\u0103, gigele, care acum te v\u0103d online prima oar\u0103 \u015fi sar la un fel de trageri de br\u0103cinari care mi se par \u00eengrozitoooooooooooooor de enervan\u0163i.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00eentrebarea tipic\u0103 de hater: De ce drag\u0103, te crezi vedet\u0103 \u015fi te vrei adulat\u0103?<\/p>\n

Nu, chiar nu. Dac\u0103 m\u00e2ine nu mai am bani, m\u0103 angajez la modelat covrigi f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 ezit \u015fi nu m\u0103 vreau dec\u00e2t tratat\u0103 cu bunul sim\u0163 elementar care trebuie s\u0103 existe \u00eentr-o societate civilizat\u0103.<\/p>\n

Preten\u0163ia de familiaritate \u00eentre oameni care nu-s cu adev\u0103rat familiari e for\u0163at\u0103, fals\u0103, st\u00e2njenitoare, frustrant\u0103 din toate punctele de vedere \u015fi nu duce nic\u0103ieri. Mai degrab\u0103 vrei un interlocutor care spune: “Hai s\u0103 ne cunoa\u015ftem mai bine” dec\u00e2t unul care ofteaz\u0103 “Aoleu, iar prostul \u0103sta \/ proasta asta?”<\/p>\n

Mai bine comunici mai pu\u0163in \u015fi la\u015fi s\u0103 planeze misterul asupra prostiei tale,dec\u00e2t s\u0103 taberi ca tanti din citat \u015fi s-o confirmi f\u0103r\u0103 umbr\u0103 de \u00eendoial\u0103.<\/p>\n

D) Asigur\u0103-te c\u0103 cel\u0103lalt e parte din glum\u0103 cu tine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 nu a \u00een\u0163eles, dac\u0103 reac\u0163ia e negativ\u0103, dac\u0103 nu intr\u0103 \u00een joc, asta e. Nu po\u0163i s\u0103-l obligi \u015fi nu e cazul s\u0103 insi\u015fti s\u0103 te faci \u015fi mai detestabil(\u0103). Retrage armatele \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eei sugerezi fin omului c\u0103 glumeai.<\/p>\n

Mergem pe exemplul meu:<\/p>\n

“Folose\u015fti \u015fi fri\u015fc\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd te pupi singur?”<\/p>\n

S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 nimerim un om care nu gust\u0103 gluma \u015fi sare ca ars:<\/p>\n

“Adic\u0103 ce vrei s\u0103 spui???”<\/p>\n

Aici dac\u0103 inten\u0163ia e s\u0103-l ag\u0103\u0163i, r\u0103spunsul e “Pentru c\u0103 am eu un tub \u00eentreg acas\u0103” \u015fi garantez c\u0103 urm\u0103torul lui reply e \u00een mesaje private, cer\u00e2nd num\u0103r de telefon.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 inten\u0163ia e doar glumit nevinovat, merge \u015fi un “Nu te sup\u0103ra, pari un om flexibil din toate punctele de vedere”.<\/p>\n

\u015ei a\u015fa i-ai indicat c\u0103 scopul t\u0103u nu e s\u0103 vii cu lopata s\u0103-i strive\u015fti dumnezeii.<\/p>\n

E) Gluma bun\u0103 e un joc de ping-pong, nu unul de popice.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 inten\u0163ia ta e s\u0103 d\u0103r\u00e2mi omul, sau a\u015fa reiese, m\u0103 tem c\u0103 impactul nu va fi amuzant dec\u00e2t pentru genul \u015facali r\u0103ut\u0103cio\u015fi, care nu vor ezita s\u0103 r\u00e2njeasc\u0103 \u015fi la tine, c\u00e2nd vei fi tu \u0163inta unui atac vicios la persoan\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dar glumele la care r\u00e2de un wall \u00eentreg de cititori sunt cele la care particip\u0103 \u00een mod egal to\u0163i cei care aleg s\u0103 se implice. Glumele bune includ \u015fi creeaz\u0103 comuniune.<\/p>\n

Pe scurt, c\u00e2nd vede\u0163i b\u0103ie\u0163i frumu\u015fei pe Facebook \u015fi vre\u0163i s\u0103-i tachina\u0163i, nu fi\u0163i tanti B. Nimeni n-ar vrea s\u0103 se lase tachinat pe tanti B. C\u00e2nd iei un b\u0103rbat a\u015fa, \u0103la te \u015fi aude cu urechile sufletului: “Ioane, iar nu ai dus gunoiul, narcisistule!”.<\/p>\n

Sau, invers: “Iar ai spart bani pe machiaj \u015fi parfumuri, nenorocito?”.<\/p>\n

Moartea definitiv\u0103 a pasiunii.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

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