{"id":19742,"date":"2020-06-10T10:01:43","date_gmt":"2020-06-10T07:01:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=19742"},"modified":"2020-06-10T10:03:03","modified_gmt":"2020-06-10T07:03:03","slug":"stiti-ca-toxicitatea-nu-e-obligatorie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/stiti-ca-toxicitatea-nu-e-obligatorie\/","title":{"rendered":"\u015eti\u0163i c\u0103 toxicitatea nu e obligatorie?"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Nu te mai enerva at\u00e2t de tare, m\u0103i, Loreno, pe \u0103ia care te jignesc. A\u015fa tr\u0103iesc ei \u015fi nu \u015ftiu c\u0103 se poate \u015fi altfel. Nu toat\u0103 lumea are, ca tine, puterea de a elimina otrava din vie\u0163ile lor”. <\/p>\n

Cuvintele unei prietene. <\/p>\n

Ba da, toat\u0103 lumea are puterea de a elimina otrava din vie\u021bile lor. <\/p>\n

C\u0103tre oricine e acolo, afar\u0103, \u015fi cite\u015fte aceste r\u00e2nduri: Nu, mindsetul distructiv \u015fi rela\u0163iile oribile din via\u0163a ta, care te fac s\u0103 fii at\u00e2t de sc\u00e2rbos sau sc\u00e2rboas\u0103 pe net NU SUNT OBLIGATORII. <\/p>\n

Mul\u021bi \u00eencerca\u021bi s\u0103 transfera\u021bi pe net modul \u00een care diverse persoane agresive v\u0103 vorbesc \u00een via\u021ba real\u0103. \u0218i \u021bipa\u021bi la str\u0103ini a\u0219a cum \u021bip\u0103 p\u0103rin\u021bii, \u0219efii, partenerii neiubitori, whoever else la voi, \u00een \u00eencercarea de a defula. Ceea ce e incorect fa\u021b\u0103 de persoana care nu \u021bi-a f\u0103cut nimic. <\/p>\n

Mai bine ia exemplul meu \u015fi, a\u015fa cum eu retez rapid piuitul oricui c\u00e2nd observ rea inten\u0163ie, lips\u0103 de respect, apuc\u0103turi de bully, transpune chestia asta \u00een via\u0163a ta. \u015ei nu mai permite nim\u0103nui s\u0103-\u0163i vorbeasc\u0103 pe tonul cu care \u00eencerci tu s\u0103-mi vorbe\u015fti mie. <\/p>\n

\u00cen mod miraculos, se poate. Dup\u0103 ce sco\u0163i din via\u0163a ta toate influen\u0163ele negative \u015fi renegociezi calitatea interac\u0163iunii cu oamenii care “nu \u015fi-au dat seama” (mai sunt \u015fi din \u0103\u015ftia, care se poart\u0103 nasol \u00een virtutea unei iner\u0163ii a agresivit\u0103\u0163ii), creezi spa\u0163iu liber \u015fi po\u0163i atrage persoane cu care ai comunicare pozitiv\u0103 \u015fi armonioas\u0103. <\/p>\n

Dar nota bene: ca s\u0103 existe comunicare pozitiv\u0103 \u015fi armonioas\u0103, trebuie s\u0103 contribui \u015fi tu cu energie pozitiv\u0103, armonie \u015fi bun\u0103 dispozi\u0163ie. Trebuie s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i pese de persoanele cu care stai de vorb\u0103, s\u0103 vrei s\u0103 afli ce e cu ele, s\u0103 ascul\u0163i real \u015fi cu aten\u0163ie ce au de spus, s\u0103 le vrei sincer binele, \u015fi nu doar s\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u015fti cum ai putea profita de pe urma lor \u015fi, prin afec\u0163iunea pe care o prime\u015fti de la oamenii cu care ai rela\u0163ii pozitive, s\u0103 te reconstruie\u015fti pe tine \u00eensu\u0163i, sau \u00eens\u0103\u0163i, ca pe un om liber, echilibrat, capabil s\u0103 vad\u0103 partea bun\u0103 a lucrurilor, capabil s\u0103 descopere oportunit\u0103\u0163i \u015fi s\u0103 le exploreze, capabil s\u0103 creasc\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 realizeze mult mai multe \u00een via\u0163\u0103 dec\u00e2t hate-ul f\u0103r\u0103 sens \u00een rubrica de comentarii a altuia. <\/p>\n

Pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce evoluezi ca om, \u00ee\u0163i dai seama de un lucru simplu. C\u0103 singura valoare durabil\u0103 din via\u0163a unui om const\u0103 \u00een ceea ce poate ridica, nu \u00een ce poate d\u0103r\u00e2ma. <\/p>\n

S\u0103 love\u015fti e simplu. Dac\u0103 \u015ftii exact unde s\u0103 love\u015fti, nici m\u0103car nu ai nevoie de cine \u015ftie ce for\u0163\u0103. Dar nu func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 ca \u00een jocuri, unde, dac\u0103 ucizi adversarul, \u00eei iei vie\u0163ile, armele \u015fi punctele. <\/p>\n

\u00cen via\u0163a real\u0103, nu te po\u0163i baza dec\u00e2t pe propriile arme \u015fi pe propriile vie\u0163i, iar acestea se formeaz\u0103 abia lucr\u00e2nd la tine \u00eensu\u0163i \u015fi perfec\u0163ion\u00e2ndu-\u0163i calit\u0103\u0163ile. Ura e un drum \u00eenfundat. <\/p>\n

Ai o singur\u0103 via\u0163\u0103. Dac\u0103 tac-tu \u015fi m\u0103-ta au \u0163ipat la tine de c\u00e2nd te \u015ftii, profesorii te-au ignorat, angajatorii s-au \u015fters pe bocanci cu tine \u015fi fetele s-au combinat cu unii care nu inspirau ur\u0103 \u015fi furie de cum intrau \u00eentr-o \u00eenc\u0103pere, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 e o obliga\u0163ie s\u0103 mergi mai departe pe drumul toxicit\u0103\u0163ii \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eenjuri pe oricine \u00ee\u0163i aminte\u015fte vag de femeia care nu te-a iubit. <\/p>\n

Po\u0163i s\u0103 spui stop \u015fi s\u0103 faci un inventar al propriei vie\u0163i, s\u0103-\u0163i cure\u0163i r\u0103nile de puroi \u015fi infec\u0163ii \u015fi s-o iei de la zero.
\nNumai s\u0103 vrei.
\nEu \u00een mod cert nu-\u0163i voi permite s\u0103 m\u0103 abuzezi verbal, indiferent c\u00e2te conturi fake \u0163i-ai face. Pentru c\u0103 \u015ftiu cum arat\u0103 toxicitatea \u015fi \u015ftiu c\u0103 nu vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 mai \u00eent\u00e2lnesc cu ea niciodat\u0103. <\/p>\n

Dar ce e important pentru tine \u00een economia propriei vie\u0163i?
\nS\u0103 latri \u00een continuare ca prostul la str\u0103ini care nu-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 nimic? Sau s\u0103 reexaminezi rahatul \u0103la pe care-l nume\u015fti via\u0163\u0103 \u015fi a\u0103 te redefine\u015fti pe coordonate mai s\u0103n\u0103toase? <\/p>\n

C\u0103 dac\u0103 fanteziile tale arat\u0103 a\u015fa, \u00een mod cert nu eu sunt problema ta. Ci toate deciziile tale de p\u00e2n\u0103 acum. <\/p>\n

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