{"id":18547,"date":"2019-10-21T09:32:50","date_gmt":"2019-10-21T06:32:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18547"},"modified":"2019-10-21T09:32:50","modified_gmt":"2019-10-21T06:32:50","slug":"posta-redactiei-de-ce-mi-se-spune-ca-o-incurc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-de-ce-mi-se-spune-ca-o-incurc\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei: De ce mi se spune c\u0103 o \u00eencurc?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n

Te salut, Lorena Lupu,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Am o problem\u0103 complicat\u0103 r\u0103u. Nici nu cred c\u0103 ai cum s\u0103 m\u0103 aju\u021bi, dar \u00ee\u021bi scriu oricum, s\u0103 m\u0103 descarc.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Umblu de un an cu o fat\u0103 foarte special\u0103. Bun\u0103, sufletist\u0103, sensibil\u0103, lipsit\u0103 de orice materialism, \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103 sincer de mine, atent\u0103, iubitoare \u0219i foarte frumoas\u0103. \u00cen primele luni, totul a fost perfect, rela\u021bia a mers normal. Dar \u00een ultima vreme, \u00eemi tot bag\u0103 apropouri despre prietenii no\u0219tri c\u0103s\u0103tori\u021bi, despre copii, despre a forma o familie. Maic\u0103-sa, care la \u00eenceput m\u0103 pl\u0103cea, acum iese din camer\u0103 c\u00e2nd vin \u00een vizit\u0103 \u0219i-\u0219i g\u0103se\u0219te de lucru la buc\u0103t\u0103rie. Taic\u0103-su m\u0103 tot \u00eentreab\u0103 despre planuri de viitor. Au vorbit \u0219i cu maic\u0103-mea, care m-a certat c\u0103 “m\u0103 copil\u0103resc” \u015fi c\u0103 “o \u00eencurc pe fata asta bun\u0103, care merit\u0103 ceva serios”.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dar pentru mine e ceva serios, Lorena. Nu \u00een\u0163eleg de ce mi se spune c\u0103 o \u00eencurc.\u00a0<\/strong> O iubesc pe fata asta, nu ies cu altele, nu o \u00een\u015fel nici \u00een g\u00e2nd, \u00eemi place s\u0103 fiu cu ea. Nu o “\u00eencurc”. Pur \u015fi simplu, \u00eemi displace foarte mult ideea de c\u0103s\u0103torie \u015fi nu \u00eemi doresc deloc copii. I-am explicat asta de zeci de ori \u015fi a zis c\u0103 \u00een\u0163elege, dar o v\u0103d din ce \u00een ce mai dezam\u0103git\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Acum o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 a fost ziua ei. Am scos-o la un restaurant. S-a uitat la mine toat\u0103 seara de parc\u0103 a\u015ftepta ceva, \u015fi c\u00e2nd la final i-am dat cadoul, parfumul ei preferat, s-a uitat la el de parc\u0103 ar fi fost un spray de insecte.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

De atunci nu \u00eemi prea r\u0103spunde la telefon, \u00eemi d\u0103 doar mesaj c\u0103 nu se simte bine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ce \u00eemi sugerezi? Pe fat\u0103 o plac foarte tare, dar nu m\u0103 v\u0103d c\u0103s\u0103torit. E genul de sclavie \u00een doi \u00een care nu a\u015f intra pentru nimeni.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tu ce zici?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

Drag\u0103 X,<\/p>\n

S\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 pe vremea noastr\u0103 c\u0103s\u0103toriile nu sunt definitive ca \u00een Evul Mediu. News flash: S-a inventat no\u0163iunea de divor\u0163. Nu merge treaba? Pac o amiabil\u0103 la notar \u015fi r\u0103m\u00e2ne\u0163i prieteni.<\/p>\n

Okok, glum\u0103\u0103\u0103.<\/p>\n

Nu te pot sf\u0103tui s\u0103 te arunci \u00eentr-un mod de via\u0163\u0103 care nu consideri c\u0103 \u0163i se potrive\u015fte, pentru c\u0103 \u015fi eu am refuzat cereri de c\u0103s\u0103torie cu toptanul, taman pentru c\u0103 nu eram omul c\u0103ruia s\u0103 i se potriveasc\u0103 traiul \u00een doi. Dar\u0103mite \u00een mai mul\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Pe de alt\u0103 parte, prive\u015fte lucrurile \u015fi din perspectiva gagic\u0103-tii. Ea vrea familie \u015fi copii. Vrea exact via\u0163a care \u0163ie \u00ee\u0163i provoac\u0103 fiori reci.<\/p>\n

Hai s\u0103-\u021bi explice sora ta cum st\u0103 treaba cu \u00eencurcarea.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 tu vrei s\u0103 mergi la Bra\u015fov \u015fi cineva \u0163i se tot pune \u00een cale \u015fi te \u00eembie s\u0103 te duc\u0103 pe Autostrada Soarelui p\u00e2n\u0103 la Constan\u0163a, se cheam\u0103 c\u0103 te \u00eencurc\u0103.<\/p>\n

“Dar eu o iubesc sincer”. Poate c\u0103 \u015fi \u0103la cu Autostrada Soarelui vrea sincer s\u0103-\u0163i arate frumuse\u0163ile litoralului. Poate avea cele mai minunate inten\u021bii marine. Poate vrea s\u0103 te plimbe prin toate sta\u021biunile Dar din perspectiva ta, care vrei la Bra\u015fov, te \u00eencurc\u0103.<\/p>\n

No\u021biunea de \u00eencurcare e pur subiectiv\u0103 \u0219i se raporteaz\u0103 la ce vre\u021bi fiecare vs. ce primi\u021bi.<\/p>\n

\u015ei dac\u0103 fiecare ave\u0163i \u0163eluri specifice pentru propria via\u0163\u0103, \u015fi nici unul, nici altul nu p\u0103re\u0163i s\u0103 lua\u0163i \u00een considerare ce \u00eei place celuilalt, p\u0103rerea mea este c\u0103 poate nu sunte\u0163i at\u00e2t de compatibili precum spera\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Revenim la exemplul meu cu Bra\u015fovul \u015fi Constan\u0163a. Tu vrei din tot sufletul la Bra\u015fov, \u0103la care trage de tine vrea din to\u0163i r\u0103runchii la Constan\u0163a.<\/p>\n

Solu\u0163ia vizibil\u0103 din avion e ca tu s\u0103 mergi spre Bra\u015fov \u015fi s\u0103-l la\u015fi pe cel\u0103lalt s\u0103-\u015fi g\u0103seasc\u0103 un partener de drum care e interesat s\u0103 ajung\u0103 la Constan\u0163a.<\/p>\n

De ce s\u0103 trag\u0103 de tine, c\u00e2nd sunt at\u00e2\u0163ia autostopi\u015fti la ie\u015firea spre Autostrada Soarelui?<\/p>\n

\u015ei faptul c\u0103 nu-\u0163i prea r\u0103spunde dup\u0103 ziua ei e pentru c\u0103 ea, \u00een sufle\u0163elul ei, \u015fi-o fi dat un deadline: Dac\u0103 nu m\u0103 cere p\u00e2n\u0103 de ziua mea, pa.<\/p>\n

Cum ar zice Orange: A\u0163i intrat \u00een perioada de gra\u0163ie. Re\u00eenc\u0103rca\u0163i cartela.<\/p>\n

P\u0103rerea mea e c\u0103 cel mai corect lucru, \u00een condi\u0163iile \u00een care vre\u0163i lucruri at\u00e2t de diferite unul de la cel\u0103lalt, e s-o la\u015fi s\u0103 plece.<\/p>\n

Acum, c\u00e2t frustrarea \u00eei d\u0103 puterea s-o fac\u0103.<\/p>\n

G\u0103se\u015fti tu o fukc buddy, nu e dram\u0103.<\/p>\n

Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n

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Lorena.<\/p>\n

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