{"id":18189,"date":"2019-08-12T09:49:00","date_gmt":"2019-08-12T06:49:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18189"},"modified":"2019-08-12T10:17:18","modified_gmt":"2019-08-12T07:17:18","slug":"asta-vrea-sa-ti-o-traga","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/asta-vrea-sa-ti-o-traga\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;\u0102sta vrea s\u0103 \u0163i-o trag\u0103&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Am scris zilele trecute un articol despre discordia fals\u0103 \u015fi exacerbat\u0103 \u00eentre b\u0103rba\u0163i \u015fi femei, c\u00e2nd o societate s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 \u015fi normal\u0103 poate func\u0163iona doar \u00een m\u0103sura \u00een care cele dou\u0103 sexe \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 se respecte reciproc, s\u0103 coopereze echilibrat, s\u0103 se accepte \u00een friendzone f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 o criz\u0103 stupid\u0103 de orgoliu pe tema asta \u015fi, pur \u015fi simplu, s\u0103 se lase unii pe al\u0163ii s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Din p\u0103cate, un factor de tensionare a acestor rela\u0163ii normale sunt al\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i. \u00cen general, pro\u015ftii toxici care nu sunt capabili ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi de o interac\u0163iune fireasc\u0103 \u015fi de bun sim\u0163, \u015fi atunci caut\u0103 s\u0103 le strice \u015fi pe ale altora. O mizerie dezgust\u0103toare care a circulat pe net anii trecu\u0163i a fost sfatul absolut imbecil: &#8220;Nu fi prieten cu femei&#8221;, care le sugera tinerilor neexperimenta\u0163i c\u0103 dac\u0103 o femeie nu se culc\u0103 cu tine, trebuie exclus\u0103 social, tratat\u0103 oribil, ignorat\u0103 \u015fi umilit\u0103, pentru c\u0103&#8230; a\u015fa o s\u0103 se simt\u0103 total sedus\u0103 \u015fi probabil o s\u0103 se r\u0103zg\u00e2ndeasc\u0103 sau ceva. De\u015fi, honestly, \u00een secunda \u00een care unul \u00eencepe s\u0103 te trateze brusc oribil, f\u0103r\u0103 motiv \u00eentemeiat, sexul e exact ultimul lucru pe care \u0163i-l inspir\u0103, \u015fi asta v-o poate confirma orice femeie cu respect de sine.<\/p>\n<p>Rezultatul comportamentului &#8220;Nu fi prieten cu femei&#8221; e \u00een faptul c\u0103 foarte multe tinere fete au devenit extrem de reci, ne\u00eencrez\u0103toare, distante, \u015fi refuz\u0103 orice tip de interac\u0163iune. Desigur, \u00een mintea pro\u015ftilor tot ele sunt de vin\u0103, nu toxicitatea abord\u0103rii de tip &#8220;Nu fi prieten cu femei&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Dar sfaturile de kkt cu care se asmut pro\u015ftii unii pe al\u0163ii s\u0103 tensioneze rela\u0163ia b\u0103rbat &#8211; femeie sunt subiectul altui text. Azi ne vom concentra pe remarci imbecile cu care pro\u015ftii distrug interac\u0163iuni normale \u015fi induc \u015fi \u00een al\u0163ii starea de sil\u0103, ur\u0103 \u015fi jen\u0103 neasumat\u0103 care caracterizeaz\u0103 existen\u0163a lor inutil\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Azi: &#8220;\u0102sta vrea s\u0103 \u0163i-o trag\u0103&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Cum se manifest\u0103: \u00eentr-o interac\u0163iune fireasc\u0103, social\u0103, neutr\u0103, \u00eentre un b\u0103rbat \u015fi o femeie, intervine un c\u0103cat cu ochi \u015fi enun\u0163\u0103 ceva de genul: &#8220;\u0102sta nu d\u0103 doi bani pe tine \u015fi vrea s\u0103 \u0163i-o trag\u0103.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 nu are de a face cu minimum un combatant vaccinat la m\u00e2rl\u0103nie, reu\u015fe\u015fte s\u0103 apese dou\u0103 butoane de panic\u0103 deodat\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Primul buton de panic\u0103, evident, e al femeii care, posibil, \u015fi-a petrecut o bun\u0103 parte din via\u0163\u0103 gonind raha\u0163i toxici care c\u0103utau s\u0103 i-o trag\u0103. Nu ca interlocutorul decent \u015fi politicos, ci ca zdrean\u0163a slobozit\u0103 care s-a intromisionat \u00een conversa\u0163ie. Poate omul normal cu care discutai normal nu e interesat s\u0103 \u0163i-o trag\u0103, sau chiar dac\u0103 are o apreciere pentru farmecul t\u0103u fizic, \u00ee\u015fi asum\u0103 c\u0103 nu e cazul \u015fi ave\u0163i alte priorit\u0103\u0163i fiecare. Dar m\u00e2rletele prost \u015fi infect care vine cu asta garantat da. De aceea \u015fi impulsul de a sexualiza brusc discu\u0163ia.<\/p>\n<p>Al doilea buton de panic\u0103 e al b\u0103rbatului decent, care, pe de o parte, are o doz\u0103 s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 de vinov\u0103\u0163ie legat\u0103 de faptul c\u0103 e atras random de cel pu\u0163in 50 de femei pe zi, f\u0103r\u0103 vreo inten\u0163ie s\u0103 mearg\u0103 mai departe cu vreuna dintre ele. \u015ei care, pe de alt\u0103 parte, intuie\u015fte butonul de panic\u0103 al femeii s\u0103tule de ipostaza de v\u00e2nat h\u0103ituit \u015fi nici nu \u015ftie dac\u0103 poate miza pe \u00eencrederea ei \u00een bunul lui sim\u0163.<\/p>\n<p>Ce facem c\u00e2nd apare brusc \u00een conversa\u0163ia noastr\u0103 normal\u0103 rahatul cu ochi care caut\u0103 s\u0103 ne stinghereasc\u0103 brusc prin cele mai instinctuale temeri ale noastre?<\/p>\n<p>R\u0103spunsul este:<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00cel \u00eenfrunt\u0103m. \u015ei anume, \u00eei facem relativ clar faptul c\u0103 h\u0103mesirea lui sexual\u0103, care \u00eel face s\u0103 vad\u0103 sex \u00een interac\u0163iuni f\u0103r\u0103 nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu sexul, e doar problema lui, nu \u015fi a noastr\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A\u015fa cum nem\u00e2nca\u0163ii v\u0103d peste tot doar m\u00e2ncare \u015fi vorbesc doar despre m\u00e2ncare, nefutu\u0163ii v\u0103d peste tot doar sex \u015fi discut\u0103 doar despre sex. De aceea, genul \u0103sta de c\u0103ca\u0163i slino\u015fi, c\u00e2nd \u00een sf\u00e2r\u015fit nimeresc pe una suficient de naiv\u0103, de slab\u0103 \u015fi de complexat\u0103 s-o abureasc\u0103 s\u0103 se combine cu ni\u015fte mizerii de teapa lor, devin cei mai gelo\u015fi \u015fi absurzi boufrenji de pe fa\u0163a p\u0103m\u00e2ntului. Pentru c\u0103 ei realmente pornesc de la exemplul propriu \u015fi proiecteaz\u0103 asupra altor b\u0103rba\u0163i disperarea de a se cupla, gher\u0163oiala agresiv\u0103, incapacitatea de a vedea \u00een femei omul, nu cumulul de celule din jurul unei g\u0103uri umede \u015fi mentalitatea dezgust\u0103toare de pr\u0103d\u0103tor care \u00eei define\u015fte pe ei.<\/p>\n<p>Evident, instinctul sexual e prezent \u015fi \u00een restul lumii, dar nu se manifest\u0103 a\u015fa. Te ui\u0163i la multe femei pe strad\u0103, admiri ce e de admirat \u015fi mergi mai departe. Ai colege \u015fi prietene dr\u0103gu\u0163e, nu \u00ee\u0163i displac, dar apreciezi mai mult ce reprezint\u0103 ele ca oameni \u015fi ca interlocutori. Ai o chelneri\u0163\u0103 cu \u0163\u00e2\u0163e imense la restaurantul unde m\u0103n\u00e2nci meniul zilei, te ui\u0163i admirativ la ea, dar \u015ftii c\u0103 dac\u0103 te adaugi la haita de javre care caut\u0103 s-o ciupeasc\u0103 de fund, \u00ee\u0163i scuip\u0103 \u015fi \u0163ie \u00een ciorb\u0103, cum le face \u0103lora. \u015ei tot a\u015fa: multe femei atr\u0103g\u0103toare, \u015ftii c\u0103 sunt atr\u0103g\u0103toare, c\u0103 nu e\u015fti chior, discu\u0163i cu pl\u0103cere cu ele, dar nu ai nici o inten\u0163ie s\u0103-\u0163i complici via\u0163a inutil c\u0103ut\u00e2nd s\u0103 extragi ceva poate veni cu implica\u0163ii greu de controlat.<\/p>\n<p>Pe faptul c\u0103 instinctul sexual e prezent \u015fi \u00een restul lumii se bazeaz\u0103 mizerabilul c\u00e2nd vine cu &#8220;\u0103sta vrea s\u0103 \u0163i-o trag\u0103&#8221;. Ce nu \u015ftie el este c\u0103 a) existen\u0163a instinctului sexual nu e totuna cu a b\u0103li imbecil dup\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea b) existen\u0163a instinctului sexual nu e totuna cu a h\u0103r\u0163ui imbecil pe toat\u0103 lumea.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei atunci, metoda e s\u0103 te deta\u015fezi \u015fi s\u0103 acuzi.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Nu, tu nu e\u015fti ca \u0103sta. Dac\u0103 erai ca \u0103sta, te purtai ca el \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i luai muile cu c\u0103cat pe care \u015fi le ia el.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Faptul c\u0103 \u0103sta vine cu tentative lamentabile de a strica o comunicare normal\u0103 vorbe\u015fte despre el, nu despre calitatea comunic\u0103rii voastre.<\/p>\n<p>Nu l\u0103sa insinu\u0103rile lui s\u0103 te afecteze \u015fi mai ales, nu-i permite s\u0103 te triggereasc\u0103. Fii con\u015ftient(\u0103) c\u0103 d\u0103 glas doar unei nefuteri personale cronice, iar asta NU are leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu tine.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Nu intra \u00een joc.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 negi brusc: Nu, nu vreau s\u0103 \u0163i-o trag, e ca \u015fi cum ai trata ipoteza drept valid\u0103. Ce ai de f\u0103cut e s\u0103 la\u015fi prostul s\u0103 \u015ftie c\u0103 locul lui \u00een interac\u0163iune nu se acordase in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Care e problema, Mih\u0103i\u0163\u0103, te-au banat \u0103\u015ftia de pe Pornhub?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei cu c\u00e2t prostul se va \u00eenver\u015funa \u00een insinu\u0103ri &#8211; pentru c\u0103 asta fac pro\u015ftii, e singurul combustibil care-i face s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 &#8211;\u00a0 \u0163ine-l \u00eentr-un roast relaxat \u015fi superior despre cum e obosit de lab\u0103, cum \u00ee\u015fi bag\u0103 \u00een seam\u0103 m\u00e2na dreapt\u0103 doar dac\u0103 vrea s\u0103 i-o trag\u0103 \u015fi cum e foarte trist s\u0103-\u0163i extragi impresiile despre oameni din filozofia profund\u0103 a capodoperei cinematografice &#8220;Blonde fierbin\u0163i fac anal zgomotos&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Nimice\u015fte idiotul cu un z\u00e2mbet. E\u015fti mai bun dec\u00e2t el pe toate planurile \u015fi te po\u0163i distra de cum se zbate s\u0103 mai g\u0103seasc\u0103 ceva de m\u0103c\u0103it. Savureaz\u0103-i umilin\u0163a. F\u0103-l s\u0103 se ru\u015fineze de propria nimicnicie.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei a\u015fa, \u00eei vei induce relaxare \u015fi persoanei cu care discutai.<\/p>\n<p>*<\/p>\n<p>Poate c\u0103 r\u0103zbunarea e arma prostului, dar sunt cazuri c\u00e2nd o pot folosi \u015fi inteligen\u0163ii.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? 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