{"id":19698,"date":"2020-06-04T09:57:40","date_gmt":"2020-06-04T06:57:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19698"},"modified":"2020-06-04T09:57:40","modified_gmt":"2020-06-04T06:57:40","slug":"mitul-femeii-care-prefera-ticalosii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/mitul-femeii-care-prefera-ticalosii\/","title":{"rendered":"Mitul femeii care prefer\u0103 tic\u0103lo\u015fii"},"content":{"rendered":"

Am citit ieri un comentariu care spunea ceva de genul: Da, dar e \u015fi vina femeilor c\u0103 \u00eei aleg pe \u0103\u015ftia, iar tu dac\u0103 le duci o floare pari un fraier.<\/p>\n

A sosit momentul \u00een care, \u00eempreun\u0103, vom demonta acest cli\u015feu.<\/p>\n

Am mii de cititoare pe acest blog.\u00a0 Am vorbit cu nenum\u0103rate femei de c\u00e2nd scriu. Niciuna nu a spus vreodat\u0103: Mam\u0103, ce \u0163\u0103ran m\u00e2rlan, \u00eemi doresc s\u0103 fiu cu el.<\/p>\n

Niciuna nu a ales s\u0103 se combine cu careva motivat\u0103 de c\u00e2t de glorios o insulta, de c\u00e2t de spectaculos nu-i p\u0103sa de ea \u015fi de c\u00e2t de minunat o umilea public.<\/p>\n

E o minciun\u0103 de la obraz repetat\u0103 de tic\u0103lo\u015fi s\u0103-i gaslight pe restul b\u0103rba\u0163ilor \u00eentr-o atitudine de fals\u0103 inferioritate, \u015fi s\u0103-i fac\u0103 s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fii extrem de tic\u0103los pentru a ob\u015fine aten\u0163ia unei femei.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd colo, realitatea e c\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 fii b\u0103d\u0103ran cu una, aia \u00ee\u0163i d\u0103 block, sau te pune la numere filtrate, sau, dac\u0103 deja e\u015fti apropiat de ea, \u00eencepe s\u0103 te evite.<\/p>\n

Cum ajung tic\u0103lo\u015fii s\u0103 cucereasc\u0103 femei?<\/p>\n

\u00cen nici un caz fiind tic\u0103lo\u015fi din prima. Subliniez: \u00ceN NICIUN CAZ FIIND TIC\u0102LO\u015eI DIN PRIMA. C\u0103 dac\u0103 e\u015fti tic\u0103los cu una care nu te cunoa\u015fte \u015fi nu \u015ftie de ce e cazul s\u0103 fie interesat\u0103 de tine, te bag\u0103 \u00een origini at\u00e2t de ad\u00e2nc, \u00eenc\u00e2t te na\u015fti o lun\u0103 mai t\u00e2rziu \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i schimbi zodia.<\/p>\n

Tic\u0103lo\u015fii ajung s\u0103 cucereasc\u0103 femei taman fiind foarte dulci, \u015fi suavi, \u015fi extrem de adorabili \u015fi dr\u0103gu\u0163i \u00een prim\u0103 faz\u0103, \u015fi promi\u0163\u00e2ndu-le femeilor tot ce vor ele s\u0103 aud\u0103, \u015fi f\u0103c\u00e2ndu-le diverse cadouri. Scot masca \u015fi se dovedesc drept tic\u0103lo\u015fi abia dup\u0103 ce observ\u0103 c\u0103 fetele sunt amorezate lulea de ei.<\/p>\n

Taman de aceea: c\u00e2nd vezi pe c\u00e2te una \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103 \u015fi \u00een limb\u0103 dup\u0103 unul care o ignor\u0103, asum\u0103-\u0163i c\u0103 nu \u015ftii toat\u0103 povestea. \u015ei c\u0103 acel “Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103, bro, a\u015fa e asta, proast\u0103”,\u00a0 mascheaz\u0103 efortul de seduc\u0163ie care a existat \u00eenainte.<\/p>\n

Sigur, exist\u0103 un 5% nebune disperate, a\u015fa cum exist\u0103 \u015fi printre b\u0103rba\u0163i nebuni dispera\u0163i, Dar cu alea nu vrei s\u0103 te legi la cap in the first place.<\/p>\n

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Apoi: de\u015fi tic\u0103lo\u015filor le place s\u0103 mint\u0103 c\u0103 pot avea orice femeie, realitatea e c\u0103 vor exista \u00eentotdeauna femei care nu sunt atrase de ei, \u015fi pe care pot s\u0103 le mint\u0103 cu ce vor ei, \u015fi tot nu se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla nimic. Dar asta nu \u00eel va \u00eempiedica pe tic\u0103los s\u0103 te mint\u0103 cum a pus-o capr\u0103 \u015fi cum i-a dat-o la m**e \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe.<\/p>\n

De ce?<\/p>\n

S\u0103 te fac\u0103 s\u0103 te sim\u0163i inferior ca b\u0103rbat.<\/p>\n

\u015ei de ce s\u0103 te sim\u0163i inferior ca b\u0103rbat?<\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 tic\u0103losul g\u0103se\u015fte validare \u00een umilirea altora. De aceea \u00eenjur\u0103 femei \u015fi de aceea caut\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenr\u0103iasc\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i. Pe cei demni, buni \u015fi integri, pe cei care n-au nevoie s\u0103 calce \u00een picioare femei pentru a se sim\u0163i puternici \u00eei nume\u015fte soy boy, beta, cuck, simp, fraieri \u015fi lista poate continua.<\/p>\n

Realitatea e c\u0103, posibil, tu ai avut mai multe gagici dec\u00e2t prietenul t\u0103u tic\u0103los.<\/p>\n

“\u015ei totu\u015fi, e fata asta, care \u00eel place pe Gogu…”<\/p>\n

\u00cen acest caz, fie c\u0103 Gogu arat\u0103 foarte bine. \u015ei atunci nu \u00eel place c\u0103 e tic\u0103los, \u00eei place modul \u00een care arat\u0103, \u015fi e absolut independent de caracterul lui. Ceea ce e uman. \u015ei tu, dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i apar \u00een fa\u0163\u0103 Adriana Lima \u015fi colega ta Nina de la HR, o s\u0103 vrei s\u0103 ie\u015fi cu Adriana Lima. Frumuse\u0163ea fur\u0103 ochiul.<\/p>\n

Fie c\u0103 Gogu are foarte mul\u0163i bani. Iar luxul e un afrodisiac intens. Melania nu l-a luat pe Trump pentru c\u0103 era un asshole, L-a luat pentru c\u0103 o sc\u0103pa din foame. Irelevant dac\u0103 era un asshole sau nu. Dac\u0103 ar fi avut de ales \u00eentre un om bun cu bani \u015fi un\u00a0 asshole cu bani, l-ar fi ales pe omul bun.<\/p>\n

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Dar dac\u0103 eu sunt un om bun, de ce m\u0103 resping unele?<\/p>\n

Iat\u0103 de ce.<\/p>\n

A) Poate c\u0103 nu sunt \u00een c\u0103utare.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fie c\u0103 trec printr-o perioad\u0103 de singur\u0103tate asumat\u0103, sau au pe altul, sau au o carier\u0103 solicitant\u0103, sau whatever motiv, e dreptul fiec\u0103rui om s\u0103 decid\u0103 dac\u0103 vrea acum o rela\u0163ie sau nu.<\/p>\n

\u00cenainte s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i declari interesul, urm\u0103re\u015fte un pic femeia. Ofteaz\u0103 c\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte un b\u0103rbat al ei? Flirteaz\u0103 insinuant? Prezint\u0103 comportament de \u00eemperechere?<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 nu, \u015fi pare \u015fi satisf\u0103cut\u0103 \u00een singur\u0103tatea ei, asum\u0103-\u0163i c\u0103 exist\u0103 90% \u015fanse s\u0103 nu fie interesat\u0103. Nu pentru c\u0103 e\u015fti un fraier, ci pentru c\u0103 \u00een via\u0163a ei nu e loc de chestia asta.<\/p>\n

B) Poate c\u0103 faci ca popcornul \u00een cuptorul de microunde, mult prea repede.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Femeile au nevoie de TIMP, s\u0103 se \u00eendr\u0103gosteasc\u0103. De timp \u015fi r\u0103bdare. Dac\u0103 tu sari de la 0 la 100 din trei replici, e ceva extrem de dubios \u015fi de wtf, \u015fi de nedemn de \u00eencredere \u00een asta. E ca \u015fi cum e\u015fti disperat s\u0103 nu pleci singur acas\u0103.<\/p>\n

O femeie de bun\u0103 credin\u0163\u0103 are nevoie de TIMP, s\u0103 descopere ce ai special, s\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi dea seama ce aduci \u00een via\u0163a ei \u015fi de ce e\u015fti mai bun dec\u00e2t restul.<\/p>\n

F\u0103 pa\u015fi mici, f\u0103-o \u00eent\u00e2i s\u0103 te plac\u0103 \u015fi abia apoi e cazul s\u0103 dai \u00een clocot. Dac\u0103 pari disperat, nu te resping pentru c\u0103 e\u015fti b\u0103iat bun, ci pentru c\u0103 disperarea e yuuuck. \u015ei la b\u0103rba\u0163i, \u015fi la femei, btw. Indiferent de bun\u0103tatea din civil.<\/p>\n

C) Poate c\u0103 e\u015fti prea insistent.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mai ales \u00een faza de seduc\u0163ie, trebuie s\u0103 la\u015fi un om \u00een pace, s\u0103 apuce s\u0103 \u00eei fie dor de tine. Dac\u0103 \u00eel f*** la cap cu mesaje toat\u0103 ziua, efectul e: Nuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu. S\u0103 m\u0103 salveze cineva.<\/p>\n

Pune-te \u00een situa\u0163ie. Preferi o tip\u0103 care d\u0103 mesaje rar, dar incitant, sau una care e c\u0103lare pe Whatsapp cu tine toat\u0103 ziua, \u015fi-\u0163i spune ce a m\u00e2ncat la pr\u00e2nz \u015fi ce discu\u0163ii tembele a avut cu proasta aia de la Starbucks?<\/p>\n

O tolerezi pe aia care te freac\u0103 toat\u0103 ziua la icre, dar de \u00eendr\u0103gostit lulea te \u00eendr\u0103goste\u015fti de cea care d\u0103 mesaje rar, dar incitant.<\/p>\n

Insisten\u0163a e moartea pasiunii. Indiferent dac\u0103 e\u015fti bun sau r\u0103u.<\/p>\n

D) Nu e\u015fti fun.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dar voi fi un tat\u0103 minunat \u015fi un b\u0103rbat de pus pe ran\u0103!!<\/p>\n

OK, dar \u00een faza ini\u0163ial\u0103 a datingului, conteaz\u0103 s\u0103 fii amuzant, glume\u0163, s\u0103 faci conversa\u0163ie interesant\u0103, s\u0103 iei tipa la dans dac\u0103 e contextul, s\u0103 fii “de ga\u015fc\u0103”. S\u0103 v\u0103 distra\u0163i bine \u00eempreun\u0103.<\/p>\n

Poate c\u0103 e nedrept c\u0103 multe rela\u0163ii poten\u0163ial reu\u015fite pic\u0103 la stadiul \u0103sta frivol, dar, p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, chimia dintre oameni e fundamental\u0103 pentru ca ei s\u0103 mai fac\u0103 sex \u015fi peste cinci ani.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 nu e\u015fti fun, te va respinge \u015fi nu pentru c\u0103 e\u015fti bun. Te-ar fi respins \u015fi dac\u0103 erai r\u0103u. \u00cen fond, dac\u0103 ajunge\u0163i un cuplu, ve\u0163i petrece muuuulte seri acas\u0103, \u015fi e esen\u0163ial s\u0103 g\u0103si\u0163i distrac\u0163ia \u015fi \u00een asta.<\/p>\n

A\u015fadar: faptul c\u0103 femeile resping b\u0103ie\u0163ii buni \u015fi prefer\u0103 tic\u0103lo\u015fii e o minciun\u0103.\u00a0 Caracterul fiec\u0103ruia dintre noi se dezv\u0103luie oricum, treptat, \u00een timp. Nu au cum s\u0103 \u0163i-l cunoasc\u0103 dac\u0103 tu le \u00eentrebi cf pisi \u00een chat \u015fi ele \u00ee\u0163i r\u0103spund pisi e m\u0103-ta.<\/p>\n

Pur \u015fi simplu, nu te cunosc.\u00a0 \u015ei nu te resping pentru c\u0103 e\u015fti bun, ci pentru c\u0103 le irit\u0103 falsa familiaritate.<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, fii un partener la men\u0163inerea lui.<\/p>\n

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