{"id":19078,"date":"2020-02-22T11:18:20","date_gmt":"2020-02-22T08:18:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19078"},"modified":"2020-02-22T11:28:37","modified_gmt":"2020-02-22T08:28:37","slug":"cele-mai-proaste-sfaturi-de-viata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cele-mai-proaste-sfaturi-de-viata\/","title":{"rendered":"Cele mai proaste sfaturi de via\u0163\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Exist\u0103 oameni care nu \u015ftiu s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103. Oameni lipsi\u0163i de imagina\u0163ie, plini de prejudec\u0103\u0163i stupide, oameni f\u0103r\u0103 curaj, f\u0103r\u0103 coloan\u0103 vertebral\u0103, oameni care \u015fi-au ratat vie\u0163ile \u015fi cumva, au aceast\u0103 obsesie c\u0103 dac\u0103 ei au m\u00e2ncat kkt, e obligatoriu s\u0103-l m\u0103n\u00e2nci \u015fi tu, pentru c\u0103 e incorect ca ei s\u0103 fi fost pro\u015fti \u015fi tu nu.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei atunci, ace\u015fti oameni dau cele mai oripilant de proaste sfaturi de via\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Solu\u0163ia, de fiecare dat\u0103, este s\u0103 te ui\u0163i la om. Ce face. Ce poten\u0163ial are. \u00cencotro se \u00eendreapt\u0103. Ce a v\u0103zut din via\u0163\u0103. Ce \u015fi-a refuzat. Unde l-au dus deciziile lui. \u015ei a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 un ur\u00e2t \u00ee\u0163i spune c\u0103 n-ai nevoie de produse cosmetice, creme, m\u0103\u015fti, balsamuri, seruri, esen\u0163e, doar de ap\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103pun, prive\u015fte-l pe ur\u00e2t. Evalueaz\u0103 cu ochii t\u0103i cum arat\u0103 un om care nu-\u015fi \u00eengrije\u015fte pielea, \u015fi decide singur dac\u0103 realmente \u0163i-s suficiente apa \u015fi s\u0103punul.<\/p>\n<p>Acum, s\u0103 trecem la sfaturi stupide de via\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Banii n-aduc fericirea.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Cine predic\u0103 idio\u0163enia? Oportuni\u015fti care vor s\u0103 te mocangeasc\u0103, fomi\u015fti m\u00e2ndri de asta \u015fi copii de bani gata care n-au tr\u0103it o zi de foame de c\u00e2nd se \u015ftiu.<\/p>\n<p>Banii, singuri, nu aduc fericirea. Banii, \u00een conjunc\u0163ie cu un creier, o viziune \u015fi ni\u015fte scopuri, sunt unicul drum real spre fericire. Banii cump\u0103r\u0103 tehnologie, solu\u0163ii care simplific\u0103 proceduri, sus\u0163in inova\u0163ii, cump\u0103r\u0103 munca altora &#8211; s\u0103 nu ajungi \u015fi tu \u00een ipostaza mocangiului din fraza precedent\u0103 \u015fi, last but not least, acoper\u0103 nevoile zilnice.<\/p>\n<p>\u015eti\u0163i jocurile acelea freemium? Unde po\u0163i \u00eencepe jocul gratuit, dar s\u0103 dep\u0103\u015fe\u015fti un anumit nivel, \u015fi s\u0103 evoluezi rapid, trebuie s\u0103 faci achizi\u0163ii?<\/p>\n<p>Copiii mo\u015fului, via\u0163a este un joc freemium.<\/p>\n<p>Oricine v\u0103 spune altceva, v\u0103 minte.<\/p>\n<p>Iubirea este un joc freemium.<\/p>\n<p>Oricine v\u0103 spune altceva, v\u0103 minte.<\/p>\n<p>Best things in life are free?<\/p>\n<p>Nope. Best things in life are freemium.<\/p>\n<p>Pe de alt\u0103 parte: Pl\u0103ti\u0163i notele de plat\u0103, nu fi\u0163i calici, c\u0103 zg\u00e2rcenia e un p\u0103cat care se va \u00eentoarce s\u0103 v\u0103 mu\u015fte de partea dorsal\u0103.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Face\u0163i sluj pe la oameni cu bani.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u0102sta e sfatul taman opus, pe care \u00eel primesc copiii de la p\u0103rin\u0163i cu mentalit\u0103\u0163i de slugi sau de la slugi cu mentalit\u0103\u0163i de slugi.<\/p>\n<p>Am relatat zilele trecute pe Facebook situa\u0163ia unui prieten bun, care n-a primit un buget rezonabil pentru campanii social media de la un client care literalmente se sc\u0103lda \u00een bani. \u015ei eu i-am spus urm\u0103toarea, verificat\u0103 \u015fi r\u0103sverificat\u0103: Nu c\u0103uta clien\u0163i cu bani. Caut\u0103 clien\u0163i dispu\u015fi s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103. Ai zice c\u0103 e unul \u015fi acela\u015fi lucru, dar nu e.<\/p>\n<p>Sunt oameni cu bani care sunt statuia avari\u0163iei \u015fi a haps\u00e2nelii, \u015fi sunt oameni so-so, care au deschiderea complet\u0103 s\u0103 se revan\u015feze pentru servicii pe care le solicit\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Nu ai de ce s\u0103 fii slugarnic fa\u0163\u0103 de niciuna dintre categorii, dar cel pu\u0163in din punctul t\u0103u de vedere, un om cu bani care nu e dispus s\u0103 pl\u0103teasc\u0103 e totuna cu cer\u015fetorul b\u0103tr\u00e2n de la Universitate. F\u0103-\u0163i portofoliu cu cei care pl\u0103tesc, chiar\u00a0 dac\u0103 sunt sume mici, \u015fi \u0163ine-i aproape. Mai bine 100 lei pe care \u015ftii c\u0103 te bazezi dec\u00e2t 1.000 care vor veni poate, odat\u0103, dup\u0103 ce vei \u00eentruni un num\u0103r incert de temenele.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Trebuie neap\u0103rat s\u0103 ai o rela\u0163ie \/ s\u0103 te c\u0103s\u0103tore\u015fti, s\u0103 nu fii singur(\u0103).\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Pe c\u00e2nd \u00eemi promovam cartea Trollywood, m-au b\u0103gat la o emisiune TV, pe Anten\u0103, despre iubire. Da, aber\u0103m despre iubire, dar apuci s\u0103-\u0163i prezin\u0163i \u015fi cartea. Sincer, mie mi se rupea pula apoteotic despre iubire, dar voiam s\u0103 v\u00e2nd cartea, so, hai s\u0103 ne juc\u0103m de-a chestia asta.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei erau \u00een emisiune vreo trei sau patru psihologi, nu \u015ftiu dac\u0103 cu diplom\u0103 sau doar influenceri p\u0103reri\u015fti, care m\u0103 analizau dac\u0103 e normal s\u0103 m\u0103 simt perfect ok \u00een singur\u0103tatea mea sau nu.<\/p>\n<p>B\u0103rba\u0163ii au avut o f\u0103r\u00e2m\u0103 de onestitate. Da, traiul de unul singur e cool, dar p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd? P\u00e2n\u0103 oric\u00e2nd, dac\u0103 a\u015fa vreau eu. Stau \u00eentr-un bloc plin de babe singure. Ele sunt singure dup\u0103 o via\u0163\u0103 de slug\u0103rit toanele unuia. Au tr\u0103it \u00een renun\u0163\u0103ri \u015fi sacrificii s\u0103 nu fie singure \u015fi, na, belea, c\u00e2nd sunt \u00een maxim\u0103 nevoie, tot singure sunt. Eu m\u0103car \u00eemi asum asta dup\u0103 o via\u0163\u0103 \u00een care am f\u0103cut fix ce a vrut mu\u015fchiul meu, avantaj eu.<\/p>\n<p>Ooook, au zis b\u0103rba\u0163ii. Erau genul nonbullshit.<\/p>\n<p>Dar \u00een emisiune erau \u015fi dou\u0103 femei, care au intervenit aproape cu \u00eencr\u00e2ncenare. Trebuie s\u0103 treci prin\u00a0 malaxorul unei rela\u0163ii! S\u0103 vezi c\u00e2t de chinuitor e compromisul!<\/p>\n<p>Doamn\u0103, te auzi? Tocmai \u00eemi spui c\u00e2t de na\u015fpa e o rela\u0163ie, \u015fi \u015ftiu c\u0103 e na\u015fpa, pentru c\u0103 la cum e mentalitatea \u00een Rom\u00e2nia, femeia e mereu vioara a doua, \u015fi doar pentru c\u0103 tu te for\u0163ezi s\u0103 \u00eenghi\u0163i cu noduri, sunt \u015fi eu obligat\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenghit cu noduri, s\u0103 nu te sim\u0163i tu prost cu op\u0163iunile tale de rahat?<\/p>\n<p>Uite, nu vreau eu s\u0103 trec prin acest malaxor, c\u0103 am destule altele pe cap. Probleme?<\/p>\n<p>Pe b\u0103rba\u0163i \u00eei convinsesem, femeile cl\u0103tinau dezaprobator din cap.<\/p>\n<p>D\u0103-v\u0103 dracu de ipocritele pulii mele. V\u0103 e fric\u0103 s\u0103 nu regreta\u0163i tot ce a\u0163i sacrificat fug\u0103rind pula cu plasa de fluturi, sau ce?<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. Trebuie neap\u0103rat s\u0103 faci copii.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Thanks, no, thanks. Am aceea\u015fi veche alergie la urletul de bebelu\u015fi, ideea de a freca zilnic covorul s\u0103 nu se murd\u0103reasc\u0103 pui\u015forul m\u0103 scoate din min\u0163i, nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 schimb scutece \u015fi NU. M\u0102. INTERESEAZ\u0102. S\u0102 PREPAR. TREI MESE. PE ZI. CA APOI S\u0102 URLE. C\u0102 VREA ALTCEVA.<\/p>\n<p>No, m&#8217;am.<\/p>\n<p>Dar nu \u015ftii ce te \u00eempline\u015fte fericirea matern\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Poate pe alea care viseaz\u0103 la asta.<\/p>\n<p>Eu \u00een copil\u0103rie jucam dacii \u015fi romanii, respectiv cowboy-ii \u015fi indienii, p\u0103pu\u015file mele prindeau patru degete de praf \u015fi au \u015fi plecat spre al\u0163i copii din familie, care le-au pre\u0163uit, am zero abilit\u0103\u0163i reproductive, exact ca taic\u0103-miu, dar spre deosebire de el, aleg s\u0103-mi asum neputin\u0163ele \u015fi nedorin\u0163ele \u015fi s\u0103 nu \u00eens\u0103rcinez pe altcineva cu statutul \u0219i eforturile de p\u0103rinte singur.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5. Trebuie s\u0103 a\u015ftep\u0163i, s\u0103 fac\u0103 b\u0103rbatul mi\u015fcarea.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Aici ne vom referi la persoanele care \u00ee\u015fi doresc rela\u0163ii:<br \/>\nTrebuie s\u0103 a\u015ftep\u0163i, c\u0103 a\u015fa fac doamnele, c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt v\u00e2n\u0103tori, c\u0103 blabla.<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 stai s\u0103 a\u015ftep\u0163i, ri\u015fti s\u0103 vin\u0103 doar dispera\u0163ii \u015fi \u0103ia care vor s\u0103 aga\u0163e. Din experien\u0163a mea, cei mai buni b\u0103rba\u0163i sunt \u0103ia care nu te \u00eenghesuie. \u0102ia care au comportament lihnit cu tine au comportament lihnit cu toat\u0103 lumea, s\u0103 vad\u0103 cine pic\u0103. \u0102ia care chiar au ceva de oferit sunt mai rezerva\u0163i \u00een prim\u0103 faz\u0103, pe baza proverbului: Mai bine s\u0103 taci \u015fi s\u0103 dai de b\u0103nuit c\u0103 e\u015fti prost dec\u00e2t s\u0103 ca\u015fti gura \u015fi s\u0103 confirmi 100%.<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 \u0163ie \u00ee\u0163i place unul, ia ini\u0163iativa, prezint\u0103-te, stai de vorb\u0103, fii cute, nu disperat\u0103, \u015fi de la un punct \u00eencolo, se leag\u0103 treaba singur\u0103. \u015ei chiar dac\u0103 nu se leag\u0103, m\u0103car ai \u00eencercat. M\u0103car tr\u0103ie\u015fti \u00een armonie cu op\u0163iunile tale, nu stai dup\u0103 toanele altora.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6. Ignor\u0103 nesim\u0163i\u0163ii \u015fi intrigantele.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>De ce femeile o primesc mereu pe asta? Am dezvoltat \u00een tz\u015fpe articole. Dac\u0103 ignori oameni de c\u0103cat, pe de o parte te min\u0163i pe tine, pentru c\u0103 organismul uman nu e construit s\u0103 ignore, ai urechi, ochi, nas special s\u0103 confrun\u0163i pericole, nu s\u0103 mimezi c\u0103 nu le vezi, \u015fi pe de alta, le sugerezi lor c\u0103 pot merge p\u00e2n\u0103-n p\u00e2nzele albe, pentru c\u0103 tu nu iei m\u0103suri.<\/p>\n<p>Iar cli\u015feul altor assholi, care g\u0103sesc pl\u0103cere \u00een pozi\u0163ia de disconfort vizibil a femeilor care mimeaz\u0103 c\u0103 ignor\u0103, \u015fi fac pe calmele c\u00e2nd explodeaz\u0103 de draci, este c\u0103 dac\u0103 confrun\u0163i gorobe\u0163i, &#8220;te cobori la nivelul lor&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Gorobetele nu \u015ftie dec\u00e2t de fric\u0103, pentru c\u0103 no\u0163iunea de respect \u00eei lipse\u015fte din vocabular. Mai degrab\u0103 te cobori muuult sub nivelul lor mim\u00e2nd c\u0103 nu vezi c\u00e2nd sunt \u0163\u0103rani.<\/p>\n<p>Un &#8220;bag pula \u00een mor\u0163ii t\u0103i, nu-\u0163i permit acest tupeu cu mine&#8221; e atitudinea corect\u0103 cu cei care for\u0163eaz\u0103 nota. Singura atitudine corect\u0103.<\/p>\n<p><strong>7. Asta e situa\u0163ia, nu ai ce s\u0103 faci.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>O tot auzi. Ba despre angajatori abuzivi. Ba\u00a0 despre boyfriends abuzivi. sau girlfriends abuzive. Despre tic\u0103lo\u015fi inflexibili \u00een tic\u0103lo\u015fia lor. Despre animale abuzate. Despre infrac\u0163iuni. Despre \u015fp\u0103gi.<\/p>\n<p>Realitatea e c\u0103 mereu ai ce s\u0103 faci, doar c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 ie\u015fi din zona de la\u015fitate \u015fi s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i deschizi aripile. Orice abuz din aceast\u0103 via\u0163\u0103 se petrece cu permisiunea ta.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Dar dac\u0103 m\u0103 \u0163in cinci \u015fi m\u0103 violeaz\u0103, Lorena?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Dac\u0103 nu te duci la Poli\u0163ie din secunda \u00een care ai sc\u0103pat \u015fi nu cau\u0163i s\u0103 ob\u0163ii dreptate, nu doar c\u0103 e\u015fti complice la propriul t\u0103u viol, ci direct responsabil moral de toate urm\u0103toarele violuri ale celor cinci. Pentru c\u0103 rela\u0163ia tic\u0103losului cu r\u0103ul e precum urmeaz\u0103: dac\u0103 a comis-o o dat\u0103 \u015fi n-au existat consecin\u0163e, va avea infinit mai mult tupeu data urm\u0103toare.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>\u00ce\u0163i plac textele Trollywood? 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Oameni lipsi\u0163i de imagina\u0163ie, plini de prejudec\u0103\u0163i stupide, oameni f\u0103r\u0103 curaj, f\u0103r\u0103 coloan\u0103 vertebral\u0103, oameni care \u015fi-au&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":19079,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19078","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/direction.jpg?fit=640%2C426&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19078","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19078"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19078\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":19083,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19078\/revisions\/19083"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19079"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19078"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19078"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19078"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}