{"id":19060,"date":"2020-02-17T10:26:50","date_gmt":"2020-02-17T07:26:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19060"},"modified":"2020-02-17T10:26:50","modified_gmt":"2020-02-17T07:26:50","slug":"posta-redactiei-un-barbat-de-incredere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-un-barbat-de-incredere\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: Un b\u0103rbat de \u00eencredere"},"content":{"rendered":"

Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n

Bun\u0103, Lorena,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nu am niciun fel de noroc \u00een dragoste, dar vreau s\u0103 cunosc tipi \u00een continuare, poate-poate… Tu ai destul\u0103 experien\u0163\u0103. Cum \u00ee\u0163i dai seama care sunt b\u0103rba\u0163i de \u00eencredere?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Te pup,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

X.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n

Realitatea e c\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 nu ajungi \u00een pat cu ei, nu-\u0163i dai mereu seama care-s de \u00eencredere \u015fi care nu, c\u0103 unii b\u0103rba\u0163i sunt mae\u015ftri \u00een a mima cele mai toride \u015fi mai disperate iubiri, p\u00e2n\u0103 te au. Taman de aceea, sugerez, mai ales pe la \u00eenceputuri, s\u0103 nu-\u0163i pui cine \u015ftie ce speran\u0163e, s\u0103 nu-\u0163i schimbi statusul de Facebook \u00een in a relationship \u015fi s\u0103 la\u015fi lucrurile s\u0103 vin\u0103 pas cu pas, s\u0103 nu fii ca o fost\u0103 membr\u0103 a listei mele de Facebook, care func\u0163iona cam a\u015fa:<\/p>\n

3 aprilie: – in a relationship cu Gigel.<\/p>\n

4 aprilie: – Love Gigeeeel. Poz\u0103 cu pupici.<\/p>\n

5 aprilie – single. Status: to\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt porci.<\/p>\n

6 aprilie – is with Costel at Cafe Whatever.<\/p>\n

7 aprilie – in a relationship cu Costel.<\/p>\n

8 aprilie – married cu Costel.<\/p>\n

9 aprilie – single. De ceee nu am noroc \u00een dragoste?<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 te serve\u015fti pe tav\u0103 \u00een st\u00e2nga \u015fi-n dreapta \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163ii au un senzor receptor al disper\u0103rii feminine cum n-ai v\u0103zut. Li se aprinde becule\u0163ul cu Easy Target detected, extrag sex sau nici m\u0103car nu se chinuie cu asta, c\u0103 \u00eel ofer\u0103 ea, \u015fi palarevedere, c\u0103 nu te pl\u0103ceam oricum cine \u015ftie ce.<\/p>\n

Mai ales c\u00e2nd \u015ftii c\u0103 tu vrei o rela\u0163ie serioas\u0103, nu un flirt, ia-o cu pa\u015fi mici \u015fi ai r\u0103bdare. Nu exist\u0103 dragoste la prima vedere, exist\u0103 doar dorin\u0163\u0103 la prima vedere, \u015fi intimitatea adev\u0103rat\u0103 e ceva ce se construie\u015fte \u00een timp, nu vine de azi p\u00e2n\u0103 miercuri, doar pentru c\u0103 vrei tu foarte tare.<\/p>\n

Acestea fiind zise, putem trece \u00een revist\u0103 c\u00e2teva caracteristici ale unui b\u0103iat de \u00eencredere, cu amendamentul c\u0103 asta nu garanteaz\u0103 c\u0103 vrea o rela\u0163ie cu tine sau c\u0103 e sufletul t\u0103u pereche. Mai degrab\u0103, absen\u0163a acestor elemente e de natur\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i arate c\u0103 ai de a face cu o lichea \u015fi c\u0103 fuga e ru\u015finoas\u0103, dar e s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103.<\/p>\n

1. Ce spune miercuri e valabil \u015fi joi, \u015fi nu sufer\u0103 modific\u0103ri.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

To\u0163i \u00eel \u015ftim pe pu\u0163\u0103 str\u00e2mb\u0103 care promite marea cu sarea \u00eentr-o zi, \u015fi a doua zi c\u00e2nd \u00eentrebi ce s-a ales de mare \u015fi ce s-a ales de sare, se uit\u0103 la tine precum curca \u00een lemne. Sau \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 nege lucruri pe care le-a spus.<\/p>\n

Nope, nu e genul cu care s\u0103 vrei o rela\u0163ie.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 stabili\u0163i ceva, \u015fi urmeaz\u0103 pas cu pas, cu ac\u0163iuni, ceea ce a promis c\u0103 face – \u0103la e un keeper.<\/p>\n

2. Caut\u0103 s\u0103 te ajute.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cel mai simplu mod de a te prinde dac\u0103 un tip e material de rela\u0163ie serioas\u0103 e urm\u0103torul: cere-i ajutor cu o chestie. Nu imposibil\u0103, dar s\u0103 presupun\u0103 un pic de b\u0103taie de cap.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 pune suflet \u015fi zel s\u0103 ias\u0103 treaba de nota zece, \u015fi se bucur\u0103 de bucuria ta – \u0103la e un keeper.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 promite c\u0103 se ocup\u0103, dar nu face nimic, sau \u015fi mai grav, dac\u0103 g\u0103se\u015fte pretexte s\u0103 se trag\u0103 pe c*r – nope, next.<\/p>\n

3. \u00ce\u0163i cere sincer p\u0103rerea \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu chestii care \u00eel preocup\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Unul care vrea dou\u0103 – trei s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni de futai iepuresc nu d\u0103 doi bani pe tine ca om. Caut\u0103 s\u0103 accelereze treburile sexual, s\u0103 te vr\u0103jeasc\u0103 repede \u015fi targetat, iar discu\u0163iile reale bat spre zero.<\/p>\n

Tipii care vor un suflet pereche caut\u0103 pe cineva cu care s\u0103 poat\u0103 vorbi. \u015ei \u00ee\u0163i povestesc dac\u0103 au o problem\u0103, \u015fi te \u00eentreab\u0103 ce ai face tu. Faptul c\u0103 un om vrea p\u0103rerile tale despre lucruri \u00eel face un keeper.<\/p>\n

4. Dac\u0103 ave\u0163i o divergen\u0163\u0103 de opinie, te ascult\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Exist\u0103 pulifriciul prost, dar fudul, care vorbe\u015fte peste tine c\u00e2nd v\u0103 certa\u0163i, sau care caut\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i reteze orice argument cu o insult\u0103. \u0102la e ejectabil \u015fi expediabil \u00een deceda\u0163i materni.<\/p>\n

Un keeper vrea s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 ce ai tu de zis \u015fi cum vezi tu lucrurile, \u00een ideea de a rezolva conflictul \u00eentr-un mod c\u00e2t mai ok \u015fi pentru tine, \u015fi pentru el.<\/p>\n

5. Nu exagereaz\u0103 nici cu complimentele sfor\u0103itoare, nici cu insultele menite s\u0103 te provoace.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0102ia cu complimentele exagerate vor s\u0103 fac\u0103 sex repede. \u0102ia cu insultele au citit cursuri de pickup arti\u015fti pe net \u015fi merg pe mitul c\u0103 o femeie nervoas\u0103 e o femeie u\u015for de manipulat.<\/p>\n

Tu nu \u00eei vrei nici pe unii, nici pe al\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

Vrei un om pe care s\u0103-l sim\u0163i c\u0103 te bucur\u0103 c\u0103 se vede, dar care s\u0103 prefere conversa\u0163iile cu sens.<\/p>\n

6. Te sim\u0163i relaxat\u0103 \u00een prezen\u0163a lui.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dac\u0103, dintr-un motiv sau altul, prezen\u0163a unui tip te crispeaz\u0103 sau te streseaz\u0103, ceva nu e \u00een regul\u0103. Intui\u0163ia e o arm\u0103 puternic\u0103; ea ne avertizeaz\u0103 c\u00e2nd interac\u0163ion\u0103m cu oameni \u00een care nu putem avea \u00eencredere.<\/p>\n

Un keeper e un om cu care te sim\u0163i \u00een largul t\u0103u \u015fi sim\u0163i c\u0103, dac\u0103 ai aluneca brusc pe ghea\u0163\u0103, te-ar prinde s\u0103 nu cazi. Sim\u0163i c\u0103 nu vrea s\u0103-\u0163i caute defecte sau s\u0103 te judece, ci, pur \u015fi simplu, se bucur\u0103 de timpul cu tine.<\/p>\n

7. \u00cei pune la punct pe \u0103ia care nu sunt 100% respectuo\u015fi cu tine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Un semn cert al unui tip care te place real e c\u0103 nu tolereaz\u0103 niciun fel de atitudine nasoal\u0103 a altora fa\u0163\u0103 de tine. \u00cel r\u00e2c\u00e2ie ca \u015fi cum cineva s-ar lua de el.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 unul se bag\u0103 \u00een seam\u0103 mitoc\u0103ne\u015fte \u015fi b\u0103iatul reac\u0163ioneaz\u0103 reflex cu “Vezi cum vorbe\u015fti cu X, c\u0103 nu \u00eemi place tonul t\u0103u”, ESTE. UN. KEEPER.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 ignor\u0103 atitudinea nasoal\u0103 a altora, ba chiar le g\u0103se\u015fte justific\u0103ri, ba chiar caut\u0103 s\u0103-\u0163i g\u0103seasc\u0103 \u0163ie vin\u0103, c\u00e2nt\u0103 \u00een cor cu mine: Am pentru tine un singur secret…<\/p>\n

Sper c\u0103 \u0163i-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n

Lorena.<\/p>\n

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