{"id":18633,"date":"2019-11-16T11:50:07","date_gmt":"2019-11-16T08:50:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18633"},"modified":"2019-11-16T11:50:07","modified_gmt":"2019-11-16T08:50:07","slug":"cum-gestionam-un-balamuc-pe-internet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cum-gestionam-un-balamuc-pe-internet\/","title":{"rendered":"Cum gestion\u0103m un balamuc pe internet"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Lucrul de care par s\u0103 se team\u0103 foarte mul\u021bi oameni este dezaprobarea internautic\u0103. Aoleu, poate poza asta de profil va face pe cineva s\u0103 comenteze aiurea. Aoleu, poate p\u0103rerea asta va fi nepopular\u0103. Cum s-o pun, s\u0103 plac\u0103.<br \/>\nTeama de dezaprobarea altora e ceea ce \u00eei face pe mul\u021bi s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 vie\u021bi de minciuni \u0219i conven\u021bie irl, \u0219i iat\u0103, teama de dezaprobarea altora e ceea ce \u00eei face pe mul\u021bi s\u0103 se re\u021bin\u0103, ab\u021bin\u0103, restr\u00e2ng\u0103 incomod pe internet. <\/p>\n<p>\u0218i tot fundamentul acestei panici poate fi d\u0103r\u00e2mat cu o \u00eentrebare simpl\u0103:<br \/>\nCe le dator\u0103m noi \u0103lora de care ne temem? <\/p>\n<p>Sigur, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti politician sau orice alt\u0103 form\u0103 de func\u021bionar public, salariat din impozitele poporului, da, datorezi explica\u021bii pentru decizii pe care le iei pe bani care nu sunt ai t\u0103i. Dar dac\u0103 nu e cazul, \u0219i veniturile tale provin din surse private, e\u0219ti, practic, independent de dezaprobarea oricui pe planet\u0103. \u00cen limitele legii, desigur. <\/p>\n<p>\u0218i exact \u0103sta e primul lucru pe care trebuie s\u0103-l con\u0219tientizezi c\u00e2nd ai f\u0103cut un lucru care nu e bine v\u0103zut, sau ai scris ceva care a fost interpretat gre\u0219it, \u0219i vin pro\u0219tii cu sutele s\u0103 se produc\u0103 pe pagina ta. <\/p>\n<p><strong>Pro\u0219tii \u0103\u0219tia nu-\u021bi pl\u0103tesc facturile. Drept care, tu nu le dai socoteal\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00cen secunda \u00een care \u00ee\u021bi asumi mintal independen\u021ba de gura prostului, nimic din ce latr\u0103 el \u00een subsolul t\u0103u nu te va mai atinge profund. Da, te vor irita insisten\u021ba, presiunea, atitudinea, impresia \u0103luia c\u0103 \u0219tie mai bine dec\u00e2t tine cum s\u0103-\u021bi tr\u0103ie\u0219ti tu via\u021ba. Logic c\u0103 te vor irita, doar e\u0219ti om \u0219i e natural s\u0103 te enervezi la factori iritan\u021bi, a\u0219a cum e normal s\u0103 faci pipi \u00een fiecare zi sau s\u0103 transpiri \u00eentr-o zi c\u0103lduroas\u0103. Dar nu te vor marca. Le vei da eject din secunda \u00een care l-ai amu\u021bit pe l\u0103tr\u0103u. Fie din vorbe, Fie din block, dac\u0103 l\u0103tr\u0103ul e genul de prost suferind de un deficit acut de aten\u021bie care, din ejectul t\u0103u vede doar faptul c\u0103, \u00een oceanul de ignore care este via\u021ba lui, cineva \u00eel introduce \u00een seam\u0103, \u0219i fiecare replic\u0103 a ta e combustibil pentru prostia lui agasant\u0103. <\/p>\n<p><strong>Pro\u0219tii \u0103\u0219tia nu sunt nic\u0103ieri, c\u00e2nd faci ceva bun.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Majoritatea \u0103lora care v\u00e2neaz\u0103 toxicitatea \u0219i scandalul pe internet sunt grupa\u021bi \u00een g\u0103\u0219ti de pro\u0219ti, iar aceste g\u0103\u0219ti de pro\u0219ti v\u00e2neaz\u0103 DOAR toxicitatea \u0219i scandalul pe internet. Nu \u00eei intereseaz\u0103 ceva constructiv, pentru c\u0103, neconstruind nimic ei \u00een vie\u021bile lor, nu \u0219tiu cum este, \u0219i unicul mod \u00een care se raporteaz\u0103 la lucrurile pozitive este prin a b\u0103nui interese absconse sau prin a le ignora cu totul. <\/p>\n<p>Te intereseaz\u0103 interac\u021biunea cuiva care nu e nic\u0103ieri c\u00e2nd faci ceva incontestabil bun, dar are gura plin\u0103 de spume c\u00e2nd faci ceva ce i se pare subiect de scandal? <\/p>\n<p>Fuck no. <\/p>\n<p>Haipa. <\/p>\n<p><strong>Prostul \u015fi nevoia de aten\u0163ie<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Unul dintre cele mai glorioase mostre de umor involuntar e prostul care se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 arunce la cacealma o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de specula\u021bii despre via\u021ba ta (&#8220;\u0218tiu ceva despre trecutul t\u0103u.&#8221; Ce \u0219tii tu, b\u0103, larv\u0103, despre trecutul meu? Poate momentul c\u00e2nd m\u0103 pupa m\u0103-ta \u00een c\u00e2mpul muncii!) \u015fi la final, latr\u0103 tot el la tine c\u0103 tu cau\u0163i aten\u0163ie. <\/p>\n<p>Sigur, dac\u0103 faptul c\u0103 \u015ftii c\u0103 scrii \u015fi cu asta distrezi c\u00e2teva mii de oameni se nume\u015fte c\u0103utare de aten\u0163ie, ok. Dar e o c\u0103utare legitim\u0103 de aten\u0163ie, \u00een care tu livrezi ceva decent \u015fi muncit. A\u015fa, pictorul investe\u015fte o ton\u0103 de bani \u00een vopsele \u015fi pensule pentru c\u0103 vrea aten\u0163ie, sculptorul \u00ee\u015fi umple pl\u0103m\u00e2nii de praf de marmur\u0103 pentru c\u0103 vrea aten\u0163ie \u015fi cineastul st\u0103 s\u0103 cer\u015feasc\u0103 la jum\u0103tate de \u0163ar\u0103 s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 surse de finan\u0163are pentru c\u0103 vrea aten\u0163ie. <\/p>\n<p>Nu e nimic \u00een neregul\u0103 cu a munci onest, autentic \u015fi dedicat, pentru a ob\u0163ine aten\u0163ie. <\/p>\n<p>Exact aten\u0163ia pe care o ai deja tu ar vrea-o \u015fi prostul, de aceea se zbor\u015fe\u015fte la tine. Cu mica diferen\u0163\u0103 c\u0103 el nu are cu ce s-o ob\u0163in\u0103, altceva dec\u00e2t tic\u0103lo\u015fia \u015fi minciunile. <\/p>\n<p><strong>Prostul \u015fi nefuterea cronic\u0103<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>O vreme, to\u0163i pro\u015ftii p\u0103m\u00e2ntului se luau cu insisten\u0163\u0103 de greutatea Oanei Roman. Auzindu-i, ai fi crezut c\u0103 Oana Roman e cea mai ur\u00e2t\u0103 femeie din lume.<br \/>\nC\u00e2nd colo, Oana Roman are o fa\u0163\u0103 at\u00e2\u00e2\u00e2t de frumoas\u0103 \u015fi o carism\u0103 imposibil de negat. De ce spumegau idio\u0163ii? Pentru c\u0103 femeia era atr\u0103g\u0103toare \u015fi inaccesibil\u0103.<br \/>\nErau pe ecran \u015fi alte grase, dar care nu aveau carisma Oanei Roman? Erau.<br \/>\nNu avea nimeni nimic cu ele.<br \/>\nSunt oameni neatr\u0103g\u0103tori care fac toate t\u00e2mpeniile p\u0103m\u00e2ntului, \u00ee\u015fi bag\u0103 borcane \u00een anus \u015fi le sparg, sar de pe bloc, \u00ee\u015fi dau foc la cas\u0103 \u015fi tot nu-i bag\u0103 absolut nimeni \u00een seam\u0103.<br \/>\nPentru c\u0103, except\u00e2nd cazurile legitime c\u00e2nd furi banul public, se aplic\u0103 urm\u0103toarea teorem\u0103: <strong>Dac\u0103 nu te-ar fute, pe pro\u015fti \u00eei doare \u00een cur de tine.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>OK, acum c\u0103 \u015ftii de unde vine insisten\u0163a agasant\u0103, \u00een\u0163elegi c\u0103 nu are nimic de a face cu tine personal, pentru c\u0103 nefuterea cronic\u0103 a prostului nu e problema ta \u015fi nu are de ce s\u0103 fie. <\/p>\n<p>\u015ei, nota definitiv\u0103: <\/p>\n<p><strong>Prostul e pe pagina ta, nu tu pe a lui.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ai cerut tu prostului s\u0103 te viziteze? Nu.<br \/>\nI-ai dat tu mesaj privat prostului s\u0103-l rogi frumos s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 o evaluare? Nu.<br \/>\nAveai vreun raport de subordonare de orice fel cu prostul? Nu. <\/p>\n<p>Deci, prostul e cel care bate la u\u015fa aten\u0163iei tale, nu invers. <\/p>\n<p>\u00cen momentul \u00een care con\u015ftientizezi toate astea, treci prin orice rafal\u0103 de c\u0103cat internautic ca vod\u0103 prin lobod\u0103, c\u00e2nt\u00e2nd \u00een sinea ta: M\u0103 pupa\u0163i \u00een cuuuuuuuuuur. <\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? Po\u0163i sus\u0163ine \u015fi tu proiectul.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/paypal.me\/Trollywood\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14577\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=768%2C768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=160%2C160&amp;ssl=1 160w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=320%2C320&amp;ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=184%2C184&amp;ssl=1 184w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?resize=100%2C100&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea.jpg?w=931&amp;ssl=1 931w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>***<br \/>\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Lucrul de care par s\u0103 se team\u0103 foarte mul\u021bi oameni este dezaprobarea internautic\u0103. 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