{"id":19063,"date":"2020-02-18T13:03:39","date_gmt":"2020-02-18T10:03:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19063"},"modified":"2020-02-18T13:03:39","modified_gmt":"2020-02-18T10:03:39","slug":"ba-nu-gigele-in-dragoste-nu-e-permis-orice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ba-nu-gigele-in-dragoste-nu-e-permis-orice\/","title":{"rendered":"Ba nu, Gigele, \u00een dragoste nu e permis orice"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, mi-a scris o adolescent\u0103, s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebe cum identific\u0103 pe\u021bitorii de \u00eencredere<\/strong><\/a>. C\u00e2nd am citit \u00eentrebarea, mi-am zis: oh, fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck, iar \u00eemi pun toate labele triste \u0219i nefutu\u021bii cronici pe cap. Dac\u0103 mai \u021bine\u021bi minte, am scris acum c\u00e2\u021biva ani un rant: Pl\u0103te\u0219te \u00een mor\u021bii m\u0103-tii cafeaua dac\u0103 invi\u021bi o femeie \u00een ora\u0219 \u00een scop romantic, \u0219i to\u021bi incelii, to\u021bi lurkerii, to\u021bi manosfericii, toate grupurile de glume proaste mi s-au oplo\u0219it \u00een cap s\u0103 urle c\u0103 sunt o materialist\u0103 \u0219i o curv\u0103, \u0219i c\u0103 eu \u00eenv\u0103\u021b r\u0103u femeile. S\u0103 zic\u0103 mersi c\u0103 nu pl\u0103tesc ele toat\u0103 nota de plat\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0218tiind c\u0103 am toat\u0103 armata de pu\u021bopalmi\u0219ti penali cu ochii pe mine ca pe butelie, am ales s\u0103 evit subiectul: Dac\u0103 pe\u021bitorul vrea Dutch, fugi. E un calic lamentabil care, \u00een cazul unei rela\u021bii serioase, o s\u0103 vrea s\u0103 na\u0219ti acas\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi taie cordonul ombilical cu un ciob de sticl\u0103 de bere, pentru c\u0103 maternitatea o s\u0103 i se par\u0103 prea scump\u0103.<\/p>\n

Am ales s\u0103 evit orice considerente care ies de sub controlul gigelului, cum ar fi aspectul fizic \u0219i disponibilitatea material\u0103. \u0219i m-am referit strict la ceea ce po\u021bi controla, indiferent dac\u0103 \u00eenv\u00e2r\u021bi miliarde de dolari sau abia ai bani de curent electric: caracterul \u0219i modul \u00een care o tratezi pe ea.<\/p>\n

Dar chiar \u0219i a\u0219a s-au \u00eenfoiat ni\u0219te gigei la mine, s\u0103 dea ochii peste cap c\u0103 moaaaam\u0103, c\u00e2te preten\u021bii de la b\u0103rbat. Deci, \u00een 2010, s\u0103 nu fii un calic \u0219i s\u0103 pl\u0103te\u0219ti pentru un date \u00een ora\u0219 e preten\u021bie exagerat\u0103. \u00cen 2020, s\u0103 fii o persoan\u0103 decent\u0103 \u0219i responsabil\u0103 e o preten\u021bie exagerat\u0103. P\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een 2030, s\u0103 nu se cace \u00een mijlocul drumului va fi o preten\u021bie exagerat\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u0218i apoi tot ei: feminismul e de vin\u0103 c\u0103 prefera\u021bi s\u0103 fi\u021bi singure!!<\/p>\n

\u0102mnu. Feminismul e doar suma m\u0103surilor de protec\u021bie fa\u021b\u0103 de nep\u0103sarea, nesim\u021birea \u0219i m\u00e2rl\u0103nia voastr\u0103.<\/p>\n

Educa\u021bia tradi\u021bional\u0103 preg\u0103te\u0219te femeile pentru rela\u021bii de termen lung \u0219i rolul lor de f\u0103t\u0103tor \u00eenc\u0103 din copil\u0103rie. \u00cen timp ce b\u0103ie\u021bilor li se dau c\u0103lu\u021bi, ma\u0219inu\u021be, cuburi de construit, jocuri care s\u0103 stimuleze ini\u021biativa personal\u0103, curajul \u0219i supereroul interior, fetele primesc p\u0103pu\u0219i. Viitorii lor copii, care trebuie \u00eengriji\u021bi, piept\u0103na\u021bi, \u00eembr\u0103ca\u021bi. Bine, eu mi-am ignorat cu brio p\u0103pu\u0219ile, pentru c\u0103 you fucking pay me a salary if you want me to serve you \u0219i m-am jucat dacii \u0219i romanii cu fratele meu. Dar divaghez.<\/p>\n

C\u0103r\u021bile \u0219i filmele pentru adolescente sunt pline de iubire adev\u0103rat\u0103, b\u0103iatul frumos \u0219i misterios \u0219i rela\u021bia perfect\u0103.<\/p>\n

Deci, \u00een jurul v\u00e2rstei de 20, femeia e condi\u021bionat\u0103 s\u0103 caute \u0219i s\u0103 ofere iubire, \u0219i s\u0103 investeasc\u0103 tot ce are \u00eentr-o poveste de dragoste pe termen lung.<\/p>\n

\u0218i apar gigei ca \u0103sta:<\/p>\n

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Mai e de mirare c\u0103 fata aia super entuziast\u0103 \u00een direc\u021bia unei rela\u021bii la 20 de ani ajunge o mizantroap\u0103 acrit\u0103, sc\u00e2rbit\u0103 \u0219i un apostol al singur\u0103t\u0103\u021bii asumate \u00een 10 – 15 ani?<\/p>\n

Men\u021biune: gigelului \u0103stuia nu-i ceruse nimeni nimic. Nu-i cerusem eu s\u0103 fie de \u00eencredere cu mine, nu-i ceruse autoarea mailului s\u0103 fie de \u00eencredere cu ea. Discu\u021bia viza cum ar trata el o ipotetic\u0103 femeie de care e \u00eendr\u0103gostit. OK, sau b\u0103rbat, c\u0103 nu \u00eei \u0219tiu orientarea sexual\u0103 \u0219i e ur\u00e2t s\u0103 presupun.<\/p>\n

Iar dac\u0103 \u0103sta, \u00een raport cu ipotetica femeie de care e \u00eendr\u0103gostit pune problema la modul “ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 un b\u0103rbat de \u00eencredere” \u015fi “\u00een dragoste, totul e permis” (ca antitez\u0103 la ce enumerasem eu, \u015fi anume chestii elementare de respect \u015fi grij\u0103 fa\u0163\u0103 de PARTENERUL ALES DE TINE: s\u0103-\u0163i \u0163ii cuv\u00e2ntul dat, s\u0103 \u0163ii cont de nevoile lui, s\u0103-l ascul\u0163i, etc.), nu po\u0163i dec\u00e2t s\u0103 sim\u0163i o profund\u0103 mil\u0103 fa\u0163\u0103 de am\u0103r\u00e2ta lipsit\u0103 complet de stim\u0103 de sine (ok, sau am\u0103r\u00e2tul) cu care va avea larva asta lamentabil\u0103 de a face vreodat\u0103.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 pretinzi c\u0103 a-\u0163i \u0163ine promisiunile e “popa din sat”?<\/p>\n

Lame, Gigele, lame. Dac\u0103 nu \u0163i le \u0163ii, nu c\u0103 nu e\u015fti b\u0103rbat de \u00eencredere, dar nu e\u015fti o fiin\u0163\u0103 uman\u0103 decent\u0103 la nivel basic. E\u015fti o lichea f\u0103r\u0103 coloan\u0103 vertebral\u0103.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 pretinzi c\u0103 a vrea binele \u015fi a \u00eencerca s\u0103 aju\u0163i \u015fi s\u0103 protejezi OMUL CU CARE AI ALES S\u0102 FII e “popa din sat”?<\/p>\n

Penibil, Gigele. Josnic. Jalnic. Dar genul t\u0103u de jigodie gui\u0163\u0103 la chestia asta pentru c\u0103 specificul vostru e, dimpotriv\u0103, s\u0103 fi\u0163i invidio\u015fi ca ni\u015fte cancere pe orice eventual succes al partenerului \u015fi s\u0103 c\u0103uta\u0163i s\u0103-l sabota\u0163i prin toate mijloacele. Pu\u0163e mici \u015fi frustrate.<\/p>\n

S\u0103 pretinzi c\u0103 a asculta OMUL CU CARE AI ALES S\u0102 AI O RELA\u0162IE dac\u0103 ave\u0163i un conflict \u015fi s\u0103 cau\u0163i ceva reciproc convenabil e “popa din sat”.<\/p>\n

Normal c\u0103 e, Gigele, c\u00e2nd tu e\u015fti un c\u0103cat egoist, c\u0103ruia nu \u00eei pas\u0103 dec\u00e2t de propriul interes \u015fi cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 se descurce.<\/p>\n

Dar atunci, de ce ar continua cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 te fut\u0103, Gigele? Nu mai bine fute pe cineva care s\u0103 merite \u015fi te las\u0103 pe tine \u00een pivni\u0163\u0103 la m\u0103-ta, cu pornhubul care nu are nevoi \u015fi fa\u0163\u0103 de care nu ai responsabilit\u0103\u0163i omene\u015fti?<\/p>\n

Faptul c\u0103 tu pretinzi c\u0103 orice form\u0103 de grij\u0103 fa\u0163\u0103 de omul iubit, orice respect, orice preocupare pentru binele lui e “popa din sat” spune despre tine un singur lucru: c\u0103 nu ai iubit \u00een via\u0163a ta, \u015fi, posibil, nici n-o vei face. C\u0103 nu ai absolut nimic de oferit nim\u0103nui \u015fi c\u0103 viziunea ta despre o rela\u0163ie este g\u0103se\u015fte-\u0163i fraiera care o s\u0103 tolereze orice \u015fi s\u0103 nu protesteze la nimic.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u015eti\u0163i care e partea amuzant-tragic\u0103, dragi cititori? C\u0103 societatea o \u00eenvinuie\u015fte tot pe tip\u0103: “de ce i-ai permis”? De parc\u0103 genul \u0103sta de c\u0103cat cu ochi cere vreodat\u0103 permisiune s\u0103 fie c\u0103cat cu ochi. \u0163ine vreodat\u0103 cont de nemul\u0163umirile legate de faptul c\u0103 e un c\u0103cat cu ochi sau ia \u00een considerare op\u0163iunea de a nu fi un c\u0103cat cu ochi.<\/p>\n

NOT FUCKING EVER.<\/p>\n

Femei, dac\u0103 unul se burzuluie\u015fte legat de no\u0163iuni de decen\u0163\u0103 uman\u0103 basic, evita\u0163i orice contact ulterior. Vina va fi tot a voastr\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei finalul care m-a scos major din s\u0103rite e \u00eencreng\u0103tura aia a logicii prin care mizeria asta dotat\u0103 accidental cu buletin \u00eemi compar\u0103 un mascul incapabil s\u0103 ofere tratament civilizat elementar cu Anastasia Gavrilovici. “Eu ce s\u0103 mai \u00een\u0163eleg?”<\/p>\n

S\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegi, gigele, c\u0103 e\u015fti prost de pute p\u0103m\u00e2ntul sub tine. Faptul c\u0103 Gavrilovici scrie versuri cu pul\u0103 \u015fi pizd\u0103 nu o face nici o iubit\u0103 mai pu\u0163in grijulie, nici o mam\u0103 mai pu\u0163in devotat\u0103. Zero leg\u0103tur\u0103 \u00eentre expresia artistic\u0103 \u015fi modul \u00een care \u00eel tratezi pe OMUL PE CARE L-AI ALES.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 nici \u0103luia nu \u00eei po\u0163i oferi partea ta cea mai bun\u0103, gigele, cui c\u0103cat i-o oferi?<\/p>\n

R\u0103spuns:\u00a0 nim\u0103nui.<\/p>\n

\u015ei de ce, gigele?<\/p>\n

Din motivul evident: c\u0103 partea aia a ta cea mai bun\u0103 nu exist\u0103, gigele. E\u015fti un c\u0103cat din cap p\u00e2n\u0103-n picioare.<\/p>\n

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Nu, \u00een dragoste nu e totul permis. \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, nu-\u0163i permi\u0163i tu, dac\u0103 chiar iube\u015fti persoana. \u00cen genul t\u0103u de lab\u0103 asistat\u0103 probabil c\u0103 e totul permis, dar genul t\u0103u de lab\u0103 asistat\u0103 ar trebui eradicat prin refuz de c\u0103tre toate femeile.<\/p>\n

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