Sunt mare fan al rubricii tale Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei. \u00cemi place cum cite\u0219ti p\u00e2n\u0103 la cap\u0103t orice mail, oric\u00e2t de lung, \u0219i te cobori la mintea fiec\u0103ruia, s\u0103 cau\u021bi s\u0103-l aju\u021bi cu un sfat bun.<\/strong><\/em> Po\u021bi s\u0103 scrii ce crezi tu c\u0103 nu m\u0103 sup\u0103r,<\/strong><\/em> X.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n *<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n Te \u00een\u021beleg. To\u021bi ne-am \u00eendr\u0103gostit la 20 \u0219i ceva de ani de o persoan\u0103 mai matur\u0103, mai responsabil\u0103, care \u0219tia cum s\u0103 se poarte \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie \u0219i ne-a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat \u0219i pe noi.<\/p>\n Nu e c\u0103 pu\u0219tanii \u0103\u0219tia nu te iubesc. Pur \u0219i simplu, \u00ee\u0219i iau informa\u021biile despre femei din articole alt-right \u0219i de pe YouPorn, \u0219i ambele surse sunt la fel de edificatoare \u0219i de credibile pentru modul \u00een care trebuie s\u0103 te por\u021bi \u00een cuplu. Estimez c\u0103 o s\u0103-\u0219i ia mui dup\u0103 mui p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd o las\u0103 mai moale, iar asta se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla… oops, tot la 30 \u0219i ceva de ani.<\/p>\n De aceea e bun b\u0103rbatul la 30 \u0219i ceva de ani. E b\u0103tucit suficient de via\u021b\u0103 \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 lase arogan\u021ba nejustificat\u0103 jos \u0219i s\u0103 nu mai cread\u0103 c\u0103 soarele r\u0103sare din anusul lui.<\/p>\n Deci, pot \u00een\u021belege noutatea, pl\u0103cerea interac\u021biunii, probabil \u0219i faptul c\u0103 \u0103sta are subiecte de dialog mai complexe, probabil c\u0103 te \u0219i duce la un restaurant mai de doamne ajut\u0103 \u0219i nu te las\u0103 s\u0103 te atingi de nota de plat\u0103, \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe.<\/p>\n DAR. \u0218i e un mare dar.<\/p>\n Mama ta vede lucrurile \u00een perspectiv\u0103 \u0219i pe termen lung. \u0102sta a p\u0103r\u0103sit o nevast\u0103 cu copii mici. Semnal de alarm\u0103. Nu-mi scrii de ce a p\u0103r\u0103sit-o, \u0219i chiar dac\u0103 mi-ai scrie, probabil mi-ai scrie c\u0103 era o scorpie \u021b\u00e2fnoas\u0103 \u0219i bossy care \u00eel obliga s\u0103 cumpere lapte \u0219i s\u0103 duc\u0103 gunoiul – adic\u0103 versiunea lui, pe care tu, ca o \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103, o \u00eenghi\u021bi pe nemestecate.<\/p>\n C\u0103 dac\u0103 \u0103sta are un eventual obicei s\u0103 vad\u0103 ceva nou \u0219i sexy \u0219i s\u0103-i sf\u00e2r\u00e2ie instant calusul de pe c\u0103lc\u00e2ie, e o veste relativ proast\u0103 \u0219i pentru tine. Nu \u0219tii c\u00e2nd apare urm\u0103toarea \u0219i c\u00e2nd te vei trezi cu mesajul: “Frumoasa mea, n-ar fi mers oricum. E\u015fti prea bun\u0103 pentru mine, prea t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \u015fi nu te merit.”<\/p>\n \u015ei tu o s\u0103-l suni absolut oripilat\u0103: Ba daaa, Grigorreee, m\u0103 meri\u0163i.<\/p>\n Numai c\u0103 la telefonul lui o s\u0103-\u0163i r\u0103spund\u0103 o voce de femeie. Care va auzi despre tine c\u0103 e\u015fti o scorpie \u0163\u00e2fnoas\u0103 \u015fi bossy, c\u0103 \u00eel obligai s\u0103 cumpere lapte \u015fi s\u0103 duc\u0103 gunoiul.<\/p>\n Problema a doua e c\u0103 numi\u0163ii copii mici nu r\u0103m\u00e2n mici, ci cresc mari de la un punct \u00eencolo. \u015ei \u00eencep s\u0103 solicite din ce \u00een ce mai multe resurse. Acum nu te afecteaz\u0103 c\u0103 vor Kinder felie de lapte sau cartofi pr\u0103ji\u0163i de la Mec, dar peste zece ani, c\u00e2nd hopefully ai o carier\u0103 de succes \u015fi rat\u0103 la cas\u0103, \u015fi vine kinderul din prima c\u0103s\u0103torie, proasp\u0103t adolescent, s\u0103 cear\u0103 echipament, dar musai de la Decathlon, \u015fi bani de tab\u0103r\u0103, o s\u0103 te furnice un “c\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2t??”, mai ales dac\u0103 o s\u0103 vrei s\u0103 ai propriii t\u0103i copii.<\/p>\n Sigur, nu e nimic anormal \u00een asta, omul are copii \u015fi e bine c\u0103 are grij\u0103 de ei. Dar ei vor fi mereu prioritari \u015fi asta, de la un punct \u00eencolo, s-ar putea s\u0103 te cam frustreze.<\/p>\n Sigur, tu la 20 de ani, prezin\u0163i o acut\u0103 durere \u00een basc\u0103 legat\u0103 de perspectiv\u0103 \u015fi de termen lung. \u0162ie \u00ee\u0163i place ce prime\u015fti acum \u015fi ai impresia c\u0103 a\u015fa va fi mereu.<\/p>\n \u015ei \u015ftii ceva: e un moment c\u00e2nd po\u0163i face gre\u015felile de la 20 de ani, iar acela e chiar v\u00e2rsta de 20 de ani. F\u0103-le acum, c\u00e2t \u00ee\u0163i st\u0103 bine s\u0103 le faci. Altminteri, ajungi una dintre femeile acelea mature infantile care se pun \u00eentr-un relationship s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2nal cu altul, de vreme ce oricine le scoate la o cafea e iubitul vie\u0163ii lor. Gre\u015fe\u015fte la 20 s\u0103 nu fii penibil\u0103 \u015fi g\u00e2sc\u0103 la 40.<\/p>\n Concluzia: bucur\u0103-te de ce ai acum. (Pariez c\u0103 f\u0103ceai asta chiar dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i r\u0103spundeam s\u0103-l la\u015fi m\u00e2ine.) Dar nu abandona facultatea \u00een caz c\u0103 te ia flama, nu r\u0103m\u00e2ne gravid\u0103, g\u0103se\u015fte-\u0163i un job solid, c\u0103 rata aia de la cas\u0103 nu se va pl\u0103ti singur\u0103, \u015fi preg\u0103te\u015fte-te mintal \u015fi pentru posibilitatea c\u0103, la un moment dat, via\u0163a v\u0103 va trimite pe poteci separate.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena.<\/p>\n Foto: pexels.com<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n *** Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. 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\nEu am 23 de ani \u0219i intru acum \u00een ultimul an la o facultate pe care nu o voi numi, pentru privacy. Am cunoscut de patru luni un tip fenomenal. Un b\u0103rbat cu care chiar ai ce s\u0103 vorbe\u0219ti. Nu se d\u0103 mare, nu are atitudini iritante, e iubitor, simplu, cald, e perfect pentru mine, \u0219i arat\u0103 \u0219i foarte bine. C\u00e2nd intr\u0103 \u00eentr-o camer\u0103, toat\u0103 lumea e cu privirea pe el \u0219i \u00een special femeile.<\/strong><\/em>
\nDar nu sunt geloas\u0103, pentru c\u0103 \u0219tiu c\u0103 m\u0103 iube\u0219te mult.<\/strong><\/em>
\nProblema e mama. Ea m\u0103 tot toac\u0103 s\u0103 caut pe cineva de v\u00e2rsta mea. Tipul, trebuie s\u0103-\u021bi spun, are 35 de ani. Mamei nu \u00eei place c\u0103 e divor\u021bat, c\u0103 are doi copii mici cu prima nevast\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103 ea \u00eel sun\u0103 des cu diverse probleme. Mie nu mi se pare mare lucru. Majoritatea oamenilor de v\u00e2rsta lui sunt divor\u021ba\u021bi \u0219i e foarte bine c\u0103 are grij\u0103 de copii, dac\u0103 asta nu \u00eel \u00eempiedic\u0103 s\u0103-mi arate c\u00e2t de mult m\u0103 iube\u0219te.<\/strong><\/em>
\n\u0218i mi-o arat\u0103, Lorena. \u0102ia de v\u00e2rsta mea habar n-au s\u0103 arate iubire \u0219i respect. Nu se iubesc dec\u00e2t pe ei, mu\u0219chii \u0219i jocurile lor. \u0102sta e at\u00e2t de tandru, de bun, de bl\u00e2nd, de bun la pat. Cred c\u0103 sunt \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103 pentru prima oar\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat.<\/strong><\/em>
\nCum s-o fac pe mama s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 asta \u0219i s\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai cic\u0103leasc\u0103? Nu mai sunt copil mic, mai am un an p\u00e2n\u0103 termin facultatea!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n
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