{"id":19643,"date":"2020-05-26T10:05:22","date_gmt":"2020-05-26T07:05:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19643"},"modified":"2020-05-26T10:05:22","modified_gmt":"2020-05-26T07:05:22","slug":"posta-redactiei-2-iubitul-meu-vrea-altceva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-2-iubitul-meu-vrea-altceva\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei 2: Iubitul meu vrea altceva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. Nu, Gicu, nu sub form\u0103 de sex, stai jos. \u00cen schimb, lu\u0103m o dram\u0103 personal\u0103 pe care mi-o trimite\u0163i pe mail, pe birou@lorenalupu.com, \u015fi g\u0103sim o solu\u0163ie, pe care oricum n-o ve\u0163i urma, dar m\u0103car ne distr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u015ei misiva de data asta:<\/p>\n

Drag\u0103 Lorena,<\/strong><\/p>\n

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din nou un bai sufletesc pentru care m\u0103 tem c\u0103 deja cunosc leacul \u00eens\u0103 mi-ar pl\u0103cea s\u0103 citesc \u0219i diagnoza ta \u00een\u021beleapt\u0103.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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De \u0219ase ani am acela\u0219i prieten cu care la \u00eenceputul rela\u021biei am f\u0103cut mai mult sau mai pu\u021bin un pact c\u0103 nu vom tr\u0103i o via\u021b\u0103 boring \u0219i conven\u021bional\u0103, c\u0103 nu ne vom c\u0103s\u0103tori \u0219i nu vom face copii iar c\u0103l\u0103toritul \u0219i prelungirea la infinit a adolescen\u021bei \u0219i \u00een general a vitalit\u0103\u021bii s\u0103 fie felul principal. Asta a func\u021bionat destul de bine p\u00e2n\u0103 acum un an jumate c\u00e2nd la el s-au f\u0103cut observate multe nemul\u021bumiri \u0219i episoade depresive care reveneau \u00eentr-un interval mai mult sau mai pu\u021bin regulat.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Cu mult\u0103 r\u0103bdare \u0219i perseveren\u021b\u0103 am reu\u0219it s\u0103 aflu exact care e problema. Prietenul meu \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te o evadare din rutin\u0103 \u0219i \u00een zona sexual\u0103 \u0219i are fantezii despre swing parties \u0219i threesomes etc. De\u0219i nu judec astfel de lucruri \u0219i sunt ok cu whatever floats your boat, nu reciprochez sentimentul \u0219i m\u0103 simt perfect \u00een bubbleul meu monogam \u00een care, p\u00e2n\u0103 de cur\u00e2nd, totul mergea perfect. Dar aparent doar pentru mine.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Am avut deja multe discu\u021bii pe tema asta \u0219i nu ajungem la nici o concluzie sau compromis. \u00cen dormitor evident c\u0103 lucrurile au luat-o r\u0103u de tot la vale (orice ini\u021biere e pedepsit\u0103 cu un refuz, b\u0103nuiesc c\u0103 asta e pedeapsa) \u0219i c\u00e2teodat\u0103 m\u0103 simt mai cast\u0103 dec\u00e2t Maica Tereza \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie fiind. Which sucks, am 28 de ani \u0219i chef de via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i de o rela\u021bie afectuoas\u0103 altfel what’s the point.\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Mersi,\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n
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Drag\u0103 X,<\/div>\n
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Stai s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleg. Iubitul t\u0103u refuz\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 dragoste cu tine pentru c\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 participi la threesomes \u015fi swinging?<\/div>\n
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Sis, sunt ve\u015fti ur\u00e2te pe care omul e dator s\u0103 \u0163i le dea, \u015fi te rog frumos s\u0103 nu tragi \u00een pianist: b\u0103rbatul \u0103la s-a s\u0103turat de p\u0103s\u0103rica ta ca de mere acre. \u015ei partea cea mai trist\u0103 e c\u0103 nu prea ai ce s\u0103 faci, s\u0103 schimbi asta.<\/div>\n
B\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt fiin\u0163e predominant sexuale. \u00centreab\u0103 o femeie cum e imaginea perfect\u0103 al\u0103turi de iubi \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i va r\u0103spunde ceva de genul: noi, doi, ferici\u0163i, \u00eentr-o sear\u0103 romantic\u0103 \u00een ora\u015f sau pe plaj\u0103, sau whatever. \u00centreab\u0103 un b\u0103rbat cum e imaginea perfect\u0103 al\u0103turi de iubi \u015fi va fi o scen\u0103 de sex incendiar, dezl\u0103n\u0163uit \u015fi cu strig\u0103turi.<\/div>\n
C\u00e2nd un b\u0103rbat refuz\u0103 sex, sis, it’s officially over.<\/div>\n
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Poate c\u0103 te iube\u015fte ca pe o bun\u0103 coleg\u0103 de apartament, sau ca pe cea mai bun\u0103 prieten\u0103 a lui, dup\u0103 o rela\u0163ie at\u00e2t de lung\u0103 \u015fi tumultuoas\u0103. Dar c\u00e2nd un b\u0103rbat refuz\u0103 sex, it’s officially over.<\/div>\n
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Eu sunt omul tacticilor \u00een via\u0163a profesional\u0103, \u015fi dac\u0103 a\u015f merge pe tactici, a\u015f recomanda s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103-l ignori sexual, s\u0103 \u00eel tratezi cu bun\u0103voin\u0163\u0103 dr\u0103g\u0103la\u015f\u0103, ca pe o m\u0103tu\u015f\u0103 la care \u0163ii, \u00een timp ce legi o prietenie suspect de intens\u0103 \u015fi conversa\u0163ii interminabile cu un BFF mascul de la munc\u0103. Cheam\u0103-l acas\u0103 cu diverse pretexte, ie\u015fi cu el \u00een ora\u015f la vedere, acord\u0103-i exces de aten\u0163ie lui BFF, \u015fi enjoy spectacolul geloziei din ce \u00een ce mai accentuate, al temerii c\u0103 nu \u00eel mai placi \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/div>\n
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Dar nu cred \u00een tactici \u00een dragoste \u015fi iat\u0103 de ce: pentru c\u0103 la un moment dat, tot va trebui s\u0103 drop the act, \u015fi dac\u0103 dispare amenin\u0163area reprezentat\u0103 de BFF, dispare \u015fi ceea ce-l ambi\u0163ioneaz\u0103 pe iubitul t\u0103u \u015fi reveni\u0163i \u00een punctul de acum.<\/div>\n
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O dragoste care func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 perfect nu are nevoie de tactici, iar o dragoste care nu func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 dec\u00e2t cu tactici nu e dragoste.<\/div>\n
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Mai bine s\u0103 privim realitatea situa\u0163iei: sunte\u0163i \u00een punctul \u00een care vre\u0163i lucruri at\u00e2t de diferite unul de la cel\u0103lalt, \u00eenc\u00e2t nu prea exist\u0103 cale de mediere. Dac\u0103 el vrea sex cu tot ora\u015ful, \u015fi tu nu vrei al\u0163i parteneri, ne e clar \u015fi mie, \u015fi \u0163ie, c\u0103 sunte\u0163i \u00een trenuri opuse, unul merge la Mangalia \u015fi cel\u0103lalt la Satu Mare.<\/div>\n
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Desp\u0103r\u0163i\u0163i-v\u0103 prieteni. No hard feelings, via\u0163a merge \u00eenainte \u015fi e \u00een regul\u0103 ca doi oameni care s-au iubit la un moment dat s\u0103 dezvolte nevoi at\u00e2t de diferite, \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 nu mai poat\u0103 avea un viitor \u00eempreun\u0103.<\/div>\n
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O s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi, o s\u0103 suferi, dar m\u0103car nu te min\u0163i \u015fi nu te falsifici.<\/p>\n

Sper c\u0103 am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n

Lorena.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, ai avut vreodat\u0103 inten\u0163ia s\u0103-l sus\u0163ii dar ai tot am\u00e2nat, acum ar fi un moment foarte bun.<\/p>\n

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Fotografie:\u00a0 Noelle Otto<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0\/ Pexels<\/a><\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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