{"id":18168,"date":"2019-08-08T10:29:26","date_gmt":"2019-08-08T07:29:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18168"},"modified":"2019-08-08T10:29:26","modified_gmt":"2019-08-08T07:29:26","slug":"discordia-artificiala-intre-barbati-si-femei","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/discordia-artificiala-intre-barbati-si-femei\/","title":{"rendered":"Discordia artificial\u0103 \u00eentre b\u0103rba\u021bi \u0219i femei"},"content":{"rendered":"

M\u0103 uitam ieri pe ni\u0219te walls de extremi\u0219ti alt-right. Din \u0103ia care vin s\u0103-\u021bi explice c\u0103 rolul femeii e de animal f\u0103t\u0103tor \u0219i c\u0103 dac\u0103 ai un vagin \u021bi se reteaz\u0103 pe bun\u0103 dreptate orice acces la alte op\u021biuni.
\nDin \u0103ia care vin s\u0103 te terorizeze mereu cu insulte, s\u0103-\u021bi clinteasc\u0103 \u00eencrederea \u00een for\u021bele proprii, pentru c\u0103 un om nesigur e un om mai u\u0219or de controlat.<\/p>\n

Dar m\u0103 uit \u0219i pe modul \u00een care pun problema sc\u00e2rbitele. C\u0103 to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt violatori \u015fi porci. C\u0103 to\u0163i sunt ni\u015fte nemernici. \u015ei dac\u0103 unul se \u00eencumet\u0103 s\u0103-i spun\u0103 c\u0103 ba pardon, nu suntem to\u0163i a\u015fa, apare instant reac\u0163ia: “iar a\u0163i venit voi \u0103\u015ftia cu #notallmen???”<\/p>\n

Cred c\u0103 divizarea asta at\u00e2t de accentuat\u0103 a societ\u0103\u0163ii, asmu\u0163irea at\u00e2t de \u00eenver\u015funat\u0103 a celor dou\u0103 sexe unul \u00eempotriva celuilalt, demonizarea \u015fi denigrarea sexului opus \u00een integralitatea lui este printre cele mai mari gre\u015feli ale deceniului 2010.<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103, realist, at\u00e2t \u00eentre b\u0103rba\u0163i, c\u00e2t \u015fi \u00eentre femei, exist\u0103 \u00een egal\u0103 m\u0103sur\u0103 oameni buni \u015fi oameni r\u0103i, oameni inteligen\u0163i \u015fi oameni pro\u015fti, oameni de \u00eencredere \u015fi escroci ordinari.<\/p>\n

Niciunul dintre sexe nu trebuie idealizat, doar pentru posesia unui detaliu anatomic. \u015ei a\u015fijderea, nici unul dintre sexe nu trebuie nimicit, umilit, f\u0103cut una cu \u0163\u0103r\u00e2na drumului, doar pentru posesia unui detaliu anatomic.<\/p>\n

La na\u015ftere, unii ne-am ales cu un tip de organe sexuale, al\u0163ii cu altul. Dar dincolo de asta, ne-am ales cu calit\u0103\u0163i general umane, care ar trebui s\u0103 ne apropie, s\u0103 ne fac\u0103 s\u0103 comunic\u0103m deschis, s\u0103 ne \u00een\u0163elegem unii pe al\u0163ii, s\u0103 ne lu\u0103m a\u015fa cum suntem, cu calit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi defecte personale. Punctez, personale. \u015etiu b\u0103ie\u0163i care sunt mai doamne, mai gospodine \u0219i mai buc\u0103t\u0103rese dec\u00e2t o s\u0103 fiu eu, chiar dac\u0103 m\u0103 mai nasc de zece ori. Taman de aceea, speechurile cu “rolul biologic” sunt at\u00e2t de reductive \u015fi de jalnice.
\nOamenii nu sunt roluri, oamenii sunt persoane.<\/p>\n

Apoi, tot mentalitatea asta diviziv\u0103 condi\u0163ioneaz\u0103, pe b\u0103rba\u0163i s\u0103 trateze femeia ca pe un v\u00e2nat care trebuie h\u0103ituit \u015fi fug\u0103rit, iar pe femei s\u0103 trateze b\u0103rbatul ca pe un pericol, ca pe o perpetu\u0103 amenin\u0163are, ca pe un avertisment meteo de cod ro\u015fu.<\/p>\n

Cum s\u0103 ai prilejul unui dialog normal \u015fi onest, \u00een aceste condi\u021bii?<\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 aceea, tot tu te miri c\u0103 zb\u00e2rn\u00e2ie depresia \u00een ambele sexe. \u00cen fenei, pentru c\u0103 e \u00eengrozitor s\u0103 fii h\u0103r\u0163uit \u015fi stresat. Iar \u00een b\u0103rba\u0163i, pentru c\u0103 privirea ve\u015fnic ne\u00eencrez\u0103toare \u015fi suspicioas\u0103 a altora e ca o flegm\u0103 verzuie \u00een plin\u0103 figur\u0103.<\/p>\n

Iar treaba mai e \u015fi \u00een felul urm\u0103tor: dac\u0103 te concentrezi foarte mult s\u0103 vezi doar r\u0103ul \u00een cel\u0103lalt, numai r\u0103ul o s\u0103 \u0163i se arate. O s\u0103 g\u0103se\u015fti doar prilejuri de furie, indignare \u015fi repro\u015f \u015fi o s\u0103 ratezi exact p\u0103r\u021bile pozitive.<\/p>\n

Sunt foarte mul\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bi dispu\u0219i s\u0103 aprecieze, s\u0103 respecte \u0219i s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 priorit\u0103\u021bile sexului opus, chiar c\u00e2nd acestea nu includ frecatul faian\u021bei, f\u0103tatul \u0219i punerea de mur\u0103turi.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 feminismul ar fi fost sus\u021binut numai de femei, ar fi fost extirpat \u00een fa\u0219\u0103. F\u0103r\u0103 b\u0103rba\u021bii care s\u0103 se asculte \u0219i s\u0103 sprijine, azi eram toate arse pe rug, pe post de vr\u0103jitoare.<\/p>\n

Din p\u0103cate, e valabil \u0219i pe partea negativ\u0103: exist\u0103 o sumedenie de femeiu\u0219ti care aplaud\u0103 ca maimu\u021bele speechul misogin \u0219i plin de glume grosolane al c\u00e2te unui urangutan. Pentru c\u0103 \u00een absen\u021ba unei stime s\u0103n\u0103toase de sine \u0219i al unui respect firesc pentru sexul lor, au impresia c\u0103 au mai mult de c\u00e2\u0219tigat dac\u0103 se fac fra\u021bi cu dracu p\u00e2n\u0103 s\u0103 treac\u0103 puntea.<\/p>\n

F\u0103r\u0103 tot acest muieret lamentabil, m\u00e2rl\u0103nia, violen\u021ba \u00eempotriva femeilor, machismul ar fi r\u0103mas \u00een Evul Mediu, acolo unde le este locul.<\/p>\n

\u00cen concluzie: hai s\u0103 nu mai acces\u0103m narativa asta profund incorect\u0103 cu femei vs. b\u0103rba\u021bi. Nu e nici un versus, nu a fost niciodat\u0103 \u0219i nici nu va fi.<\/p>\n

E dintotdeauna un versus al oamenilor care g\u00e2ndesc liber \u00een interac\u021biune cu elemente teleghidate, m\u00e2nate de idei fixe, r\u0103utate \u0219i prostie.<\/p>\n

Iar sexul fiec\u0103ruia dintre combatan\u021bi este 100% irelevant.<\/p>\n

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