{"id":19430,"date":"2020-04-26T11:32:39","date_gmt":"2020-04-26T08:32:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19430"},"modified":"2020-04-26T11:32:39","modified_gmt":"2020-04-26T08:32:39","slug":"voi-obisnuiti-sa-dati-unfollow-daca-da-de-ce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/voi-obisnuiti-sa-dati-unfollow-daca-da-de-ce\/","title":{"rendered":"Voi obi\u015fnui\u0163i s\u0103 da\u0163i unfollow? Dac\u0103 da, de ce?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, o fat\u0103 din lista mea de prieteni de pe Facebook a dat un status care zicea a\u015fa: Dac\u0103 dai unfollow tuturor din lista ta de prieteni, ce vezi oare pe feed? <\/p>\n

Nici m\u0103car nu m-am apucat s\u0103 fac exerci\u0163iul \u0103sta de imagina\u0163ie, din realizarea unui fapt simplu. <\/p>\n

Nu v\u0103d rostul pentru care ai da unfollow cuiva. Oricui. N-am dat \u00een via\u0163a mea un unfollow \u015fi nu \u00een\u0163eleg de ce a\u015f face una ca asta. Nu \u00een\u0163eleg de ce o fac al\u0163ii. <\/p>\n

Vezi oameni care nu posteaz\u0103 dec\u00e2t rahat misogin \u015fi cum sunt toate femeile curve, proaste, sau ambele?
\nUnfriend. <\/p>\n

Vezi persoane care nu posteaz\u0103 dec\u00e2t hate la adresa altor persoane?
\nUnfriend. <\/p>\n

Ai pe c\u00e2te unii care apar \u00een rubrica ta de comentarii, dar numai cu hate, c\u00e2nd e de hate, \u015fi niciodat\u0103 cu o vorb\u0103 bun\u0103, c\u00e2nd treaba e incontestabil ok?
\nUnfriend. <\/p>\n

Ai pe unii care caut\u0103 s\u0103 te enerveze cu statusuri insinuante sau aluzii jignitoare la tine?
\nUnfriend. <\/p>\n

Ai pe unii care \u015ftiu mereu de unde s\u0103 te ia c\u00e2nd au nevoie de tine, dar nu sunt niciodat\u0103 disponibili, c\u00e2nd ai tu nevoie de ei?
\nUnfriend. <\/p>\n

Aveam o prieten\u0103, care la un moment dat a fost amic\u0103 la cataram\u0103 cu o ga\u015fc\u0103 de alte tipe. Apoi, au avut o ne\u00een\u0163elegere. Dup\u0103 aceea, s-au \u00eemp\u0103cat de form\u0103, dar \u00ee\u015fi purtau ranchiun\u0103 \u00een continuare. Drept care, asta m\u0103 \u0163inea ore \u00een \u015fir s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 ce m\u0103g\u0103rie a postat una \u015fi ce oligofrenie a postat cealalt\u0103. \u015ei eu la un moment dat i-am zis:
\n-Auzi, dar \u015ftii c\u0103 exist\u0103 un exit extrem de scurt \u015fi eficient din situa\u0163ie?
\n-Care?
\n-D\u0102-LE UNFRIEND, SORO.<\/strong> Le elimini din lista ta \u015fi nu te mai intereseaz\u0103 nici ce zice una, nici ce zice cealalt\u0103.
\n-Nu mai bine le dau doar unfollow?
\n-De ce? S\u0103 salvezi aparen\u0163ele? De ce ar conta aparen\u0163ele, dac\u0103 esen\u0163a e de rahat major? <\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 o rela\u0163ie d\u0103 \u00een cangren\u0103, trateaz-o ca pe un picior care a dat \u00een cangren\u0103. Bisturiu. <\/p>\n

Eu am \u00een lista de Facebook dou\u0103 categorii de oameni: prieteni din via\u0163a real\u0103 sau rude \u015fi cititorii blogului – oamen care se uit\u0103, ascult\u0103 \u015fi citesc de creez. Dac\u0103 o prietenie din via\u0163a real\u0103 devine toxic\u0103, nasoal\u0103 sau realmente nu cred c\u0103 mai am vreodat\u0103 ce discuta cu persoana respectiv\u0103, o scot pur \u015fi simplu din list\u0103. \u015ei din via\u0163a mea. Nu stau s\u0103 filez: dar oare ce mai posteaz\u0103, ce mai zice, ce motive \u00eemi mai d\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 enervez. <\/p>\n

Fuck no. <\/p>\n

Via\u0163a e scurt\u0103 \u015fi merit\u0103 s\u0103 \u0163inem l\u00e2ng\u0103 noi oamenii pe care \u00eei putem iubi \u015fi cu care avem ce comunica. <\/p>\n

\u015ei \u00een\u0163eleg, toxicitatea poate crea dependen\u0163\u0103. P\u00e2n\u0103 la un punct. E delicios s\u0103 te m\u0103sori \u00een musculatur\u0103 cu X sau cu Y.
\nDar e at\u00e2t de pointless, \u00een echilibrul mai amplu al vie\u0163ii tale. Ajunge s\u0103 te ui\u0163i \u00een urm\u0103 cu cinci ani \u015fi s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dai seama c\u00e2t timp valoros pentru proiectele tale ai irosit \u00een conflict cu Vasilica \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i dai cu pumnii \u00een cap c\u0103 via\u0163a e scurt\u0103 \u015fi nu ai tr\u0103it-o cum se cuvine. <\/p>\n

S\u0103 revenim la punctul ini\u0163ial al discu\u0163iei noastre. Nu am dat \u00een via\u0163a mea un unfollow. Dac\u0103 am considerat c\u0103 Vasilica \u015fi cu mine \u00een mod real nu avem ce s\u0103 ne spunem, am dat unfriend, s\u0103 nu mai ocup\u0103m \u00een mod fake un loc inutil una \u00een lista celeilalte. <\/p>\n

Recomand acest tip de onestitate \u00een rela\u0163iile voastre interpersonale. <\/p>\n

\u0162ine\u0163i aproape doar ce pute\u0163i iubi sincer \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 rezerve. \u00cen rest, pa, la revedere, adio \u015fi n-am cuvinte, etc. <\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 Covid ne-a \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at un lucru, sau m\u0103 rog, cel pu\u0163in pe mine, acesta e faptul c\u0103 via\u0163a e scurt\u0103 \u015fi nu \u015ftii niciodat\u0103 c\u00e2nd se termin\u0103 \u015fi \u00een ce mod stupid. Hai s\u0103 make the most of this time. <\/p>\n

Nu avem timp de unfollow. Nu \u00ee\u0163i place ce debiteaz\u0103? Hai pa. <\/p>\n

Dar pentru c\u0103 vreau s\u0103 \u0163in dialogul pe acest site deschis, vreau s\u0103 \u015ftiu. Voi a\u0163i dat vreodat\u0103 unfollow? \u015ei dac\u0103 da, de ce v\u0103 interesa totu\u015fi s\u0103 p\u0103stra\u0163i persoana \u00een list\u0103? De ce n-a\u0163i dat unfriend? <\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, ai avut vreodat\u0103 inten\u0163ia s\u0103-l sus\u0163ii dar ai tot am\u00e2nat, acum ar fi un moment foarte bun.<\/p>\n

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\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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Ascult\u0103 Jet pe Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe iTunes<\/strong><\/a> sau pe Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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