Drag\u0103 Lorena,<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cencerc s\u0103 fiu c\u00e2t mai coerent\u0103, ceea ce e cam greu, pentru c\u0103 \u00een capul meu e haos total.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Sunt \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie cu A. de 15 ani (de c\u00e2nd abia \u00eemplinisem 20 de ani), dintre care 11 de concubinaj \u2013 un soi de c\u0103snicie, doar c\u0103 el nu s-a deranjat niciodat\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 cear\u0103 de nevast\u0103, pentru c\u0103 \u00een capul lui suntem deja c\u0103s\u0103tori\u0163i. Chestia asta m\u0103 calc\u0103 pe nervi, nu c\u0103 m-ar interesa foarte tare h\u00e2rtiu\u0163a aia de la prim\u0103rie, dar dup\u0103 ce am muncit un deceniu \u00een casa asta \u015fi am suportat insulte \u015fi umilin\u0163e din partea alor lui, cred c\u0103 merit s\u0103 \u015ftiu cum st\u0103m. \u00cen capul lui totul e bine, nu poate tr\u0103i f\u0103r\u0103 mine \u015fi vrea s\u0103 fim \u00eempreun\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la ad\u00e2nci \u015fi sclerozate b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u0163i. \u00cen capul meu \u00eens\u0103…<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Acum vreo \u015fase ani, l-am re\u00eent\u00e2lnit pe Facebook pe M., prima mea dragoste, \u015fi am \u00eenceput s\u0103 vorbim din ce \u00een ce mai des. Am descoperit un om cu totul diferit de pu\u015ftiul din liceu \u015fi m-am \u00eendr\u0103gostit nebune\u015fte de omul care a devenit. Nici el nu p\u0103rea indiferent dar, pentru c\u0103 era \u00een plin proces de divor\u0163 \u015fi avea creierii \u015fi sufletul vrai\u015fte, am ales s\u0103-i fiu doar prieten\u0103, s\u0103-l sus\u0163in cum pot \u015fi s\u0103-mi pun pofta-n cui.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Acum patru ani, discu\u0163iile au devenit mai serioase. O luasem razna complet, chat-uiam p\u00e2n\u0103 la patru diminea\u0163a, ignor\u00e2nd total c\u0103 A. dormea l\u00e2ng\u0103 mine. M. a recunoscut c\u0103 simte ceva pentru mine \u015fi visam am\u00e2ndoi c\u00e2t de mi\u015fto ar fi s\u0103 fim \u00eempreun\u0103. Dup\u0103 vreo dou\u0103 luni de chat intensiv, A. s-a prins c\u0103 e ceva \u00een neregul\u0103 \u015fi mi-a citit mesajele (ceea ce nu-i st\u0103tea \u00een caracter, nu ne atingem unul de telefonul celuilalt). A f\u0103cut pe dracu-n patru s\u0103 m\u0103 recucereasc\u0103 \u015fi a reu\u015fit.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Un timp a fost bine, apoi am reintrat \u00een rutin\u0103: lips\u0103 de comunicare, tot felul de mutre pe care le-a pus pe seama stresului de la serviciu, de parc\u0103 eu acas\u0103 eram foarte relaxat\u0103, cu istericul de taic\u0103-s\u0103u \u015fi stresanta de maic\u0103-sa. De fiecare dat\u0103 \u00eemi venea s\u0103 m\u0103 iau la palme c\u0103 am renun\u0163at la M. \u015fi m\u0103 \u00eentrebam cum ar fi fost via\u0163a mea dac\u0103 a\u015f fi ales altfel. \u00cen timpul \u0103sta, \u015fi M. a \u00eencercat s\u0103-\u015fi continue via\u0163a, dar de c\u00e2te ori vorbeam \u00eemi d\u0103deam seama c\u0103 sper\u0103 s\u0103 fie cu mine. Chiar m\u0103 \u00eentreba c\u00e2teodat\u0103 de ce nu-l las pe “gr\u0103sanul \u0103la”.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n O dat\u0103 cu izolarea, s-a \u00eentors \u015fi M. \u00een via\u0163a mea. La \u00eenceput mai timid, apoi mi-a declarat iubirea pe care a sim\u0163it-o tot timpul \u015fi a\u015fa am ajuns s\u0103 vorbim c\u00e2teva ore zilnic, s\u0103 facem planuri pe care probabil am s\u0103 le stric ca de obicei, dac\u0103 A. prinde iar de veste ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u015fi se face luntre \u015fi punte s\u0103 nu m\u0103 piard\u0103.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Sincer vorbind, cu A. nu m-am potrivit niciodat\u0103, parc\u0103 am veni de pe planete diferite. Cu M. \u00een schimb, chiar simt c\u0103 juc\u0103m \u00een acela\u015fi film. Simt c\u0103 m-ar face fericit\u0103. Dac\u0103 acum, c\u00e2nd rela\u0163ia e doar virtual\u0103, m\u0103 face s\u0103 r\u00e2d, s\u0103 plutesc, m\u0103 sus\u0163ine \u015fi \u00eemi \u015fterge lacrimile, \u00eemi imaginez cum va fi c\u00e2nd va veni \u00een \u0163ar\u0103. Problema e c\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 \u00eel iubesc pe A. \u015fi mi-e greu s\u0103 renun\u0163 la el, dar la fel de greu \u00eemi e s\u0103 \u00eel suport. Am mai \u00eencercat s\u0103-i spun ce m\u0103 doare, dar n-am cu cine discuta. Din punctul lui de vedere totul e bine \u015fi iubirea noastr\u0103 e indestructibil\u0103. \u00cen rest e om ca lumea, doar c\u0103 prea are senza\u0163ia c\u0103 nu mai e nevoie s\u0103 m\u0103 recucereasc\u0103 din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd. A\u015fa c\u0103 acum sunt prins\u0103 \u00eentre dou\u0103 sentimente \u015fi n-am nici cea mai vag\u0103 idee ce s\u0103 fac cu via\u0163a mea. Mi-ar prinde extrem de bine o p\u0103rere neutr\u0103.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Keep up the good work.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Cu stim\u0103,<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n X.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Drag\u0103 X,<\/p>\n Nici nu ajunsesem la partea cu M, c\u00e2nd m\u0103 \u00eentrebam deja: De ce st\u0103 fata aia cu unul care NU E ATENT DELOC? \u0218i care nu ascult\u0103?<\/p>\n E primul criteriu de #mar\u0219\u00eenplm in my book.<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 v\u0103d c\u0103 eu \u00eei explic unuia dorin\u021bele mele, iar el m\u0103 dismiss o dat\u0103, \u0219i are impresia c\u0103 lucrurile pe care le vrea el sunt singurele care conteaz\u0103, hai, poate c\u0103 are o zi grea. Dac\u0103 e o regul\u0103 c\u0103 via\u021ba e NUMAI cum dicteaz\u0103 el, \u0219i nimic din ce spun eu nu conteaz\u0103, individul \u0103la nu are nici o preocupare real\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de mine, \u0219i-\u0219i dore\u0219te doar siguran\u021ba unui loc\u0219or cald \u00een care s\u0103 o bage.<\/p>\n Ca s\u0103-i evit pe to\u021bi gigeii care o s-o \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 gre\u0219it pe asta \u0219i o s\u0103 sar\u0103 cu “adic\u0103 ce vrei s\u0103 spui, Loreno, c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 st\u0103m sub papuc????” Nu, nu vreau s\u0103 spun asta. Spun doar c\u0103 it takes two to tango. O rela\u0163ie fericit\u0103 e un ECHILIBRU \u00eentre ceea ce \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte el \u015fi ceea ce \u00ee\u015fi dore\u015fte ea. Dac\u0103 el \u00eenchide toate discu\u0163iile cu okok,\u00a0 deci facem ca mine, that’s all! – nu ai de ce s\u0103 pierzi o secund\u0103 \u00een plus din timpul t\u0103u.<\/p>\n De ce ai sta cu unul ca \u0103sta? \u0218i \u00eenc\u0103 15 ani?<\/p>\n R\u0103m\u00e2n uimit\u0103 c\u00e2te femei aleg s\u0103 stea. S\u0103 stea luuung. \u015ei aiureaaa. \u00cen rela\u0163ii de rahat. 15 ani \u00een care n-a contat deloc ce vrei tu, r u effing kidding me????<\/p>\n Lumea are mereu comentarii ironice \u0219i cretine de dat c\u00e2nd spun c\u00e2t de mult \u00eemi place singur\u0103tatea, dar mie, una, singur\u0103tatea \u0219i chiar zece ore de munc\u0103 pe zi mi se par preferabile partenerului care are impresia c\u0103 numai dorin\u021bele lui conteaz\u0103. \u00cen fond, ca femeie singur\u0103, po\u021bi s\u0103-\u021bi asiguri un trai decent din munca ta \u0219i nici nu trebuie s\u0103 supor\u021bi un bou care nu te ia deloc \u00een considerare \u0219i care nu vrea s\u0103 \u0219tie ce \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti.<\/p>\n \u0102la trebuia p\u0103r\u0103sit de c\u00e2nd \u0219i-a etalat prima oar\u0103 egoismul feroce \u0219i \u00eenclin s\u0103 cred c\u0103 nu \u00eemi dai tabloul complet, s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleg \u015fi eu de ce \u0163i-ai irosit 15 ani din via\u0163\u0103.<\/p>\n Avea bani? Mul\u0163i bani? Spui c\u0103 ai stat acas\u0103, de unde deducem c\u0103 era bine situat financiar. \u015ei sper c\u0103 te-a \u021binut \u00een puf \u0219i \u021bi-a cump\u0103rat numai Louis Vuittoane \u0219i Versace-uri, s\u0103 am \u0219i eu un motiv clar pentru care ai \u00eendurat acest tip de tratament 15\u00a0 f***ing ani. 15!! Intervalul 20 – 35. Exact anii pe care \u00eei puteai investi \u00een educa\u021bia ta, \u00een dezvoltarea carierei tale \u0219i \u00een tot ce e\u0219ti tu ca om.<\/p>\n Glumesc, desigur. Nici m\u0103car cu Louis Vuittoane \u0219i Versace-uri autentice nu s-ar justifica. Oric\u00e2t de scumpe \u0219i frumoase ar fi, dup\u0103 ce piere excita\u021bia de Ohmygaaaawd, uite un Versace ADEV\u0102RAAAT \u0219i e al MEEEEU, r\u0103m\u00e2ne un simplu obiect ne\u00eensufle\u021bit, iar tu, un vagon care nu influen\u021beaz\u0103 cu nimic direc\u021bia \u00een care merge trenul vie\u021bii tale.<\/p>\n N-a\u0219 da lini\u0219tea \u0219i satisfac\u021bia libert\u0103\u021bii depline de decizie din garsoniera mea situat\u0103 \u00een gloriosul Titan pentru luxul unei vile \u00een Pipera, dac\u0103 numita vil\u0103 vine la pachet cu un bou lipsit de empatie ca \u0103sta.<\/p>\n Fugi, fat\u0103. Ai o singur\u0103 via\u021b\u0103, e scurt\u0103, \u0219i munca n-a omor\u00e2t pe nimeni. Da, e nasol c\u0103 te scoli cu jum\u0103tate de or\u0103 mai devreme, s\u0103 iei metroul, dar seriously. M\u0103car \u00ee\u021bi tr\u0103ie\u0219ti via\u021ba \u00een termenii t\u0103i.<\/p>\n Prefer oric\u00e2nd via\u021ba de sui\u0219uri, cobor\u00e2\u0219uri, glorie, suferin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i LIBERTATE a lui Naomi Campbell ipostazei de etern\u0103 vioar\u0103 a doua a unei Melania Trump. Care are un corp superb, o gra\u021bie de fotomodel \u0219i… ochi mor\u021bi pe interior.<\/p>\n \u00cenc\u0103 n-ai murit. ,<\/p>\n Fugi \u0219i tr\u0103ie\u0219te, exploreaz\u0103, experimenteaz\u0103 \u0219i ia decizii care s\u0103 te reprezinte.<\/p>\n Singurul partener care face numai ce vrea Gigel \u0219i nu are idei proprii este m\u00e2na dreapt\u0103. Dac\u0103 ea e partenera ideal\u0103 pentru A., s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 fericit cu ea p\u00e2n\u0103 la ad\u00e2nci b\u0103tr\u00e2ne\u021be.<\/p>\n S\u0103 trecem la M. Apreciez c\u0103 a respectat faptul c\u0103 aveai o rela\u021bie \u0219i n-a insistat proste\u0219te. Apreciez \u0219i \u00een\u021belepciunea de a \u0219ti c\u00e2nd e cazul s\u0103 te lase \u00een pace, \u0219i c\u00e2nd e cazul s\u0103 joace m\u00e2na c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103toare.<\/p>\n Prev\u0103d c\u0103 \u0103sta nu st\u0103 str\u0103lucit cu banii, de aici \u015fi ezitarea ta, dar, cum ziceam: munca n-a omor\u00e2t pe nimeni. Poporul rom\u00e2n are o sil\u0103 similar\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de munc\u0103 \u0219i fa\u021b\u0103 de sp\u0103lat, dar, surpriz\u0103: astea te men\u021bin viu \u0219i fresh.<\/p>\n Mut\u0103-te de la bou ASAP.<\/p>\n Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n Lorena,<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i place acest blog, fii un partener la men\u0163inerea lui.<\/p>\n *** ***<\/p>\n Ascult\u0103 Jet pe Spotify<\/a><\/strong>, cump\u0103r\u0103 piesa pe iTunes<\/strong><\/a> sau pe Amazon Music<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Intro: Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. 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