Una dintre lec\u021bioarele cu care site-urile de pickup artristry distrug via\u021ba social\u0103 a b\u0103rba\u021bilor suficient de naivi s\u0103 pun\u0103 botul c\u0103 b\u0103etzii d\u0103jtep\u021bi de acolo de\u021bin cheia fericirii este recomandarea de peacocking.<\/p>\n
Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 peacocking?<\/p>\n
\u00censeamn\u0103 s\u0103 te lauzi \u00eendelung c\u00e2t de bogat, de de\u0219tept \u0219i de special e\u0219ti tu \u0219i s\u0103-i insinuezi perpetuu unui interlocutor care nu te-a \u00eentrebat nimic – \u00een general unei femei, pentru c\u0103 de obicei pe ele cau\u021bi s\u0103 le impresionezi – c\u0103 e\u0219ti mai bun, \u0219tii mai multe, \u021bi se cuvin mai multe \u0219i, pe scurt, tu e\u0219ti miezul din dodoa\u0219c\u0103, s-o formul\u0103m moldovene\u0219te.<\/p>\n
Peacocking prezint\u0103 o singur\u0103 problem\u0103: de obicei tinde s\u0103 tr\u0103deze prostul inutil de la o po\u0219t\u0103. Iar efectul este taman opus celui dorit: lumea d\u0103 ochii peste cap \u0219i \u00ee\u0219i formuleaz\u0103 deja \u00een minte urm\u0103toarele glume la adresa persoanei cu pricina.<\/p>\n
Nu e nimic seduc\u0103tor, nimic fascinant, nimic atr\u0103g\u0103tor \u00een discursul cuiva care se d\u0103 mare, \u00ee\u0219i minimalizeaz\u0103 interlocutorii, \u00eei \u00eentrerupe, e nepoliticos cu ei, \u0219i caut\u0103 s\u0103 semnalizeze perpetuu c\u0103 o are mai lung\u0103 \u0219i mai groas\u0103. Dimpotriv\u0103. Efectul e repulsia brusc\u0103 \u0219i intens\u0103. \u0102la care se laud\u0103 prea mult \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 impresia c\u0103 se str\u0103duie\u0219te MUUULT prea mult, \u0219i senza\u021bia subliminal\u0103 e c\u0103 face asta tot dintr-o nevoie de compensa\u021bie. C\u0103, \u00een realitate, e o persoan\u0103 foarte nesigur\u0103 de sine, \u0219i \u00eei e team\u0103 c\u0103 dac\u0103 pierde orice microconflict, de aici va rezulta o \u00eenfr\u00e2ngere s\u00e2ngeroas\u0103 \u00een r\u0103zboiul cu via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n
Mul\u021bi copila\u0219i confund\u0103 genul acesta de arogan\u021b\u0103 cu \u00eencrederea \u00een for\u021bele proprii. Taman de aceea tind s\u0103 fiu mai indulgent\u0103 cu peacockingul c\u00e2nd \u00eel practic\u0103 cineva sub 22 de ani. E un mod de a te afirma ca persoan\u0103 de sine st\u0103t\u0103toare \u0219i a ie\u0219i de sub autoritatea p\u0103rin\u021bilor. Dar c\u00e2nd persoana care se d\u0103 rotund\u0103 e ditamai c\u00e2inele sur la v\u00e2n\u0103toare, iar experien\u021ba de via\u021b\u0103 nu l-a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat regulile de baz\u0103 ale unui comportament cu sens, nu g\u0103sesc nici o scuz\u0103. \u0218i aten\u021bie, nu spun amabil. Poate fi o op\u021biune s\u0103 nu fii amabil cu nimeni. Dar s\u0103 fii o b\u0103\u0219in\u0103 arogant\u0103 deja e \u00een afara oric\u0103rui sens, dac\u0103 nu cumva e\u0219ti masochist \u0219i implori cu fiecare gest batjocura care, garantat, te va \u00eenso\u021bi peste tot.<\/p>\n
\u00cencrederea \u00een for\u021bele proprii, dragi copii, \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 nu te bagi mai mult \u00een seam\u0103 dec\u00e2t e strict necesar \u0219i s\u0103 mizezi c\u0103 faptele tale vorbesc pentru tine. \u00cencrederea \u00een for\u021bele proprii \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 \u0219tii cine e\u0219ti. Tu pentru tine. S\u0103 nu cer\u0219e\u0219ti cu disperare aten\u021bia altora.<\/p>\n
Pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 te ui\u021bi sub stratul de \u00eeng\u00e2mfare imbecil\u0103, acesta e peacockingul: o milogeal\u0103 disperat\u0103 de aten\u021bie.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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