{"id":18715,"date":"2019-12-10T12:07:21","date_gmt":"2019-12-10T09:07:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18715"},"modified":"2019-12-10T12:07:21","modified_gmt":"2019-12-10T09:07:21","slug":"lectia-de-generozitate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/lectia-de-generozitate\/","title":{"rendered":"Lec\u021bia de generozitate"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, o prieten\u0103 a avut o mic\u0103 revolt\u0103 parental\u0103. I-a spus fiicei din dotare s\u0103 cumpere dulciuri \u0219i s\u0103 le duc\u0103 copiilor, pentru s\u0103rb\u0103torile de iarn\u0103. \u0218i fata a dat riposta care i-a f\u0103cut mamei inima terci: Eu de ce s\u0103 dau \u0219i s\u0103 nu primesc?<\/p>\n

\u0218i se \u00eentreba prietena mea unde a\u00a0 gre\u0219it ca mam\u0103, \u0219i ce se mai poate face, dac\u0103 se mai poate face ceva.<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

P\u0103rin\u021bii care \u00ee\u0219i doresc s\u0103 insufle generozitate copiilor sunt, de obicei, bine inten\u021biona\u021bi. Numai c\u0103 ei nu \u021bin cont de trei lucruri: a) v\u00e2rsta copilului, b) starea lui emo\u021bional\u0103 \u00een momentul X \u0219i c) rela\u021bia lui cu persoanele c\u0103rora refuz\u0103 s\u0103 le dea. C\u0103 poate copilul e bullied hardcore la \u015fcoal\u0103, poate c\u0103 ai lui colegi sunt ni\u015fte javre, \u015fi nu ai de ce s\u0103 vrei s\u0103 fii generos cu \u0103\u015ftia.<\/p>\n

Da, cu mul\u0163i oameni, atitudinea corect\u0103 este “Eu de ce s\u0103 dau \u015fi s\u0103 nu primesc”, a\u015fa c\u0103, cel pu\u0163in din acest punct de vedere, kudos copilei.<\/p>\n

\u0218i a\u0219 ad\u0103uga un timid d), care \u0219tiu c\u0103 nu e cazul \u00een familia prietenei mele, dar a fost \u00een a mea: cazul \u00een care copilul \u00eensu\u0219i e extrem de nesatisf\u0103cut de ceea ce prime\u0219te: dulciuri pu\u021bine, haine r\u0103mase mo\u0219tenire de la cei mai mari etc., dar i se predic\u0103 o generozitate pe care nimeni n-o exercit\u0103 asupra lui.<\/p>\n

Maic\u0103-mea f\u0103cea totul moca pentru toat\u0103 lumea. F\u0103cea proiecte moca \u00een plus pentru munc\u0103, ajuta la matematic\u0103 moca to\u021bi repeten\u021bii blocului, \u00eemp\u0103r\u021bea moca tot ce avea, \u00een timp ce eu umblam cu un carton gros \u00eentr-una dintre cizme, c\u0103 aveam gaur\u0103 \u00een talp\u0103.<\/p>\n

“Eu nu sunt materialist\u0103”, adora maic\u0103-mea s\u0103 se laude.<\/p>\n

“P\u0103cat”, \u00eei r\u0103spundeam eu \u00een g\u00e2nd, pentru c\u0103 riscam o palm\u0103 de-mi s\u0103reau mucii, dac\u0103 i-a\u015f fi contestat oral complexul Maicii Tereza.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00een avion, \u0163i se spune c\u0103 \u00een caz de urgen\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i pui \u00eent\u00e2i masca \u0163ie, \u015fi apoi altora. Poate c\u0103 acel copil care nu are chef s\u0103 dea e emo\u0163ional \u00een punctul \u00een care trebuie s\u0103-\u015fi pun\u0103 masca \u00eent\u00e2i lui, \u015fi nu e nimic \u00een neregul\u0103 cu asta.<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

Aveam o tanti extrem de simpatic\u0103 la cur\u0103\u0163enie. O femeie \u00eenc\u0103 frumoas\u0103, vesel\u0103, glumea\u0163\u0103. \u00centr-o zi, a venit cu nepo\u0163ica de 4 ani, un copil adorabil \u015fi c\u00e2rlion\u0163at. \u00cen pauza de cafea, tanti a scos o ciocol\u0103\u0163ic\u0103 \u015fi i-a dat-o nepoatei. Pe la jum\u0103tate, s-a trezit \u00een ea spiritul didactic \u015fi pedagogic:<\/p>\n

-Da’ d\u0103-i \u015fi lu’ Lorena.<\/p>\n

-Nu vreau! a ripostat copilul, uns de ciocolat\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la urechi \u015fi vizibil ofensat de ipotez\u0103.<\/p>\n

-A\u015fa te-am \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at eu s\u0103 fii egoist\u0103 \u015fi numai pentru tine?<\/p>\n

Am empatizat cu copilul. \u00cen\u0163eleg pl\u0103cerea unui baton de ciocolat\u0103 pe care vrei s\u0103-l devorezi integral, \u015fi pe la jum\u0103tate, se treze\u015fte cineva s\u0103-\u0163i limiteze por\u0163ia. De asemenea, era deja \u00eentr-un punct de disconfort: cas\u0103 \u00een care nu fusese niciodat\u0103, om pe care-l vedea prima oar\u0103 \u00een via\u0163a lui. Foarte prost moment pentru lec\u0163ioara de generozitate, \u015fi mai ales, umilitor de fa\u0163\u0103 cu un ter\u0163.<\/p>\n

-Mul\u0163umesc, nu-mi plac dulciurile, am intervenit eu s\u0103 salvez secunda.<\/p>\n

Copilul, vizibil u\u015furat, a continuat s\u0103-\u015fi devoreze batonul, \u00een timp ce eu am luat-o deoparte pe bunic\u0103.<\/p>\n

-Nu v\u0103 sup\u0103ra\u0163i c\u0103 v\u0103 spun, dar nu a\u015fa o face\u0163i s\u0103 vrea s\u0103 d\u0103ruiasc\u0103.<\/p>\n

I-am povestit pe scurt partea cu complexul Maicii Tereza \u015fi cartonul din cizme, i-am povestit c\u0103 lec\u0163ioarele de fa\u0163\u0103 cu str\u0103ini sunt \u00eengrozitoare pentru un copil, \u015fi i-am spus c\u0103 generozitatea e\u00a0 o deprindere care vine \u00eentr-un moment de confort mintal \u015fi emo\u0163ional.<\/p>\n

-\u015ei atunci cum o fac s\u0103 nu fie egoist\u0103?<\/p>\n

-Poate cu discu\u0163ii calme \u00eentre patru ochi, dar nu \u00een momentul \u00een care ini\u0163iem presiunea: d\u0103-i lui X. Ci a\u015fa, filozof\u0103m despre generozitate, apoi \u00eentreb\u0103m copilul dac\u0103 \u015fi-ar dori s\u0103 fie generos, \u015fi ce ar fi dispus s\u0103 fac\u0103. S\u0103 vin\u0103 ini\u0163iativa de la el.<\/p>\n

Peste dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, c\u00e2nd a venit la cur\u0103\u0163enie, tanti mi-a raportat fericit\u0103 c\u0103 au fost s\u0103 duc\u0103 juc\u0103rii la o familie s\u0103rac\u0103 din vecini, dup\u0103 ce i-a spus feti\u0163ei o poveste lung\u0103 \u015fi rup\u0103toare de fica\u0163i despre copila\u015fii care se culc\u0103 \u015fi nu au un ursule\u0163 pe care s\u0103-l str\u00e2ng\u0103 \u00een bra\u0163e. \u015ei c\u0103 ini\u0163iativa a\u00a0 fost a nepoatei.<\/p>\n

*<\/p>\n

Generozitatea impus\u0103 cu sila devine, din punctul de vedere al celui for\u0163at la generozitate, o simpl\u0103 form\u0103 de japc\u0103. Mai bine \u00eei explic\u0103m cum func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 principiul \u015fi-l l\u0103s\u0103m s\u0103 aleag\u0103 el sau ea cu cine s\u0103 fie generos \u015fi \u00een ce mod.<\/p>\n

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