{"id":19419,"date":"2020-04-22T15:24:51","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T12:24:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19419"},"modified":"2021-12-09T20:45:41","modified_gmt":"2021-12-09T17:45:41","slug":"ba-da-barbatii-de-altadata-sunt-tot-aici","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ba-da-barbatii-de-altadata-sunt-tot-aici\/","title":{"rendered":"Ba da, b\u0103rba\u0163ii de alt\u0103dat\u0103 sunt tot aici"},"content":{"rendered":"

Periodic, v\u0103d comentariul \u0103sta care \u00eemi d\u0103 mereu cringe. “Unde sunt b\u0103rba\u0163ii de alt\u0103dat\u0103”. Probabil c\u0103 se refer\u0103 la un tat\u0103 sau un bunic cald, iubitor \u015fi protector, care le scotea \u00een parc, le cump\u0103ra \u00eenghe\u0163at\u0103 sau le d\u0103dea cu leag\u0103nul.<\/p>\n

Acel tat\u0103 sau bunic cald \u015fi protector era invidiat \u015fi de jum\u0103tate dintre vecine, pentru c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii lor le \u00een\u015felau, le b\u0103teau sau pur \u015fi simplu nu le b\u0103gau \u00een seam\u0103. \u0218i da, \u0219i \u0103ia erau tot b\u0103rba\u021bi de alt\u0103dat\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u00centre timp, ai crescut. Nu mai po\u0163i fi impresionat\u0103 cu o ciocolat\u0103 sau cu o plimbare \u00een parc. \u015ei e normal s\u0103 nu mai fii, pentru c\u0103 ai alte a\u015ftept\u0103ri. Nu mai e\u015fti copil, e\u015fti femeie. Nu ai nevoile unui copil, ci pe acelea ale unui adult.<\/p>\n

\u015ei \u0163i se pare c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii de acum sunt mult mai prejos de cei de alt\u0103dat\u0103, c\u00e2nd, \u00een realitate, persoana care s-a schimbat e\u015fti tu.<\/p>\n

\u00cenc\u0103 \u00eemi amintesc, c\u00e2nd eram copil, cum picioarele adul\u0163ilor erau foarte lungi, iar ei mi se p\u0103reau ni\u015fte titani. Era firesc. A\u015fa \u00ee\u0163i vezi \u015fi tu figura patern\u0103 din copil\u0103rie. Ca pe un zeu atotputernic \u015fi binevoitor, care \u00ee\u015fi pogoar\u0103 lumina asupra ta. Era de la bec.<\/p>\n

Nu aveai alte nevoi, \u00een afar\u0103 de hran\u0103, iubire \u015fi protec\u0163ie. Iar un tat\u0103 sau un bunic iubitor oferea asta cu u\u015furin\u0163\u0103, pentru c\u0103 tu erai o fiin\u0163\u0103 mic\u0103, mereu entuziasmat\u0103 de prezen\u0163a lor, care nu punea \u00eentreb\u0103ri bru\u015fte, care nu le contesta inten\u0163iile \u015fi care nu cerea mai mult dec\u00e2t erau dispu\u015fi s\u0103 ofere.<\/p>\n

Ca adult, nu ai cum s\u0103 ai cu un alt adult rela\u0163ia asta niciodat\u0103. Deja \u00eei vezi de la egal la egal, sau de sus \u00een jos c\u00e2nd elti ditamai lunganca de 1.80, deja te prinzi c\u00e2nd vin cu pretexte \u015fi minciuni, \u015fi deja intuie\u015fti \u015fi motiva\u0163iile.<\/p>\n

\u015ei ta\u0163ii \u015fi bunicii no\u015ftri adora\u0163i ne min\u0163eau, doar c\u0103 eram copii \u015fi-i credeam.<\/p>\n

B\u0103rba\u0163i buni exist\u0103 \u015fi azi. Nu neap\u0103rat at\u00e2t de mari, musculo\u015fi \u015fi rezisten\u0163i la efort ca bunicii lor, dar bunicii lor f\u0103ceau toate muncile c\u00e2mpului \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi cl\u0103deau casele de la zero cu c\u00e2\u0163iva prieteni. Munca fizic\u0103 te face mai solid.<\/p>\n

Dar exist\u0103 din plin, \u015fi mul\u0163i chiar fac eforturi s\u0103 fie mai buni, mai sensibili la nevoile femeilor, mai pu\u0163in egoi\u015fti \u00een rela\u0163ii. Mul\u0163i \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 g\u0103teasc\u0103, s\u0103 fac\u0103 treburile casei, pentru a fi p\u0103r\u0163i egale \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie. Mul\u0163i fac voluntariat pentru diverse cauze sociale.<\/p>\n

\u015ei sincer, \u00een ultima vreme parc\u0103 prefer casierii \u015fi v\u00e2nz\u0103torii b\u0103rba\u0163i. Femeilor li s-a spus at\u00e2t de mult s\u0103 z\u00e2mbeasc\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t deja li s-a luat. Multe femei care lucreaz\u0103 \u00een comer\u0163 sunt ciufute, stresate \u015fi prost dispuse. Pe b\u0103rba\u0163i nu-i fwte nimeni la icre s\u0103 z\u00e2mbeasc\u0103, vor doar s\u0103 fac\u0103 o treab\u0103 bun\u0103 \u015fi de aceea, sunt natural s\u0103ritori \u015fi amabili.<\/p>\n

So, unde sunt b\u0103rba\u0163ii buni de alt\u0103dat\u0103?<\/p>\n

Peste tot \u00een jur. Absolut peste tot \u00een jur.<\/p>\n

Sigur, nu sunt perfec\u0163i, cum nici taic\u0103-tu sau bunicu-tu nu era, probabil, pentru femei de v\u00e2rsta lui. Sunt oameni simpli, cu calit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi defecte, cum era \u015fi b\u0103rbatul t\u0103u preferat din copil\u0103rie pentru al\u0163i oameni de v\u00e2rsta lui.<\/p>\n

Sigur, mai pu\u0163in vocali dec\u00e2t idiotul care posteaz\u0103 4567 de comentarii de hate \u015fi cer\u015fetorie de aten\u0163ie, de aceea, dac\u0103 nu te ui\u0163i cu aten\u0163ie, nu-i observi.<\/p>\n

C\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii buni au aceast\u0103 calitate: dac\u0103 nu au nimic nou sau relevant de spus, prefer\u0103 s\u0103 tac\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 asculte. De aceea sunt u\u015for de omis.<\/p>\n

Dar ei sunt cei care sunt ta\u0163i \u015fi bunici la fel de buni pentru copiii lor, cum au fost ai t\u0103i pentru tine. \u015ei \u00een ei, feti\u0163ele v\u0103d “b\u0103rba\u0163ii buni de alt\u0103dat\u0103” de m\u00e2ine.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, ai avut vreodat\u0103 inten\u0163ia s\u0103-l sus\u0163ii dar ai tot am\u00e2nat, acum ar fi un moment foarte bun.<\/p>\n

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