{"id":19538,"date":"2020-05-11T10:38:29","date_gmt":"2020-05-11T07:38:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19538"},"modified":"2020-05-11T10:38:29","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T07:38:29","slug":"chiar-devin-femeile-invizibile-dupa-40-de-ani","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/chiar-devin-femeile-invizibile-dupa-40-de-ani\/","title":{"rendered":"Chiar devin femeile invizibile dup\u0103 40 de ani?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri, o cititoare mi-a trimis mesaj. “Am v\u0103zut articolul \u0103sta<\/a><\/strong> la Cetin, cu femeile care devin invizibile dup\u0103 40 de ani, \u015fi m-am g\u00e2ndit la tine”.\u00a0 De \u00een\u0163eles, e \u00eenc\u0103 stare de urgen\u0163\u0103, lumea se plictise\u015fte \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103 a\u0163\u00e2\u0163e bloggeri unii contra celorlal\u0163i.<\/p>\n

Image by Russell Clark<\/a> from Pixabay<\/a><\/p>\n

M-am dus pe link, \u015fi situa\u0163ia nu e nici pe departe a\u015fa de tragic\u0103 \u015fi de misogin\u0103 cum m\u0103 a\u015fteptam. E o secven\u0163\u0103 dintr-un film, cu scenarist \u015fi regizor b\u0103rba\u0163i, desigur, \u00een care o femeie de 40 \u015fi ceva de ani se pl\u00e2nge c\u0103 nu e remarcat\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u0163i. C\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi stabile\u015fte un date, ajunge acolo, arat\u0103 \u00eennebunitor, poart\u0103 o rochie ro\u015fie de lingi ecranul, dar \u0103la intr\u0103, afirm\u0103 c\u0103 nu vede nici o femeie \u015fi pleac\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u015ei Cetin spune c\u0103 nu e chiar a\u015fa, \u015fi c\u0103 femeile devin invizibile c\u00e2nd vor ele.<\/p>\n

So, articolul nu e at\u00e2t de degradant cum m\u0103 l\u0103sa s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleg cititoarea, prin urmare, o s\u0103 dezam\u0103gesc c\u0103 nu fac dram\u0103 degeaba.<\/p>\n

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Judec\u00e2nd dup\u0103 num\u0103rul mare de po**\u0103ciuni cu MILF, cu femei trecute bine de 30 \u015fi\u00a0 chiar de 40, a\u015f zice c\u0103 adev\u0103rata femeie, pantera \u00eensetat\u0103 de pwl\u0103 de dragul pwlii \u015fi nu de nevoie de afec\u0163iune, “toat\u0103 lumea are un boyfriend, eu de ce nu?”, daddy issues \u015fi promisiunea iubirii eterne devine VIZIBIL\u0102 pe la 30 \u015fi dispare pe la 50, dup\u0103 menopauz\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 iei la \u00eentreb\u0103ri fete de 20, foarte pu\u0163ine sunt cu gigel din pasiune animalic\u0103 real\u0103, ci din motive ca: nu m\u0103 simt bine singur\u0103, cine o s\u0103 aib\u0103 grij\u0103 de mine \u015fi s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eencurajeze, de ce s\u0103 fiu singura din ga\u015fca\u00a0 mea care nu are prieten, cine \u00eemi pl\u0103te\u015fte consuma\u0163ia la mall \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 iei la \u00eentreb\u0103ri femei de 40, bine, nu cele care au n\u0103scut n copii \u015fi se chinuie s\u0103 pun\u0103 p\u00e2ine pe mas\u0103, ci cele relaxate financiar, pentru c\u0103, dup\u0103 o glum\u0103 a lui Chris Rock, c\u00e2nd nu sunt bani, mintea trimite un semnal vaginului; “Retragere. Nu avem treab\u0103 aici” – deci, dac\u0103 iei la \u00eentreb\u0103ri femei de 40 de ani care stau bine cu banii, au avut grij\u0103 de ele \u015fi se simt bine \u00een corpul lor, \u00ee\u0163i povestesc despre cum Marcel\u00a0 e incredibil la pat, despre cum Dorel le-a fwtut de le-a l\u0103sat late \u015fi despre cum abia a\u015fteapt\u0103 s\u0103 se vad\u0103 cu Mirciulic\u0103, c\u0103 mam\u0103.<\/p>\n

Fetele de 20 de ani atrag prin puritate, prin fe\u0163i\u015foara lor nevinovat\u0103 \u015fi nevoia de a fi iubite. Femeile de 40 – cele care nu au devenit victimele societ\u0103\u0163ii sau ale unei c\u0103s\u0103torii nasoale –\u00a0 atrag pentru c\u0103 exud\u0103 poft\u0103 de sex \u015fi vor pl\u0103cere, nu negocieri lungi f\u0103r\u0103 rost.<\/p>\n

DECI, DA, FEMEILE MI\u015eTO DE 40 DE ANI SUNT ALE NAIBII DE VIZIBILE.<\/p>\n

Lu\u0103m exemplul Mihaelei R\u0103dulescu. Perioada ei de sexo\u015fenie turbat\u0103 a fost dup\u0103 de a trecut de 35, a pus m\u00e2na pe Elan \u015fi a \u00eenceput s\u0103 sparg\u0103 \u015fi banul \u015fi ciocanul. Mihaela de dinainte era o fat\u0103 cumin\u0163ic\u0103 de provincie cu o capacitate de a-\u015fi articula coerent ideile. Mihaela de p\u00e2n\u0103 pe la 45 a fost poate cea mai chintesen\u0163ial ar\u0103g\u0103toare femeie a Rom\u00e2niei. Mult peste rivala ei A. Marin, care mereu mi-a dat senza\u0163ia c\u0103 mimeaz\u0103 orgasme \u00een pat din fric\u0103 acut\u0103 de singur\u0103tate.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd eram eu copil, conceptul de MILF \u00eenc\u0103 nu se inventase \u015fi o femeie de 40 era considerat\u0103 b\u0103tr\u00e2n\u0103. Dar m\u0103 uitam la prietenele maic\u0103-mii. Alea din c\u0103s\u0103torii bune, cu b\u0103rba\u0163i ok. Cum flirtau, \u015fi glumeau, \u015fi erau pline de erotism, \u015fi se uitau b\u0103rba\u0163ii la ele cu b\u0103lu\u0163a la gur\u0103.<\/p>\n

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\u015ei atunci, de unde vine mitul femeii invizibile?<\/p>\n

E o minciun\u0103 social\u0103 cu care femeile tinere sunt convinse s\u0103 se m\u0103rite pentru c\u0103 “dup\u0103 aia \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u015fti \u015fi numai are nimeni grij\u0103 de tine”.<\/p>\n

Poanta: alea care puneau botul \u015fi se m\u0103ritau ajungeau biete remorci ale viselor altuia \u015fi, ca atare, erau date la o parte la 40, \u00een general cu doi – trei copii, c\u00e2nd respectivul g\u0103sea pe una t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \u015fi frumoas\u0103.<\/p>\n

Alea care \u00ee\u015fi vedeau de ambi\u0163iile lor \u015fi nu c\u0103deau \u00een capcana social\u0103 nu treceau prin uzura fizic\u0103 \u015fi moral\u0103 a unei c\u0103s\u0103torii nefericite \u015fi, la 40, ar\u0103tau excelent \u015fi se \u015fi distrau cum voiau ele. \u015ei dac\u0103 mai \u015fi puneau un ban deoparte, erau mai bine asigurate dec\u00e2t surorile lor care \u015fi-au plasat prost investi\u0163ia tinere\u0163ii.<\/p>\n

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\u015ei totu\u015fi, c\u00e2nd devine o femeie invizibil\u0103?<\/p>\n

Singurul r\u0103spuns: C\u00e2nd abandoneaz\u0103 lupta.<\/p>\n

Ce lupt\u0103?<\/p>\n

Lupta cu gravita\u0163ia.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2t timp \u00eenc\u0103 are energia aceea felin\u0103, captivant\u0103, c\u00e2t timp \u00eenc\u0103 se \u00eengrije\u015fte ca o femeie, se mi\u015fc\u0103 precum o femeie, se \u00eembrac\u0103 precum o femeie \u015fi \u00ee\u015fi folose\u015fte miracolul inefabil al domina\u0163iei erotice CA O FEMEIE – va fi vizibil\u0103 la orice v\u00e2rst\u0103.<\/p>\n

Iar dac\u0103 nu \u015fi le-a descoperit – e invizibil\u0103 \u015fi la 20 de ani.<\/p>\n

So, de data asta sunt periculos de aproape de punctul de vedere al lui Cetin. Dar \u00eenlocuiesc “p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd vrea” cu “p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd poate”.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2t timp motora\u015ful \u0103la interior secret\u0103 vibes de “fwte-m\u0103”. Asta, din p\u0103cate, nu \u0163ine de voin\u0163\u0103, ci de o form\u0103 de disponibilitate \u015fi for\u0163\u0103 interioar\u0103.<\/p>\n

Deci, dragele tatii, nu v\u0103 teme\u0163i de v\u00e2rst\u0103. Anii sunt simple numere. Teme\u0163i-v\u0103 de plafonare \u015fi de \u00eencremenire \u00een proiect.<\/p>\n

Sper c\u0103 v-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n

Lorena.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, ai avut vreodat\u0103 inten\u0163ia s\u0103-l sus\u0163ii dar ai tot am\u00e2nat, acum ar fi un moment foarte bun.<\/p>\n

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