Am \u0219i eu un mare bai \u00eel las aici \u0219i decizi tu dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi.<\/strong><\/p>\n Am o problem\u0103 cu gagic\u0103-miu, \u00een sensul c\u0103 m\u0103 simt mai mult m\u0103-sa dec\u00e2t femeia lui.<\/strong><\/p>\n Cum \u00eel conving s\u0103 dea \u0219i el 2 bani pe casa \u00een care st\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 pun\u0103 osul la treab\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 fac\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 simt ca o muiere cic\u0103litoare?<\/strong><\/p>\n Exemplu: vineri diminea\u021b\u0103, \u00eenainte s\u0103 plec la birou, pun hainele la sp\u0103lat.<\/strong> Sau, \u00een fiecare zi c\u00e2nd ajung acas\u0103, g\u0103sesc chiuveta plin\u0103. M\u0103 apuc s\u0103 sp\u0103l vasele, omul se ia la har\u021b\u0103 c\u0103 de ce nu m\u0103 pot relaxa \u0219i de ce trebuie neap\u0103rat sp\u0103late.<\/strong><\/p>\n (\u00cenchipuie-\u021bi cum miroase o buc\u0103t\u0103rie plin\u0103 de vase murdare, unde \u0219i fum\u0103m, c\u00e2nd afar\u0103 \u00ees 36 de grade).<\/strong><\/p>\n Mai am exemple din astea. Prin\u021bul meu \u0219i-a luat o frumuse\u021be de husky, care las\u0103 p\u0103r peste tot. Ghici cine m\u0103tura zilnic dup\u0103 ea? Eu.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0218i mai \u0219i pute. \u00cel rog s\u0103 o duc\u0103 la r\u00e2u s\u0103 o spele (a\u0219 duce-o eu, dar nu am nicio \u0219ans\u0103 s\u0103 o sp\u0103l, c\u0103 nu-i place), zice “dada, o duc \u00een weekend”. Suntem \u00een iulie \u0219i o dat\u0103 nu a dus-o.<\/strong><\/p>\n I-am zis azi s\u0103 m\u0103 ajute la cur\u0103\u021benie, a zis c\u0103 nu are chef. C\u0103 poate mai t\u00e2rziu. \u0218i dac\u0103 m\u0103 deranjeaz\u0103 a\u0219a de tare s\u0103 cur\u0103\u021b eu.<\/strong><\/p>\n P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103 s-a dat pe brazd\u0103, dar a trebuit s\u0103 dau o tur\u0103 dup\u0103 el s\u0103 pun la loc aspiratorul, s\u0103 arunc apa de la mop etc etc.<\/strong><\/p>\n Dar s-a sup\u0103rat pe mine c\u0103 i-am zis c\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00eei mai g\u0103sesc o data penele de chitar\u0103 \u00eempr\u0103\u0219tiate, \u00eei le arunc.<\/strong> Sau dac\u0103 fumeaz\u0103 \u00een baie, las\u0103 mucurile pe marginea c\u0103zii.<\/strong><\/p>\n Dar eu \u00ees de c\u0103cat, c\u0103 \u00eei vorbesc c\u0103 unui copil.<\/strong><\/p>\n Amu, \u00ees obosit\u0103, jur. Prea obosita s\u0103 vorbesc cu el (\u0219i nici nu mai prea am r\u0103bdare s\u0103 vorbesc frumos).<\/strong><\/p>\n El c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 1200 de lei pe lun\u0103. Lucreaz\u0103 de acas\u0103 3 ore\/zi cu SEO.<\/strong><\/p>\n Eu ajung pe la 1000euro cu stat la birou 8 ore + \u00eenc\u0103 2 drumul p\u00e2n\u0103 acolo c\u0103 Timi\u0219oara \u0219i Robu e de c\u0103cat. Din care aproape jumate mi se duc pe chirie, facturi, \u00eentre\u021binere. C\u0103 nu mi se pare fair s\u0103-i cer lui, c\u00e2nd c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 a\u0219a pu\u021bin.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mi-am mai luat un proiect acuma, lucrez \u00een weekend, ca s\u0103 am bani de o vam\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00ces nebun\u0103 c\u0103 m\u0103 a\u0219tept de la el s\u0103 compenseze cumva faza asta cu banii printr-un pic de grij\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de cas\u0103?<\/strong><\/p>\n Jur c\u0103 \u00een 80% din timp nu m\u0103 deranjeaz\u0103 faza cu salariul. Aia e, plm, \u00ees bani \u0219i nu pot s\u0103-i pun \u00eenaintea unei rela\u021bii.<\/strong><\/p>\n + C\u0103 omul face site-uri moka toat\u0103 ziua c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021be \u0219i s\u0103 pun\u0103 la portofoliu, s\u0103 se angajeze \u00een IT, s\u0103 nu se mai chinuie pe salar a\u0219a mizer. \u0218i \u00ees m\u00e2ndr\u0103 de el, a\u0219a c\u0103 nu mi se pare o prioritate s\u0103 se angajeze acum. Dac\u0103 \u00eei iese treab\u0103, o s\u0103-mi par\u0103 r\u0103u c\u0103 i-am tot f\u0103cut scandal.<\/strong><\/p>\n Dar dup\u0103 certuri din astea, c\u0103 cine spal\u0103 buda, parc\u0103 simt un pic de r\u00e2c\u0103 acolo \u00een suflet.<\/strong><\/p>\n Am \u00eencercat s\u0103-i fac un calendar din \u0103la de “uite, s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na asta speli tu vasele \u0219i eu duc gunoiul (c\u0103 \u0219i de \u0103la uit\u0103. \u00cel rog s\u0103-l scoat\u0103 c\u00e2nd scoate c\u00e2inele, dar uit\u0103. \u00cel duc tot eu) dar nu-l bag\u0103 \u00een seam\u0103”.<\/strong><\/p>\n Am \u00eencercat s\u0103 nu mai str\u00e2ng dup\u0103 el \u0219i s\u0103 nu mai fac curat, dar am cedat nervos dup\u0103 vreo 2 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni. M-am luat \u0219i am stat la o prieten\u0103 o perioad\u0103, dar tot eu am cur\u0103\u021bat p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cen afar\u0103 de c\u0103catul \u0103sta, e un b\u0103iat de zah\u0103r. Cu iubire, cump\u0103rat de ciocolat\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00ees pe stop, \u021binut \u00een bra\u021be c\u00e2nd pl\u00e2ng, mers la magazin c\u0103 mie mi-i lene. D’astea. \u0218i \u00eemi place s\u0103 hang Out cu el. E fain.<\/strong><\/p>\n Zi \u0219i tu. Cum \u00eel trezesc la realitate?<\/strong><\/p>\n Am \u00eencercat cu frumosul, cu ur\u00e2tul, cu zbierete, cu pupici, cu de toate.<\/strong><\/p>\n Dar recent \u00ees extenuat\u0103 \u0219i prefer s\u0103 cur\u0103\u021b pe jos cu limba dec\u00e2t s\u0103 mai ajung o dat\u0103 acas\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 v\u0103d c\u0103 iar a uitat s\u0103 scoat\u0103 hainele din ma\u0219in\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n L-a\u0219 trimite la m\u0103-sa, dar n-are (long story)<\/strong><\/p>\n Plm, ce mult am scris (dac\u0103 ai rezistat eroic p\u00e2n\u0103 aici, felicit\u0103ri, e\u0219ti o femeie mai cu r\u0103bdare dec\u00e2t mine).<\/strong><\/p>\n A\u0219 aprecia dac\u0103 m-ai \u021bine anonim\u0103 pe blog (\u00een caz c\u0103 ajung p\u00e2n\u0103 acolo)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0218i dac\u0103 nu r\u0103spunzi, mersi c\u0103 exi\u0219ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n *<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X,<\/p>\n \u0218tii c\u0103 exist\u0103 \u0219i Carrefour Online care \u00ee\u021bi livreaz\u0103 ciocolat\u0103 \u0219i orice altceva la u\u0219\u0103 c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti pe stop, tot tu pl\u0103te\u0219ti \u0219i nici nu-\u021bi face mizerie \u00een cas\u0103?<\/p>\n Honestly, simt c\u0103 tu mi-ai scris pur \u0219i simplu s\u0103-\u021bi confirm ceea ce aveai nevoie s\u0103 mai auzi de la un om: e cazul s\u0103-i dai papucii individului.<\/p>\n Nu v\u0103d nici o problem\u0103 \u00een faptul c\u0103 ave\u021bi exact opusul familiei tradi\u021bionale: tu aduci banii acas\u0103 \u0219i el e nevasta \u00eentre\u021binut\u0103. Dar v\u0103d o problem\u0103 major\u0103 \u00een faptul c\u0103 el nu e dispus s\u0103 fac\u0103 nici cel mai m\u0103runt efort. Nevasta tradi\u021bional\u0103 \u021binea casa lun\u0103, la schimb cu faptul c\u0103 avea cazare, mas\u0103, \u00eentre\u021binere \u0219i etc. gratuit. \u00cen cazul vostru, tu e\u0219ti \u0219i providerul, e\u0219ti \u0219i partenerul domestic, so… care mai e rostul lui?<\/p>\n *<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 \u00eei spui unui om o dat\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 anumite lucruri \u0219i nu le face: poate a avut alte treburi. Dac\u0103 \u00eei spui de dou\u0103 ori: poate a fost ocupat. Dar dac\u0103 \u00eei faci painfully clear s\u0103 fac\u0103 anumite lucruri \u0219i nu le face: VORBIM DE UN REFUZ.<\/p>\n \u0102sta REFUZ\u0102 s\u0103 fac\u0103 treburile casei, chiar dac\u0103 nu spune “NU”. Pur \u015fi simplu, NU VREA s\u0103 coopereze.<\/p>\n \u015ei av\u00e2nd \u00een vedere c\u0103 tu dai \u015fi banul, rela\u0163ia asta a voastr\u0103 \u00eemi sun\u0103 a cazul clasic de “\u015fi-a g\u0103sit proasta”.<\/p>\n *<\/p>\n Rela\u0163iile “\u015fi-a g\u0103sit proasta” arat\u0103 \u00een felul urm\u0103tor: g\u0103se\u015fte gigel pe una. Aia bag\u0103 tot efortul \u00een rela\u0163ie. Face de una singur\u0103 toate muncile, \u015fi pe cele care presupun venit, \u015fi pe cele domestice. Iar lui gigel i se pare c\u0103 plua lui haurit\u0103 e at\u00e2t de valoroas\u0103, c\u0103 I SE CUVINE TOTUL.<\/p>\n De aceea, orice efort al t\u0103u pentru a comunica, \u015fi frumos, \u015fi ur\u00e2t, \u015fi subliminal, \u015fi direct, se love\u015fte de un zid. PENTRU C\u0102 TIPUL REFUZ\u0102 S\u0102 COOPEREZE.<\/p>\n Singura solu\u0163ie pe care o v\u0103d este:<\/p>\n a) un ultimatum de desp\u0103r\u0163ire.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n De acum, \u00eei la\u015fi diminea\u0163a list\u0103 cu ce treburi are de f\u0103cut \u00een cas\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 ajungi tu acas\u0103. \u015ei dac\u0103 nu g\u0103se\u015fti treburile f\u0103cute, rupi rela\u0163ia.<\/p>\n Dar nu \u00eel iei cu miau-miau, cu cum \u0163i s-ar pl\u0103cea \u0163ie s\u0103 \u0163i se vorbeasc\u0103 \u015fi alte dulceg\u0103rii. La nivelul \u0103sta de nesim\u0163ire \u015fi misecuvenism, trebuie da\u0163i jos din pod mor\u0163ii de mam\u0103. Cum adic\u0103 s\u0103 pleci tu de la tine de acas\u0103, unde pl\u0103te\u015fti tu tot, s\u0103 se prind\u0103 vita c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 spele vasele????<\/p>\n b) rupi rela\u0163ia.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Ceva \u00eemi spune c\u0103, la entitlementul de care sufer\u0103 gigel, va fi sub demnitatea lui \u00eenchipuit\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 treburile din lista pe care i-o la\u015fi \u015fi \u00eel vei zbura din cas\u0103.<\/p>\n Nu e treaba ta c\u0103 nu are unde s\u0103 se duc\u0103. Nu e responsabilitatea ta. Nu e\u015fti Serviciul de Asisten\u0163\u0103 Social\u0103 \u015fi nici mama r\u0103ni\u0163ilor, iar gigel are nevoie de ni\u015fte lec\u0163ii de via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi de ni\u015fte muie karmic\u0103, s\u0103 se prind\u0103 c\u0103 nimeni nu-i datoreaz\u0103 s\u0103 \u015fi pl\u0103teasc\u0103 \u00eentre\u0163inerea, s\u0103 \u015fi spele vase dup\u0103 curul lui slinos.<\/p>\n P\u0103rerea mea e c\u0103 dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva luni, se va \u00eentoarce cu botul pe labe, umil \u015fi sp\u0103sit, \u015fi cu skilluri de home economics la care nici n-ai fi visat. \u015ei chiar dac\u0103 nu o face: singur\u0103tatea e oric\u00e2nd mai bun\u0103 dec\u00e2t un mascul inutil din toate punctele de vedere, setat doar pe modurile \u00een care poate profita de tine.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? 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\n8 ore mai t\u00e2rziu m\u0103 \u00eentorc, \u0219i ce v\u0103d? P\u0103i viteazul meu nici m\u0103car nu a ap\u0103sat pe buton s\u0103 treac\u0103 pe ciclul de cl\u0103tire, apai s\u0103 le \u0219i scoat\u0103 s\u0103 le \u00eentind\u0103 pe sfoar\u0103? M-am ocupat eu (+ \u00eemp\u0103turit \u0219i pus hainele la loc).<\/strong><\/p>\n
\nCrede-m\u0103, le adun \u00een fiecare sear\u0103 c\u00e2nd vin de la birou \u0219i \u00eei zic frumos(cum mi-ar pl\u0103cea mie s\u0103 mi se zic\u0103) s\u0103 le str\u00e2ng\u0103 dup\u0103 ce nu mai c\u00e2nt\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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