{"id":19012,"date":"2020-02-08T11:17:30","date_gmt":"2020-02-08T08:17:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19012"},"modified":"2020-02-08T11:17:30","modified_gmt":"2020-02-08T08:17:30","slug":"despre-suceala-ca-la-ploiesti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/despre-suceala-ca-la-ploiesti\/","title":{"rendered":"Despre suceala ca la Ploie\u015fti"},"content":{"rendered":"

Am o prieten\u0103, mam\u0103 a trei copila\u015fi adorabili. \u015ei poveste\u015fte ea urm\u0103toarea situa\u0163ie: i se face poft\u0103 de ceva m\u00e2ncare home cooked, simpl\u0103 de preparat, pentru cin\u0103. D\u0103 o strigare \u015fi \u00eentreab\u0103 pe toat\u0103 lumea: Cine mai vrea?? Odoarele pre\u0163ioase ale familiei, cu nasul \u00een telefoane, jocuri, chatuial\u0103 \u00eei r\u0103spund, evident, cu un NIMENI sictirit.<\/p>\n

\u015ei mama noastr\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi face o por\u0163ie pentru ea, pune m\u00e2ncarea \u00een farfurie, se a\u015faz\u0103 la mas\u0103 \u015fi se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nce.<\/p>\n

De cum aburii apetisan\u0163i \u00eencep s\u0103 colinde prin cas\u0103, comorile inestimabile scot nasul din instagramuri \u015fi snapchaturi \u015fi \u00eencep s\u0103 adulmece a lihnire. Next thing, sunt c\u0103lare pe farfuria matern\u0103 \u015fi o las\u0103 pe cea care le-a dat via\u0163\u0103 nemul\u0163umit\u0103 \u015fi hangry. Hangry fiind copilul din flori al lui angry – sup\u0103rat \u015fi hungry – rupt de fl\u0103m\u00e2nd.<\/p>\n

\u015ei m\u0103 \u00eentreab\u0103: Sunt o mam\u0103 denaturat\u0103 \u015fi rea dac\u0103 m\u0103 irit\u0103 chestia asta la culme?<\/p>\n

Nu. E normal s\u0103 te irite.<\/p>\n

Pe de o parte, e enervarea aia fireasc\u0103, c\u0103 \u0163i se bag\u0103 altul \u00een farfurie. C\u00e2inii \u00eei mu\u015fc\u0103, pisicile \u00eei zg\u00e2rie, sau dac\u0103 sunt domesticite, \u00eei m\u00e2r\u00e2ie pe cei care le iau din m\u00e2ncare, \u015fi pe bun\u0103 dreptate. Nici mie nu-mi place s\u0103-mi \u00eempart m\u00e2ncarea, \u015fi asta tot din copil\u0103rie. Pe atunci, mamele \u0163ineau toate cur\u0103 de sl\u0103bire \u015fi nu m\u00e2ncau seara. \u00ce\u0163i f\u0103ceau \u0163ie, s\u0103 zicem, omlet\u0103 cu ceap\u0103 verde \u015fi sl\u0103nin\u0103. Apoi se d\u0103deau pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 farfuria ta. Mmmm, ce bine miroase, s\u0103 gust \u015fi eu. Pfff, bun, bun, \u00eenc\u0103 o \u00eembuc\u0103tur\u0103. \u015ei \u00eenc\u0103 una. Rezultatul era acela\u015fi. \u00cemi v\u00e2j\u00e2iau urechile de foame la final.<\/p>\n

Ajunsesem \u00een punctul \u00een care, c\u00e2nd venea cu “ce bine miroase, s\u0103 gust \u015fi eu”, m\u0103 ridicam instinctiv de la mas\u0103 \u015fi ziceam: “poft\u0103 bun\u0103”. \u015ei tot ea se sup\u0103ra: “adic\u0103 ce vrei s\u0103 spui cu asta”. Exact ce se aude, poft\u0103 bun\u0103.<\/p>\n

Sigur, copiii nu-\u015fi puteau educa p\u0103rin\u0163ii pe vremea mea, pentru c\u0103 orice revolt\u0103 \u00eentemeiat\u0103 se finaliza cu o pereche de palme de s\u0103-\u0163i v\u00e2j\u00e2ie urechile mai grav dec\u00e2t de foame. Dar tu po\u0163i pune piciorul \u00een prag. M\u00e2ncarea din farfuria proprie se \u00eemparte DAC\u0102 VREI TU s\u0103 \u00eempar\u0163i. \u015ei a-i educa pe \u0103ia mici s\u0103 a\u015ftepte PERMISIUNE \u00eenainte s\u0103 se \u00eenfig\u0103 \u00een m\u00e2ncarea altuia e un bun mod de a-i \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a c\u0103 altul are dreptul la proprietatea lui, a\u015fa cum ai \u015fi tu la a ta, \u015fi c\u0103 lucrurile altuia se cer frumos, nu se confisc\u0103. \u015ei dac\u0103 acel altul te refuz\u0103, ei bine, e dreptul lui.<\/p>\n

Apoi, s\u0103 trecem la nivelul mai amplu \u015fi mai nepl\u0103cut.<\/p>\n

\u015ei anume, suceala ca la Ploie\u015fti.<\/p>\n

Tu \u00eei \u00eentrebi mereu \u00eenainte dac\u0103 vor \u015fi ei. Ce \u0163i-e s\u0103 faci omlet\u0103 pentru unul, ce \u0163i-e s-o faci pentru trei. R\u0103spunsul este “nu”.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd vin s\u0103 cear\u0103, le zici “stop” \u015fi le aminte\u015fti: Fe\u0163ii mamei, a\u0163i zis “nu”, corect? “Nu” a fost r\u0103spunsul vostru final \u015fi vom respecta decizia voastr\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei dac\u0103 se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 urle \u015fi s\u0103 fac\u0103 ur\u00e2t.<\/p>\n

“Data viitoare, v\u0103 g\u00e2ndi\u0163i \u00eenainte s\u0103 spune\u0163i “da” sau “nu”, pentru c\u0103 deciziile au consecin\u0163e. \u015ei acum, gata cu circul c\u0103 vreau s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nc \u00een lini\u015fte.”<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00eei trimi\u0163i \u00eenapoi la telefoane \u015fi la tablet\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0162ara asta sufer\u0103 de o incapacitate patologic\u0103 de a-\u015fi respecta cuv\u00e2ntul dat, de o coloan\u0103 vertebral\u0103 flasc\u0103 precum buretele \u015fi de o g\u0103uno\u015fenie a caracterului rare, taman din acest motiv: cuv\u00e2ntul nu are nici o valoare. \u00cei tot coment\u0103m pe cei din guvernare, indiferent de partid. Dar cei din guvernare sunt dintre noi, sunt oameni simpli care mint frumos, cum minte rom\u00e2nul obi\u015fnuit c\u00e2nd vrea s\u0103 ob\u0163in\u0103 ceva, \u015fi b\u0103taia lor de joc e b\u0103taia de joc a rom\u00e2nului obi\u015fnuit, c\u00e2nd vine vorba s\u0103 se \u0163in\u0103 de cuv\u00e2ntul dat.<\/p>\n

\u015ei dac\u0103 \u00eei aminte\u015fti rom\u00e2nului obi\u015fnuit de cuv\u00e2ntul dat, tot el \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u0163ipe la tine. Exact ca ni\u015fte copii care se trezesc s\u0103-\u0163i \u00eenfulece omleta dup\u0103 ce ei, cu guri\u0163a lor, au refuzat-o.<\/p>\n

E u\u015for s\u0103 fii p\u0103rinte toxic \u015fi autoritar, “casa mea, regulile mele, u\u015fa e a ta”. E extrem de greu s\u0103 fii p\u0103rinte bun, iubitor, cu adev\u0103rat dornic s\u0103 ofere ce e mai bun copilului s\u0103u, \u015fi, totodat\u0103, s\u0103 insufli demnitate \u015fi corectitudine. Conduit\u0103 moral\u0103. Responsabilitate fa\u0163\u0103 de ceea ce \u00ee\u0163i iese pe gur\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei da, cred c\u0103 primul pas e \u0103sta. Ai zis nu? S\u0103 fii s\u0103n\u0103tos \u015fi la pung\u0103 gros, \u00ee\u0163i respec\u0163i propriile cuvinte \u015fi nu \u00eemi cotrope\u015fti farfuria. Ai frigider, m\u0103n\u00e2nci ce vrei tu.<\/p>\n

Data viitoare c\u00e2nd te \u00eentreb, poate dai un r\u0103spuns care s\u0103 reflecte real ceea ce vrei, sau te mai culci fl\u0103m\u00e2nd o dat\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei tot a\u015fa.<\/p>\n

P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, s\u0103 cre\u015fti adul\u0163i responsabili, pe care s\u0103 te po\u0163i baza, e cea mai mare dovad\u0103 de iubire matern\u0103.<\/p>\n

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