{"id":18464,"date":"2019-09-29T09:52:17","date_gmt":"2019-09-29T06:52:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18464"},"modified":"2019-09-29T10:06:31","modified_gmt":"2019-09-29T07:06:31","slug":"galceava-dintre-poliamorosi-si-ppalmisti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/galceava-dintre-poliamorosi-si-ppalmisti\/","title":{"rendered":"G\u00e2lceava dintre poliamoro\u0219i \u0219i p***palmi\u0219ti"},"content":{"rendered":"

Am fost ocupat\u0103 cu propriul meu balamuc zilele astea \u015fi am ratat scandalurile altora. Glumesc. Scandalurile altora nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 ca regul\u0103 general\u0103. Dar e un subiect care b\u00e2ntuie pe Facebook \u00een ultima vreme, a\u015fa c\u0103 vreau \u015fi eu s\u0103 discut pu\u0163in despre el.<\/p>\n

Practic, s-au creat dou\u0103 tabere \u00een conflict. Pe de o parte, o ga\u015fc\u0103 de arti\u015fti independen\u0163i \u015fi prietenii lor, care \u015fi-au creat un grup de Diversitate \u00een Rela\u0163ii. Cam cum f\u0103ceau \u015fi hipio\u0163ii pe timpuri. Faptul c\u0103 arti\u015ftilor le place sexul, \u015fi \u00een general cu mai mul\u0163i, nu e o noutate. \u0102\u015ftia \u00ee\u015fi asum\u0103. C\u00e2t\u0103 vreme e cu consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2ntul \u0219i participarea entuziast\u0103 a tuturor celor implica\u021bi, nu v\u0103d problema.<\/p>\n

Cealalt\u0103 tab\u0103r\u0103 e format\u0103 exact din viermii lurkeri nefutabili pu\u0163opalmi\u015fti “tradi\u0163ionali\u015fti” care aveau o problem\u0103 cu faptul c\u0103 un studio mi-a oferit un onorariu consistent pentru o singur\u0103 zi de munc\u0103, \u00een care am filmat un spot publicitar. Logic, lurkerii pu\u0163opalmi\u015fti n-au venit \u00een via\u0163a lor cu vreo ofert\u0103 m\u0103car echivalent\u0103, s\u0103 fac publicitate la lucruri care li se par lor nobile, drept care, sper c\u0103 ne e clar tuturor c\u0103 nu se calific\u0103 s\u0103 se pronun\u0163e pentru cine s\u0103 fac reclam\u0103 \u015fi pentru cine nu. R\u0103spunsul scurt: pentru cine pl\u0103te\u015fte. Mul\u0163umesc.<\/p>\n

Ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat?<\/p>\n

S-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat c\u0103 poliamoro\u0219ii \u00ee\u0219i vedeau lini\u0219ti\u021bi de ale lor,\u00a0 c\u00e2nd, brusc, le-au s\u0103rit pu\u021bopalmi\u0219tii de bereg\u0103\u021bi, s\u0103-i \u00eenjure, s\u0103-i porc\u0103ie \u0219i s\u0103 le fac\u0103 pe femei curve, \u0219toarfe, panar\u0103mi \u0219i alte sinonime. Probabil s\u0103 le fac\u0103 \u0219i poze \u00een metrou. Dar cu o \u00eenver\u0219unare de ai fi zis c\u0103 poliamoro\u0219ii le-au futut nevestele. \u0218i mamele. \u00cen exact aceea\u0219i partid\u0103, cum altfel.<\/p>\n

Din ura cu care s-au n\u0103pustit pu\u0163opalmi\u015ftii peste poliamoro\u015fi, ai crede c\u0103 pu\u0163opalmi\u015ftii vor o singur\u0103 nevast\u0103, c\u0103reia s\u0103-i dedice via\u0163a \u015fi visele lor p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd moartea \u00eei va desp\u0103r\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Nimic mai gre\u015fit. Aceia\u015fi pu\u0163opalmi\u015fti sunt cei care trimit sute de mesaje private de hookup tot at\u00e2tor femei \u00een ideea c\u0103 a avea mai multe partenere sexuale e at\u00e2t de tare. Aceia\u015fi pu\u0163opalmi\u015fti citesc siteuri de alt-right care le promit succes la MULTE femei. Deci, num\u0103rul mare de partenere e exact chestia cu care labele astea triste sm\u00e2rc\u00e2ite pe faian\u021b\u0103 sunt ademenite de impostorii care \u0163in siteurile de pickup. \u00cendeob\u015fte, impostorii sunt ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i pu\u0163opalmi\u015fti b\u0103tr\u00e2ni, care au obosit de lab\u0103 \u015fi au dat deja \u00een delir, \u015fi dac\u0103-i \u00eentrebi, o s\u0103-\u0163i povesteasc\u0103 \u015fi cum au futut-o pe Beyonce \u00een timp ce Jay Z se uita \u015fi-i mai tampona de transpira\u0163ie pe frunte.<\/p>\n

A\u015fadar, dragi cititori, ce remarc\u0103m la o prim\u0103 lectur\u0103 superficial\u0103?<\/p>\n

\u015ei pu\u0163opalmi\u015ftii, \u015fi poliamoro\u015fii \u00ee\u015fi doresc un num\u0103r mare de parteneri sexuali.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u015ei atunci, o s\u0103 \u00eentreba\u0163i domniile voastre nel\u0103murite, care mor\u0163ii lor e de fapt problema pu\u0163opalmi\u015ftilor? De ce, \u00een loc s\u0103 se bucure c\u0103 iat\u0103, o comunitate cu care putem fraterniza \u00een valori, au s\u0103rit cu spume la g\u00e2tul fetelor poliamoroase, s\u0103 le fac\u0103 curve, \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163ilor poliamoro\u015fi (care, lol, chiar fac ceea ce incelii viseaz\u0103 \u00een nop\u0163ile lor de lab\u0103 \u00eencr\u00e2ncenat\u0103, \u015fi anume, sex cu mai multe femei), s\u0103-i fac\u0103 beta \u015fi cucks?<\/p>\n

Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 beta \u015fi cucks, Lorena? o s\u0103 \u00eentrebe cititorii mai \u00een v\u00e2rst\u0103.
\nP\u0103mp\u0103l\u0103i. Fraieri. P\u0103c\u0103lici.<\/p>\n

Problema pu\u0163opalmi\u015ftilor este c\u0103, spre deosebire de poliamoro\u015fi, ei vor MONOPOL \u00ceN A FUTE PE L\u00c2NG\u0102.<\/p>\n

\u00cen rela\u0163iile de tip poliamoros, accentul e pe respect reciproc \u015fi pe reguli stabilite de comun acord. Partenerii sunt de obicei \u00eempreun\u0103 de mai mul\u0163i ani, se iubesc din toat\u0103 inima \u015fi se v\u0103d \u00eempreun\u0103 \u00een continuare, dar intensitatea pasiunii erotice a sc\u0103zut. Ceea ce, ne e clar tuturor, se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een orice poveste de dragoste, oric\u00e2t de reu\u015fit\u0103. Cam dup\u0103 al treilea an, energia sexual\u0103 se diminueaz\u0103.<\/p>\n

Oamenii care nu au nimic \u00een plus se cam despart aici. Dar sunt oamenii care, dincolo de sex, chiar sunt extrem de apropia\u0163i, se sus\u0163in reciproc, au planuri comune, \u015fi una peste alta, au o rela\u0163ie strict uman\u0103 de nota zece.<\/p>\n

Ace\u015fti oameni, dac\u0103 tr\u0103iesc pe premisa egalit\u0103\u0163ii complete, \u015fi nu prin no\u0163iunea masculului de\u0163in\u0103tor \u015fi a femelei – proprietate – pot decide de comun acord s\u0103 introduc\u0103 \u00een vie\u0163ile lor \u015fi sexul cu alte persoane. Cu condi\u0163ia s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi doreasc\u0103 ambii acest lucru \u015fi s\u0103 nu existe resentimente.<\/p>\n

Regulile poliamoriei difer\u0103 de la un cuplu la altul: unii o fac doar cu str\u0103ini, al\u0163ii cu anumi\u0163i prieteni, al\u0163ii au grupuri de Facebook \u015fi formeaz\u0103 o comunitate, al\u0163ii ies la ag\u0103\u0163at \u00eempreun\u0103 cu partenerul \u015fi fac sex \u00een trei cu persoana culeas\u0103.<\/p>\n

O dat\u0103 mi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u015fi mie, acum vreo zece ani, \u00eentr-o vacan\u0163\u0103 la Madrid, s\u0103 m\u0103 aga\u0163e un cuplu de spanioli tineri \u015fi frumo\u015fi, care erau c\u0103s\u0103tori\u0163i de patru ani \u015fi \u00een weekend ie\u015feau \u00een cuplu s\u0103 cunoasc\u0103 fete \u015fi s\u0103 fac\u0103 sex \u00een trei. Mi s-a p\u0103rut interesant s\u0103 \u00eencerc cum e, mai ales c\u0103 nu mi se propusese asta niciodat\u0103. A fost absolut minunat, a sem\u0103nat mai mult cu un act de dragoste dec\u00e2t cu un futai sportiv, iar dup\u0103 ce s-a terminat, am f\u0103cut cu ei ce fac cuplurile foarte apropiate \u00een general dup\u0103 sex: am b\u0103ut vin, am r\u00e2s \u015fi am glumit.<\/p>\n

Deci, experien\u0163a mea poliamoroas\u0103 a fost din perspectiva celui de-al treilea, nu din interiorul unui cuplu, \u015fi chiar a fost special\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u00cen schimb, ce vor pu\u0163opalmi\u015ftii care, dac\u0103-i \u00eentrebi, o s\u0103-\u0163i \u0163in\u0103 tot ei un lung speech despre cum omul nu e n\u0103scut monogam, \u015fi prin om se refer\u0103 doar la ei? Vor o rela\u0163ie \u00een care ei s\u0103 poat\u0103 face sex \u00een st\u00e2nga \u015fi \u00een dreapta, frecvent f\u0103r\u0103 consim\u0163\u0103m\u00e2ntul sau m\u0103car \u015ftiin\u0163a nevestei – de aici \u015fi no\u0163iunea de “\u00een\u015felat” – dar s\u0103 de\u0163in\u0103 drepturi complete \u015fi depline de exclusivitate asupra vie\u0163ii sexuale a femeii de l\u00e2ng\u0103 ei.<\/p>\n

De ce sunt poliamoro\u015fii beta \u015fi cucks \u00een mintea lor?
\nPentru c\u0103 \u0103ia nu au un raport de ciobani care m\u00e2n\u0103 oile \u00een \u0163arc cu femeile lor.
\n\u00cen mintea pu\u0163opalmistului, to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii vor numai asta, pentru c\u0103 to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt egocentrici ca ei.<\/p>\n

\u00cen realitate: at\u00e2t b\u0103rba\u0163ii, c\u00e2t \u015fi femeile au dorin\u0163e legate de mai multe persoane. Nu e mai curv\u0103 o tip\u0103 care \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte senza\u0163ii noi \u015fi un val proasp\u0103t de pasiune dec\u00e2t e\u015fti tu c\u00e2nd trimi\u0163i dick pics la 200 de persoane \u00een speran\u0163a c\u0103 poate, poate, d\u0103 Dumnezeu s\u0103 se \u00eendure una \u015fi de tine.<\/p>\n

Unele cupluri pot stabili de comun acord o monogamie ferm\u0103 \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 concesii. Dar dup\u0103 cum se \u015ftie, exact monogamia ferm\u0103 \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 concesii este cea erodat\u0103 de “\u00een\u015fel\u0103ciuni”, din secunda \u00een care intervine rutina sexual\u0103. \u015ei nu v\u0103 preg\u0103ti\u0163i s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenjura\u0163i \u00een sec\u0163iunea de comentarii: intervine.
\nSau m\u0103 pute\u0163i \u00eenjura \u00een voie: tot intervine.<\/p>\n

Sunt oameni care pot trece peste asta \u015fi s\u0103 renun\u0163e la atrac\u0163ia fizic\u0103 fa\u0163\u0103 de alte persoane. Ceea ce e demn de tot respectul, din punctul meu de vedere.<\/p>\n

Sunt oameni care nu pot, \u015fi o ard lupi morali\u015fti \u00een societate, apoi arm\u0103sari \u00een c\u0103lduri \u00een mesaje private, iar pe \u0103\u015ftia m\u0103 pi\u015f cu jet. Bag pula \u00een mor\u0163ii vo\u015ftri de vome slinoase, ia hai s\u0103 \u015ftie \u015fi nevasta ce face\u0163i. Voi ave\u0163i drept \u00een mintea voastr\u0103 s\u0103 v\u0103 gudura\u0163i \u00een toate direc\u0163iile, \u00een timp ce ea v\u0103 a\u015fteapt\u0103 acas\u0103, umil\u0103, cu ciorba. Sincer, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 fii nevasta unuia ca \u0103sta, mai bine faci videochat. M\u0103car din videochat r\u0103m\u00e2i cu ni\u015fte bani, pe c\u00e2nd \u00eentr-o c\u0103s\u0103torie cu o jigodie muist\u0103 ca asta, doar cu obliga\u0163ii \u015fi eforturi.<\/p>\n

\u015ei sunt oameni care nu pot, drept care, decid s\u0103 rezolve problema \u00een cuplu, de comun acord. Echitabil pentru am\u00e2ndoi.<\/p>\n

C\u0103 poliamoria nu e aplicabil\u0103 pentru toat\u0103 lumea?
\nEvident c\u0103 nu e. Cred sincer c\u0103 suntem at\u00e2t de diferi\u0163i, cu nevoi at\u00e2t de diferite, \u00eenc\u00e2t nu exist\u0103 vreun lucru care ni s\u0103 se aplice identic \u015fi mie, \u015fi \u0163ie.<\/p>\n

Dar c\u0103 poliamoria e o form\u0103 de erotism extraconjugal mult mai etic\u0103, demn\u0103 \u015fi, p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, pl\u0103cut\u0103, dec\u00e2t tradi\u0163ionalul \u00een\u015felat pe la spate, cu clasicele scuze “b\u0103rbatul e b\u0103rbat” \u015fi “toate femeile sunt curve”?<\/p>\n

EVIDENT.<\/p>\n

A\u015fadar, ca s\u0103 r\u0103spundem la \u00eentrebarea: care era de fapt problema pu\u0163opalmi\u015ftilor care se l\u0103besc cu g\u00e2ndul la mai multe partenere, \u00een privin\u0163a poliamoro\u015filor care, opa, chiar au mai mul\u0163i parteneri \u015fi partenere?<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 e s-o reducem strict la esen\u0163\u0103: ei caut\u0103 s\u0103 nege femeii dreptul de a ob\u0163ine pl\u0103cere sexual\u0103 \u00een termenii ei personali. De aceea, ni\u015fte femei care tr\u0103iesc via\u0163a la care ei fantazeaz\u0103 sunt curve. \u015ei b\u0103rba\u0163ii care nu au raport de v\u0103tafi de sclavi cu propriile iubite, beta \u015fi cucks.<\/p>\n

Eu, sincer, nu mai am r\u0103bdare, \u00een 2019, de nici un b\u0103rbat care folose\u015fte termenul “curv\u0103”. Faptul c\u0103 te m\u00e2nje\u015fti pe la bot de acest termen spune despre tine c\u0103 \u00een continuare ai impresia c\u0103 femeile ar trebui s\u0103 se ab\u0163in\u0103 de la propriile bucurii, strict de frica p\u0103reri\u015ftilor ca tine. Dac\u0103 nu porne\u015fti \u00een dialog de la premisa c\u0103 fiecare om vine cu un set propriu de priorit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi dorin\u0163e, \u015fi te min\u0163i singur c\u0103 doar ale tale conteaz\u0103, e\u015fti prea prost s\u0103 meri\u0163i o rela\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

Nu, nu toate femeile sunt poliamoroase. Dar nu ai nici un motiv s\u0103 le latri pe cele care sunt. G\u0103se\u015fte-\u0163i una dispus\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i ofere numita exclusivitate. \u015ei – aici vine kickerul: preg\u0103te\u015fte-te s\u0103 oferi aceea\u015fi exclusivitate la schimb.<\/p>\n

Po\u0163i? Dac\u0103 nu po\u0163i, ia un cur de loc \u00een banca ta \u015fi nu rata spectaculoasa ocazie de a t\u0103cea.<\/p>\n

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