{"id":18331,"date":"2019-09-04T10:34:28","date_gmt":"2019-09-04T07:34:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18331"},"modified":"2019-09-04T10:36:30","modified_gmt":"2019-09-04T07:36:30","slug":"feminitatea-nu-datorie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/feminitatea-nu-datorie\/","title":{"rendered":"Feminitatea nu e o datorie"},"content":{"rendered":"

Azi mai povestim despre un cli\u0219eu care m\u0103 scoate din s\u0103rite. Momentul \u00een care vine un Gicu de pe net s\u0103-\u021bi repro\u0219eze c\u0103 “nu ai feminitate”, c\u0103 “nu ai nimic feminin”, c\u0103 “unde \u0163i-e feminitatea”. <\/p>\n

Da, po\u0163i constata c\u0103 nu sunt feminin\u0103, a\u015fa cum po\u0163i constata c\u0103 am ochi c\u0103prui-\u00eenchis sau p\u0103rul negru. De\u015fi nici acest gen de observa\u0163ie nu-\u015fi prea are locul \u00een afara unei rela\u0163ii intime de oarecare natur\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 dac\u0103 o peraoan\u0103 e la 300, sau 500 de km de tine, sau ok, chiar dac\u0103 ai fotografiat-o \u00een metrou s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na trecut\u0103, are zero interes s\u0103-\u0163i plac\u0103 sau s\u0103 se adecveze nevoilor tale, feminitatea ei sau absen\u0163a acesteia cumva nu te privesc. <\/p>\n

\u00cen schimb, nu \u00eemi po\u0163i spune pe un ton de repro\u015f c\u0103 nu sunt feminin\u0103. Sau s\u0103 \u00eemi arunci hate c\u0103 nu sunt feminin\u0103. Chiar nu e o obliga\u0163ie a mea fa\u0163\u0103 de tine, nu avem un contract care s\u0103 stipuleze c\u0103 eu trebuie s\u0103 fiu feminin\u0103, \u015fi nu ai de ce s\u0103 ai aceast\u0103 a\u015fteptare fa\u0163\u0103 de mine. <\/p>\n

Nu am promis nic\u0103ieri c\u0103 o s\u0103 fiu feminin\u0103, nu m-am promovat ca feminin\u0103, nu m-am \u00eenscris la concursul de feminitate, nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 c\u0103 m\u0103 marketez ca feminin\u0103 \u015fi cred sincer c\u0103 fiecare om are dreptul s\u0103 fie el \u00eensu\u015fi. <\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 eu a\u015f \u00eencerca s\u0103 mimez o feminitate pe care nu o am \u015fi nu o simt, s\u0103 \u00eemi mior\u0163\u0103i vocea sau s\u0103 mimez o supu\u015fenie care nu \u00eemi vin sub nici o form\u0103, m-a\u015f plictisi foarte repede de presta\u0163ie \u015fi de oamenii fa\u0163\u0103 de care e nevoie s\u0103 fac asta. <\/p>\n

Taman de aceea, merg pe un look \u015fi pe un stil unisex. Cumva simt c\u0103 asta m\u0103 define\u015fte cel mai bine. Punctul neutru, unde nu e\u015fti nici b\u0103rbat, nici femeie, ci un om pur \u015fi simplu, care nu vrea s\u0103 se conformeze normelor de feminitate ale altora. <\/p>\n

\u015ei nu \u00een\u0163eleg de ce mamele \u00ee\u015fi pis\u0103logesc fiicele s\u0103 fie “feminine”. Unele sunt ni\u015fte mici z\u00e2ne de la sine. Altele se ca\u0163\u0103r\u0103 \u00een copaci, sparg nuci cu plua \u015fi joac\u0103 fotbal cu b\u0103ie\u0163ii \u00een fa\u0163a blocului. O cuno\u015ftin\u0163\u0103 are o feti\u0163\u0103 din aceast\u0103 ultim\u0103 categorie \u015fi mi se pl\u00e2nge c\u0103 nu \u015ftie ce s\u0103-i fac\u0103 s-o feminizeze.
\n-B\u0103i, dar de ce nu pute\u0163i, pur \u015fi simplu, s\u0103 v\u0103 iubi\u0163i copiii a\u015fa cum sunt ei?
\n-Dar eu o fac pentru binele ei…
\n-Nu. O faci pentru confortul t\u0103u mintal, s\u0103 te po\u0163i l\u0103uda la cunoscu\u0163i c\u0103 ai feti\u0163\u0103 cuminte. Dar tu nu ai feti\u0163\u0103 cuminte, ai feti\u0163\u0103 plin\u0103 de energie \u015fi voin\u0163\u0103. La pariu c\u0103 o s\u0103 fac\u0103 mai multe \u00een via\u0163\u0103 dec\u00e2t una care doarme pe ea?
\n\u015ei sincer, m\u0103 uit la copilul \u0103la s\u0103n\u0103tos \u015fi plin de via\u0163\u0103 care marcheaz\u0103 goluri cu dexteritatea unui fotbalist brazilian. De ce nu pot ni\u015fte p\u0103rin\u0163i s\u0103 se bucure de copiii lor exact cum \u00eei au \u015fi exact cu lucrurile la care sunt ei buni? De ce s\u0103 compensezi prin copii ni\u015fte frustr\u0103ri personale? Dac\u0103 ai vise de prin\u0163es\u0103, fii prin\u0163es\u0103 tu. \u015ei las\u0103-\u0163i copiii s\u0103 fie ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi. <\/p>\n

Nu mai agasa\u0163i persoane pe care nu le cunoa\u015fte\u0163i pe net cu idealurile voastre despre feminitate. Cumva, nu e treaba noastr\u0103 s\u0103 te satisfacem. Sau dac\u0103 vrei un ideal de feminitate, caut\u0103-\u0163i direct o pagin\u0103 a cuiva care e deja feminin. \u015ei bucur\u0103-te. <\/p>\n

Femeile sunt diferite, a\u0219a cum \u0219i b\u0103rba\u021bii sunt diferi\u021bi. Ce plictisitor ar fi s\u0103 fim produse \u00een serie, care s\u0103 semene unele cu altele. <\/p>\n

Dar pro\u0219tii nu se pot ab\u021bine s\u0103 nu te frece la icre cu modul \u00een care e\u0219ti diferit \u0219i s\u0103 te agaseze c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 te aliniezi la viziunea lor. Exact cum femeile proaste caut\u0103 mereu cel mai mare curvar s\u0103 \u00eencerce s\u0103-l domesticeasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103-l fac\u0103 so\u0163 model, \u0219i \u00ee\u0219i m\u0103soar\u0103 \u00een asta talentele de seduc\u0103toare, \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163ii pro\u0219ti caut\u0103 doar tomboys cu clitorisul mai mare dec\u00e2t plua lor, s\u0103 \u00eencerce le \u00eembl\u00e2nzeasc\u0103. E una dintre re\u0163etele nefericirii sigure. Pentru c\u0103 nici fustangiul nu are chef s\u0103 se lege de gard pentru o singur\u0103 *izd\u0103, \u015fi nici femeia care desface singur\u0103 borcane nu are chef s\u0103 fac\u0103 pe neajutorata pentru unii c\u0103rora nu le datoreaz\u0103 nimic, <\/p>\n

A\u0219adar, ce am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat ast\u0103zi, dragi copii? Ast\u0103zi am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 lu\u0103m oamenii a\u0219a cum sunt. Sau dac\u0103 nu putem, \u00eei l\u0103s\u0103m pur \u0219i simplu \u00een pace \u0219i ne c\u0103ut\u0103m anturajul care corespunde deja viselor noastre. <\/p>\n

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