Ieri, am tr\u0103it un moment absolut, dar absolut oribil.<\/p>\n
Primesc un mail de la o tip\u0103: Vezi c\u0103 pe Autobaza se pun poze cu tine \u015fi curge hate-ul.<\/p>\n
M\u0103 uit pe grup. Care, hai s\u0103 ne l\u0103murim, nu e un grup de umor, e un grup de hate. Diferen\u0163a? E cam aceea dintre tumoarea benign\u0103 \u015fi cea malign\u0103. Tumoarea benign\u0103 doar se umfl\u0103, \u00een rest se integreaz\u0103 armonios \u00een organismul t\u0103u, pe c\u00e2nd cea malign\u0103 se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 infecteze \u015fi s\u0103 distrug\u0103 totul \u00een jur.<\/p>\n
Momentan, tumoarea malign\u0103 Autobaza, cu elemente de Utopia (grupul altui condamnat penal care pusese poze cu o fat\u0103 pe net f\u0103r\u0103 acordul ei, deci ai fi crezut c\u0103 a \u00een\u0163eles ideea c\u0103 oamenii au dreptul s\u0103 decid\u0103 ce anume din imaginea lor s\u0103 circule \u015fi ce nu) \u015fi de Pr\u0103jimea (al\u0163i creeps care au decis c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 se al\u0103ture la petrecere); tumoarea malign\u0103 Autobaza mi-a acaparat pentru o perioad\u0103 peretele. Iar eu \u00eei las. O vreme. Apoi, dup\u0103 ce m\u0103 asigur c\u0103 am toate probele pentru poli\u0163ie \u015fi proces, o s\u0103 \u00eenchid petrecerea, o s\u0103 dau block \u00een grup l\u0103tr\u0103ilor \u015fi o s\u0103 fie zen \u015fi ciripit de p\u0103s\u0103rele ca \u00eenainte.<\/p>\n
Am povestit-o pe wall:<\/p>\n
Wow. Un individ s-a apucat s\u0103-mi fac\u0103 fotografii \u00een metrou.
\n\u00cen \u021binute diferite, deci nu e un one-time act. De fiecare dat\u0103, a p\u00e2ndit momentul c\u00e2nd m\u0103 str\u00e2mbam, sau eram obosit\u0103 \u0219i a\u021bipeam, sau f\u0103ceam nu \u0219tiu ce fa\u021b\u0103.
\n\u0218i a postat pozele pe un grup numit Autobaza, iar 700 de oameni cel pu\u021bin la fel de bolnavi se bucur\u0103 cu gura p\u00e2n\u0103 la urechi.
\nImagina\u021bi-v\u0103 situa\u021bia. Imagina\u021bi-v\u0103 g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 v\u0103 supraveghea\u021bi p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een din\u021bi mimica \u0219i gestica, la fiecare pas \u00een afara casei, c\u0103 nu \u0219ti\u021bi c\u00e2nd st\u0103 un distrus cu aparatul foto pe voi, \u00een lumin\u0103 proast\u0103 \u0219i \u00een oboseala \u0219i stresul specifice unei zile normale de munc\u0103.
\nAm putea compara cu revenge p*rn, dar m\u0103car \u00een revenge p*rn, postacul a avut o rela\u021bie personal\u0103 cu victima \u0219i tr\u0103ie\u0219te cu senza\u021bia c\u0103 a fost nedrept\u0103\u021bit sau ceva. Mie un str\u0103in \u00eemi face poze \u00een metrou f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-i fi f\u0103cut nimic niciodat\u0103. Just because.<\/p>\n
Precizare: 700 se bucurau p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een momentul \u00een care am intervenit. Dup\u0103 aceea, scandalul a explodat \u00een toate direc\u0163iile. Iar asta m\u0103 convinge c\u0103 e obligatoriu s\u0103 iau m\u0103suri. Undeva, to\u0163i \u0103\u015ftia trebuie s\u0103 priceap\u0103 c\u0103 exist\u0103 limita dintre libertatea ta \u015fi punctul \u00een care afectezi via\u0163a altuia, iar ei au dep\u0103\u015fit aceast\u0103 limit\u0103<\/p>\n
Deci: zece chestii pe care le-am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at ieri de la postacii Autobaza:<\/p>\n
1. E normal s\u0103 fii urm\u0103rit pe strad\u0103.<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n S\u0103 ne \u00een\u0163elegem. Partea cringy pentru mine nu e c\u0103 ni\u015fte pro\u015fti \u00eemi spun c\u0103 sunt aparat electrocasnic, pentru c\u0103 din asta deriv\u0103 satisfac\u0163ie creiera\u015ful lor inutil \u015fi \u015fterp. Nu, nu e normal s\u0103 fii urm\u0103rit pe strad\u0103. Nu e normal s\u0103 sile\u015fti la interac\u0163iune o persoan\u0103 care nu-\u015fi dore\u015fte interac\u0163iune \u015fi s\u0103 fotografiezi o persoan\u0103 care nu \u015fi-a dat acordul. Nu cuno\u015fti oamenii? Las\u0103-i \u00een pace. Sau spune-le frumos: Bun\u0103 ziua, eu sunt Gigel C\u0103cat \u015fi a\u015f dori s\u0103 v\u0103 fac o poz\u0103 \/ S\u0103 facem o poz\u0103, sunte\u0163i de acord?<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 omul vrea, bine. Dac\u0103 omul nu se simte bine \u00een momentul \u0103la, sau nu are chef, ARE TOT DREPTUL S\u0102-\u0162I SPUN\u0102 “NU”, IAR TU RESPEC\u0162I ASTA.<\/p>\n 2. Oricine are dreptul s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 o poz\u0103 oric\u00e2nd, oricum, oriunde.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Hai s\u0103 recitim asta \u00eencet, cu con\u015ftiin\u0163a la noi. Oricine are dreptul s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 o poz\u0103 oric\u00e2nd, oricum, oriunde. \u00cen curtea din spate, \u00een pantaloni scur\u0163i, \u00een timp ce m\u0103turi frunzele. La buticul din col\u0163, c\u00e2nd mergi \u00een pijama \u015fi papuci s\u0103-\u0163i iei nesuri. La ghen\u0103, \u00een treningul na\u015fpa de f\u0103cut cur\u0103\u0163enie.<\/p>\n Oric\u00e2nd, oricum, oriunde.<\/p>\n Stai cu un om o jum\u0103tate de or\u0103 cu aten\u0163ia belit\u0103 pe el \u015fi garantat prinzi o fa\u0163\u0103 care arat\u0103 ca dracu’.<\/p>\n S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 vre\u0163i foarte tare ca asta s\u0103 mi se aplice mie, c\u0103 ave\u0163i un hate boner pe mine. Poate de la faptul c\u0103 blogul vostru are \u00een continuare 30 de cititori pe zi, iar al meu, 5000.<\/p>\n P\u0103i da, dar pe baza egalit\u0103\u0163ii, dac\u0103 mi se aplic\u0103 mie, vi se aplic\u0103 \u015fi vou\u0103.<\/p>\n V-ar conveni s\u0103 vin\u0103 ciuda\u0163i \u015fi s\u0103 v\u0103 urm\u0103reasc\u0103 pe strad\u0103, s\u0103 v\u0103 prind\u0103 str\u00e2mb\u0103turile \u00een poze?<\/p>\n S\u0103 trebuiasc\u0103 s\u0103 sta\u0163i orice secund\u0103 \u00eencorda\u0163i \u015fi s\u0103 z\u00e2mbi\u0163i fake \u00een gol, c\u0103 nu \u015fti\u0163i cine face poza \u015fi c\u00e2nd?<\/p>\n V-ar conveni?<\/p>\n OK. Nici mie nu-mi convine. Timpul liber e timp liber s\u0103 po\u0163i face ce mutre na\u015fpa vrei tu \u015fi s\u0103 nu fut\u0103 grija pe al\u0163ii de asta.<\/p>\n 3. Ai cerut-o pentru c\u0103 faci blogging, actorie, scrii \u015fi c\u00e2n\u0163i karaoke la be\u0163ie.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Da, \u015fi Sharon Tate a cerut s\u0103 fie ucis\u0103 pe c\u00e2nd era gravid\u0103 fix pentru c\u0103 f\u0103cea actorie.<\/p>\n NOT.<\/p>\n \u015ei victima a cerut s\u0103 fie violat\u0103, pentru c\u0103 avea fust\u0103 scurt\u0103.<\/p>\n NOT.<\/p>\n \u015ei femeile vor s\u0103 fie luate tare, numai c\u0103 nu recunosc.<\/p>\n NOT.<\/p>\n Fac blogging, actorie \u015fi etc. s\u0103 ne distr\u0103m de produsele creativit\u0103\u0163ii mele. Sau, m\u0103 rog, \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 unora nu v\u0103 place performan\u0163a mea \u00een reclama la Standard Studio. \u00cen acest caz, s\u0103 fim profund nemul\u0163umi\u0163i de performan\u0163a mea etc. E \u00een regul\u0103, mi-am luat banii pe ea la trei zile dup\u0103 ce am filmat-o.<\/p>\n Nu fac blogging \u015fi actorie \u015fi dans maghiar sus pe bar ca s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti la metrou, s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti pe strad\u0103 sau s\u0103 te dai la mine. NOT INTERESTED. \u015ei e dreptul meu de om s\u0103 nu fiu interesat\u0103.<\/p>\n 4. DAC\u0102 AI F\u0102CUT RECLAM\u0102 LA VIDEOCHAT, ORICE H\u0102R\u0162UIRE E JUSTIFICAT\u0102\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Un prost a mers at\u00e2t de departe ieri sear\u0103 \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 afirme c\u0103 \u00een cazul meu chiar \u015fi violul ar fi justificat. Stai, ce?<\/p>\n Alt\u0103 proast\u0103 mi-a \u0163ipat c\u0103 e karma care m\u0103 bate pentru c\u0103 trimit tinerii inocen\u0163i s\u0103 se prostitueze.<\/p>\n Eu nu trimit pe nimeni nic\u0103ieri. Au avut oamenii \u0103ia nevoie de un om care s\u0103 prezinte oferta de o mie de dolari la angajare sum\u0103 fix\u0103 pe primele trei luni, au ales un om care li s-a p\u0103rut potrivit, \u015fi asta a fost.<\/p>\n Nu te urm\u0103resc \u00een metrou cu oferta la videochat, nu te acostez pe strad\u0103 \u015fi nu te h\u0103r\u0163uiesc cu mesaje private.<\/p>\n E un spot. Nu-\u0163i place. X din col\u0163 \u015fi pa.<\/p>\n Problema e c\u0103 prostul de pe strad\u0103 n-are X din col\u0163.<\/p>\n Altminteri, chiar dac\u0103 \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163eam flutura\u015fi cu reduceri la blowjobs \u00een fa\u0163a bordelului m\u0103-tii, nu aveai nici un drept s\u0103 m\u0103 deranjezi. E un business. M\u0103-ta suge pula bine \u015fi are clien\u0163i, drept care \u00ee\u015fi permite s-o pl\u0103teasc\u0103 pe Lorena s\u0103 \u00eempart\u0103 flutura\u015fi la u\u015f\u0103? More power to m\u0103-ta!<\/p>\n Ea pl\u0103te\u015fte \u00eentre\u0163inerea, nu tu, anyway.<\/p>\n 5. Dar dac\u0103 tu mergi cu metroul, nu e\u015fti independent\u0103 \u015fi plin\u0103 de bani.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Independent\u0103 sunt de la 18 ani, de c\u00e2nd am \u00eenceput s\u0103 fac bani din munc\u0103 proprie. Plin\u0103 de bani… variabil. Am avut momente de huzur \u015fi momente de frecat mu\u015ftarul cu p\u00e2ine, ca oricine.<\/p>\n Dar ce a\u0163i ratat \u00een reclam\u0103 e c\u0103 eu nu spun nic\u0103ieri c\u0103 “eu sunt femeia independent\u0103 \u015fi plin\u0103 de bani”. Reclama se \u015fi termin\u0103 cu mine \u00een fa\u0163a studioului, \u00een sacou, prezent\u00e2nd sec superoferta.<\/p>\n Dar hei, pentru asta trebuia s\u0103 vezi reclama. Nu glumele de doi lei ale lui Micutzu. N-am zis “ladarier\u0103” nic\u0103ieri, niciodat\u0103, \u015fi \u00eenc\u0103 vin zeci de cretini s\u0103-mi atribuie asta.<\/p>\n 6. Cu metroul merg numai s\u0103rakii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n OK, \u015fi?<\/p>\n 7. Dac\u0103 ai adormit \u00een metrou, a\u015fa \u00ee\u0163i trebuie.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Nu sunt nici primul, nici ultimul om care a\u0163ipe\u015fte \u00een metrou. C\u00e2nd faci fa\u0163\u0103 la trei colabor\u0103ri \u015fi mai \u0163ii \u015fi blogul \u0103sta, adormi unde apuci \u015fi zece minute de somn sunt o binecuv\u00e2ntare.<\/p>\n Dar da, m\u0103 incomodeaz\u0103 major g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 de acum nu m\u0103 pot relaxa \u00een metrou din cauza unor jigodii muiste ca tine, care nu \u015ftiu s\u0103 lase \u00een pace un om surmenat, c\u0103 le lipse\u015fte elementul compasiune elementar\u0103.<\/p>\n 8. Dar e\u015fti ur\u00e2t\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Mi se rupe pula de cum m\u0103 vezi tu. Nu tu e\u015fti clientul meu de publicitate, nu tu pl\u0103te\u015fti reclama, mi se f\u00e2lf\u00e2ie apoteotic de cum crezi tu c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 ar\u0103t.<\/p>\n Nici frumoas\u0103, nici ur\u00e2t\u0103 fiind, NU m\u0103 stalkere\u015fti pe strad\u0103 s\u0103-mi faci poze pe care NU mi-am dat acordul.<\/p>\n 9. Dar dac\u0103 nu f\u0103ceai scandal, totul se stingea de la sine \u00een trei zile.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n S\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 aplic\u0103m argumenta\u0163ia asta la un furt. Dac\u0103 nu \u0163ipai “ho\u0163ii”, totul se uita \u00een trei zile. Tu e\u015fti de vin\u0103 c\u0103 \u0163ipi.<\/p>\n Nu. Ho\u0163ul e de vin\u0103, c\u0103 a furat. Tu doar reac\u0163ionezi la abuz. \u015ei ai dreptul s\u0103 reac\u0163ionezi exact cum sim\u0163i.<\/p>\n 10. Dar tu de fapt voiai s\u0103 venim noi to\u0163i cretinii s\u0103 te \u00eenjur\u0103m, altfel puneai postarea pe prieteni.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n S\u0103 pun pe prieteni o postare care pune public problema pozelor f\u0103r\u0103 consim\u0163\u0103m\u00e2nt??<\/p>\n \u00cen momentul \u00een care eu vreau ca toat\u0103 lumea, \u015fi mai ales du\u015fmanii, s\u0103 \u015ftie c\u0103 NU permit poze f\u0103r\u0103 consim\u0163\u0103m\u00e2nt?<\/p>\n Da, riscul e c\u0103 veni\u0163i to\u0163i cretinii s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenjura\u0163i. Dar undeva \u00een min\u0163i\u015foara voastr\u0103 mic\u0103 \u015fi simpl\u0103 tot se inoculeaz\u0103 ideea c\u0103 a face poze f\u0103r\u0103 a \u00eentreba \u00eenainte e gre\u015fit. \u015ei pute\u0163i s\u0103 v\u0103 baza\u0163i pe mine c\u0103 \u00eemi voi duce acest punct de vedere p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een p\u00e2nzele albe.<\/p>\n Ca nici un om s\u0103 nu mai tr\u0103iasc\u0103 senza\u0163ia oribil\u0103 de a se vedea expus \u00eentr-un moment care nu privea pe nimeni altcineva, \u015fi \u00een care nu f\u0103cea nimic ilegal.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ieri, am tr\u0103it un moment absolut, dar absolut oribil. 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\nAm muit la \u0103\u015ftia cu sutele \u015fi o s\u0103 muiesc la ei p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd o s\u0103 mai pot controla o tastatur\u0103. Nimic remarcabil \u00een asta.
\nPartea cringy e momentul \u00een care al\u0163i pro\u015fti se iau dup\u0103 tine fizic pe strad\u0103. Sau la metrou. Sau \u00een orice mijloc de transport. Cine spune unde se opresc? Dac\u0103 te urm\u0103resc p\u00e2n\u0103 acas\u0103? Dac\u0103 vin s\u0103-\u0163i bat\u0103 la u\u015f\u0103? Dac\u0103…<\/p>\n