{"id":18999,"date":"2020-02-07T10:49:20","date_gmt":"2020-02-07T07:49:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=18999"},"modified":"2020-02-07T12:03:41","modified_gmt":"2020-02-07T09:03:41","slug":"de-ce-trebuie-barbatul-sa-fie-personajul-negativ","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/de-ce-trebuie-barbatul-sa-fie-personajul-negativ\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce trebuie b\u0103rbatul s\u0103 fie personajul negativ?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Peste comentariile de hate,\u00a0 coc\u0103l\u0103real\u0103, \u021b\u0103r\u0103nii, trec cu indiferen\u021b\u0103 suprem\u0103, \u0219i m\u0103 \u0219i pi\u0219 pe cei care le-au postat cu jet. (Apropo de jet, pute\u021bi cump\u0103ra acum piesa Jet – short version – pe Amazon Music<\/a> \u0219i pe iTunes<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

Dar alalt\u0103ieri, un b\u0103iat a postat un comentariu care m-a atins. Zice el a\u0219a: “Toate bune, dar de ce trebuie mereu b\u0103rbatul s\u0103 fie personajul negativ? M\u0103 mir cum de nu-\u0219i arunc\u0103 mamele b\u0103ie\u021beii la gunoi, atunci c\u00e2nd \u00eei nasc”.<\/p>\n

\u00centrebarea asta m-a mi\u015fcat, pentru c\u0103 a) pare pus\u0103 de un om cu un suflet bun \u015fi curat \u015fi b) acest om cu suflet bun \u015fi curat pare s\u0103 ia asupra lui tic\u0103lo\u015fia \u015fi abjec\u0163ia altora.<\/p>\n

Nu, nu cred c\u0103 to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt r\u0103i. Cunosc b\u0103rba\u0163i de o bun\u0103tate, loialitate, integritate. decen\u0163\u0103, conduit\u0103 uman\u0103 irepro\u015fabile. \u00cei apreciez, \u00eei respect. Dac\u0103 nu caut\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 combine, ne \u015fi \u00eemprietenim.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 au mentalitatea aia toxic\u0103 de friendzone -“herp derp prietenia unei femei nu valoreaz\u0103 shit dac\u0103 nu vine la pachet \u015fi cu servicii vaginale” atunci zboar\u0103 din friendzone cu tot cu loialitatea, integritatea, timpul pe care le aloc prietenilor \u015fi scoatem chitan\u0163ierul.<\/p>\n

A\u015fadar: cred c\u0103 exist\u0103 mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i buni pe lume. \u015ei cred c\u0103 decen\u0163a masculin\u0103 porne\u015fte odat\u0103 cu \u00een\u0163elegerea a dou\u0103 premise: a) Femeile sunt oameni, exact ca voi. Dac\u0103 tu condi\u0163ionezi interac\u0163iunea uman\u0103 de existen\u0163a raportului sexual, problema nu e la femeie, ci la tine.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u015fi b) Nu pretinde de la femei chestii pe care le-ai g\u0103si aberante dac\u0103 altcineva \u0163i le-ar pretinde \u0163ie.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u015ei la asta se adaug\u0103 finu\u0163 \u015fi un c, care e nongendered: Doar pentru c\u0103 X place pe Y, nu e obligatoriu ca \u015fi Y s\u0103 plac\u0103 pe X, \u015fi nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 X poate emite preten\u0163ii la timpul lui Y.<\/strong>” Zic c\u0103 e nongendered pentru c\u0103 \u015fi eu, ca \u015fi voi, am fost \u00een ipostaza lui X. Mi-a pl\u0103cut de Y, Y\u00a0 nu mi-a ar\u0103tat reciprocitate, Y nu \u00eemi datora obiectiv nimic, am \u00een\u0163eles \u015fi m-am retras frumu\u015fel \u00een banca personal\u0103 din dotare.<\/p>\n

So. Shit happens both ways. Diferen\u0163a \u00eentre mine \u015fi masculul toxic e c\u0103 eu am acceptat \u015fi respectat dreptul lui Y de a \u00eentre\u0163ine amor cu gheb cu cine vor mu\u015fchii lui Y, nu m-am apucat s\u0103 ponegresc pe Y, s\u0103 \u00eenjur, s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc c\u0103cat cu polonicul, s\u0103 filmez f\u0103r\u0103 consim\u0163\u0103m\u00e2nt, s\u0103 montez lumea \u00eempotriva lui Y \u015fi multe alte arme abjecte din arsenalul mascului de c\u0103cat care e eroul negativ al multor pove\u015fti.<\/p>\n

\u015ei la faza asta,\u00a0 frustra\u0163ilor neatractivi le place s\u0103 se \u00eenfoaie \u015fi s\u0103 zic\u0103 ceva de genul: “Yeah, sure, dar de ce v\u0103 fute\u0163i cu masculul de c\u0103cat care e eroul negativ al multor pove\u015fti?”<\/p>\n

Well, frustratule neatractiv, de cele mai multe ori nici m\u0103car nu ne futem. Cele mai multe intrigi, r\u0103zbun\u0103ri, uneltiri, intrigi, discredit\u0103ri \u015fi insulte sunt de la cei cu care nu ne futem.<\/strong> Pentru c\u0103 masculul de c\u0103cat care e eroul negativ al at\u00e2tor pove\u015fti crede cu t\u0103rie c\u0103, \u00een secunda \u00een care tu, om liber, \u00eei refuzi acces la corpul t\u0103u, \u00eei iei ceva ce \u00eei apar\u0163ine de drept. Masculul de c\u0103cat e condi\u0163ionat de labagiii de manosfer\u0103, de m\u00e2rlanii mai mari ai blocului \u015fi de tot at\u00e2tea genera\u0163ii de c\u0103ca\u0163i agresivi, misecuveni\u015fti \u015fi boi, s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 ajunge s\u0103 vrea el, iar acordul femeii se for\u0163eaz\u0103, se \u015fantajeaz\u0103 sau se ob\u0163ine prin intimidare. \u015ei apoi tot masculul de c\u0103cat rage c\u0103 de ce nu e el iubit.<\/p>\n

Are vreo calitate, m\u0103car o fibr\u0103 \u00een tot organismul lui care s\u0103 inoculeze iubire?<\/p>\n

NO FUCKING WAY.<\/p>\n

Revenind, drag\u0103 om bun. Exist\u0103 o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de masculi de c\u0103cat, gunoaie umane de cea mai joas\u0103 spe\u0163\u0103, al c\u0103ror unic scop \u00een via\u0163\u0103 e s\u0103 fac\u0103 r\u0103u. Circul\u0103 zilele astea pe net un filmule\u0163 f\u0103cut de o zdrean\u0163\u0103 similar\u0103 \u00eentr-o ma\u015fin\u0103. M-a enervat cu remarci dobitoace \u015fi mojicii slinoase p\u00e2n\u0103 mi-am pierdut controlul, \u015fi \u00een secunda \u00een care mi-am pierdut controlul \u015fi am \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103 pi\u015f pe mor\u0163ii m\u0103-sii, a scos mobilul \u015fi a \u00eenceput s\u0103 filmeze.<\/strong> \u015ei tot gagic\u0103-sa s-a luat de mine la un moment dat. I-am zis: “Pisi, eu \u00een locul t\u0103u a\u015f da un scroll atent pe Pornhub. Unul care instig\u0103 o ceart\u0103 s\u0103 distrug\u0103 reputa\u0163ia unei femei \u00een mod sigur are \u015fi ni\u015fte filmule\u0163e cu tine sug\u00e2nd pula, tot \u00een POV. \u015ei c\u00e2nd le \u00eencarc\u0103, s\u0103 nu vii la mine s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi, c\u0103 o s\u0103-\u0163i c\u00e2nt piesa mea “Jet”.<\/p>\n

Piesele, filmele, reclamele, c\u0103r\u0163ile despre masculi de c\u0103cat nu te vizeaz\u0103 pe tine, omul care nu faci nimic din toate astea. Nu ai de ce s\u0103 te sim\u0163i atacat. Fii un om bun, decent, trateaz\u0103 civilizat femeile \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163ii, fii bun nu ca s\u0103 a\u015ftep\u0163i sex la schimb, ci pur \u015fi simplu pentru c\u0103 asta e natura ta, \u015fi cine \u015ftie, cineva va scrie o carte sau o pies\u0103 \u00een care b\u0103rbatul este eroul pozitiv.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd fac interviuri cu b\u0103rba\u0163i, \u00eei tratez uman, normal \u015fi le expun p\u0103r\u0163ile bune \u015fi interesante, exact cum o fac cu femeile. Discriminarea nu e de partea asta. C\u0103uta\u0163i-o la confra\u0163ii vo\u015ftri care inoculeaz\u0103 ur\u0103 \u015fi z\u00e2zanie, care v\u0103 spun s\u0103 nu fi\u0163i prieteni cu femei dec\u00e2t dac\u0103 extrage\u0163i \u015fi sex, sau care fac clipuri cu ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi umilind femei spre groh\u0103itul gloatelor de m\u00e2rlani.<\/p>\n

Fii b\u0103rbatul \u0103la at\u00e2t de special, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 m\u0103 determini s\u0103 scriu o pies\u0103 despre c\u00e2t de minunat e un b\u0103rbat. Chiar vreau. Inspir\u0103-m\u0103. Be my muse.<\/p>\n

Tovar\u0103\u015fii t\u0103i mi-au ar\u0103tat toate modurile \u00een care un b\u0103rbat poate fi tic\u0103los, abject \u015fi josnic. \u015ei m\u0103 refer la oameni cu care nu m-am futut – fac men\u0163iunea ca s\u0103 nu mai aud cli\u015feul cu vou\u0103-v\u0103-place-bad-guy. La mine bad-guy ia block din trei replici. Arat\u0103-mi tu toate modurile \u00een care un b\u0103rbat poate fi bun, delicat, integru \u015fi demn.<\/p>\n

Promit s\u0103-\u0163i compun un c\u00e2ntec. Numai s\u0103 meri\u0163i.<\/p>\n

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