{"id":18193,"date":"2019-08-13T09:34:37","date_gmt":"2019-08-13T06:34:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18193"},"modified":"2019-08-13T10:01:06","modified_gmt":"2019-08-13T07:01:06","slug":"ok-ai-aflat-ca-mai-are-pe-una-ce-faci","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ok-ai-aflat-ca-mai-are-pe-una-ce-faci\/","title":{"rendered":"OK, ai aflat c\u0103 mai are pe una. Ce faci?"},"content":{"rendered":"

M\u0103 uitam ieri pe un grup la unii care f\u0103ceau un mi\u0219to intens de o am\u0103r\u00e2t\u0103 care aflase c\u0103 e \u00een\u0219elat\u0103. Femeia scria cu o gramatic\u0103 execrabil\u0103, e adev\u0103rat, dar \u00eemi imaginez c\u0103 masculul din dotare n-o luase pentru gramatic\u0103, ci pentru c\u0103 o g\u0103sise atr\u0103g\u0103toare \u0219i posibil f\u0103cea \u0219i ciorb\u0103 bun\u0103.<\/p>\n

Nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 sunt singura c\u0103reia i se \u00eencre\u021be\u0219te pielea \u00een direc\u021bia opus\u0103 bl\u0103nii c\u00e2nd aude termenul “amant\u0103”. A sunat secolul al XVI-lea, \u00ee\u015fi vrea vocabularul \u00eenapoi. Amant\u0103 avea Ludovic al XIV-lea. Primul cadou era un castel, al doilea un titlu de duces\u0103. Dac\u0103 doar trece pe la tine mar\u0163i \u015fi vineri \u00eenainte de mas\u0103 pentru un footai rapid, nu e\u015fti amant\u0103. E\u015fti doar echivalentul sexual al cantinei s\u0103racilor: lumea vine, se pl\u00e2nge de via\u0163a grea, umple ma\u0163ul \u015fi pleac\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 se uite \u00eenapoi.<\/p>\n

Dar s\u0103 revenim la ipostaza femeii \u00een\u015felate.<\/p>\n

Tehnic, eu a\u015f fi \u00een ipostaza de a face cel mai crunt mi\u015fto, pentru c\u0103 eu am prevenit adulterul prin cea mai bun\u0103 tehnic\u0103 din univers: sunt single. Nu \u0163i-a promis nimeni nimic? Nu a\u015ftep\u0163i nimic de la nimeni, nu investe\u015fti timp \u015fi munc\u0103 pe altarul nim\u0103nui? Nu \u00ee\u0163i tr\u0103deaz\u0103 nimeni \u00eencrederea.<\/p>\n

\u0102ia cu rela\u0163ii, fie b\u0103rba\u0163i, fie femei, care fac mi\u015fto de o biat\u0103 femeie care a descoperit c\u0103 h\u0103ndr\u0103l\u0103ul avea alt\u0103 viziune legat\u0103 de commitment, risc\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 mi\u015fto de propria lor dezam\u0103gire \u015fi suferin\u0163\u0103 din viitor, pentru c\u0103 a\u015fa e via\u0163a, de obicei situa\u0163iile de care r\u00e2zi sunt cele \u00een care te vei trezi tu \u00eensu\u0163i, karma fiind, dup\u0103 cum se \u015ftie, a total massive bitch.<\/p>\n

Deci: c\u00e2nd un om sufer\u0103 c\u0103 e \u00een\u015felat nu mi se pare de r\u00e2s, indiferent c\u00e2te cratime, litere sau propozi\u0163ii m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 omul \u0103la a investit iubire \u015fi \u00eencredere, \u015fi tocmai a aflat c\u0103 acestea nu valoreaz\u0103 nimic. C\u00e2nd mai exist\u0103 \u015fi copii la mijloc, cu at\u00e2t mai mult mi se ofile\u015fte umorul, pentru c\u0103 acei copii vor fi mai afecta\u0163i de fapta tat\u0103lui dec\u00e2t s-ar p\u0103rea.<\/p>\n

Eu de exemplu am luat hot\u0103r\u00e2rea de a fi o fericit\u0103 bachelorette \u00een copil\u0103rie, v\u0103z\u00e2nd ce so\u0163 \u015fi p\u0103rinte de toat\u0103 jena era taic\u0103-miu, iar c\u00e2nd colac peste pup\u0103z\u0103, tot el s-a g\u0103sit s-o \u00een\u015fele pe mama, mi-am zis c\u0103 genul \u0103sta de rahat poate fi prevenit de la r\u0103d\u0103cin\u0103: nu te bagi \u00een troac\u0103 \u015fi apoi nu boce\u015fti tot tu c\u0103 te m\u0103n\u00e2nc\u0103 porcii.<\/p>\n

OK, dar s\u0103 zicem c\u0103 tu e\u015fti femeia care e \u00een\u015felat\u0103. Faci totul pentru individ, \u00eel hr\u0103ne\u015fti zi de zi – \u00een timp ce eu \u00eemi comand ce m\u00e2ncare vreau eu de la Oala Cu Bun\u0103t\u0103\u0163i – pentru cas\u0103 – \u00een timp ce eu chem o tanti o dat\u0103 la dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni \u015fi \u00een rest, mai \u015fterg praful din v\u00e2rful degetelor – \u00eei calci c\u0103m\u0103\u015file pentru birou – \u00een timp ce eu beau acum o cafea pe teras\u0103, \u015fi admir frumuse\u0163ea dimine\u0163ii –\u00a0 \u015fi practic via\u0163a ta gravita \u00een jurul pluii lui, p\u00e2n\u0103 la a te duce tu dup\u0103 beri c\u00e2nd Gicu avea fotbal la televizor. Da, \u015ftiu, din iubire. \u015ei pentru c\u0103 nu li se mai d\u0103 copiilor alcool, altfel trimiteai pu\u015ftiul, lol.<\/p>\n

Nu te lua de “cealalt\u0103”.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Multe simt nevoia s\u0103 ia responsabilitatea de pe iubi\u0163elul lor minunat, care, desigur, ar fi stat fidel ca o icoan\u0103 dac\u0103 nu ap\u0103rea dr\u0103coaica s\u0103-l vr\u0103jeasc\u0103, \u015fi au circ de f\u0103cut exclusiv cu cealalt\u0103 femeie.<\/p>\n

Am o veste: nu cealalt\u0103 femeie \u0163i-a promis iubire la altar, loialitate la bine \u015fi la r\u0103u \u015fi altele similare. Tipa aia nu are nici o obliga\u0163ie fa\u0163\u0103 de tine.<\/p>\n

Ba \u00een majoritatea cazurilor, nici m\u0103car nu \u015ftie c\u0103 masculul feroc nu era liber \u015fi \u00een c\u0103utare, ci conectat mai abitir dec\u00e2t Nokia.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 toate femeile de pe Facebook ar posta public “cf e\u015fti frumoas\u0103 de nu mai pot”-urile din mesageriile private, cu nume \u015fi link la profilul expeditorului, cred c\u0103 trei sferturi dintre rom\u00e2ni ar divor\u0163a g\u0103l\u0103gios.<\/p>\n

A\u015fa zisa fidelitate a multor masculi se datoreaz\u0103 strict faptului c\u0103 nu a fost niciuna interesat\u0103 s\u0103-l ajute s\u0103 calce str\u00e2mb.<\/p>\n

Nemaivorbind c\u0103 “cealalt\u0103” va fi, peste ceva timp, \u00een exact situa\u0163ia \u00een care e\u015fti tu acum.<\/p>\n

Ia-o pe partea bun\u0103: m\u0103car \u015ftii cu cine aveai de-a face. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Singurul lucru mai r\u0103u dec\u00e2t a afla c\u0103 e\u015fti \u00een\u015felat\u0103 e a fi \u00een ipostaza prostului care nu \u00ee\u015fi d\u0103 seama c\u0103 e \u00een\u015felat. Tu stai \u015fi-\u0163i strici manichiura sear\u0103 de sear\u0103 la oala de sarmale, \u015fi pentru cine?<\/p>\n

A nu se \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103 am ceva cu persoanele adulterine.<\/p>\n

Am ceva doar cu ipostaza \u00een care tu profi\u0163i cu tupeu de tot ce are de oferit un om care \u0163i-a jurat loialitate \u015fi face toat\u0103 munca necesar\u0103 s\u0103 te \u0163in\u0103 fericit, \u00een timp ce v\u00e2nezi sex cu al\u0163i oameni \u015fi te pi\u015fi cu jet pe toat\u0103 investi\u0163ia primului.<\/p>\n

Deci: m\u0103car \u015ftii cu cine ai de a face \u015fi m\u0103car \u015ftii c\u00e2t valorezi \u00een ochii individului.<\/p>\n

Oric\u00e2t de dureros ar fi adev\u0103rul, tot e de preferat traiului \u00eentr-o minciun\u0103.<\/p>\n

Cunosc \u015fi cupluri care aveau o via\u0163\u0103 super convenabil\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103 \u015fi multe bunuri \u00een comun, \u015fi au ales s\u0103 continue mariajul. Una e s\u0103 \u00eempar\u0163i linguri, alta e s\u0103 \u00eempar\u0163i companii sau s\u0103 sco\u0163i vile la v\u00e2nzare repede. Numai c\u0103 tr\u0103iesc ca divor\u0163a\u0163ii, fiecare cu grupul lui de prieteni \u015fi cu preocup\u0103rile lui.<\/p>\n

Mi se pare mult mai corect a\u015fa, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 te legeni cu iluzia unui devotament \u015fi a unei iubiri care nu exist\u0103.<\/p>\n

Ce puteai face altfel.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sigur, sunt cazuri \u00een care so\u0163ia nu era dispus\u0103 s\u0103-l feleze pe combatant \u015fi atunci el \u015fi-a g\u0103sit o z\u00e2n\u0103 expert\u0103 \u00een a c\u00e2nta la cimpoiul cu bile, sau cazuri \u00een care so\u0163ia c\u00e2\u015ftiga enorm, comparativ cu eroul, iar latura competitiv\u0103 a acestuia a c\u0103utat o revan\u015f\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dar chiar ai fi dispus\u0103 s\u0103 renun\u0163i la un venit s\u0103 se simt\u0103 \u0103la mai b\u0103rbat, sau s\u0103 faci ceva care nu \u0163i-e agreabil?<\/p>\n

Nu mai bine se simte el b\u0103rbat from the get go \u015fi nu leag\u0103 condi\u0163ia asta de succesul t\u0103u financiar sau de alt\u0103 natur\u0103?<\/p>\n

Oricum: dac\u0103 nu-i pl\u0103cea via\u0163a cu tine din varii motive: avea op\u0163iunea corectitudinii: s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 de la obraz, s\u0103 vede\u0163i \u00eempreun\u0103 dac\u0103 exist\u0103 solu\u0163ii reciproc satisf\u0103c\u0103toare \u015fi, \u00een caz c\u0103 nu, s\u0103 v\u0103 separa\u0163i amiabil. Sau, ok, cu farfurii date de zid.<\/p>\n

\u0102sta a ales \u00eens\u0103 s\u0103 se foloseasc\u0103 pe mai departe \u015fi de ceea ce \u00eei ofereai tu, \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i \u015fi tr\u0103deze \u00eencrederea.<\/p>\n

Sincer, cred c\u0103 nu puteai face altfel nimic.<\/p>\n

C\u0103 unul care te \u00een\u015fal\u0103 cum e\u015fti acum te-ar fi \u00een\u015felat \u015fi dac\u0103 erai Miss Venezuela, te-ar fi \u00een\u015felat \u015fi dac\u0103 f\u0103ceai fela\u0163ie cu mai mult talent dec\u00e2t Jenna Jameson, te-ar fi \u00een\u015felat \u015fi dac\u0103 rescriai Kamasutra, \u015fi dac\u0103…<\/p>\n

Ar fi g\u0103sit el ceva s\u0103 fie nemul\u0163umit.<\/p>\n

“Cum o s\u0103 tr\u0103iesc de acum \u00eencolo?”\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

O s\u0103 te surprind\u0103, dar posibil mai bine dec\u00e2t p\u00e2n\u0103 acum. Am podul plin de pove\u015fti de la femei p\u0103r\u0103site, care credeau c\u0103 via\u0163a lor a luat sf\u00e2r\u015fit, \u015fi stai a\u015fa, \u00een c\u00e2teva luni a ap\u0103rut un job mai bun, \u00een alte c\u00e2teva, un tip fenomenal, care le face el lor cartofi pr\u0103ji\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Tindem s\u0103 punem prea mult\u0103 energie \u00een obiective care nu merit\u0103 deranjul, \u015fi apoi, c\u00e2nd aceast\u0103 energie se elibereaz\u0103, r\u0103m\u00e2nem \u015foca\u0163i de propriul nostru poten\u0163ial. De care nu eram con\u015ftien\u0163i, tocmai pentru c\u0103 \u00eel rev\u0103rsam \u00een punct mort.<\/p>\n

\u00centre timp, iat\u0103 primul t\u0103u c\u00e2\u015ftig: faptul c\u0103 nu mai calci c\u0103m\u0103\u015fi diminea\u0163a. Ce bine e s\u0103 bei o cafea pe teras\u0103.<\/p>\n

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