\n\u00ce\u0163i citesc blogul de mult \u015fi ultima istorioar\u0103 de la po\u015fta redac\u0163iei m-a determinat s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i scriu si eu. La fel ca \u015fi ceilal\u0163i cititori, \u015fi eu am probleme de corason \u015fi mi-ar prinde bine un sfat \u00een stilul t\u0103u .
\nAm fost \u00eempreun\u0103 cu fostul prieten 5 ani de zile, \u015fi locuiam \u00een apartamentul lui, p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi c\u00e2nd a venit acas\u0103 \u015fi mi-a spus c\u0103 nu mai poate continua a\u015fa, c\u0103 \u00eemi vrea binele, dar vrea s\u0103 fie singur o vreme.
\nEu am plecat \u00een Cluj, el a r\u0103mas \u00een apartamentul s\u0103u, \u00een Bucure\u015fti. Cu toate astea, am plecat g\u00e2ndindu-m\u0103 c\u0103 lucrurile se vor repara \u015fi m\u0103 voi re\u00eentoarce acas\u0103, l\u00e2ng\u0103 iubitul meu, mai devreme sau mai t\u00e2rziu.
\nDin p\u0103cate, lucrurile nu au stat \u00een favoarea mea. \u00cen 4 luni s-a c\u0103s\u0103torit, cu o pu\u015ftoaic\u0103 cu mult mai t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 ca am\u00e2ndoi. \u00cen timp ce el \u015fi eu batem spre 40, noua lui so\u0163ie nu are nici 30, \u015fi, dac\u0103 \u00eenainte \u00eenc\u0103 eram prieteni \u015fi \u00eemi mai scria din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebe ce fac \u015fi cum m\u0103 simt, de c\u00e2nd s-a c\u0103s\u0103torit, parc\u0103 nu mai exist pe aceea\u015fi planet\u0103 cu el \u015fi efectiv nu m\u0103 pot \u00eemp\u0103ca cu ideea.
\nDup\u0103 5 ani de rela\u0163ie, c\u00e2nd discutam de planurile noastre de viitor, iubitul meu spunea c\u0103 nu ne trebuie o h\u00e2rtie pentru a fi \u00eempreun\u0103, el nu crede \u00een c\u0103s\u0103torie \u015fi, la scurt timp, se c\u0103s\u0103tore\u015fte cu altcineva, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u0163in\u0103 cont de felul \u00een care aceast\u0103 veste m\u0103 afecteaz\u0103.
\nM\u0103 simt tr\u0103dat\u0103 \u015fi ne\u00eendrept\u0103\u0163it\u0103, \u015fi oric\u00e2t a\u015f \u00eencerca, nu cred c\u0103 pot \u00een\u0163elege cum cineva se poate r\u0103z\u00e2andi la 180 de grade, \u015fi s\u0103 ia decizii at\u00e2t de ira\u0163ionale, f\u0103r\u0103 a se consulta cu femeia cu care \u00ee\u015fi \u00eemp\u0103r\u0163ea \u00eentreaga via\u0163\u0103; \u00eenainte ca s\u0103 i\u00eei fure min\u0163ile o copil\u0103.
\nAm \u00eencercat s\u0103 vorbesc cu prieteni \u015fi psihologi, dar nimeni nu mi-a putut oferit acea closure de care am nevoie \u015fi pe care doar el mi-o poate da. Am fost 5 ani \u00eempreun\u0103, \u015fi am stat \u00eempreun\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 din prima lun\u0103, era normal s\u0103 cred c\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi voi avea o familie cu acest b\u0103rbat. Chiar \u015fi acum, \u00eemi e greu s\u0103 cred c\u0103 un alt barbat va mai fi atras de mine vreodat\u0103. Cum s\u0103 fac s\u0103 nu mai doar\u0103? \u015ei totodat\u0103, cum oare s\u0103 \u00eel fac s\u0103 realizeze c\u0103 a procedat gre\u015fit fa\u0163\u0103 de mine?<\/p>\n
Te \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fez,
\nX. <\/strong><\/p>\n
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Drag\u0103 X,
\nC\u00e2t ai zis c\u0103 ai? 40? Iart\u0103-m\u0103, dar s\u0103 ai a\u015fa o naivitate copil\u0103reasc\u0103 la 40 de ani este o performan\u0163\u0103. E o performan\u0163\u0103 \u015fi faptul c\u0103 nu te-au jecm\u0103nit prin metoda Accidentul sau cu v-a murit un unchi bogat din Nigeria, pute\u0163i mo\u015fteni 556790000 de milioane de dolari dac\u0103 depune\u0163i 2000 \u00een contul nostru acum. <\/p>\n
Nu o zic cu r\u0103utate. Dar s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 \u0103la s\u0103 pleci la mama \u015fi tu s\u0103 nu te prinzi c\u0103 \u0103la e oficial finalul rela\u0163iei e nepermis de naiv. Cic\u0103 femeile au intui\u0163ie. Unde a fost intui\u0163ia ta? Ar trebui s\u0103 \u0163i se revoce permisul de doi cromozomi X. <\/p>\n
C\u0103 a stat \u0103la cinci ani cu tine? Spre deosebire de femei, care se mut\u0103 cu unul pentru c\u0103 \u00eel v\u0103d \u00een el pe viitorul tat\u0103 al copiilor lor – altfel, stau bine merci la ele acas\u0103 – b\u0103rba\u0163ii se mut\u0103 cu femei de care nu le pas\u0103 foarte tare PENTRU C\u0102 E CONVENABIL: cur\u0103\u0163enie, checked, m\u00e2ncare, checked, sex, checked.
\nUn b\u0103rbat poate tr\u0103i ani \u00een \u015fir cu o femeie pe care n-o iube\u015fte, din confort \u015fi convenien\u0163\u0103. <\/p>\n
“Nu vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 c\u0103s\u0103toresc” \u00eenseamn\u0103, \u00een traducere liber\u0103, “Nu vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 c\u0103s\u0103toresc cu tine”. \u00cen traducere \u015fi mai liber\u0103: “\u00cemi convii pentru moment, c\u0103 e\u015fti o op\u0163iune mai ieftin\u0103 dec\u00e2t s\u0103 m\u0103 duc la curve, dar te schimb de cum apare un model mai nou \u015fi mai sofisticat”. <\/p>\n
Ceea ce, de altfel, s-a \u015fi \u00eent\u00e2mplat. Poate c\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd te-a trimis acas\u0103 o avea deja pe noua gagic\u0103, doar c\u0103, spre deosebire de tine, pe asta chiar o iube\u015fte. De aceea s-a \u015fi gr\u0103bit s\u0103 se c\u0103s\u0103toreasc\u0103. <\/p>\n
\u00cen climatul de azi, c\u00e2nd femeile sunt mai libere \u015fi stabile economic, am observat la b\u0103rba\u0163i tendin\u0163a s\u0103 propun\u0103 c\u0103s\u0103torie relativ repede, dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva luni de rela\u0163ie, s\u0103 se asigure c\u0103 nu pierd fata. C\u00c2ND O IUBESC, C\u00c2ND SUNT ATA\u015eA\u0162I CU ADEV\u0102RAT. <\/p>\n
Dac\u0103 a trecut jum\u0103tate de an de la primul sex \u015fi \u0103la nu avanseaz\u0103 planuri de viitor comun, e\u015fti o convenien\u0163\u0103 \u015fi o utilitate de moment. <\/p>\n
Ce closure mai clar s\u0103-\u0163i dea, dec\u00e2t faptul c\u0103 e c\u0103s\u0103torit cu alta? <\/p>\n
“Dar nu se g\u00e2nde\u015fte la mine?” <\/p>\n
Nu. Se g\u00e2nde\u015fte la fericirea lui personal\u0103. <\/p>\n
Tindem s\u0103 nu ne g\u00e2ndim la oamenii de care nu ne pas\u0103 foarte tare. <\/p>\n
C\u0103 e nedrept? 100%. E cumplit de iritant s\u0103 fii convenien\u0163a cuiva \u015fi s\u0103 fii dat\u0103 deoparte de cum apare o persoan\u0103 care insufl\u0103 iubirea \u015fi responsabilitatea pe care nu le-ai putut genera tu. <\/p>\n
\u00cemi pare r\u0103u c\u0103 \u0163i s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat asta. Dar poate c\u0103 e o provocare de la via\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 te maturizezi, s\u0103 dezvol\u0163i capacitatea de a te prinde ce g\u00e2ndesc \u015fi simt oamenii. S\u0103 nu mai pici de fraier\u0103 a unuia care. de fapt, nu te-a iubit niciodat\u0103. <\/p>\n
Pl\u00e2ngi, descarc\u0103-te, sparge farfurii, e dreptul t\u0103u Apoi, \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 te obi\u015fnuie\u015fti cu ideea c\u0103 a\u015fa e via\u0163a \u015fi \u0103\u015ftia sunt oamenii, \u015fi s\u0103 cau\u0163i s\u0103-\u0163i recl\u0103de\u015fti identitatea de sine st\u0103t\u0103toare \u015fi stima de sine. <\/p>\n
\u015ei zi merci c\u0103 n-ai copii. Era mai nasol s\u0103-l suni lunar c\u0103 a uitat de pensia alimentar\u0103. <\/p>\n
Sper c\u0103 am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n
Lorena. <\/p>\n
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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, ai avut vreodat\u0103 inten\u0163ia s\u0103-l sus\u0163ii dar ai tot am\u00e2nat, acum ar fi un moment foarte bun.<\/p>\n
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