\u00cemi pare r\u0103u de formatul aiurea, scriu de pe telefon. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, citesc tot ce scrii \u015fi te apreciez foarte mult. M-am hot\u0103r\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i scriu \u00een ideea \u00een care mi-ar prinde bine o doz\u0103 de adev\u0103r, c\u0103ci mi-am dat seama c\u0103 am devenit o mimoz\u0103 \u015fi trebuie s\u0103 fac ceva \u00een sensul \u0103sta. <\/strong><\/p>\n Problema mea e c\u0103 ai mei nu se mai \u00een\u0163eleg, taic\u0103-miu a aflat c\u0103 mama a f\u0103cut datorii uria\u015fe pe ambele carduri (\u00eel avea \u015fi pe al lui de salariu), se ceart\u0103, nu \u00een\u0163elege unde dispar banii (am\u00e2ndoi au salarii super ok tho). <\/strong><\/p>\n M\u0103 rog, mi-a\u015f dori ca taic\u0103-meu s\u0103 nu m\u0103 implice \u00een problemele astea sau s\u0103 vin\u0103 la mine s\u0103 se lamenteze sau s\u0103 \u00eemi ceara ajutor. Cred c\u0103 problemele p\u0103rin\u0163ilor \u015fi ce este \u00eentre ei nu e treaba copiiilor. <\/strong><\/p>\n Dar cam asta este, \u00eel \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 se simte singur. El b\u0103nuie\u015fte c\u0103 ea are pe altcineva, pe ea o doare fix \u00een fund de noi (sau m\u0103 mai roag\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eei dau 100 de lei c\u0103 nu are bani, \u015fi c\u00e2nd ajunge la magazin, scoate 200 de lei din portofel s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi ia geant\u0103). <\/strong><\/p>\n \u015ei dup\u0103, vine s\u0103 \u00eemi spun\u0103 c\u0103, vai, fata colegei x s-a cuplat cu un profesor de la drept \u015fi ce bine \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 ea \u015fi c\u0103 eu sunt varz\u0103, etc. \u015ei chiar nu sunt, am prins \u015fi o na\u0163io <\/strong>(olimpiad\u0103 na\u0163ional\u0103, not\u0103 Lorena), \u00eenv\u0103\u0163, vin acas\u0103 \u015fi \u00eei fac eu curat\/m\u00e2ncare. <\/strong><\/p>\n Anul trecut mi-am str\u00e2ns bani s\u0103 plec la ec<\/strong> (Electric Castle, not\u0103 Lorena) \u015fi cu o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eenainte, mi-a cerut \u00eemprumut s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi pl\u0103teasc\u0103 hotelul la mare, iar c\u00e2nd a fost de dat banii \u00eenapoi, a \u00eenceput cearta, c\u0103 “ce fat\u0103 normal\u0103 care \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 ar merge, c\u0103 eu sunt curv\u0103, etc”. <\/strong><\/p>\n Nu vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 dau mare c\u0103 vai ce copil excelent sunt eu, c\u0103ci nu sunt, dar am sl\u0103biciunea asta \u015fi pur \u015fi simplu t\u00e2njesc dup\u0103 afec\u0163iunea ei\/confirmare. Adic\u0103 eu \u00eencerc s\u0103 fac s\u0103 fie ok \u015fi s\u0103 nu simt\u0103 c\u0103 are odrasl\u0103. \u015ei tot muie \u00eemi iau. <\/strong><\/p>\n Iar tata nu e mai okay, mi se pare pu\u0163in ipocrit (acum dou\u0103 zile am ajuns din Bucure\u015fti \u015fi a spus c\u0103 vine dup\u0103 mine, dar c\u0103 mai dureaz\u0103 2-3 ore, a\u015fa c\u0103 i-am trimis mesaj c\u0103 eu merg s\u0103 beau un suc, c\u0103 e ditamai canicula, el nu a v\u0103zut mesajul \u015fi m-a sunat s\u0103 m\u0103 fac\u0103 dobitoac\u0103 \u015fi proast\u0103). Not cool.<\/strong><\/p>\n Problema e c\u0103 am cam \u00een\u0163eles c\u0103 nu o s\u0103 aib\u0103 nimeni cum s\u0103 m\u0103 trimit\u0103 la facultate \u015fi, sincer, simt c\u0103 prea pu\u0163in \u00eei intereseaz\u0103. M\u0103 simt ultra singur\u0103 \u015fi e aiurea, nu prea \u015ftiu exact pe unde s\u0103 o apuc sau ce s\u0103 fac. S\u0103 renun\u0163 la visul cu facultatea \u015fi s\u0103 m\u0103 angajez direct sau s\u0103 \u00eencerc s\u0103 le \u00eempac pe am\u00e2ndou\u0103? <\/strong><\/p>\n Mama \u00eemi zice c\u0103 nu am cum s\u0103 fac dreptul \u015fi s\u0103 \u015fi lucrez, dar nu prea mai vreau s\u0103 depind de ei, simt cum fiecare disput\u0103 a lor m\u0103 afecteaz\u0103 \u015fi pe mine, iar maic\u0103-mea e genul de om care \u00eemi repro\u015feaz\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eemi d\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc c\u00e2nd o rog s\u0103 \u00eemi dea banii pe care i-am \u00eemprumutat \u00eenapoi (\u00eencerc s\u0103 lucrez cum pot \u015fi c\u00e2nd pot, dar mi se suprapune \u015fcoala \u015fi nu reu\u015fesc s\u0103 fac destul c\u00e2t s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentre\u0163in, momentan). <\/strong><\/p>\n Vreau pur \u015fi simplu s\u0103 scap de tot calvarul \u0103sta \u015fi s\u0103 fiu omul meu, dar nu \u015ftiu dac\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 m\u0103 mai g\u00e2ndesc la facultate. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cen capul lor, nici nu se pune problema s\u0103 nu m\u0103 duc (“vai, ce o s\u0103 spun\u0103 lumea??”), dar sunt at\u00e2t de sigur\u0103 c\u0103 nu \u00een\u0163eleg ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 financiar asta pentru ei. Plus c\u0103 \u00eemi doresc s\u0103 nu mai depind de ei. M\u0103 omoar\u0103 fiecare discu\u0163ie \u00een genul “nu avem bani” sau fiecare ceart\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n Nu \u015ftiu ce s\u0103 fac, de ce s\u0103 m\u0103 apuc. Clasa a doi\u015fpea e super afacere (banchet, albume, medita\u0163ii, cheltuieli \u015fi cheltuieli). M\u0103 lipsesc de banchet, album \u015fi formalit\u0103\u0163i de genul, dar mai greu cu bacul \u015fi admiterea.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mul\u0163umesc pentru timpul acordat \ud83d\ude42 sper s\u0103 ai o zi fain\u0103!<\/strong><\/p>\n X.<\/strong><\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X,<\/p>\n \u015ei eu, copil fiind, am avut exact aceea\u015fi etern\u0103 preocupare. S\u0103 nu fiu povara financiar\u0103 a nim\u0103nui. End result: tot “dup\u0103 c\u00e2te sacrificii am f\u0103cut pentru tine”.<\/p>\n Retroactiv, marele meu regret e c\u0103 nu i-am pus pe to\u0163i s\u0103 cotizeze hardcore, s\u0103 vad\u0103 ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 a face sacrificii cu adev\u0103rat. C\u0103 sunt p\u0103rin\u0163i care chiar investesc \u00een copiii lor, cei mai buni profesori, cele mai bune cursuri, “nu mor p\u00e2n\u0103 nu \u00eei fac cas\u0103 \u015fi copilului” etc., \u015fi sunt p\u0103rin\u0163i pe care \u00eei doare at\u00e2t de ad\u00e2nc \u00een koor c\u0103 le \u015fuier\u0103-n m\u0103sea, \u015fi nu mi se pare corect ca ambele categorii s\u0103 se vaiete cu aceea\u015fi intensitate.<\/p>\n Nu \u015ftiu ce plm sacrificii a\u0163i f\u0103cut voi, dar mie nu mi-a\u0163i dat un chior ban de buzunar de la 14 ani \u00een sus, so, n-a\u0163i sim\u0163it nici a zecea parte din efortul de a fi p\u0103rinte, a\u015fa cum \u00eel simte cineva care chiar \u00ee\u015fi ia \u00een serios rolul de p\u0103rinte, so shut the fuck up.<\/p>\n Acum hai s\u0103 remarc\u0103m ipocrizia din scrisoarea ta.<\/p>\n Pe de o parte, c\u00e2nd maic\u0103-ta i-a f\u0103cut datorii lui taic\u0103-tu, e problema lor \u015fi nu te prive\u015fte. Dar exact \u00een paragraful t\u0103u urm\u0103tor afl\u0103m c\u0103 te jecm\u0103ne\u015fte \u015fi pe tine de bani, de parc\u0103 tu erai mama, nu ea. Deeeci, faptul c\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi prioritizeaz\u0103 geanta ei peste banchetul \u015fi albumul t\u0103u de absolvire, c\u0103 v\u0103 exploateaz\u0103 financiar pe am\u00e2ndoi \u015fi nu \u00eei pas\u0103 cum v\u0103 descurca\u0163i ulterior e o problem\u0103 care v\u0103 prive\u015fte EGAL \u015fi pe tine, \u015fi pe tat\u0103l t\u0103u. Nu e doar problema lor.<\/p>\n Poate de aceea are taic\u0103-tu reac\u0163ii bru\u015fte \u00een care te face dobitoac\u0103 \u015fi proast\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 motiv. R\u0103bufne\u015fte frustrarea pentru c\u0103, de\u015fi \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163i\u0163i aceea\u015fi problem\u0103, tu \u00eel tratezi ca \u015fi cum ar fi doar a lui \u015fi nu ar avea de ce s\u0103 te deranjeze.<\/p>\n Acum, \u015fi taic\u0103-tu e b\u0103rbat matur, \u00een toat\u0103 firea, ar trebui s\u0103-\u015fi ia cardul de salariu \u00eenapoi de la vac\u0103 (n-am cum s-o numesc altfel. Cine pizda m\u0103-sii, cu un salariu decent, are tupeul s\u0103 jecm\u0103neasc\u0103 banii de vacan\u0163\u0103 ai propriului copil?) \u015fi s\u0103-i zic\u0103: “F\u0103, pizdo. Av\u00e2nd \u00een vedere c\u0103 e\u015fti mai proast\u0103 dec\u00e2t prevede legea, unicii bani la care ai acces pentru spart aiurea sunt ai t\u0103i personali. \u00cen rest, noi avem de pl\u0103tit cheltuielile casei \u015fi alte nevoi so, jet, panaramo.”<\/p>\n Bine, cu cuvinte mai frumoase, dar cam asta s\u0103 fie ideea.<\/p>\n Tu ar trebui s\u0103 renun\u0163i s\u0103 mai t\u00e2nje\u015fti la aprobarea \u015fi confirmarea unui om care nu d\u0103 doi bani pe tine. Ba chiar \u00ee\u0163i ia, lol. Cu riscul s\u0103 m\u0103 repet: ce plm idioat\u0103 ia banii de vacan\u0163\u0103 ai copilului s\u0103 plece ea la mare? Maic\u0103-ta are zero instinct matern \u015fi recomand distan\u0163\u0103 emo\u0163ional\u0103 c\u00e2t mai ferm\u0103.<\/p>\n \u00cen schimb, cu taic\u0103-tu ar fi cazul s\u0103 te a\u015fezi la o bere \u015fi s\u0103 v\u0103 pune\u0163i pove\u015ftile cap la cap, ca doi adul\u0163i. Cu ce l-a jecm\u0103nit pe el, cu ce te-a jecm\u0103nit pe tine. Poate c\u0103 el nici nu \u015ftie c\u0103 maic\u0103-ta se \u00eemprumut\u0103 de bani la tine \u015fi apoi trece la bullying verbal s\u0103 nu pl\u0103teasc\u0103 \u00eenapoi. \u015ei \u00eempreun\u0103 s\u0103 decide\u0163i cum ac\u0163iona\u0163i.<\/p>\n Spune-i inclusiv grijile astea cu viitorul, facultatea, munca, etc., exact cum mi le-ai descris mie. Omul pare vag zdruncinat (c\u00e2nd te pomene\u015fti c\u0103 partenerul de via\u0163\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i face datorii, e o reac\u0163ie natural\u0103), dar altminteri nu m\u0103 izbe\u015fte din descrierea ta nici ca prost, nici ca tic\u0103los.<\/p>\n Termin\u0103 bacul cu bine \u015fi discut\u0103 cu tat\u0103l t\u0103u. El are nevoie de sprijinul t\u0103u, \u015fi tu de al lui. Dup\u0103 ce lua\u0163i o decizie comun\u0103 legat\u0103 de vaca toxic\u0103 \u015fi abuziv\u0103, a\u015ftept\u0103m continuarea pove\u015ftii.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>. Sau, mai nou, devino parte a comunit\u0103\u021bii mele pe Reddit<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. 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