{"id":17736,"date":"2019-06-13T14:20:05","date_gmt":"2019-06-13T11:20:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=17736"},"modified":"2019-06-13T14:20:05","modified_gmt":"2019-06-13T11:20:05","slug":"neymar-najila-si-acuzatiile-de-viol","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/neymar-najila-si-acuzatiile-de-viol\/","title":{"rendered":"Neymar, Najila \u0219i acuza\u021biile de viol"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 fac tabloid pe aici, dar, ca s\u0103 formulez ca Iohannis, “urm\u0103resc cu \u00eengrijorare” cazul \u0103sta, \u015fi pe altele similare, \u015fi \u00eemi doresc sincer s\u0103 trag un semnal de alarm\u0103.<\/p>\n

Violul – violul real, c\u00e2nd cineva se folose\u015fte de corpul t\u0103u, \u00eempotriva voin\u0163ei tale, pentru satisfac\u0163ie sexual\u0103, e oribil, traumatizant pe multiple planuri \u015fi te poate l\u0103sa cu sechele pe tot restul vie\u0163ii. Sunt milioane de femei lipsite de ap\u0103rare, vulnerabile, sunt milioane de b\u0103rba\u0163i care abuzeaz\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 ezite de for\u0163a fizic\u0103, \u015fi cred din toat\u0103 inima c\u0103 trebuie f\u0103cute campanii ne\u00eencetate de awareness, at\u00e2t pentru poten\u0163iale victime, c\u00e2t \u015fi pentru educarea brutelor, \u015fi pentru implicarea mai prompt\u0103 \u015fi mai eficient\u0103 a for\u0163elor de ordine \u015fi a instan\u0163elor.<\/p>\n

Problema pe care \u00eemi doresc \u00eens\u0103 s\u0103 o pun \u00een acest text este modul \u00een care falsul viol a devenit o metod\u0103 dezgust\u0103toare de cer\u015fetorie de aten\u0163ie, similar de oribil\u0103 \u015fi de chinuitoare ca acele binecunoscute ipostaze c\u00e2nd un cut\u0103rel decide c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 te are, nu \u0163ine figura pentru c\u0103 nu e\u015fti interesat\u0103, \u015fi atunci cut\u0103rel \u00eencepe s\u0103 te denigreze pe lung \u015fi pe lat, s\u0103 inventeze minciuni cu care s\u0103-\u0163i strice rela\u0163iile profesionale \u015fi umane \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i \u00eentoarc\u0103 via\u0163a pe dos, ca s\u0103 fie sigur c\u0103 nu-i ui\u0163i numele nici pe patul mor\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

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E adev\u0103rat, sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i care, c\u00e2nd te \u00eent\u00e2lne\u015fti fa\u0163\u0103 \u00een fa\u0163\u0103, sunt mult mai pu\u0163in atr\u0103g\u0103tori dec\u00e2t \u00een online. Unde p\u00e2n\u0103 nu demult Photoshop era relativ scump, dar au ap\u0103rut Facetune \u015fi Facetune 2 care te transform\u0103 din Viorica D\u0103ncil\u0103 \u00een Jessica Biel \u00een mai pu\u0163in de 30 de secunde, folosind un singur deget.<\/p>\n

Nope, nu e un motiv s\u0103-i acuzi de viol.<\/p>\n

E adev\u0103rat, sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i care sunt extrem de b\u0103d\u0103rani la un date.<\/p>\n

Nope, nu e un motiv s\u0103-i acuzi de viol.<\/p>\n

E adev\u0103rat, sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i care \u00ee\u0163i jur\u0103 iubire etern\u0103, te f… \u015fi nu te sun\u0103 a doua zi.<\/p>\n

Nope, nu e un motiv s\u0103-i acuzi de viol.<\/p>\n

E adev\u0103rat, sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i care promit de toate \u015fi nu livreaz\u0103 nimic.<\/p>\n

Nope, nu e un motiv s\u0103-i acuzi de viol.<\/p>\n

E adev\u0103rat, exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i care te trateaz\u0103 extrem de rece a doua zi diminea\u0163a dup\u0103 o partid\u0103 de sex.<\/p>\n

Nope, nu e un motiv s\u0103-i acuzi de viol.<\/p>\n

E adev\u0103rat, exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i care azi sunt cu tine, m\u00e2ine deja fac ochi dulci prietenei tale.<\/p>\n

Nope, nu e un motiv s\u0103-i acuzi de viol.<\/p>\n

E adev\u0103rat, sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i care sus\u0163in public interzicerea avortului \u015fi multe alte dobitocenii de te doare mintea.<\/p>\n

Uimire: nope, nici \u0103sta nu e un motiv s\u0103-i acuzi de viol.<\/p>\n

Faptul c\u0103-i acuzi pe to\u0163i \u0103\u015ftia de viol diminueaz\u0103 gravitatea violului \u00een sine \u015fi \u00eel echivaleaz\u0103 cu “ori de c\u00e2te ori nu-\u0163i convine ceva”.<\/p>\n

Ceea ce, \u00een orice rela\u0163ie interuman\u0103, oric\u00e2t de pozitiv\u0103 \u015fi de armonioas\u0103, se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla de mai multe ori.<\/p>\n

Acum, s\u0103 trecem la fazele cu Neymar \u015fi Najila.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd te invit\u0103 un fotbalist celebru, bun\u0103ciune interna\u0163ional\u0103, pe banii lui la Paris, cam de c\u00e2\u0163i neuroni func\u0163ionali ai nevoie s\u0103 te prinzi ce vrea de la tine?<\/p>\n

Nu vrei? Refuzi invita\u0163ia. Pur \u015fi simplu, nu te duci, \u015fi a\u015fa, orice discu\u0163ii ulterioare au fost evitate cu succes.<\/p>\n

Faptul c\u0103 pleci de acas\u0103 \u00eentr-un ora\u015f str\u0103in, depinz\u00e2nd de banii altuia, te pune \u00een mare m\u0103sur\u0103 \u00eentr-o situa\u0163ie vulnerabil\u0103. E\u015fti la voia \u0103luia. Nu ai cum s\u0103 nu mizezi pe lucrul acesta \u015fi s\u0103 nu ai un plan B, o solu\u0163ie de ie\u015fire imediat\u0103 din situa\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

OK. Dar s\u0103 zicem c\u0103 Najila era naiv\u0103. A crezut din toat\u0103 inima ei c\u0103 Neymar o cheam\u0103 la Paris s\u0103-i arate colec\u0163ia lui de macarons. \u015ei a crezut c\u0103 o ia \u00een camera lui de hotel c\u0103-i e frig s\u0103 doarm\u0103 singur. Mbun. \u015ei \u0103la la un moment dat a scos spada din teac\u0103.<\/p>\n

Tu ce faci?<\/p>\n

R\u0103spunsul meu ar fi fost: \u00cei zic s-o bage la loc, \u015fi dac\u0103 nu face asta, plec.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 n-o bag\u0103 la loc, dimpotriv\u0103, tab\u0103r\u0103 cu ea pe mine.<\/p>\n

OK. Semne de lovituri, agresiune fizic\u0103, altele asemenea.<\/p>\n

De cum reu\u015fesc s\u0103 m\u0103 extrag din situa\u0163ie, dau fuga la recep\u0163ie \u015fi cer s\u0103 sune \u0103ia la poli\u0163ie. C\u00e2t timp am urme proaspete de lovituri, r\u0103ni, s\u00e2nge, \u015fi altele similare.<\/p>\n

Ce viol e \u0103la de care-\u0163i dai seama abia dup\u0103 ce te \u00eentorci \u00een patria natal\u0103?<\/p>\n

OK, \u00eemi va r\u0103spunde cititoarea, dar \u015fi pe mine m-a mozolit un h\u0103ndr\u0103l\u0103u la 14 ani, \u015fi nu am putut spune nim\u0103nui nimic c\u0103 m-am panicat \u015fi m-am blocat.<\/p>\n

Sure. Aveai 14. Dar Najila e o femeie matur\u0103, cu un copil, cu un tupeu fantastic \u015fi nu pare genul care s\u0103 \u00eencremeneasc\u0103 cu una cu dou\u0103.<\/p>\n

Ce pot s\u0103 admit este c\u0103, mai mult ca sigur, sexul a fost nasol \u015fi umilitor, c\u0103 Neymar pare genul c\u0103ruia nu-i prea pas\u0103 s\u0103 ofere pl\u0103cere.<\/p>\n

Dar.<\/p>\n

Oric\u00e2t de nasol \u015fi umilitor a fost sexul, c\u00e2t timp ai mers de bun\u0103 voie \u015fi nesilit\u0103 de nimeni s\u0103-l faci, nu e viol. E doar sex prost.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 am putea da \u00een judecat\u0103 oameni pentru sex prost, pu\u015fc\u0103riile ar fi pline la ora asta. \u015ei nu numai de b\u0103rba\u0163i. Exist\u0103 un num\u0103r nedefinit de femei pentru care ideea de a face sex este “s\u0103 stau \u00eentins\u0103 acolo”. Cum ar fi s\u0103 te dea \u00een judecat\u0103 Gicu a doua zi pentru viol, fiindc\u0103 ai refuzat oral, anal \u015fi femeia deasupra?<\/p>\n

Nasol.<\/p>\n

\u015ei partea cea mai ur\u00e2t\u0103, insist: acuza\u0163iile false, dramoleta f\u0103r\u0103 substan\u0163\u0103, r\u0103pesc din credibilitatea victimelor reale. Dac\u0103 tu a doua zi \u00eenc\u0103 te frecai de individ, nope, nu a fost viol. A fost un act de negociere ratat\u0103. Tu voiai commitment, \u0103la voia s\u0103 f*** ceva. Dac\u0103 te lauzi c\u0103 ai f\u0103cut filmule\u0163 \u015fi-l pui pe social media, nu e\u015fti victima unui viol, ci o attention whore. Nici o femeie violat\u0103 nu zice: “Stop pu\u0163in, domnu’ violator, s\u0103 dau \u015fi eu drumul la rec \u015fi s\u0103 imortaliz\u0103m acest moment de neuitat.”<\/p>\n

“P\u0103i dar ea d\u0103duse rec de dinainte”.<\/p>\n

Ahaaa, deci se a\u015ftepta s\u0103 existe sex. Case closed.<\/p>\n

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