Eu sunt foarte sup\u0103rat\u0103 c\u0103 nu mi-am f\u0103cut familie. Am gre\u0219it \u00een via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i m\u0103 simt foarte singur\u0103. \u015ei-i v\u0103d pe to\u021bi c\u0103 \u0219i-au f\u0103cut copii \u0219i familie. \u015ei eu, pentru c\u0103 am plecat din \u0163ar\u0103, nu m-am c\u0103s\u0103torit de t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103. \u015ei acum am 40 de ani \u0219i sunt foarte deprimat\u0103.<\/strong> X.”<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X.,<\/p>\n Din ce citesc aici, d\u0103-mi voie s\u0103 te felicit c\u0103 nu te–ai m\u0103ritat \u015fi nu ai f\u0103cut copii. Ai fi f\u0103cut dintr-un biet b\u0103rbat suficient de prost s\u0103 nu vad\u0103 e c\u0103 e tratat ca un portofel ambulant victima egoismului t\u0103u feroce, \u015fi din copii, ni\u015fte fiin\u0163e mutilate emo\u0163ional.<\/p>\n Spui c\u0103 ai 40 de ani, dar eu cunosc copii de 15 care g\u00e2ndesc mai matur dec\u00e2t tine. Te-ai oprit cu examinarea vie\u0163ii la nivelul \u00een care te ui\u0163i \u00een curtea altuia \u015fi invidiezi c\u0103 are de toate, dar nu \u00ee\u0163i pui nici o secund\u0103 problema efortului sus\u0163inut zi de zi, cu care a ajuns omul respectiv s\u0103 aib\u0103 tot ce are.<\/p>\n Acum, v\u0103d c\u0103 aten\u0163ia ta e concentrat\u0103 pe femei de v\u00e2rsta ta m\u0103ritate, dar din cele mai superficiale \u015fi stupide motive: avere, bani, faptul c\u0103 au v\u0103zut lumea.<\/p>\n \u015etii ce e \u00een spatele acestei aparen\u0163e?<\/p>\n Ani de munc\u0103 pe br\u00e2nci.<\/p>\n Crezi c\u0103 la 22 de ani, b\u0103rbatul sor\u0103-tii era bogat ca acum? Jetonul meu e pe faptul c\u0103 au muncit \u015fi au crescut \u00eempreun\u0103, s-au ales unul pe altul din dragoste, dar au r\u0103mas din compatibilitate, sus\u0163inere reciproc\u0103, conexiune emo\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi aptitudinea de a-\u015fi fi cei mai buni prieteni unul altuia.<\/p>\n Po\u0163i oferi asta altui om?<\/p>\n Nici m\u0103car nu \u0163i-ai pus problema a\u015fa.<\/p>\n Doar sub forma: m-am m\u0103ritat cu unul, dar nu avea bani.<\/p>\n Chiar \u015fi un multimiliardar are nevoie de un om cu care s\u0103 poat\u0103 comunica \u015fi \u00een care s\u0103 aib\u0103 un partener autentic de via\u0163\u0103, nu de una care s\u0103 i se vaiete c\u0103 a gre\u015fit \u00een via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 vrea s\u0103 fie scoas\u0103 din foame.<\/p>\n C\u0103s\u0103toria nu e bon de mas\u0103 \u015fi nici tratament pentru singur\u0103tate. \u015ei dac\u0103 intri \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie cu un bagaj at\u00e2t de toxic, te asigur eu: \u0103la o s\u0103 fug\u0103 m\u00e2nc\u00e2nd p\u0103m\u00e2ntul. Nu pentru c\u0103 ai 40 de ani. Nu pentru c\u0103 nu e\u015fti doctori\u0163\u0103. Ci pentru c\u0103, pe plan uman, nu v\u0103d, cel pu\u0163in din acest mail, ce ai de oferit.<\/p>\n Deocamdat\u0103 f\u0103 pace cu tine. Probabil c\u0103 vei avea nevoie de un terapeut calificat pentru asta, eu nu am cum s\u0103 te ajut printr-un articol de blog. Caut\u0103 s\u0103 creezi interac\u0163iuni s\u0103n\u0103toase \u015fi normale cu oameni. B\u0103rba\u0163i \u015fi femei. Bani po\u0163i c\u00e2\u015ftiga \u015fi cu un job. Ejobs \u015fi Bestjobs sunt pline de oferte de munc\u0103. Sau, mai tare. Carrefour din fa\u0163a blocului meu are pancart\u0103 mare c\u0103 angajeaz\u0103 personal. A\u015fa mai ie\u015fi \u015fi tu din cas\u0103 \u015fi \u00eencetezi s\u0103 te fr\u0103m\u00e2n\u0163i cu prostii.<\/p>\n De fiecare c\u0103s\u0103torie bun\u0103 la 40 de ani pe care o \u015ftii exist\u0103 c\u00e2te dou\u0103 absolut oribile, cu parteneri \u00eenstr\u0103ina\u0163i, \u0163inu\u0163i \u00eempreun\u0103 de copii, firme comune \u015fi rata de la banc\u0103, \u015fi c\u00e2te cinci divor\u0163uri absolut oribile, unde partenerii se ur\u0103sc at\u00e2t de tare, \u00eenc\u00e2t nici copiii, firmele comune \u015fi rata de la banc\u0103 nu-i pot \u0163ine \u00eempreun\u0103.<\/p>\n Iar femeile alea au f\u0103cut m\u00e2ncare \u015fi au dat cu aspiratorul \u00een fiecare zi, \u00een timp ce tu chefuiai p\u00e2n\u0103 la 5 diminea\u0163a.<\/p>\n So,<\/p>\n \u00cenceteaz\u0103 cu v\u0103ic\u0103relile, ia-\u0163i un job \u015fi un terapeut profesionist. \u015ei caut\u0103-\u0163i o rela\u0163ie dup\u0103 ce \u00een\u0163elegi investi\u0163ia emo\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi uman\u0103 pe care o presupune un partener. 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\nAm gre\u0219it maxim. Familia e tot ce conteaz\u0103. Singur\u0103tatea e Iad.<\/strong>
\nAm at\u00e2tea exemple care \u0219i au f\u0103cut familii. Pentru c\u0103 n-am copil, nu mai pot s\u0103 tr\u0103iesc. Nu mai vreau via\u0163\u0103.<\/strong>
\nSora mea e de la 22 de ani cu so\u021b l\u00e2ng\u0103 ea. Au averi. Sunt la multina\u021bionale. Au v\u0103zut toat\u0103 lumea. Eu de doi ani pl\u00e2ng, Am amice \u00een afara \u0163\u0103rii cu copii, so\u021b. Una a terminat arhitectura. Deci tari fetele.<\/strong>
\nLa 40 de ani, cine te mai vrea. M-am m\u0103ritat cu un american, doar s\u0103 m\u0103 m\u0103rit, e om bun, dar om obi\u0219nuit, nu are bani.<\/strong>
\nAcum, cine st\u0103 cu mine? B\u0103rba\u021bii de calitate nu vor asa ceva. Vor doctori\u021be, fete serioase, cu \u015fcoli. \u0218i s\u0103 stau singur\u0103. E Iad.<\/strong>
\nEu m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc s\u0103 mor. Sincer \u00ee\u021bi spun. Stau doar \u00een cas\u0103 \u0219i repet acelea\u0219i lucruri.<\/strong>
\nSunt foarte sup\u0103rat\u0103 \u0219i dezam\u0103git\u0103 de tot<\/strong>
\nCic\u0103-s multe c\u00e2te s au m\u0103ritat \u00een America, cu super b\u0103rba\u021bi, cu bani. Alea de\u0219tepte, nu?<\/strong>
\n\u0218i norocoase. Nu?<\/strong><\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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