Dac\u0103 tu dai like la 567 de fotografii ale unei femei care e deja \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie, sau care nu caut\u0103 o rela\u0163ie, femeia o s\u0103 zic\u0103: Ce pwla mea structuralist\u0103 vrea l\u0103barul \u0103sta? Dac\u0103 dai acela\u015fi num\u0103r de likes la fotografii ale unei femei care e \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103 de tine, \u00eei provoci orgasm de la distan\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n
Concret, acela\u015fi gest t\u00e2mpit \u015fi ira\u0163ional poate fi yuuuuck, ce mizerie sau OOOOH DAAAAA ACOLO, \u00een func\u0163ie de nivelul de incandescen\u0163\u0103 al femeii fa\u0163\u0103 de persoana voastr\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n De aceea, nu \u00eencepe\u0163i s\u0103 face\u0163i ca popcornul \u00een cuptorul de microunde de cum o vede\u0163i.\u00a0 C\u00e2t \u00eenc\u0103 nici nu \u015ftie de ce ar fi cazul s\u0103 v\u0103 bage \u00een seam\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 aia e MOARTEA DEFINITIV\u0102 \u015eI IREVOCABIL\u0102 A PASIUNII.<\/p>\n \u00cen prim\u0103 faz\u0103, o naturale\u0163e calm\u0103, sau o polite\u0163e amabil\u0103, \u00een func\u0163ie de stilul personal al fiec\u0103ruia, e the way to go.<\/p>\n \u015ei \u00een acest stadiu, \u00eenainte s\u0103 da\u0163i \u00een foc ca o cafea uitat\u0103 pe aragaz, VERIFICA\u0162I ATENT DAC\u0102 FEMEIA E \u00ceN C\u0102UTARE SAU NU. Evalua\u0163i-v\u0103 realist \u015fansele.<\/strong> Poate nu e, \u015fi e perfect ok. Adeseori, treaba e a\u015fa. Maricica nu e \u00een c\u0103utare acum, dar poate fi peste trei luni. Dac\u0103 tu \u00eencerci s\u0103 creezi ceva ce nu exist\u0103 acum, cu tot dinadinsul, insist\u00e2nd aiurea, nu ob\u0163ii dec\u00e2t yuuuck, ce l\u0103bar muist slinos libidinos oligofren b\u0103tubil cu \u015flapul peste bot.<\/p>\n Respecta\u0163i boundaries-urile femeilor care nu vor un hookup cu voi sau nu vor un hookup \u00een general.<\/strong><\/p>\n Vrei s\u0103 te combini cu o tip\u0103, dar ea te refuz\u0103. E frustrant. CREDE\u0162I-M\u0102, \u00ceM\u0162ELEG. E \u00eennebunitor de frustrant \u015fi tinzi s-o iei personal. \u015etiu, pentru c\u0103 eu sunt genul de om care ini\u0163iaz\u0103 hoookup, \u015fi \u015ftiu c\u00e2t de chinuitor de enervant e s\u0103 nu se lipeasc\u0103 treaba. Te sim\u0163i zero ca atrac\u0163ie, te \u00eentrebi ce faci gre\u015fit, \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i vine s\u0103 o insul\u0163i. “Singuric\u0103, frumy?”<\/p>\n “Not yo mama’s business.”<\/p>\n “E\u015fti ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u015fi proast\u0103, \u015fi oricum nu te-a\u015f f…” Dac\u0103 se arat\u0103 deschis\u0103 \u015fi comunicativ\u0103, \u00eencerca\u0163i s\u0103 v\u0103 prinde\u0163i de tipologia de om.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0102ia care spun c\u0103 nu \u00een\u0163eleg ce vor femeile \u00eenc\u0103 nu s-au prins c\u0103 femeile sunt diferite \u015fi ce a mers la Ana poate s\u0103 nu mearg\u0103 la Maria \u015fi invers. Femeile sunt diferite, dar fac parte din dou\u0103 ramuri principale: cele cu ini\u0163iativ\u0103 \u015fi cele care vor s\u0103 ai tu ini\u0163iativ\u0103, s\u0103 se simt\u0103 dorite.<\/p>\n Cele cu ini\u0163iativ\u0103 lanseaz\u0103 ele provoc\u0103ri, glume cu dou\u0103 \u00een\u0163elesuri, apropouri, practic te iau pe sus. Cu astea te descurci \u015fi singur, tot ce trebuie s\u0103 faci e s\u0103 nu spui prostii prea mari.<\/p>\n Cele care se vor dorite au nevoie de un pic mai mult\u0103 aten\u0163ie, de mai mult\u0103 r\u0103bdare \u015fi diploma\u0163ie. Apoi, mai sunt \u015fi cele care vor s\u0103 se asigure c\u0103 li se ofer\u0103 o rela\u0163ie, nu sunt folosite o dat\u0103 \u015fi le ui\u0163i num\u0103rul de telefon, iar acestea, de obicei, vor am\u00e2na sexul p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd sunt sigure.<\/p>\n \u015ei ce faci s\u0103 nu te frustrezi?<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0162ine cont de faptul c\u0103 o femeie, mai ales una lipsit\u0103 de experien\u0163\u0103 \u015fi supus\u0103 presiunii sociale, are mult mai mult de pierdut dec\u00e2t tine. Mai ales \u00een ora\u015fele mici \u015fi comunit\u0103\u0163ile religioase, unde s\u0103 fie cu unul o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi apoi s\u0103 o lase \u0103la e ru\u015fine de nu se poate \u015fi o b\u00e2rfesc toate \u0163a\u0163ele. Nu te po\u0163i numi domn dac\u0103 nu iei \u00een calcul modul \u00een care gesturile tale afecteaz\u0103 reputa\u0163ia femeii pe care o placi. Ofer\u0103 mult contact fizic nonsexual. <\/strong><\/p>\n Spre deosebire de b\u0103rba\u0163i, care se simt excita\u0163i de vizual, ca dovad\u0103 c\u0103 videochatul e o mare industrie, femeile se simt excitate vizual doar de mod\u0103 \u015fi farduri. \u00cenc\u0103 nu a existat un dick pic care s\u0103 aduc\u0103 un date hetero. \u00cen schimb, punctul sensibil al fetelor e m\u00e2ng\u00e2ierea.\u00a0 De-asta au p\u0103pu\u015fi, animale de plu\u015f, animale de companie, halate de cas\u0103 din materiale moi \u015fi 4689 de perni\u0163e \u00een pat. Arma ta secret\u0103 este m\u00e2ng\u00e2ierea fizic\u0103. Cu c\u00e2t mai nevinovat\u0103, mai inocent\u0103, mai patern\u0103, mai fratern\u0103, mai lipsit\u0103 de slino\u015fenie, cu at\u00e2t mai eficient\u0103.<\/p>\n ATEN\u0162IE.<\/p>\n NU \u00eenainte s\u0103 se stabileasc\u0103 acel raport reciproc de intimitate, unde v\u0103 e clar am\u00e2ndurora c\u0103 ar putea fi ceva. Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 seen la mesaje, dac\u0103 nu z\u00e2mbe\u015fte la glume \u015fi dac\u0103 se spal\u0103 pe cap de c\u00e2te ori o invi\u0163i \u00een ora\u015f, e o idee extreeeem de proast\u0103 s\u0103 devii touchy – feely cu ea.<\/p>\n Cum spuneam: acela\u015fi gest yuck – yuck – yuck pentru o femeie care nu e atras\u0103 e oooh, daaa, a\u015faaaa, c\u00e2nd femeia e \u00een punctul \u00een care nu mai poate dup\u0103 tine.<\/p>\n So. Dac\u0103 sim\u0163i c\u0103 te place, m\u00e2ng\u00e2ie-o pe p\u0103r, pe um\u0103r, pe obraz, pe spate. Cu c\u00e2t tu o faci mai nevinovat, cu at\u00e2t ea o s\u0103 vrea mai mult. Cu c\u00e2t o faci mai gre\u0163os \u015fi mai cocalar – style, cu at\u00e2t devii repulsiv.<\/p>\n \u015etii care e principala nemul\u0163umire a femeilor legat\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u0163i? C\u0103 nu le m\u00e2ng\u00e2ie dec\u00e2t c\u00e2nd vor s\u0103 le fwt\u0103. Fii cel care m\u00e2ng\u00e2ie s\u0103 exprime tandre\u0163e.<\/p>\n Cunoa\u015fte-o.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mul\u0163i tipi v\u0103d o femeie dr\u0103gu\u0163\u0103 \u015fi \u00eencep s\u0103 se dea mari. Nimic mai plictisitor. D\u0103-te mic. Discut\u0103 cu ea subiecte non-invazive \u015fi descoper\u0103 cum reac\u0163ioneaz\u0103, ce o face s\u0103 r\u00e2d\u0103, ce o face s\u0103 se retrag\u0103 \u00een cochilie \u015fi ce o bucur\u0103. Descoper\u0103 persoana. \u015ei atunci, \u015fi complimentele vor suna sincer – nu va fi aceea\u015fi vr\u0103jeal\u0103 obosit\u0103 pe care ai administrat-o la 20 de femei pe Facebook, care \u0163i-au dat block.<\/p>\n Fii o experien\u0163\u0103 pozitiv\u0103 \u015fi incitant\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n Pune-\u0163i problema: Eu, s\u0103 fiu femeie, a\u015f ie\u015fi cu mine?” Dac\u0103 turui cli\u015fee misogine \u015fi remarci caustice de l\u0103bar frustrat, probabil c\u0103 nu. Dar dac\u0103 o zi merge\u0163i pe lac cu barca, \u00een alt\u0103 zi \u00een drume\u0163ie la Sinaia \u015fi \u00een alt\u0103 zi la un curs de dans de societate, care implic\u0103 s\u0103 \u0163ii femeia \u00een bra\u0163e f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 par\u0103 c\u0103 faci asta deliberat – ai varietate, ai \u015fi tu experien\u0163e palpitante \u015fi are \u015fi ea de cine s\u0103 se \u00eendr\u0103gosteasc\u0103.<\/p>\n Creeaz\u0103 \u00eencredere.<\/strong><\/p>\n Cu c\u00e2t pari un bou judgmental \u015fi plin de opinii tran\u015fante despre femei, cu at\u00e2t p\u0103s\u0103rica se usuc\u0103 \u015fi se retrage la depou. Cu c\u00e2t e\u015fti mai degrab\u0103 dispus s\u0103 r\u00e2zi \u015fi s\u0103 glume\u015fti \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu chestii, \u015fi s\u0103 le accep\u0163i cu naturale\u0163e, cu at\u00e2t femeia se va sim\u0163i mai relaxat\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi deschid\u0103 sufletul \u015fi s\u0103-\u0163i povesteasc\u0103 cum fura napolitane \u00een copil\u0103rie sau whatever. Poveste\u015fte despre fantezii sexuale, dar f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 par\u0103 c\u0103-i ceri.<\/strong><\/p>\n “Mi-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103-mi sugi pxla” sun\u0103 na\u015fpa. Oricum ai fraza-o. Are un risc grav de ripost\u0103 la modul “S\u0103 \u0163i-o sug\u0103 m\u0103-ta”. Multe femei sunt \u00eendelung controlate de p\u0103rin\u0163i abuzivi, neamuri \u00eenchistate \u015fi diver\u015fi al\u0163i boi, taman de aceea, tonul de porunc\u0103 le erecteaz\u0103 un hate boner de nedescris. Pe de alt\u0103 parte, sugestia, insinuarea, fine\u0163ea nasc \u00een ele dorin\u0163e \u015fi senza\u0163ii.<\/p>\n \u015etii c\u0103 o femeie \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103 petrece trei ore la telefon cu prietenele, analiz\u00e2nd emoji-ul cu care ai \u00eencheiat mesajul de noapte bun\u0103, \u015fi de ce ai pus inimioar\u0103 \u015fi nu \u015fi pupic?<\/p>\n Cere \u00eencurajare.<\/strong><\/p>\n OK, asta e arm\u0103 cu dou\u0103 t\u0103i\u015furi, c\u0103 po\u0163i da de femeile care cred c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii ezitan\u0163i sunt slabi \u015fi pro\u015fti. Dar sunt cele care, dac\u0103 le spui c\u0103 te sperie ce sim\u0163i pentru ele \u015fi c\u0103 \u0163i-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103-\u0163i arate ele ce s\u0103 faci, se vor sim\u0163i mai mult dec\u00e2t \u00eenc\u00e2ntate s\u0103 te lini\u015fteasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 te acopere de dragoste.<\/p>\n Las\u0103 loc de dor.<\/strong><\/p>\n Asta, desigur, depinde \u015fi de dinamica dintre voi. Sunt oameni care-\u015fi dau reciproc 457890 de mesaje pe zi \u015fi le place. Mai bine un pic de mister \u015fi de spa\u0163iu, dec\u00e2t cep la butoiul de “orice prostii \u00eemi fat\u0103 mintea”. \u015etiu, e greu. Dar schimba\u0163i un pic rolurile. Dac\u0103 una v\u0103 poveste\u015fte din prima sear\u0103 cu c\u00e2\u0163i \u015fi-a tras-o \u015fi \u00een c\u00e2te pozi\u0163ii, dac\u0103 v\u0103 piseaz\u0103 m\u0103runt \u015fi agasant, vi se culc\u0103 definitiv.<\/p>\n \u015ei, ca bottomline: dec\u00e2t s\u0103 cau\u0163i s\u0103-\u0163i cedeze, caut\u0103 s\u0103-i inoculezi dorin\u0163\u0103. Oamenii nu sunt \u015fi nu vor fi niciodat\u0103 propriet\u0103\u0163i. Dar pot deveni pasiona\u0163i.<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, ai avut vreodat\u0103 inten\u0163ia s\u0103-l sus\u0163ii dar ai tot am\u00e2nat, acum ar fi un moment foarte bun.<\/p>\n *** ***<\/p>\n Ascult\u0103 Jet pe Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe iTunes<\/strong><\/a> sau pe Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Manosfera \u015fi alt right le-au f\u0103cut un r\u0103u de nedescris b\u0103rba\u0163ilor. 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\nDar NU o insulta.
\nOrice om are dreptul la limitele lui personale, la “da”-urile \u015fi “nu”-urile lui, \u015fi c\u00e2nd tu e\u015fti cu basca-nm\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een fa\u0163a lui sau ei, decizia e la cel\u0103lalt \u015fi NU avem dreptul s-o for\u0163\u0103m.
\n\u015ei ce faci?
\nTe retragi demn \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 scene pateticoide.
\nO femeie va respecta infinit mai mult un b\u0103rbat care \u00eei spune: \u00cen\u0163eleg, e dreptul t\u0103u s\u0103 alegi ce vrei tu, \u00ee\u0163i doresc tot binele, dec\u00e2t pe unul din categoria:<\/p>\n
\nDa, ai f…, c\u0103 de aceea ai \u015fi deranjat-o, o \u015ftie \u015fi ea, iar ipocrizia asta ur\u00e2t\u0103 de loser \u00eei ucide orice form\u0103 de poten\u0163ial\u0103 atrac\u0163ie acum \u015fi pururea \u015fi-n vecii vecilor amin.<\/p>\n
\nDac\u0103 vezi c\u0103 o fat\u0103 e relationship oriented, nu-\u0163i bate joc de sufletul ei degeaba. Dac\u0103 vrei \u015fi tu o rela\u0163ie, ofer\u0103-i o rela\u0163ie, iar dac\u0103 vrei doar hookup, g\u00e2nde\u015fte-te la modul \u00een care r\u0103ne\u015fti o alt\u0103 persoan\u0103 \u015fi nu face promisiuni pe care nu inten\u0163ionezi s\u0103 le \u0163ii.<\/p>\n
\n\u015etii ce creeaz\u0103 intimitate \u00eentre oameni? Conexiunea sufletelor. Acest lucru nu se poate mima, nu se poate for\u0163a \u015fi nu se poate \u015fantaja. Dar bl\u00e2nde\u0163ea \u015fi o \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fare cald\u0103 \u015fi calm\u0103 fac minuni.<\/p>\n
\nDar dac\u0103 \u00eei poveste\u015fti, \u00een timp ce o \u0163ii \u00een bra\u0163e, cum a fost prima oar\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u0163i-a supt-o cut\u0103reasca \u015fi descrii senza\u0163iile cu am\u0103nuntul, tot ce sim\u0163eai c\u00e2nd te lingea \u00een cercuri \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe, cu aceea\u015fi inocen\u0163\u0103, de parc\u0103 ai povesti sinopsisul de la Pira\u0163ii din Caraibe, nu exist\u0103 femeie \u00eendt\u0103gostit\u0103 care n-o s\u0103 vrea s\u0103 egaleze, ba chiar s\u0103 dep\u0103\u015feasc\u0103 acele senza\u0163ii.<\/p>\n
\nDar de multe ori, exagerarea e du\u015fmanul pasiunii. Dac\u0103 are deja 15 mesaje de la tine la ora trezirii, ri\u015fti ca impactul s\u0103 fie: Maaaam\u0103\u0103, ce disperat lihnit \u015fi nef… \u00cen ce Turkish delight m-am b\u0103gat?<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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\nVrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe Twitter<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n