{"id":17983,"date":"2019-07-13T11:21:19","date_gmt":"2019-07-13T08:21:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=17983"},"modified":"2019-07-13T11:21:19","modified_gmt":"2019-07-13T08:21:19","slug":"posta-redactiei-am-intalnit-si-barbati-generosi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-am-intalnit-si-barbati-generosi\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: Am \u00eent\u00e2lnit \u0219i b\u0103rba\u021bi genero\u0219i"},"content":{"rendered":"

De data asta, po\u0219ta redac\u021biei va fi atipic\u0103, pentru c\u0103 cititorii de Trollywood sunt pe toane. Sau \u00eemi afund\u0103 mailboxul cu probleme personale, sau nu trimit nimic cu s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2nile.<\/p>\n

\u00cen schimb, zilele astea am avut o infla\u021bie de mesaje private. Pentru c\u0103 degeaba \u00ee\u021bi pui intro \u0219i dai status din trei \u00een trei zile: “Nu trimite mesaje private!”, lumea va ignora asta cu senin\u0103tate. Dac\u0103 e tehnic posibil, ce conteaz\u0103 dac\u0103 cel\u0103lalt nu vrea?<\/p>\n

Dar, cum eu sunt mereu omul solu\u0163iilor, vom trata \u00een c\u00e2te un articol temele de mesaje private care mi s-au p\u0103rut interesante.
\n\u015ei nu “cf p\u0103pu\u015fea, te antalne\u015fti” nu e printre ele. N-am cont pe Tinder \u015fi \u00een continuare m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 cititori, nu orbiteri.<\/p>\n

Legat de articolul meu cu b\u0103rba\u0163ii de alt\u0103dat\u0103, am primit urm\u0103torul mesaj:<\/p>\n

Exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i minuna\u0163i, care las\u0103 femeile s\u0103-\u015fi fac\u0103 joburile lor \u015fi care vin s\u0103 completeze veniturile acestora, din drag \u015fi din iubire, care le fac cadouri \u015fi le plimb\u0103 prin lume.
\nExist\u0103, rar, \u015fi o educa\u0163ie tradi\u0163ional\u0103. Dar exist\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n

X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n

Ok, \u015ftiu c\u0103 exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i care te acoper\u0103 de bani \u015fi cadouri, \u015fi nu se poart\u0103 ca porcii pentru c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i ofer\u0103 bani \u015fi cadouri. Dar \u0163in s\u0103 aduc prima obiec\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

A) Acest fel de a fi nu \u0163ine de o educa\u0163ie tradi\u0163ional\u0103, ci de posibilit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi de caracter. <\/strong>Nu era ca \u015fi cum \u00een vechime erau to\u0163i genero\u015fi \u015fi buni, \u015fi acum sunt to\u0163i rup\u0163i \u00een koor \u015fi m\u00e2nc\u0103tori de sub unghii. Pu\u0163inii donatori b\u0103rba\u0163i ai acestui blog sunt, \u00een majoritate de 80%, tineri. Masculii trecu\u0163i de 40 sunt de cele mai multe ori ocupa\u0163i s\u0103-mi explice \u00een sec\u0163iunea de comentarii rolul meu biologic de femeie: crati\u0163a, f\u0103tatul \u015fi s\u0103 z\u00e2mbesc \u00een poze.<\/p>\n

Deci a echivala generozitatea unui b\u0103rbat cu educa\u021bia tradi\u021bional\u0103 e prima \u0219i cea mai grav\u0103 gre\u0219eal\u0103 din acest scurt mesaj.<\/p>\n

Zg\u00e2rci\u021bi lamentabili au existat \u00een trecut g\u00e2rl\u0103, \u0219i cum educa\u021bia tradi\u021bional\u0103 era pe linia: femeia s\u0103 fie supus\u0103 \u0219i toate eforturile ei \u021bi se cuvin gratis, mai erai \u0219i legat\u0103 de ei pe via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n

Acum, dac\u0103 nu-\u021bi convine cum te trateaz\u0103 X, te ridici pur \u0219i simplu \u0219i pleci, iar asta e adev\u0103rata putere.<\/p>\n

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B) Accentul din afirma\u021bia ta este pe RAR.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Da, exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u021bi care te \u0219i \u00eencurajeaz\u0103 s\u0103 faci ce-\u021bi place \u0219i te \u0219i bombardeaz\u0103 cu bani. Dar sunt RARI. FOARTE RARI. Cele mai multe femei nu vor \u00eent\u00e2lni un astfel de b\u0103rbat niciodat\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0218i atunci, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 educ\u0103m fetele c\u0103 undeva la cap\u0103t de curcubeu e un b\u0103rbat cu mul\u021bi bani care va face totul pentru ele, nu mai bine le educ\u0103m s\u0103 se descurce singure \u00een via\u021b\u0103, \u0219i dac\u0103 de undeva apare acest b\u0103rbat, s\u0103 fie mai degrab\u0103 pe post de cadou din partea vie\u021bii dec\u00e2t de “ce te vezi f\u0103c\u00e2nd \u00een urm\u0103torii cinci ani”?<\/p>\n

S\u0103 te bazezi c\u0103 apare acest tip de b\u0103rbat e ca \u015fi cum ai face planuri de viitor bazate pe speran\u0163a c\u0103 o s\u0103 c\u00e2\u015ftigi la Loto.<\/p>\n

OK, e posibil, dar c\u00e2t e de probabil?<\/p>\n

Faptul c\u0103 ne cre\u015ftem feti\u0163ele \u00een ideea c\u0103 fiecare dintre ele merit\u0103 un astfel de F\u0103t – Frumos e ca o condamnare la nefericire. Cam ca atunci c\u00e2nd educ\u0103m b\u0103ie\u021beii c\u0103 fiecare dintre ei merit\u0103 o iubire necondi\u021bionat\u0103, pe care o pot pretinde cu tupeu de la necunoscute.<\/p>\n

Feti\u021bele o s\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lneasc\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i cu mai pu\u0163ine posibilit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi mai pu\u0163in\u0103 dare de m\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi o s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 s\u0103-l h\u0103r\u0163uiasc\u0103 s\u0103 fie F\u0103t – Frumosul din mit. \u015ei nu se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla.<\/p>\n

Feti\u0163ele devenite femei vor tr\u0103i \u00een profund\u0103 nefericire, \u015fi de vin\u0103 va fi educa\u0163ia lor. Iar asta pentru c\u0103:<\/p>\n

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C) Acest tip de generozitate vine de la sine, nu se \u015fantajeaz\u0103 \u015fi nu se impune.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Unii, rari, te r\u0103sfa\u0163\u0103 \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i cump\u0103r\u0103 tot ce vrei. Al\u0163ii nu.<\/p>\n

Dar generozitatea e genul acela de chestie care d\u0103 bine doar dac\u0103 vine din ini\u0163iativa celui \u00een cauz\u0103. Dac\u0103 trebuie s\u0103-l str\u00e2ngi tu cu u\u015fa pe individ s\u0103 marcheze banul, exist\u0103 nu una, ci dou\u0103 consecin\u0163e negative.<\/p>\n

a) \u0103la r\u0103m\u00e2ne cu perpetue frustr\u0103ri c\u0103 \u0103vaaai, te-ai folosit de el \u0219i de banii lui, \u0219i femeile e toate profitoare \u0219i curve. Mai grav, r\u0103m\u00e2ne cu de-astea chiar dac\u0103 n-a marcat nimic.<\/p>\n

b) Nici \u0163ie n-o s\u0103-\u0163i cad\u0103 bine un cadou extras cu pistolul la t\u00e2mpl\u0103. O s\u0103 suni ca o japi\u021b\u0103 entitled \u0219i o s\u0103 te sim\u021bi ca \u0219i cum ai extrage m\u0103sele de minte cu un cle\u0219ti\u0219or de rufe. Nimic nu ucide erotismul mai crunt dec\u00e2t s\u0103 tragi de un calic.<\/p>\n

D) Acest tratament d\u0103 o dependen\u021b\u0103 accentuat\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nu ai nici o garan\u021bie c\u0103 omul care arunc\u0103 \u00een tine cu bani \u0219i cadouri nu va \u00eentoarce foaia la un anumit moment dat \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dezv\u0103luie ce ar trebui s\u0103 faci tu s\u0103 te revan\u0219ezi. Hint: lucruri care nu-\u021bi plac. Sau s\u0103 intri \u00een genul de rela\u021bie \u00een care el comand\u0103 tot ce faci.<\/p>\n

Dar s\u0103 presupunem de dragul dialogului c\u0103 nu e cazul, c\u0103 le ofer\u0103 pe toate strict din iubire fa\u021b\u0103 de tine \u0219i c\u0103 are cele mai nobile inten\u021bii.<\/p>\n

De te faci c\u00e2nd \u00eei trece, \u0219i dispare un val de bani, cadouri \u0219i aten\u021bii cu care te-ai obi\u0219nuit \u0219i pe care \u00eencepuse\u0219i s\u0103 mizezi?<\/p>\n

Mai ales dac\u0103 e\u0219ti o persoan\u0103 slab\u0103, rela\u021bia e extrem de vulnerabil\u0103 la abuz, pentru c\u0103 vei \u00eenchide ochii la din ce \u00een ce mai multe, s\u0103 nu pierzi beneficiile.<\/p>\n

E ca un job din care po\u021bi fi concediat zi de zi \u0219i nu exist\u0103 codul muncii s\u0103 te apere.<\/p>\n

Nu mai bine \u00ee\u021bi asiguri cariera, s\u0103 ai un venit stabil, \u0219i s\u0103 nu ai de at\u00e2rnat dup\u0103 bun\u0103voin\u021ba altuia?<\/p>\n

E o tem\u0103 serioas\u0103 de medita\u021bie.<\/p>\n

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