{"id":18442,"date":"2019-09-24T09:27:25","date_gmt":"2019-09-24T06:27:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18442"},"modified":"2019-09-24T09:31:40","modified_gmt":"2019-09-24T06:31:40","slug":"posta-redactiei-bis-despre-reprosuri-conjugale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-bis-despre-reprosuri-conjugale\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei bis: despre repro\u0219uri conjugale"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Apreciez foarte mult po\u0219ta redac\u021biei, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi d\u0103 o imagine clar\u0103 asupra problemelor care-i fr\u0103m\u00e2nt\u0103 pe cititori, \u0219i judec\u00e2nd dup\u0103 impactul extrem de viu printre ceilal\u021bi cititori, fie el pozitiv, fie negativ, deduc c\u0103 majoritatea acestor probleme sunt comune, doar c\u0103 unii au avut curajul s\u0103 le a\u0219tearn\u0103 pe foaie, al\u021bii nu.<\/p>\n<p>Iar dac\u0103, \u00een urma post\u0103rii, se nasc \u0219i discu\u021bii incendiare care duc \u00een o mie \u0219i una de alte direc\u021bii, e chiar ok pentru mine s\u0103 le explorez, pentru c\u0103 sunt teme care mie, poate, mi s-au p\u0103rut self-explanatory, dar judec\u00e2nd dup\u0103 reac\u021biile popula\u021biei, nu e chiar a\u0219a.<\/p>\n<p>De exemplu, partea care m-a indignat ieri \u0219i pe mine, \u0219i pe majoritatea cititoarelor mele, a fost faptul c\u0103 un b\u0103rbat nu foarte atr\u0103g\u0103tor \u00ee\u0219i permitea s\u0103 scrie despre partenera lui c\u0103 are fa\u021ba &#8220;\u00een repara\u0163ie&#8221; \u015fi c\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi arat\u0103 v\u00e2rsta.<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 aceast\u0103 evaluare o f\u0103cea RuPaul, un b\u0103rbat de 55 de ani care, \u00een travesti, arat\u0103 ca o bun\u0103ciune de 35, sau Jared Leto, care la 40 \u015fi ceva arat\u0103 ca eternul adolescent, sau George Clooney, dovada vie c\u0103 v\u00e2rsta e sex appeal ad\u0103ugat, a\u015f fi str\u00e2ns din din\u0163i \u015fi a\u015f fi zis: da, ok. Omul s-a men\u0163inut at\u00e2t de bine, s-a \u00eengrijit at\u00e2t de eficient, a valorificat at\u00e2t de frumos patina timpului, \u00eenc\u00e2t, la cum arat\u0103, ARE dreptul s\u0103 se pi\u015fe cu jet pe muritorii ur\u00e2\u0163i de r\u00e2nd.<\/p>\n<p>Dar nici RuPaul, nici Jared Leto, nici George Clooney nu se pi\u015f\u0103 cu jet pe nimeni, pentru c\u0103 felul \u00een care arat\u0103 ei e rezultatul unui efort solid, al unei investi\u0163ii constante \u00een propria persoan\u0103 \u015fi, desigur, pentru c\u0103 au prea mult\u0103 treab\u0103 constructiv\u0103 \u015fi creativ\u0103 de f\u0103cut.<\/p>\n<p>OK, s\u0103 zicem c\u0103 ai tot dreptul la standarde. Fiecare dintre noi poate visa la Miss Venezuela. Dar \u0219tii, eu, dac\u0103 interac\u021bionez cu un b\u0103rbat mult sub standardele mele, nu m\u0103 apuc s\u0103-i creez speran\u0163e false. Refuz interac\u0163iunea erotic\u0103 din start. E peste tot pe social media mea: nu vreau mesaje private, nu vreau aga\u0163amente, nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 aloc timp necunoscu\u0163ilor \u015fi interac\u0163iunilor de acest gen.<\/p>\n<p>C\u00e2nd tu ini\u0163iezi o rela\u0163ie de amor, duci \u00een pat o femeie, o frecventezi cu regularitate, iar ea \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi doreasc\u0103 mai mult, constatarea c\u0103 e ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103 fa\u0163a necesit\u0103 repara\u0163ii e de o b\u0103d\u0103r\u0103nie de nedescris. Nu mai e vorba de o str\u0103in\u0103 asupra c\u0103reia \u00ee\u0163i exersezi dreptul liber la op\u0163iune. E o persoan\u0103 cu care ai \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163it intimitate \u015fi via\u0163\u0103 privat\u0103. Faptul c\u0103 dup\u0103 aceea \u00eei denigrezi \u00eenf\u0103\u0163i\u015farea nu \u00eei afecteaz\u0103 doar ei demnitatea: c\u0103 se culc\u0103 cu masculi care nu \u015ftiu s-o pre\u0163uiasc\u0103. Spune \u015fi despre tine c\u0103 e\u015fti genul lihnit care ar foote \u015fi gaura din gard. \u015ei c\u0103 nu dai doi bani pe persoanele care devin intime cu tine.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei dac\u0103 e un lucru care sc\u00e2rbe\u015fte profund femeile: uite, e \u0103sta.<\/p>\n<p>Orice femeie, c\u00e2nd aude pe unul denigr\u00e2nd aspectul altei femei, \u00ee\u015fi reactiveaz\u0103 toate nesiguran\u0163ele legate de fundul prea mic sau prea mare, burta insuficient tonifiat\u0103, b\u0103rbia prea lat\u0103, etc. etc. etc. \u015ei deja \u00een mintea ei ruleaz\u0103 filmul \u00een care boul spune exact acelea\u015fi mizerii \u015fi despre ea.<\/p>\n<p>Vorbe\u015fte femei de r\u0103u fizic \u015fi te asiguri c\u0103 nici o femeie nu va mai dori s\u0103 se culce cu tine.<\/p>\n<p>E un motiv pentru care c\u00e2nt\u0103re\u0163ii tineri \u015fi frumo\u015fi de alt\u0103dat\u0103 lansau at\u00e2tea balade pline de descrieri erotice \u015fi absolut flatante ale femeii. Tendin\u0163a e s\u0103-l dore\u015fti pe unul care g\u0103se\u015fte calit\u0103\u0163ile anatomiei feminine, pentru c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i inspir\u0103 \u00eencredere c\u0103 se va concentra pe ce e frumos \u015fi \u00een cazul t\u0103u.<\/p>\n<p>Bun, \u015fi dup\u0103 aceast\u0103 lung\u0103 introducere, hai s\u0103 v\u0103 povestesc care e comentariul care mi-a determinat acest articol. Zice comentatorul cu pricina.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Probabil omul a avut mereu femei mai sau mult mai tinere decat el \u0219i fiind prima lui rela\u021bie de genu&#8217; e in impas! Dac\u0103 facem abstrac\u021bie de exprimarea lui,practic e singurul defect al ei ,care \u00eel deranjeaz\u0103,pe c\u00e2nd &#8230;cunosc\u00a0multe persoane care se pl\u00e2ng prietenilor de defectele partenerului (sau chiar o b\u00e2rfesc), practic\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lnit\u0103 \u00een mare parte la femei!&#8230;atunci sunt toate ,,m\u00e2rlane&#8221;? Ia ganditi-v\u0103 pu\u021bin cand v\u0103 pl\u00e2nge\u021bi prietenelor de iubit, so\u021b&#8230;e acela\u0219i lucru&#8217; practic!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>De ce e gre\u0219it din r\u0103d\u0103cini acest comentariu?<\/p>\n<p>Pentru c\u0103 e u\u0219or s\u0103 nu te deranjeze nimic altceva, c\u00e2nd comportamentul femeii respective e irepro\u0219abil.<\/p>\n<p>Pe c\u00e2nd multe femei se pl\u00e2ng de defectele partenerului care:<\/p>\n<p>-nu \u00ee\u0219i \u021bine cuv\u00e2ntul dat.<\/p>\n<p>-face mizerie<\/p>\n<p>-le las\u0103 pe ele cu grosul muncii casnice<\/p>\n<p>-nu ofer\u0103 nimic, doar pretinde<\/p>\n<p>-e \u0219i nesim\u021bit din multe puncte de vedere.<\/p>\n<p>S\u0103 pui semnul egal \u00eentre aspectul fizic, care era exact acela\u0219i c\u00e2nd ai cunoscut persoana, mai ales dac\u0103 rela\u021bia e nou\u0103, cu comportamentul neglijent \u0219i misecuvenist \u00een cuplu e de-a dreptul o imbecilitate.<\/p>\n<p>\u0218i asta pentru c\u0103 tu ai v\u0103zut din prima cum arat\u0103 femeia. Nu e ca \u0219i cum ai cunoscut-o pe Beyonce, \u0219i a doua zi diminea\u021ba te-ai trezit l\u00e2ng\u0103 Whoopi Goldberg. \u00cen secunda \u00een care ai zis &#8220;da, interested&#8221;, ai zis \u015ftiind exact superoferta, cu plusurile \u015fi minusurile ei.<\/p>\n<p>Dar mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i sunt extrem de s\u0103ritori \u015fi de dr\u0103gu\u0163i \u00een perioada de curte. Superoferta la care aceste femei zic &#8220;da, interested&#8221; e cu totul alta dec\u00e2t pachetul livrat dup\u0103 ce b\u0103rbatul \u0103la are siguran\u0163a unei rela\u0163ii \u015fi se transform\u0103 \u00een sultanul casei, care \u015fi-a tras slug\u0103 moca.<\/p>\n<p>Iar c\u00e2nd aceste femei se pl\u00e2ng de acest gen de comportamente, cumva indivizii de tipul comentacului le scot tot pe ele vinovate c\u0103 se pl\u00e2ng.<\/p>\n<p>Da, nu te califici s\u0103 repro\u015fezi M\u0103rioarei c\u0103 e ur\u00e2t\u0103 c\u00e2nd tu ar\u0103\u0163i ca \u015fi cum te-ar fi m\u00e2ncat cineva o dat\u0103 \u015fi nu i-ai c\u0103zut bine la stomac. Dar te califici s\u0103 repro\u015fezi c\u0103 nu face nimic c\u00e2nd tu faci totul.<\/p>\n<p>Singura gre\u015feal\u0103 pe care o fac femeile care repro\u015feaz\u0103 este c\u0103 stau \u00een continuare \u00een aceste rela\u0163ii profund dezechilibrate. Uite, de mine n-a profitat nimeni prea mult timp. C\u0103 dac\u0103 m-am prins c\u0103 dinamica interac\u0163iunii este c\u0103 numai eu fac efortul, \u015fi numai cel\u0103lalt are de c\u00e2\u015ftigat, mi-am b\u0103gat prompt \u015fi eficient plua, n-am pierdut timp cu v\u0103ic\u0103ritul.<\/p>\n<p>Pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 ai nemul\u0163umiri legitime, tot tu pici de nebun\u0103, dificil\u0103, cic\u0103litoare, blabla. Frustrant, nu?<\/p>\n<p>Tu faci toat\u0103 munca, cel\u0103lalt nimic, \u015fi tot tu e\u015fti de vin\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Ia hai, fiecare la scara lui, iar cine vrea servitori, s\u0103-\u015fi angajeze contra cost.<\/p>\n<p>Foto: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/man-wearing-suit-jacket-sitting-on-chair-in-front-of-woman-wearing-eyeglasses-1089563\/\"><strong>pexels.com<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? 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