{"id":19711,"date":"2020-06-06T15:07:43","date_gmt":"2020-06-06T12:07:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19711"},"modified":"2020-06-06T15:07:43","modified_gmt":"2020-06-06T12:07:43","slug":"cu-ce-te-afecteaza-direct-parasutele-bai-dilimache","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cu-ce-te-afecteaza-direct-parasutele-bai-dilimache\/","title":{"rendered":"Cu ce te afecteaz\u0103 direct para\u0219utele, b\u0103i, dilimache?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri am expus mentalitatea extrem de abuziv\u0103 a lui Mihai Bendeac<\/a> <\/strong>\u0219i, evident, 90% dintre cititori, femei \u0219i foarte mul\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bi, au fost de acord. Not\u0103: m\u0103 bucur nespus c\u0103 m\u0103 fac \u00een\u021beleas\u0103 \u0219i printre b\u0103rba\u021bi. Scopul expunerii publice a unor focare de misoginism \u0219i toxicitate nu e ca s\u0103 m\u0103 dau eu apostolul virtu\u021bii, ci TAMAN pentru ca voi s\u0103 nu v\u0103 l\u0103sa\u021bi influen\u021ba\u021bi de ei \u0219i de mentalitatea lor.<\/p>\n

Dar au fost \u0219i c\u00e2\u021biva idio\u021bi care s-au apucat s\u0103 debiteze despre panarame care duc vie\u021bi de lux. Dafuq? Exact ca \u00een cazul lui Mihai Bendeac, mi s-a str\u00e2ns stomacul \u0219i m-am \u00eentrebat cine plm e limbricul \u0103sta \u0219i de ce \u00eel f*** ap\u0103sat grija despre vie\u021bile unor femei necunoscute.<\/p>\n

Nu femeile, nici m\u0103car feministele, sunt vinovate de aceast\u0103 animozitate modern\u0103 \u0219i ne\u00eencredere \u00eentre sexe. Except\u00e2nd un 5% nebune radicale care vin s\u0103 te fac\u0103 t\u00e2rf\u0103 dup\u0103 ce tu descrii cum ai expediat cu o glum\u0103 un gogu care \u00eencerca s\u0103 te aga\u021be pe strad\u0103<\/a><\/strong>. Dar noi, femeile, vedem nebunele radicale \u0219i nu ne l\u0103s\u0103m influen\u021bate de ele in the first place.<\/p>\n

Spre deosebire de sute de mii de b\u0103rba\u021bi, ok, mul\u021bi dintre ei b\u0103ie\u021bi, care pun botul la textele manosferei, ale unor influenceri misogini \u0219i ale extremei drepte. \u0218i \u00eencep s\u0103 se poarte josnic \u0219i incalificabil cu femei din vie\u021bile lor reale.<\/p>\n

Se pare c\u0103, \u00eentr-un num\u0103r foarte mare de b\u0103rba\u021bi\u00a0 – nu \u00een to\u021bi, dar \u00een foarte mul\u021bi – exist\u0103 o ur\u0103 instinctiv\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de femei, \u0219i aceast\u0103 ur\u0103 are nevoie doar de un vorbitor la portavoce ca s\u0103 prind\u0103 curaj \u0219i temeinicie s\u0103 se manifeste.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd o femeie vorbe\u0219te cu dezgust, team\u0103 \u0219i sil\u0103 despre masculi abuzivi, b\u0103t\u0103u\u0219i \u0219i violatori, e clar de unde vine. Fie c\u0103 i s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat ceva groaznic, fie c\u0103 are prietene c\u0103rora li s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, fie c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i poate imagina c\u00e2t de cumplit ar fi s\u0103 i se \u00eent\u00e2mple.<\/p>\n

\u021ai-e clar \u00een ce mod \u00eei face r\u0103u o astfel de experien\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd un b\u0103rbat se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 abereze despre para\u0219ute, curve, \u0219toarfe, nu vezi \u00een ce mod e afectat\u0103 direct existen\u021ba lui. Ce \u00eei iau respectivele doamne? Boii de la biciclet\u0103? Nu-\u021bi plac curvele? Nu te duce la curve. The end.<\/p>\n

Cumva, nici m\u0103car nu ar trebui s\u0103 fie treaba ta ce fac ni\u0219te femei care nu au o rela\u021bie cu tine. Da, cut\u0103reasca \u021bi-a jurat iubire etern\u0103 \u0219i ai prins-o c\u0103-\u0219i d\u0103dea mesaje private cu alt gigel? Nasoool. Ur\u00e2t. Dureros.<\/p>\n

\u00cen schimb, vie\u021bile femeilor cu care n-ai NICI O TREAB\u0102 nu te privesc \u00een niciun fel \u0219i, \u00een momentul \u00een care te apuci s\u0103 aberezi, frecvent \u00een necuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 de cauz\u0103, despre ele, \u00ee\u021bi faci coming outul ca idiot abuziv \u0219i periculos. Cum plm s\u0103 le faci curve pe baza concediilor de pe Instagram sau a faptului c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i afirm\u0103 independen\u021ba?<\/p>\n

\u0218i hai s\u0103 zicem: ok, cazul specific X e escort\u0103 \u00een Dubai, drept care,vede lumea \u0219i are un Instagram de poze fabuloase din toate col\u021burile lumii. Cu ce \u00ee\u021bi afecteaz\u0103 \u021bie direct interesele, calitatea vie\u021bii \u0219i c\u0103utarea fericirii faptul c\u0103 X tr\u0103ie\u0219te cum crede de cuviin\u021b\u0103? Te pl\u0103tesc pe tine clien\u021bii mai pu\u021bin cumva, s\u0103 ai motive s\u0103 o vorbe\u0219ti de r\u0103u?<\/p>\n

A\u021bi v\u0103zut cum a escaladat speech-ul lui Colo \u00een clipul viral. Mergea una pe strad\u0103, \u00een fust\u0103 scurt\u0103. Maaam\u0103, merit\u0103 violat\u0103 cu picioare \u00een gur\u0103 \u0219i scuipa\u021bi, pentru c\u0103 sigur \u00eei place \u0219arpili. Stai, ce??<\/p>\n

Majorit\u0103\u021bii femeilor – m\u0103 refer la cele heterosexuale – le place penisul, pentru c\u0103 asta e orientarea lor. Asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 nici c\u0103 \u00eel vor de la absolut oricine trece pe acolo, nici c\u0103 datoreaz\u0103 timp \u0219i aten\u021bie oric\u0103rui prost, nici c\u0103 merit\u0103 genul acela de abuz fizic.<\/p>\n

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Dar genul \u0103sta de abera\u021bii dau un alt semn femeilor. Le spun ce partener \u00eengrozitor, ce nebun cu zurg\u0103l\u0103i ai fi tu \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie.<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 \u0103sta abereaz\u0103 a\u0219a despre femei pe care NU le cunoa\u0219te \u0219i care NU \u00eei datoreaz\u0103 nimic, \u00ee\u021bi dai seama c\u00e2te suspiciuni tembele, c\u00e2te discu\u021bii f\u0103r\u0103 sens, c\u00e2te r\u0103bufniri idioate de orgoliu, c\u00e2te jocule\u021be de suprema\u021bie \u0219i alte muisme de genul va face cu o persoan\u0103 asupra c\u0103reia are ascendentul unui commitment?<\/p>\n

Cine are nervi de toate rahaturile astea? Nu e mai simpl\u0103 singur\u0103tatea?<\/p>\n

Num\u0103rul mare de femei single dintr-o societate e reflectarea direct\u0103 a modului \u00een care din ce \u00een ce mai multe refuz\u0103 s\u0103 aloce timp \u0219i energie unor psihoze de \u00eemprumut.<\/p>\n

\u00cen loc s\u0103 fii at\u00e2t de obsedat de curve, boarfe \u0219i \u0219toarfe, nu mai bine te concentrezi s\u0103 fii tu o persoan\u0103 mai bun\u0103 \u0219i un partener demn de p\u0103strat \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie cu o femeie normal\u0103?<\/p>\n

Mul\u021bi mi-au comentat pe YouTube c\u0103 stai, \u00een momentul \u00een care debita despre cum ar viola o minor\u0103, Colo era \u00ceNTR-O RELA\u021aIE FERICIT\u0102 DE MAI MUL\u021aI ANI.<\/p>\n

Cu at\u00e2t mai grav. fra\u021bilor. Cu at\u00e2t mai grav dac\u0103 e\u0219ti \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie stabil\u0103, \u0219i tu tot la violuri stradale cu minore te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti. \u0218i tot la curve, boarfe \u0219i \u0219toarfe, \u0219i modul \u00een care acestea merit\u0103 umilite.<\/p>\n

\u00censeamn\u0103 c\u0103 femeia normal\u0103 de acas\u0103 nu te satisface. Sau nu po\u021bi acorda energie s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 unei rela\u021bii armonioase \u0219i pozitive, care\u00a0 s\u0103 te \u00eemplineasc\u0103 uman, pentru c\u0103 focusul t\u0103u e pe curve, boarfe \u0219i \u0219toarfe.<\/p>\n

A cui e problema \u00een acest caz?<\/p>\n

Nu a lor. Ele \u00ee\u0219i v\u0103d lini\u0219tite de business, and cousin, business is a-booming.<\/p>\n

Problema e a ta. Persoana frustrat\u0103, obsedat\u0103 \u0219i torturat\u0103 de ffff de grij\u0103 e\u0219ti tu.<\/p>\n

Am avut relativ pu\u021bine rela\u021bii stabile \u0219i lungi, pentru c\u0103 sunt genul de om care nu se echilibreaz\u0103 dec\u00e2t \u00een singur\u0103tate, \u0219i la un moment dat, nevoia mea de singur\u0103tate se punea de-a curmezi\u0219ul nevoii de intimitate a celuilalt. Dar \u00een timpul acelor rela\u021bii, un lucru care NU m\u0103 interesa deloc era ce fac al\u021bii \u00een vie\u021bile lor intime. Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 \u00een general. Dar c\u00e2nd eu aveam o persoan\u0103 pe care s\u0103 m\u0103 concentrez, restul universului putea s\u0103 fac\u0103 gang bang sub geam \u0219i tot nu-mi p\u0103sa.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2t de grav e faptul c\u0103, de\u0219i sunt \u00een rela\u021bii, ace\u0219ti oameni tot la curve, boarfe \u0219i \u0219toarfe mediteaz\u0103 obsesiv?<\/p>\n

Asta ne spune c\u0103 ei, de fapt, nu de o rela\u021bie normal\u0103 au nevoie. Ci de o\u00a0 rela\u021bie toxic\u0103 cu o curv\u0103-boarf\u0103-\u0219toarf\u0103, pe care s\u0103-\u0219i poat\u0103 da fr\u00e2u liber impulsurilor patologice distructive, pentru c\u0103 au scuza perfect\u0103 \u00een faptul c\u0103 ea e curv\u0103-boarf\u0103-\u0219toarf\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u00cen mod normal, dac\u0103 una se dovede\u0219te a fi neloial\u0103, un om normal se desparte. \u0218i MOVES ON WITH HIS OR HER LIFE. Ok, suferi, pl\u00e2ngi, mu\u0219ti din pern\u0103, te dai cu capul de perete c\u0103 ai fost fraier, dar, \u00een cele din urm\u0103, ajungi s\u0103 te deta\u0219ezi \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi vezi de ale tale.<\/p>\n

Cretinii de genul nu VOR s\u0103 se deta\u0219eze.<\/p>\n

A\u0219a cum muierile \u00eencremenite \u00een pozi\u021bia de victime eterne ale vie\u021bii \u0219i ale \u00eemprejur\u0103rilor r\u0103m\u00e2n p\u00e2n\u0103 pe patul mor\u021bii \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie imaginar\u0103 de abuz cu unul care le-a b\u0103tut acum 30 de ani, chit c\u0103 \u0103la \u00eentre timp n-a mai vorbit cu ele de 25, a\u0219a \u0219i \u0103\u0219tia fixa\u021bi pe curve. boarfe \u0219i \u0219toarfe sunt \u00een\u021bepeni\u021bi mintal \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie imaginar\u0103 cu o pretins\u0103 curv\u0103, pe care nici n-o cunosc, dar c\u0103reia \u00eei atribuie vie\u021bile pe care ei nu sunt \u00een stare s\u0103 \u0219i le construiasc\u0103.<\/p>\n

Asta explic\u0103 urm\u0103toarea spe\u021b\u0103, de exemplu:<\/p>\n

Individ. \u00cemi comenta extatic fiecare articol. Cea mai de\u0219teapt\u0103, cea mai creativ\u0103, cea mai logic\u0103.<\/p>\n

Next, individ \u00een mesagerie privat\u0103: E\u0219ti foarte frumoas\u0103, nu vrei s\u0103 ne cunoa\u0219tem?<\/p>\n

Tu: Cred c\u0103 e o ne\u00een\u021belegere. Scriu ca s\u0103 m\u0103 exprim ca artist \u0219i creator, nu s\u0103 ag\u0103\u021b.<\/p>\n

Individ: E\u0219ti o curv\u0103 nenorocit\u0103 \u0219i o arogant\u0103 \u0219i o pseudovedet\u0103 \u0219i o…<\/p>\n

Tu chiar nu ai timp de genul \u0103sta de delir \u0219i dai un block.<\/p>\n

Peste trei ani, \u00ee\u021bi faci cont pe Instagram. Acela\u0219i individ: Aaaa, ai venit \u0219i aici, curv\u0103 nenorocit\u0103 \u0219i arogant\u0103 \u0219i etc?<\/p>\n

(zici c\u0103 venise\u0219i la m\u0103-sa pe tarla, sau ceva.)<\/p>\n

Dai un block \u0219i acolo.<\/p>\n

Peste al\u021bi doi ani, faci vlog pe YouTube. Acela\u0219i individ, acela\u0219i discurs.<\/p>\n

\u0218i tu te \u00eentrebi:<\/p>\n

A trecut at\u00e2ta timp. Ce e gre\u0219it cu persoana asta, c\u0103 n-a reu\u0219it s\u0103 move on din pozi\u021bia de mascul lihnit c\u0103ruia o femeie care nu-i datora nimic i-a refuzat avansurile??<\/p>\n

Dac\u0103 citim atent istorioara, eu nu i-am gre\u0219it cu absolut nimic individului. Dimpotriv\u0103. Am creat content de calitate, cu care l-am distrat, pus pe g\u00e2nduri \u0219i informat. Nu sunt cu nimic responsabil\u0103 de decizia lui de a emite altfel de preten\u021bii \u0219i nu am de ce s\u0103 satisfac aceste preten\u021bii.<\/p>\n

Exact a\u0219a cum toate aceste curve, boarfe \u0219i \u0219toarfe nu i-au gre\u0219it cu absolut nimic masculului obsedat de via\u021ba lor intim\u0103. Ele \u00ee\u0219i v\u0103d de treaba lor \u0219i de lucrurile care le aduc bucurie.<\/p>\n

\u00cen loc s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi concentrezi energia \u00een a le l\u0103tra ca un c\u00e2ine turbat, nu mai bine vezi \u00een ce moduri te po\u021bi construi pe tine ca om?<\/p>\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, fii un partener la men\u0163inerea lui.<\/p>\n

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