{"id":19113,"date":"2020-02-29T10:37:47","date_gmt":"2020-02-29T07:37:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19113"},"modified":"2020-02-29T10:56:34","modified_gmt":"2020-02-29T07:56:34","slug":"hai-sa-vorbim-despre-ageismul-revers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/hai-sa-vorbim-despre-ageismul-revers\/","title":{"rendered":"Hai s\u0103 vorbim despre ageismul revers"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, circula un text pe Facebook, \u015fi, spre \u00eentristarea mea, era sharuit majoritar de femei. Un domn de 40 de ani se declara fericit \u00een c\u0103s\u0103toria lui cu o so\u0163ie de aceea\u015fi v\u00e2rst\u0103, ceea ce, \u00een sine, e un lucru perfect rezonabil. Numai c\u0103 acela\u015fi domn porc\u0103ia cu sete fetele de 20 de ani, le f\u0103cea arogante, proaste, plictisitoare, tot tac\u0103mul, \u015fi decreta c\u0103 unicul lor merit este s\u0103 \u00eei scoale lui sc\u00e2rbavnicul m\u0103dular.<\/p>\n

Faptul c\u0103 femei de 35 \u015fi ceva de ani sim\u0163eau nevoia s\u0103 se alinieze la un discurs at\u00e2t de degradant pentru alte femei, at\u00e2t de misogin \u00een esen\u0163a lui, at\u00e2t de ipocrit, mi s-a p\u0103rut tragic.<\/p>\n

Te \u00eentrebi cum s-a ajuns ca femeile s\u0103-\u015fi p\u0103streze secole \u00een \u015fir un statut inferior, s\u0103 fie perpetuu \u015ficanate, umilite \u015fi s\u0103 li se nege orice calitate. Iar situa\u0163ia de ieri ne d\u0103 r\u0103spunsul: pentru c\u0103 \u015ficanele, umilirile \u015fi negarea valorii femeii se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 mereu cu aplauzele frenetice ale multor altor femei. Femei mai mature care, pentru c\u0103 nu se simt ele \u00eemp\u0103cate \u00een sinea lor cu un rid sau cu o \u015funculi\u0163\u0103 \u00een plus, aleg s\u0103 r\u0103zbune asta pe fetele tinere \u015fi frumoase.
\nDe parc\u0103 frumuse\u0163ea exterioar\u0103 ar fi ceva care \u0163ine de foame, de cald sau de tampon \u00eempotriva \u00eenjur\u0103turilor \u015fi\u00a0 nesim\u0163irii.<\/p>\n

\u00cen Statele Unite, spui ceva nepotrivit la adresa rasei negre, sau nu da Doamne, the N-word, \u015fi sar sute de mii de persoane de culoare s\u0103 te striveasc\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 ace\u015fti oameni au \u00een\u0163eles un adev\u0103r simplu: la\u015fi un cracker s\u0103 \u00eenjure un om de culoare, devii implicit un sus\u0163in\u0103tor al rasismului.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2t timp femeile, TOATE femeile, vor permite b\u0103rba\u0163ilor, sau, mai grav, vor \u00eencuraja b\u0103rba\u021bi s\u0103 \u00eenjure alte femei pe criterii de look, de v\u00e2rst\u0103, de inaccesibilitate sexual\u0103, c\u00e2t timp nu vor s\u0103ri toate la unison s\u0103 calce pe cap o pul\u0103 bleag\u0103 care strive\u015fte verbal pe una pe principiul strugurilor acri, femeile vor r\u0103m\u00e2ne cet\u0103\u0163enii de rang secund, \u015fi vina va fi doar a lor.<\/p>\n

O repet pe asta, s\u0103 lunece pe \u0163eava con\u015ftiin\u0163ei fiec\u0103reia dintre noi.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2t timp femeile, TOATE femeile, vor permite b\u0103rba\u0163ilor sau, mai grav, vor \u00eencuraja b\u0103rba\u021bi s\u0103 \u00eenjure alte femei pe criterii de look, de v\u00e2rst\u0103, de inaccesibilitate sexual\u0103, c\u00e2t timp nu vor s\u0103ri toate la unison s\u0103 calce pe cap o pul\u0103 bleag\u0103 care strive\u015fte verbal pe una pe principiul strugurilor acri, femeile vor r\u0103m\u00e2ne cet\u0103\u0163enii de rang secund, \u015fi vina va fi doar a lor. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Femeile au ce \u00eenv\u0103\u0163a de la oamenii de culoare. NICIODAT\u0102 un om de culoare b\u0103tr\u00e2n nu ar share-ui un text al unui alb care porc\u0103ie negri tineri. Dimpotriv\u0103, l-ar mui pe \u0103la cu miile \u015fi i-ar denun\u0163a rasismul \u00een mii de tweets furioase.<\/p>\n

\u015ei exist\u0103 rezultate. Roste\u015fte termenul “n*gger” \u00een SUA \u015fi ai fost concediat instant. Pe c\u00e2nd termenul “slut” circul\u0103 lini\u015ftit \u00een continuare.<\/p>\n

Nu, nesiguran\u0163a ta personal\u0103 legat\u0103 de cum ar\u0103\u0163i nu este mai important\u0103 dec\u00e2t dreptul la libertate, tratament civilizat \u015fi confortul emo\u0163ional al altei femei. <\/strong><\/p>\n

\u015ei nu, faptul c\u0103 cinci b\u0103rba\u0163i b\u0103tr\u00e2ni \u015fi fleo\u015fc\u0103i\u0163i o \u00eenjur\u0103 pe t\u00e2n\u0103ra respectiv\u0103 nu \u00ee\u0163i ridic\u0103 \u0163ie magic \u0163\u00e2\u0163ele \u015fi nici nu \u00ee\u0163i \u015fterge magic ridurile.<\/p>\n

Dar distruge moralul \u015fi \u00eencrederea \u00een sine a tinerei, care are oricum de dus o lupt\u0103 grea pentru a se defini ca om \u015fi a dep\u0103\u015fi toate imbecilit\u0103\u0163ile acestei societ\u0103\u0163i retrograde, unde o freac\u0103 destui la cap: s\u0103-\u015fi g\u0103seasc\u0103 repede pe unu, s\u0103 se m\u0103rite, s\u0103 nu viseze big, visele big sunt pentru b\u0103rba\u0163i, s\u0103 fac\u0103 repede copii \u015fi apoi s\u0103-\u015fi iroseasc\u0103 toate ambi\u021biile personale, devenind sclava unei familii care nu-i va mul\u0163umi niciodat\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Femeile tinere sunt condi\u0163ionate la insucces nu doar de b\u0103rba\u0163i lihni\u021bi sexual, invidio\u015fi, gelo\u015fi \u015fi meschini, ci \u015fi de al doilea du\u015fman: femei invidioase, geloase \u015fi meschine.<\/p>\n

Eu la 20 de ani eram o mare admiratoare a femeilor mature. Mi se p\u0103reau de\u015ftepte, puternice, relaxate, sexy. \u00cemi doream s\u0103 fiu ca ele. Nu a\u015f fi tratat nerespectuos pe vreuna vreodat\u0103. \u015ei totu\u015fi, multe dintre ele \u00eemi vorbeau ur\u00e2t, m\u0103 s\u0103pau, \u00eemi negau calit\u0103\u0163ile, \u00eemi spuneau c\u0103 sunt o mucoas\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103 nu merit nimic. Femeile. Fiin\u0163ele de acela\u015fi sex cu mine, care ar fi trebuit s\u0103-mi dea aripi \u015fi s\u0103 m\u0103 sus\u0163in\u0103, a\u015fa cum b\u0103rba\u0163ii maturi fac cu tinerii cu poten\u0163ial.<\/p>\n

De ce b\u0103rba\u0163ii au men\u0163inut pozi\u0163ia superioar\u0103 secole \u00een \u015fir?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 au creat fraternitate. Au cooperat. S-au sus\u0163inut. S-au crescut unii pe al\u0163ii \u015fi s-au sprijinit s\u0103 devin\u0103 mai buni. Bros before hos. B\u0103rbatul de 40 \u00eel lua ucenic pe \u0103la de 20 \u015fi \u00eel educa s\u0103 fie puternic \u015fi sigur de sine. \u015ei-au l\u0103sat mo\u015ftenire averile \u015fi tronurile primordial mo\u015ftenitorului masculin.<\/p>\n

Poate c\u0103 ar fi mai interesant s\u0103 studiem latura asta a caracterului masculin, nu doar libertatea de a arunca cu plua pe net.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd un b\u0103rbat \u00ee\u015fi minte partenera, ga\u015fca lui face zid, s\u0103 \u00eel protejeze \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eel ascund\u0103. C\u00e2nd am scris, acum doi ani, de cazul sunetistului Mediapro care \u015fi-a spart so\u0163ia \u00een b\u0103taie f\u0103r\u0103 motiv, mii de b\u0103rba\u0163i au comentat s\u0103 \u00eei ia partea, de\u015fi nu \u00eel cuno\u015fteau \u015fi nu fuseser\u0103 acolo.<\/p>\n

B\u0103rba\u0163ii \u0163in cu b\u0103rba\u0163i \u015fi sus\u0163in b\u0103rba\u0163i.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Autoritatea unui b\u0103rbat care a f\u0103cut lucruri valoroase \u00een via\u0163\u0103 este confirmat\u0103 \u015fi respectat\u0103 de al\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Revenind la femei.<\/p>\n

At\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t femeia de 40 de ani va face pact cu nefutu\u0163ii \u00een a denigra femeia de 20 de ani, femeia VA R\u0102M\u00c2NE CET\u0102\u0162EANUL SECUND.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2t\u0103 putere interioar\u0103 s\u0103 ai, s\u0103 ignori iar, iar \u015fi iar at\u00e2tea r\u0103ut\u0103\u0163i \u015fi at\u00e2tea tentative de subminare, mai ales la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 fraged\u0103, la care ai nevoie de sus\u0163inere \u015fi \u00eencurajare pentru a cre\u015fte?<\/p>\n

At\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t femeia de 40 de ani, de\u015fteapt\u0103, puternic\u0103, sigur\u0103 pe cariera ei \u015fi pe pozi\u0163ia ei \u00een societate, nu va lua sub arip\u0103 femeia de 20 de ani, s-o protejeze, s-o creasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103-i transmit\u0103 putere, ci o va sabota \u015fi \u00eei va nega orice \u015fans\u0103 la afirmare, FEMEIA VA R\u0102M\u00c2NE CET\u0102\u0162EANUL SECUND.<\/p>\n

Femeile vor deveni egale \u00een drepturi \u015fi statut cu b\u0103rba\u0163ii\u00a0\u00ceN SECUNDA C\u00c2ND\u00a0<\/strong>vor refuza s\u0103 mai caute validare \u00een complimente mincinoase \u015fi o vor g\u0103si \u00een propriul lor talent \u015fi \u00een propriile realiz\u0103ri. \u015ei\u00a0\u00ceN SECUNDA C\u00c2ND\u00a0<\/strong>vor \u00eenceta s\u0103 sape \u015fi s\u0103 invidieze alte femei.<\/p>\n

Nici m\u0103car nu e DOAR vina b\u0103rba\u0163ilor c\u0103 se comport\u0103 ur\u00e2t. Refuz\u0103-i unui b\u0103rbat sex condi\u0163ion\u00e2ndu-l s\u0103 fie un domn \u015fi \u00een secunda viitoare \u0103la o s\u0103\u00a0 reinventeze cavalerismul.<\/p>\n

Dar at\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t voi v\u0103 face\u0163i una pe alta t\u00e2rfe, curve \u015fi panar\u0103mi, nu e cazul s\u0103 v\u0103 mira\u0163i c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii fac acela\u015fi lucru. VOI<\/strong> \u00eei educa\u0163i c\u0103 e ok<\/p>\n

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