{"id":17853,"date":"2019-06-27T09:43:15","date_gmt":"2019-06-27T06:43:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=17853"},"modified":"2019-06-27T09:44:48","modified_gmt":"2019-06-27T06:44:48","slug":"nu-putem-de-feministe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nu-putem-de-feministe\/","title":{"rendered":"“Nu putem de feministe”"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, Lucian M\u00e2ndru\u0163\u0103 a dat share la textul<\/a><\/strong> \u00een care analizasem abera\u0163iile baconschiene despre cum femeia era mai fericit\u0103 \u00eenaintea emancip\u0103rii, de vreme ce \u00eencasa complimente nedorite mai gra\u0163ios.<\/p>\n

De parc\u0103 modul \u00een care \u00eencasezi complimente ar fi rigla fericirii.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 at\u00e2t de importante sunt complimentele \u00een schema general\u0103 a nevoilor unui om pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00een comentarii a ap\u0103rut o alt\u0103 idee pe care o tot v\u0103d repetat\u0103 periodic \u015fi care \u00eemi face retina, timpanul \u015fi neuronii s\u0103 s\u00e2ngereze.<\/p>\n

“\u0102vai, din cauza feministelor nu putem fi cavaleri!”<\/p>\n

La minciuna asta au pus botul o mare parte din mizdele cu daddy issues \u015fi o repet\u0103 ma\u015final: oh, vai, b\u0103rba\u0163ii nu mai pot fi cavaleri pentru c\u0103 feministe, \u015fi atunci ei nu ne mai pup\u0103 m\u00e2nu\u0163ele \u015fi nu ne mai protejeaz\u0103 de baubau.”<\/p>\n

Dar via\u0163a real\u0103 ne dovede\u015fte contrariul.<\/p>\n

Sunt nenum\u0103ra\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i, \u015fi tineri, \u015fi b\u0103tr\u00e2ni, \u015fi de la ora\u015f, \u015fi de la \u0163ar\u0103, apar\u0163in\u00e2nd tuturor categoriilor sociale, care au o gentile\u0163e \u015fi o decen\u0163\u0103 natural\u0103. Care sunt pur \u015fi simplu oameni, pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa i-au n\u0103scut \u015fi i-au educat mamele lor. \u015ei care, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 le pese c\u0103 una e feminist\u0103, macist\u0103, nevast\u0103 tradi\u0163ional\u0103 sau mama lui \u015etefan cel Mare, au un mod de a comunica simplu, calm, lipsit de pupincurism dar totodat\u0103 de obr\u0103znicie toxic\u0103 \u015fi gre\u0163oas\u0103, \u015fi care sunt c\u00e2t se poate de cavaleri.<\/p>\n

Acum, exact ca ieri, \u015fi exact cum vor fi m\u00e2ine.<\/p>\n

De ce \u0103\u015ftia pot, \u015fi Bacon Sky \u015fi al\u0163ii ca el nu?<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 polite\u0163ea lor e un mod de a fi, nu o tentativ\u0103 de a extrage sex.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0102la care se vaiet\u0103 c\u0103 nu poate fi cavaler de feministe \u00een realitate nu are nici un chef s\u0103 fie cavaler, n-a fost niciodat\u0103 cavaler \u015fi o arde pe cavalerie strict c\u00e2t are \u00een plan s-o \u00eendese uneia.<\/p>\n

\u0102la nu era cavaler nici \u00eenainte s\u0103 existe feministele, doar c\u0103 atunci g\u0103sea alte scuze.<\/p>\n

\u0102la care nu poate fi cavaler de feministe nu vrea de fapt s\u0103 devin\u0103 cavaler, ci vrea s\u0103 plaseze vina asupra feministelor legat de faptul c\u0103 e un c\u00eecat cu ochi agasant.<\/p>\n

\u0102la care nu poate fi cavaler de feministe ur\u0103\u015fte de fapt feministele, pentru c\u0103 ele \u00eei spun de la obraz c\u0103 vr\u0103jeala lui ieftin\u0103 nu valoreaz\u0103 nimic.<\/p>\n

\u0102la care nu poate fi cavaler de feministe\u00a0 e ca o persoan\u0103 supraponderal\u0103 care ar pretinde c\u0103 nu poate sl\u0103bi pentru c\u0103 exist\u0103 cofet\u0103rii la ea \u00een ora\u015f.<\/p>\n

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Cu ce \u00eel \u00eempiedic\u0103 feministele pe Bacon Sky sau pe comentac sup\u0103rici 454 de la M\u00e2ndru\u0163\u0103 pe pagin\u0103 s\u0103 fie cavaler? Vin dup\u0103 el dac\u0103 se bag\u0103 s\u0103 salveze pui de c\u00e2ine bolnavi, s\u0103 \u0163ipe “nu, nu, nu, las\u0103-i acolo s\u0103 moar\u0103?”<\/p>\n

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Logic c\u0103 nu.<\/p>\n

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\u00cel opresc s\u0103 fac\u0103 o campanie de str\u00e2gere de fonduri pentru bolnavii de cancer?<\/p>\n

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Logic c\u0103 nu.<\/p>\n

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\u00cel opresc din a fi un iubit gentil \u015fi afectuos, un tat\u0103 grijuliu sau s\u0103 treac\u0103 b\u0103tr\u00e2nele strada?<\/p>\n

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Not in this lifetime.<\/p>\n

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Dimpotriv\u0103. De c\u00e2te ori am v\u0103zut un b\u0103rbat f\u0103c\u00e2nd ceva cu adev\u0103rat bun, am v\u0103zut feministe \u00een jurul lui ajut\u00e2ndu-l cu tot ce puteau, a\u015fa cum nu vor face niciodat\u0103 alt righterii cu o femeie, indiferent c\u00e2t de competent\u0103, de\u015fteapt\u0103, vizionar\u0103 \u015fi plin\u0103 de idei ar fi.<\/p>\n

Dimpotriv\u0103, alt righterii ar fi invidio\u015fi \u015fi competitivi \u015fi ar sabota-o cum ar putea, apoi ar face seara cenaclu s\u0103 se laude cu ce a \u00eencurcat-o fiecare.<\/p>\n

“P\u0103i dar stai, Lorena, noi ne refeream la cavalerismul f*tutului.”<\/p>\n

\u015ei ce \u00een\u0163elegem noi prin cavalerismul f*tutului?<\/p>\n

“C\u0103 eu te vr\u0103jesc \u00een fraze pompoase cu multe subordonate \u015fi tu dac\u0103 erai fericit\u0103 ca \u00een Evul Mediu mimai c\u0103 e\u015fti dat\u0103 total pe spate.”<\/p>\n

“DAR NU TE PLAC!”<\/p>\n

“Ba dac\u0103 erai fericit\u0103 ca \u00een Evul Mediu m\u0103 pl\u0103ceai volens – nolens.”<\/p>\n

Genul \u0103sta de “cavalerism” mi se pare at\u00e2t de gre\u0163os, at\u00e2t de inutil din toate punctele de vedere, at\u00e2t de vampirizant din punct de vedere al timpului, de n-am cuvinte.<\/p>\n

Vezi un om care-\u0163i place. Tremur\u0103 inima-n tine. Emo\u0163ia e vizibil\u0103 din avion. Cine plm are nevoie de fraze?<\/p>\n

Numai oamenii ca Bacon Sky \u015fi Neam\u0163u, care n-au pl\u0103cut niciodat\u0103 sincer vreunei femei, au impresia c\u0103 vr\u0103jeala proast\u0103 \u0163ine loc de emo\u0163ie \u015fi dac\u0103 lipse\u015fti femeia de op\u0163iuni po\u0163i folosi presiunea social\u0103 ca instrument de \u015fantaj s\u0103 extragi **zd\u0103 de la ea.<\/p>\n

M\u0103 rog, **zd\u0103 po\u0163i s\u0103 atragi cu aceste instrumente. Pentru c\u0103 sunt multe oi proaste nesigure care beh\u0103ie c\u0103 “vooor s\u0103 se simt\u0103 protejaaaateeee”.<\/p>\n

(De cine \u015fi de ce?<\/p>\n

Nu conteaz\u0103\u0103\u0103\u0103. De Mercuuuur retrograaad. De dezechilibruuul chakreloooor.)<\/p>\n

Dar nu vei atrage niciodat\u0103 loialitate \u015fi ata\u015fament.<\/p>\n

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S\u0103 rezum\u0103m, Bacon Sky \u015fi \u0103ia ca el nu VOR s\u0103 fie cavaleri. Nu au \u00een\u0163elegerea profund\u0103 a ideii. Dac\u0103 e s\u0103-i compar\u0103m totu\u015fi cu ceva medieval, ei sunt mai degrab\u0103 pr\u0103d\u0103torii \u0103ia migratori care vin, iau \u015fi dispar.<\/p>\n

M\u0103car t\u0103tarii lui Ginghis Han nu au avut spoiala de cultur\u0103 s\u0103 afirme c\u0103 ei se visau cavaleri, dar plm, cet\u0103\u0163ile sunt de vin\u0103, c\u0103 au ziduri \u015fi asta \u00eei \u00eempiedic\u0103 s\u0103 dea n\u0103val\u0103.<\/p>\n

P\u0103i, tocmai. Cavalerul nu d\u0103 n\u0103val\u0103 in the first place, pentru c\u0103 \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103 cetatea aia e o comunitate de sine st\u0103t\u0103toare, care nu-i datoreaz\u0103 lui nimic.<\/p>\n

Iar unul care chiar este cavaler nici m\u0103car nu \u015fi-ar pune problema s\u0103 m\u0103soare fericirea femeii dup\u0103 reac\u0163ia ei la complimente. Pentru c\u0103 ar \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103 un compliment \u00ee\u015fi are locul \u00eentre oameni care au deja o anumit\u0103 \u00eenclina\u0163ie RECIPROC\u0102.<\/p>\n

Aten\u0163ie: RECIPROC\u0102.<\/p>\n

S-a citit RECIPROC\u0102?<\/p>\n

Ceva \u00eemi spune c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 mai repet: RECIPROC\u0102. RECIPROC\u0102. RECIPROC\u0102. RECIPROC\u0102.<\/p>\n

Presupunerea de “ajunge s\u0103 vreau eu, c\u0103 te pot agasa, h\u0103r\u0163ui, umili verbal, irita, min\u0163i p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eemi cedezi” este cel mai necavaleresc lucru din lume. Iar \u0103la care o enun\u0163\u0103 nu va fi cavaler nici dac\u0103 de m\u00e2ine mu\u0163i toate feministele \u00een lazaret \u015fi la\u015fi o societate de lupi \u015fi g\u0103ini, cum a fost ea tradi\u0163ional.<\/p>\n

Dimpotriv\u0103. Abia atunci \u00ee\u015fi da arama pe fa\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

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