Nu, nu conteaz\u0103 ce mesaje frumoase \u00eei scrii, nu conteaz\u0103 ce frumos vorbe\u015fti cu el, nu conteaz\u0103 ce bine \u00eel \u00een\u0163elegi c\u00e2nd \u0163i se vaiet\u0103, nu conteaz\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eel aju\u0163i mereu c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0163i cere, nu conteaz\u0103 ce \u00eei g\u0103te\u015fti, nu conteaz\u0103 nimic.
\nPrin bun\u0103tate, po\u0163i cump\u0103ra apreciere \u015fi respect, dac\u0103 omul e genul, sau misecuvenism ordinar, dac\u0103 omul e taic\u0103-miu.
\nDar iubirea, preocuparea real\u0103 legat\u0103 de via\u0163a ta nu se nasc prin gesturi minunate \u015fi m\u0103rinimoase.<\/p>\n
Dac\u0103 un tip nu e o fire natural grijulie \u015fi preocupat\u0103 de binele t\u0103u, o s\u0103 i se rup\u0103 apoteotic \u015fi de binele copiilor.<\/strong><\/p>\n Exist\u0103 oameni care au natural tendin\u0163a s\u0103 aib\u0103 grij\u0103 de al\u0163ii. Nu cu vorbe, ci cu fapte. \u015ei exist\u0103 oameni c\u0103rora nu le pas\u0103 dec\u00e2t de ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi. \u015ei da, sunt de ambele sexe. Ace\u015ftia din urm\u0103, \u015fi b\u0103rba\u0163i, \u015fi femei, ar trebui s\u0103 evite s\u0103 devin\u0103 p\u0103rin\u0163i. Dac\u0103 nu-l preocup\u0103 ce m\u0103n\u00e2nci, cum te sim\u0163i, \u015fi \u00een ce moduri poate avea grij\u0103 de tine, o s\u0103-l doar\u0103 la ba\u015fche\u0163i de nevoile eventualilor vo\u015ftri copii.<\/p>\n Faptul c\u0103 \u00eei fe\u0163i ni\u015fte mo\u015ftenitori n-o s\u0103-l lege magic de tine.<\/strong><\/p>\n Exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i care te iubesc pur \u015fi simplu. Nu trebuie s\u0103 sari prin cercuri de foc, nu trebuie s\u0103 faci triplu salt mortal pe ghea\u0163\u0103, pur \u015fi simplu te apreciaz\u0103 pentru ceea ce e\u015fti tu ca om \u015fi se preocup\u0103 de binele t\u0103u.<\/p>\n \u015ei exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i care nu te plac foarte tare. Drept care, te fac s\u0103 te sim\u0163i ca \u015fi cum ar trebui s\u0103 lup\u0163i constant pentru aten\u0163ia lor. Tendin\u0163a omului este s\u0103 alerge dup\u0103 ceva ce nu se las\u0103 prins, \u015fi acest lucru este decizia fiec\u0103ruia \u00een parte, dar, dac\u0103 deja ai o astfel de dinamic\u0103, n-o complica \u015fi cu copii. Nope, nu \u00eel vor responsabiliza. Sau, \u00een rarele cazuri c\u00e2nd \u00eel vor responsabiliza, va fi fa\u0163\u0103 de copii, nu fa\u0163\u0103 de tine. Tu r\u0103m\u00e2i femeia pe care nu o place prea tare, dar \u00een p\u0103s\u0103rica c\u0103reia a sc\u0103pat un spermatozoid campion.<\/p>\n Nu, frustra\u0163ii, gelo\u015fii \u015fi orgolio\u015fii nu fac ta\u0163i buni.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0102la care se simte perpetuu amenin\u0163at c\u0103 i-ai z\u00e2mbit altuia, sau c\u0103 ai stat o or\u0103 \u00een plus la munc\u0103 \u015fi ai rupt din timpul LUI, \u0103la care face o criz\u0103 c\u00e2nd nu are aten\u0163ia ta complet\u0103 nu sunt ta\u0163i buni. Sunt cei care se vor v\u0103ic\u0103ri c\u0103 \u00eei neglijezi pentru copil, c\u0103 te-ai \u00eengr\u0103\u015fat la sarcin\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103 nu se mai simt speciali. Un individ care devine competitiv cu un bebelu\u015f e un om care nu are de ce s\u0103 devin\u0103 tat\u0103.<\/p>\n Te ajut\u0103 cu chestii prin cas\u0103?<\/strong><\/p>\n Dac\u0103 n-o face acum, n-o face nici dup\u0103 na\u015fterea unui copil \u015fi te vei trezi omul cu dou\u0103 joburi, unul la munc\u0103 \u015fi unul nepl\u0103tit acas\u0103. O cur\u0103\u0163enie a\u015fa \u015fi a\u015fa \u015fi un semipreparat \u00eenc\u0103lzit 5 minute la microunde merg c\u00e2nd e\u015fti adult. Dar un copil s\u0103n\u0103tos are nevoie de o cas\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat curat\u0103 \u015fi de m\u00e2ncare bun\u0103 \u015fi corect\u0103 nutri\u0163ional.<\/p>\n E stabil financiar \u015fi emo\u0163ional?<\/strong><\/p>\n Materialistooo, o s\u0103 urle zece troli care stau cu p\u0103rin\u0163ii. \u015ei last, but not least.<\/p>\n E capabil s\u0103 exprime iubire?<\/strong><\/p>\n Mul\u0163i nu sunt. Mul\u0163i sunt inap\u0163i de afec\u0163iune, nepreg\u0103ti\u0163i emo\u0163ional pentru a transmite conexiune uman\u0103. \u015ei, nu, nu e treaba ta s\u0103-i “\u00eenve\u0163i s\u0103 iubeasc\u0103”. Oric\u00e2t de frumoase sunt minciunile pe care ni le spunem, nu de\u0163inem puterea magic\u0103 de a vindeca oameni care nu se vor vindeca\u0163i \u015fi de a schimba oameni care nu se vor schimba\u0163i. P’zda nu face vr\u0103ji.<\/p>\n Nu le mai face\u0163i copii unora doar c\u0103 v-au tras-o de dou\u0103 ori \u015fi v-a pl\u0103cut. Dac\u0103 nu au nimic s\u0103-\u0163i ofere ca b\u0103rba\u0163i, vor avea cu at\u00e2t mai pu\u0163in de oferit ca poten\u0163iali p\u0103rin\u0163i.<\/p>\n -Ce u\u015foar\u0103 e via\u0163a ta, c\u0103 n-ai copii, \u00eemi zice maic\u0103-mea. ***<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, ai avut vreodat\u0103 inten\u0163ia s\u0103-l sus\u0163ii dar ai tot am\u00e2nat, acum ar fi un moment foarte bun.<\/p>\n *** ***<\/p>\n Ascult\u0103 Jet pe Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe iTunes<\/strong><\/a> sau pe Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Zilele astea, stau muuult de vorb\u0103 cu maic\u0103-mea. 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\n\u015ei asta pentru c\u0103, \u00een universul lor, totul este despre ei.<\/p>\n
\nS\u0103-mi fie cu iertare, dar copii sunt, prin \u00eens\u0103\u015fi natura lor de mici fiin\u0163e \u00een cre\u015ftere, consumatoare de resurse, materiali\u015fti. Hran\u0103, \u00eembr\u0103c\u0103minte, educa\u0163ie – \u015fi, dincolo de toate, sentimentul de stabilitate, sentimentul c\u0103 via\u0163a e ancorat\u0103 \u00een certitudini \u015fi ce avem azi va fi acolo \u015fi m\u00e2ine.
\nDac\u0103 nu e un izvor de stabilitate, nu nenoroci ni\u015fte mici fiin\u0163e care n-au gre\u015fit cu nimic.<\/p>\n
\n-Tu crezi c\u0103 nu g\u0103seam o loaz\u0103 inutil\u0103 ca tata s\u0103 m\u0103 insemineze dac\u0103 voiam soarta ta? Ohooo. E plin de ei. Pe alese. Dar eu v\u0103d ce poate omul \u015fi nu m\u0103 complic. \u015ei, important: aleg s\u0103 nu fiu victima unuia la 30 de ani dup\u0103 divor\u0163. Ai avut 30 de ani pe cont propriu, ce-ai f\u0103cut s\u0103 ie\u015fi din ipostaza “proasta lui taic\u0103-miu”? Dac\u0103 r\u0103spunsul e “nimic”, vina nu mai e a lui.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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