{"id":18111,"date":"2019-07-31T12:48:39","date_gmt":"2019-07-31T09:48:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18111"},"modified":"2019-07-31T12:48:39","modified_gmt":"2019-07-31T09:48:39","slug":"stiati-ca-si-barbatii-sunt-abuzati","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/stiati-ca-si-barbatii-sunt-abuzati\/","title":{"rendered":"\u015etia\u0163i c\u0103 \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt abuza\u0163i?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Zilele astea, opinia public\u0103 are dou\u0103 subiecte mari \u015fi late:
\na) cazul tinerei Alexandra: reflectare tragic\u0103 a condi\u0163iei femeii \u00een societatea tradi\u0163ional\u0103 rom\u00e2neasc\u0103: perpetuu umilit\u0103, minimalizat\u0103, h\u0103r\u0163uit\u0103, neglijat\u0103, niciodat\u0103 luat\u0103 \u00een serios, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd nu mai ai ce salva.
\nb) incompeten\u0163a \u015fi corup\u0163ia jegoas\u0103 a institu\u0163iilor statului, nesim\u0163irea f\u0103\u0163i\u015f\u0103 \u015fi sfidarea obscen\u0103 a organelor fa\u0163\u0103 de cet\u0103\u0163eanul care le pl\u0103te\u015fte salariile. <\/p>\n

Aceste subiecte sunt importante, reale \u015fi dureroase, \u015fi mi se pare important s\u0103 vorbim despre ele, s\u0103 scriem despre ele, s\u0103 lupt\u0103m pentru schimbare, s\u0103 facem reclama\u0163ii peste reclama\u0163ii pentru orice func\u0163ionar care nu d\u0103 dovad\u0103 de o conduit\u0103 adecvat\u0103, s\u0103 for\u0163\u0103m prin atitudine o schimbare. <\/p>\n

Despre temele astea, \u00eens\u0103, scriu deja mul\u0163i colegi ai mei bloggeri, nu simt nevoia s\u0103 elaborez. <\/p>\n

Vreau s\u0103 atac un alt subiect, a c\u0103rui frecven\u0163\u0103 \u00eemi inspir\u0103 o iritare greu de descris. <\/p>\n

\u015ei anume: urm\u0103resc subiectul Alexandra pe sites de \u015ftiri, pe bloguri, pe pagini de influencers, pe oriunde se poate afla ceva nou. \u015ei peste tot, absolut peste tot e c\u00e2te un comentac, uneori doi, ba chiar trei cu: “Adic\u0103, ce b\u0103rba\u0163ii nu sunt abuza\u0163i sau cum?” <\/p>\n

Serios? <\/p>\n

\u0102sta e momentul \u00een care s\u0103 cau\u0163i s\u0103 faci s\u0103 fie chestia asta despre tine? <\/p>\n

Un criminal \u00een serie ucidea adolescente, a\u015fa, de un capri\u0163 de un pamplezir. Versiune alternativ\u0103: le r\u0103pea \u015fi le trimitea spre exploatare sexual\u0103 \u00een str\u0103in\u0103tate. \u015ei exact \u0103sta e momentul c\u00e2nd tu trebuie s\u0103 te ba\u0163i cu c\u0103r\u0103mida \u00een piept c\u0103 s\u0103 nu uit\u0103m c\u0103 \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt victime? <\/p>\n

\u0102\u015ftia sunt genul absolut funest de idiot b\u0103tut \u00een cap care, dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i arde casa \u015fi pl\u00e2ngi \u00eentre ruine, vin s\u0103 te acuze c\u0103 nu pl\u00e2ngi \u015fi pentru c\u0103 le-a ars lor hambarul anul trecut \u00eentr-o joi. <\/p>\n

Sunt genul absolut mizerabil de idiot b\u0103tut \u00een cap care, c\u00e2nd tu pl\u00e2ngi c\u0103 ai fost concediat, vin s\u0103 se \u00eenfoaie: “Tu m\u0103car ai fost concediat, pe mine nici m\u0103car nu m-au chemat la interviul de angajare, ar trebui s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi pentru mine!” <\/p>\n

Sunt genul absolut sc\u00e2rbos de idiot irecuperabil care nimeresc la o \u00eenmorm\u00e2ntare. A murit tat\u0103l de familie, s\u0103 zicem. Se bag\u0103 peste familia \u00een doliu \u015fi \u00eencep pe un ton ar\u0163\u0103gos: “Dar de faptul c\u0103 a murit \u015fi taic\u0103-miu acum patru ani nu v\u0103 pas\u0103. Discriminareee!”. <\/p>\n

Sper c\u0103 am dat trei exemple suficient de concludente care s\u0103 reflecte incapacitatea tragic\u0103 a imbecilului b\u0103tut \u00een cap de a procesa faptul c\u0103, \u00een momentul unei nenorociri prezente, omul se concentreaz\u0103 pe nenorocirea prezent\u0103, nu pe analiza nenorocirilor din cele mai vechi timpuri \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een prezent. <\/p>\n

\u015ei c\u0103 nu totul este despre persoana lor infinit de enervant\u0103 \u015fi de cer\u015fetoare de aten\u0163ie. <\/p>\n

\u015ei c\u0103 nu e cazul s\u0103 se victimizeze ei brusc pe buza unei nenorociri c\u0103 nu sunt suficient de victime. <\/p>\n

P\u00e2n\u0103 una-alta, femeia e \u00eenc\u0103 cet\u0103\u0163ean de rang secund \u00een aceast\u0103 \u0163ar\u0103 idioat\u0103. \u00cenc\u0103 e luat\u0103 la mi\u015fto, \u00eenc\u0103 nu e tratat\u0103 ca o voce de sine st\u0103t\u0103toare, \u00eenc\u0103 i se inventeaz\u0103 diverse pretexte denigratoare ca scuze pentru tratamentul inuman: “dac\u0103 e proast\u0103 \/ curv\u0103”, \u00eenc\u0103 e b\u0103tut\u0103 acas\u0103, \u00eenc\u0103 e agresat\u0103 pe strad\u0103, \u00eenc\u0103 e luat\u0103 pe sus \u015fi v\u00e2ndut\u0103. <\/p>\n

ASTA ESTE REALITATEA. <\/p>\n

C\u0103, periodic, apare \u015fi un fl\u0103c\u0103u mai sub\u0163irel care \u00eent\u00e2lne\u015fte o goril\u0103 abuziv\u0103? Sure. Spune\u0163i-mi povestea lui, DAR APLICAT, CU DATE CONCRETE, \u015fi promit s\u0103 m\u0103 revolt din r\u0103runchi. <\/p>\n

C\u0103 dac\u0103 fl\u0103c\u0103ul mai sub\u0163irel e abuzat tot de un gher\u0163oi cu ceaf\u0103 tripl\u0103: oops, ghinion, tough shit, vorbim tot de patriarhat \u015fi de masculinitate toxic\u0103, fie c\u0103 v\u0103 convine, fie c\u0103 nu. Masculinitatea toxic\u0103 se reflect\u0103 \u00een faptul c\u0103 gher\u0163oiul consider\u0103 c\u0103 cele 50 de kilograme \u00een plus (\u015fi tona de tupeu m\u00e2rl\u0103nesc) \u00eel justific\u0103 s\u0103 abuzeze fizic \u015fi moral pe al\u0163ii. <\/p>\n

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P\u00e2n\u0103 una alta, c\u00e2nd vine vorba de victime masculine reale, societatea rom\u00e2neasc\u0103 se achit\u0103 onorabil de sarcina de a suferi echitabil. <\/p>\n

Lu\u0103m un caz concret, \u00een care victimele au fost de ambele sexe: Colectiv. Toate victimele, indiferent de sex, au fost depl\u00e2nse \u00een egal\u0103 m\u0103sur\u0103, s-a scris la fel de mult \u00een memoria lor, indiferent de ce cifr\u0103 ini\u0163ial\u0103 purtau \u00een buletin. Nu s-a depus o jerb\u0103 de flori \u00een plus pentru fete \u015fi un omagiu \u00een minus pentru b\u0103ie\u0163i. <\/p>\n

Lu\u0103m alt caz concret, c\u00e2nd ne-am luat to\u0163i gaze \u00een frez\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 discriminare de gen, num\u0103r \u015fi caz: 10 august. A\u015fijderea, b\u0103rba\u0163ii care au avut de suferit au primit exact aceea\u015fi empatie, sus\u0163inere moral\u0103, iubire \u015fi reports pe Facebook de la postaci ca \u015fi femeile.<\/p>\n

Lu\u0103m al treilea caz concret: Cazul t\u00e2n\u0103rului motociclist Bogdan Gigin\u0103, care a murit \u00eentr-un accident rutier pentru c\u0103 Gabriel Oprea avea chef de plimb\u0103ri nocturne \u00een ploaie prin h\u00e2rtoape, cu zero considera\u0163ie pentru siguran\u0163a echipei lui.
\nTot un caz de masculinitate toxic\u0103: un jeg de om are impresia c\u0103 un moft al lui e mai important dec\u00e2t via\u0163a altora.
\nA fost b\u0103iatul \u0103sta depl\u00e2ns s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni \u00een \u015fir pe Facebook? <\/p>\n

A fost. <\/p>\n

So. Ia hai mar\u015f \u00een direc\u0163ia general\u0103 a pulii mele cu nevoia de aten\u0163ie \u00een mijlocul unei drame care nu e despre voi. <\/p>\n

C\u00e2t timp nu \u015ftii cum e s\u0103 fii constant h\u0103r\u0163uit, minimalizat \u015fi umilit strict pe baza unui detaliu anatomic dintre picioare, c\u00e2t timp nimeni nu-\u0163i dispre\u0163uie\u015fte prietenia numind-o friendzone \u015fi nu \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 extrag\u0103 sex de la tine pe baz\u0103 de vr\u0103jeal\u0103 de doi lei, c\u00e2t timp po\u0163i s\u0103 te \u00eembraci \u00een ce vrea pula ta \u015fi nimeni nu se freac\u0103 de tine-n autobuz, c\u00e2t timp nimeni nu-\u0163i contest\u0103 dreptul de a fi propriul t\u0103u st\u0103p\u00e2n \u015fi de a avea priorit\u0103\u0163i, habar nu ai cum e s\u0103 \u00eencepi via\u0163a de la o linie de start pe care societatea o plaseaz\u0103 artificial cu o sut\u0103 de metri mai \u00een spate<\/strong> \u015fi apoi tot ei te \u00eenvinuiesc c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i salt\u0103 \u0163\u00e2\u0163ele c\u00e2nd alergi s\u0103 recuperezi. <\/p>\n

Bucur\u0103-te c\u0103 ai sexul ap\u0103rat de 60% dintre abuzuri \u015fi nu cer\u015fi, pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 aceast\u0103 siguran\u0163\u0103 suplimentar\u0103, \u015fi statutul de victim\u0103. <\/p>\n

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